The Art Of Saying ‘No’: 35 Quotes On Boundaries

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If you want to have healthy relationships and a peaceful life, it is essential to have personal boundaries. Personal boundaries are basic guidelines of how you want to be treated. Without boundaries, you will eventually start feeling like you’ve been depleted, taken advantage of, taken for granted, or intruded upon. Sooner or later, poor personal boundaries will lead to resentment, anger, and burnout. Therefore, we all need to learn the art of saying ‘no’. And the sooner we do it, the easier our life will become. In this article, we have collected 35 quotes on boundaries to support you on your journey of learning to say ‘no’.

Here they are 35 quotes on boundaries!

35 Quotes On Boundaries


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“To me, self-care does not mean going to the spa. It’s learning to say no. It’s knowing yourself so you can make choices that are an expression of you.” ~ Tracee Ellis Ross


“The hardest part about setting boundaries with people, no matter who they are, is not feeling confident in our authority to do so. As long as you realize that setting boundaries is necessary for healthy relationships, you will feel better defining and keeping them.” ~ Tamera Mowry-Housley


“Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do.” ~ Rachel Wolchin


“Poor boundaries model a narcissistic and codependent dynamic. They can be toxic – lead to power struggles and manipulation. They can also lead to cognitive distortions. For example, people-pleasers tend to feel objectified by others and commanding personalities are often resentful that they “have” to hold all the responsibility. It is often the case that the intentions are good but the boundaries are poor. Obligation, expectation, demands, guilt, fear are all on the list when explaining how the “wrong” thing is done for the “right” reasons.” ~ Ishtar Gonzalez


“I swear to God, the second I learned how to say ‘no,’ I felt that was the best anti-aging I could do for myself.“ ~ Gabrielle Union


“Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring (just) because I don’t do things your way. I care about me, too.” ~ Christine Morgan


“I encourage people to remember that “No” is a complete sentence.” ~ Gavin de Becker


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”Healthy boundaries are not walls. They are gates and fences that allow you to enjoy the beauty of your own garden.” ~ Lydia Hall


“Families living in dysfunction seldom have healthy boundaries. Dysfunctional families have trouble knowing where they stop and others begin.” ~ David W. Earle


“Being able to say “No” is a necessary ingredient in a healthy lifestyle.” ~ David W. Earle


“Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They’re compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment.” ~ Bren Brown


“No” is a complete sentence.” ~ Anne Lamott


“Boundaries can be a measure of a person’s self-worth and they can also be an empowering means to rectify any self-deprecation. They assist us in showing up in the world with overflow rather than from exhaustion. They are the tools with which we practice assertiveness, self-acceptance, and, most of all, increased trust.” ~ Ishtar Gonzalez


“People who violate your boundaries are thieves. They steal time that doesn’t belong to them.” ~ Elizabeth Grace Saunders

Quotes On Boundaries


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“Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity, or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.” ~ Paulo Coelho


“Boundaries are a crucial starting point. They do not beget separation as one may assume; instead, they invite unconditional self-love which ultimately can translate into authentic intimacy as we learn to be accountable for ourselves.” ~ Ishtar Gonzalez


“The first thing you need to learn is that the person who is angry at you for setting boundaries is the one with the problem” ~ Drs. Cloud and Townsend


“Honoring your own boundaries is the clearest message to others to honor them, too.” ~ Gina Greenlee


“Personal boundaries are an essential part of creating and upholding a healthy self-image. When a person has strong personal boundaries, it communicates to the world that they exude healthy self-respect and self-worth. Hence, creating boundaries makes us feel good about ourselves and preserves our personal integrity.” ~ Mateo Sol


“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.” ~ Bren Brown


“Boundaries are the lines we draw that mark off our autonomy and that of other people, that protect our privacy and that of others. Boundaries allow for intimate connection without dissolving or losing one’s sense of self.” ~ Amy Bloom


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”Liberation from taking on external expectations and finding balance with the heart’s desire are the gateway to healthy boundaries which lead to conscious relating.” ~ Ishtar Gonzalez


“Your personal boundaries protect the inner core of your identity and your right to choices.” ~ Gerard Manley Hopkins


“Boundaries: The key to confidence, calm and self-control.” ~ Rokelle Lerner


“Boundaries help us take care of ourselves by giving us permission to say NO to things, to not take everything on. Boundaries draw a clear line around what is ok for us and what is not. While some behaviours clearly cross the line for almost anyone, we all have different comfort levels when it comes to everything from intimacy and privacy to lateness. When someone behaves in a way that doesn’t feel ok to us – that crosses our line, we need to take care of ourselves by letting them know and making that line much clearer.” ~ Ida Soghomonian


“Boundaries are lines that define your self-respect and self-esteem.” ~ David Roppo


“You have to be able to set boundaries, otherwise the rest of the world is telling you who you are and what you should be doing. You can still be a nice person and set boundaries.” ~ Oprah Winfrey


“It is necessary, and even vital, to set standards for your life and the people you allow in it.” ~ Mandy Hale


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“Healthy boundaries assist us in remaining true to our intuition and help us define who we truly are and not who we think we should be. Boundaries are the ones that remove the emphasis from what we can expect from others because we are clear in what we can expect from ourselves.” ~ Ishtar Gonzalez


“Boundaries protect the things that are of value to you. They keep you in alignment with what you have decided you want in life. That means the key to good boundaries is knowing what you want.” ~ Adelyn Birch


“Personal boundaries are the mental, emotional, and physical walls we create to protect ourselves from being used, manipulated, or violated by others. These limits help us to clearly distinguish who we are and what we need, from other people and their needs. Creating and maintaining personal boundaries is a key way to cultivate physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.” ~ Mateo Sol


“Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal, and necessary.” ~ Doreen Virtue


“Healthy boundaries are necessary components for self-care. Without boundaries, we feel depleted, taken advantage of, taken for granted, or intruded upon. Whether it’s in work or in our personal relationships, poor boundaries may lead to resentment, hurt, anger, and burnout.” ~ Ida Soghomonian


“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” ~ Tony Gaskins


“Setting boundaries isn’t always comfortable and people may push back if you say NO to some things or try communicating your needs more clearly. People may try to test your limits, to see how serious you are about drawing the line. Or they may be used to you responding in a certain way (agreeing to take on everything), and they may push back when you try to make some changes. That doesn’t mean that you’re doing something wrong. It may just mean that you need to be clear and consistent until people adjust to the new way of interacting.” ~ Ida Soghomonian

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