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Trauma bonding is a dysfunctional attachment that develops in the presence of danger, shame, or exploitation. Think of such phrases as; “You broke me, but you are the only one who can fix me.” Or “I know my partner is abusive, but I can’t imagine a life without him.” These bonds are common in narcissistic […]
Our shadow emotions influence most aspects of our lives without us knowing it. It could be that curse word you uttered out of nowhere. Or the hateful comments you made about a photo you saw online. Whatever it is, our shadow self, unless dealt with, has the potential to cause havoc in our lives. That’s […]
Fawning is about being big on pleasing people and engaging in pacifying behaviors. In fawn trauma response, the victim prioritizes appeasing people and receiving approval. We know it feels great to be liked by the people around you. But it is utterly useless if you are losing yourself while at it. And this is what […]
Did you know that having narcissistic traits that make you assertive without necessarily being manipulative to hurt others is healthy? Well, psychologists clinically diagnose and classify destructive narcissistic traits as narcissistic personality disorders (NPD). And, NPD varies from person to person depending on their most noticeable clinical patterns. So, are you or do you know […]
Do you feel guilty or excessively responsible for your parents? And, does this over-concern meddle with your ability to tap into opportunities either professionally or romantically now that you are an adult? Well, an adolescent or young adult who is uneasy about leaving home, or feels less supported upon return is probably growing in an […]
If you want to have healthy relationships and a peaceful life, it is essential to have personal boundaries. Personal boundaries are basic guidelines of how you want to be treated. Without boundaries, you will eventually start feeling like you’ve been depleted, taken advantage of, taken for granted, or intruded upon. Sooner or later, poor personal boundaries […]
People-pleasing might not look like something bad. What’s wrong with being nice to others, trying to help them out, and make them happy? However, people-pleasing goes beyond simply being nice and kind to others. It involves editing your behavior for the sake of other people’s feelings or reactions. In this article, I will share with […]