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How to Deal With the Challenges of Dating As a Vegan

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Dating, including vegan dating, should be fun. This interaction might someday involve courtship and engaging in social activities together (mountain climbing and visiting animal sanctuaries get better together).

Ultimately, you would want your dating time to enable you to assess a suitable intimate partner for a long-term relationship. But what happens in vegan dating; especially if you are vegan and your date, is not? Are you the one to compromise or your date?

Cruelty-free dating is a challenge that vegans face when finding potential life mates. If not careful, the dating experience can be very disappointing.

Cruelty-Free Dating

Generally, we vegans make a lifetime commitment to live a cruelty-free life. This means that the restaurants we frequent should humanely handle animals. The brand of clothes and footwear we wear should have the bunny logo. The entertainment spots we visit should observe animal rights especially if animals are used to provide the entertainment.

And last but not least, the food we eat should be 100% vegan. No life is worth sacrificing for a dinner plate, right! When two vegan people date, they tend to reinforce each other’s choices. But this can be challenging when we choose to date a non-vegan.

How Do We Handle Vegan Dating?

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So you think you have finally met the one and you are going on your first date. How will you explain your hesitation to visit his favorite restaurant? Should you just come out straight and tell your partner that you are vegan? Will you tell him (her) that the last time you were in a restaurant the smell of ribs barbequing almost made you cry?

You don’t have to!

Structure Your Priorities

The first rule in vegan dating is to never make the dinner table the center of your relationship. You have so much you can share as a couple including getting to know each other better, sharing each other’s plans and ambitions, and even playing silly games and laughing. Make a conscious decision to dwell on the relationship.

Focusing on what to eat and what to avoid dilutes your quality time with your partner. Let your partner discover your healthy lifestyle orientation when you order your chickpea flour omelet with spinach, onion, tomato and bell peppers while he orders his cheese and ham omelet. Even when he brings up the topic, you should not dwell too much on it. Instead, just briefly let them know that you are a vegan by choice and that you enjoy your lifestyle and respect those who do not live the vegan way. Remember it is your first date. You have many more dates to change them.

You Don’t Owe Anyone an Explanation – Your Life Your Choices

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Another challenge that vegans face when dating non-vegans is the need to always explain why they prefer cruelty-free options. This happens more often when going on a group date like camping with friends. Remember that not all non-vegans will take your reasons positively. Some may even make derogatory remarks about your choices.

So this brings us to our second rule in vegan dating. Respect matters a lot! If you and your partner can respect each other’s preferences, then you will be able to tolerate one another.

Do You Have Anything Else in Common?

The third rule in vegan dating is to focus on your shared interests. Does your partner like doing yoga? Turn your yoga session into a date. Does he like rock climbing, hiking, or bowling? Or maybe he is an animal lover like you. Then spend your date in an animal sanctuary. While at it, discuss the reasons why you love doing these activities.

An action-packed date is a great way to release tension between the two of you. With time, as you share more and more interests, you may find your partner also liking the vegan lifestyle because as you continue dating, you grow closer to one another.

Change Begins at Home

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Are you planning to move in with your partner? Address the changes that need to be made in your house first. You may have to use separate sets of utensils and pans and agree on where to store your kitchen food supplies if your partner is still non-vegan when you decide to move-in. Discussing these changes will make your stay together as comfortable as possible.

Don’t Push Your Lifestyle Too Far

Another challenge we vegans have when dating non-vegans is that we are too passionate about our lifestyle. We might find ourselves preaching about it while on a date!

So rule number five: never turn a date into a vegan crusade. Dietary differences tend to create dating discord. And trying to convert your partner into a vegan will make it worse. Stop reminding your partner how awful you felt about the chicken he ate. Give them time and let your partner be the one to initiate the interest in your healthy lifestyle habits.

Don’t force them to eat the vegan meals they don’t fancy. You’ll end up alone. When your partner sees how happy and healthy you are in your lifestyle choices, he or she is bound to be attracted to it. Then when he (she) shows interest in a vegan diet, that’s your opportunity to show your kitchen prowess by fixing him (her) a delicious vegan meal.

Be Flexible

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Stay honest and open to possibilities. Even as you are trying to accept your partner’s choices, he (she) is also doing the same for you. Trying to look good by pretending to like everything your partner does will cut short your dating experience. When he suggests that you attend a circus involving caged animals, be honest, and tell him how you feel.

One of the benefits of dating is getting to know each other and accommodating one another. There will always be opportunities whereby the two of you can reach a compromise. So still, have an open mind as you date.

In Conclusion

Dating difficulties exist in every relationship, whether similar lifestyle or vegan dating. What matters is your perception. Work towards growing your relationship into an intimate one. Don’t let the romantic fever the two of you be put off by issues about being vegan or non-vegan.


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Essential Oils For Attracting Love And Romance

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Did you know that plants have very powerful energy? The essential oils made out of plants retain this energy and are able to transfer them to your aura through the sense of smell. They are capable of strengthening and purifying your energy field. Moreover, some essential oils align your aura with the energy of love and happiness and make you more attractive. It was essential oils that were one of the secret tools that Cleopatra used to enhance her own attractiveness. In this article, we will share with you the most effective essential oils for attracting love and romance, as well as different ways to use them.

How Does It Work?

The main advantage of essential oils is their specific aroma. The aroma enters the brain through the olfactory organs and affects the pituitary gland, causing it to secrete endorphins – happiness hormones. Under their influence, people feel happier, more relaxed, calmer, and more confident.

Different essential oils have different properties. That’s why it’s very important to know the exact properties of the essential oils for attracting love so you can make the right choice!

Essential Oils For Attracting Love

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Ylang-Ylang

This essential oil is considered the most powerful aphrodisiac. It awakens sensuality, passion and energetically increases the attractiveness.

Jasmine

The scent of jasmine awakens tenderness. The sultry scent of jasmine works as an aphrodisiac for both men and women. This aroma promotes confidence and eases anxiety to create a sense of relaxation.

Ginger

This essential oil has a musky, earthy aroma. This is a truly masculine fragrance. The arousing aroma of ginger essential oil increases self-confidence and physical strength.

Cinnamon

This is the scent of love and care. It increases self-respect, ability to take care of yourself and other people, passion, and loyalty to your partner.

Patchouli

This beautiful essential oil has long been used in Indian wedding ceremonies. It relaxes and rekindles desire.

Rose

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This essential oil attracts love, brings care, and comfort. Not only does rose oil support women’s reproductive health, but the calming aroma also creates an environment of relaxation that fosters intimacy. Rose essential oil smells like a truly Royal presentation of feelings and emotions.

Nutmeg

This essential oil is one of the most popular ingredients used in love spells. And there is a good reason for that! Nutmeg essential oil attracts love like a magnet at the energy level. In addition, it stimulates a low sex drive and creates an intimate connection.

Sandalwood

This magical essential oil helps to relax, relieve tension, and creates the type of intimacy that allows you to communicate with your partner on a heart level. It soothes nerves and promotes sexuality, especially in men. 

Neroli

This is a great essential oil for boosting desire, relieving anxiety and calming the nerves.

Clary Sage

This essential oil is a powerful aphrodisiac that boosts libido.

Now let us share with you the most effective ways to use essential oils for attracting love!

5 Ways To Use Essential Oils For Attracting Love And Romance

#1 Love Bath

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One of the most pleasurable ways to use essential oils for attracting love is taking a love bath!

For making a love bath mix the essential oil with 30-50 grams bath salt then put it into the bath. You can use any essential oils for attracting love listed above, however, there are three powerful oil combinations for love baths that are known since ancient times:

Love Bath #1

  • 2 drops of bergamot essential oil
  • 2 drops of ylang-ylang essential oil
  • 2 drops of patchouli essential oil

Love Bath #2

  • 2 drops of rose essential oil
  • 2 drops of ylang-ylang essential oil
  • 1 drop of sandalwood essential oil

Love Bath #3

  • 3 drops of ylang-ylang essential oil
  • 2 drops of sandalwood essential oil
  • 3 drops of rose essential oil
  • 2 drops of Muscat essential oil

You can take a love bath alone (as a preparation for a date night) or together with your partner.

#2 Love Talisman

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To prepare it, you will need:

  • 3.5 ounces of sunflower oil
  • 10 drops of ylang-ylang essential oil
  • 3 vanilla pods
  • a small crystal (charged with your intention to attract love and romance into your life)

Pour sunflower oil into a small saucepan and add 10 drops of Ylang-ylang essential oil. Slightly heat and add 3 vanilla pods and a crystal. Bring this mixture to a boil. Then cool it and pour it into a glass bottle. Now, this bottle is your love talisman!

#3 Body Spray

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This body spray provides a deep relaxation before bedtime while helping to rekindle desire. You can use it for a romantic evening to create a sweet space, to become uplifted and adored.

Ingredients:

  • 7 drops of bergamot
  • 7 drops of lemon essential oil
  • 7 drops of patchouli essential oil
  • 3 drops of rose essential oil

Add essential oils to a 2-ounce mist bottle and fill with clean water. Replace cap and shake vigorously until well blended. To use, shake the bottle and apply 3 to 5 sprays to the body.

#4 Love Perfume

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This magical perfume works as an aphrodisiac for both men and women. The heady floral aroma promotes confidence and eases anxiety to create a sense of relaxation. Try a bit of this beautiful scent on the inside of your wrists, behind your ears, and on other pulse points.

Ingredients:

  • 4 drops of jasmine essential oil
  • 3 drops of frankincense essential oil
  • 3 drops of orange essential oil

Add the essential oils into a 10-ml roll-on applicator. Fill the tube with a carrier oil. Shake well before each use.

#5 Love Diffuser Blend

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Put some love in the air with this magical blend!

Ingredients:

  • 3 drops of ylang-ylang essential oil
  • 3 drops of orange essential oil
  • 2 drops of clary sage essential oil

Just drop these essential oils into an electric diffuser, adjusting the ratio as needed, and set it up in your bedroom.


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What Is Tantra? Demystifying The Myths

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What is tantra? Tantra in literal terms can be compared to technology. Just like we harness technology to create what we want – physical items or otherwise, tantra is leveraged to enable us to make available, an intelligence beyond our present capabilities. It is a sophisticated process of awareness, openness, and harmony. It allows you to open your heart and move the energies within your body through conscious awareness.

Demystifying Tantra

Tantra originated from India and was documented in Sanskrit texts from the 6th to about the 13th century. It was (and still is) meant to enhance the mastery of one’s energies and how to harness them. Tantra works to help us to love and understand our lives. It also creates a spiritual connection with everything that is present in our lives. And in this case, even our partners.

The nature of the human mind is such that if we can distinctly create something in our mind, the next step would be to empower that with our life energy. And if we can do that, it will become a living reality by itself. Most humans have lost this power because their minds have become restless. Their life energies are also not sufficiently organized to put them behind whatever they wish.

There are tools that we can use to harness our mind and energies to making an intelligence that surpasses our present capabilities. These tools are referred to as tantric methods. We use tantra to make things happen. Tantra methods are varied. In yoga, we refer to it as tantra yoga. In sexuality, we relate to the tantra method as tantric sex. With Tantra, you work on your mind, energies, emotions, body, and heart, collectively or separately, to achieve something.

If you’re still wondering what is tantra, we can conclude that if you are able to strengthen yourself physically such that you can accomplish arduous tasks, then that is Tantra. Similarly, tantra is when you manage to employ your energies to your heart. This makes you kind and loving to all.

Tantra and Sexuality

For most people (especially in Western countries), the mention of tantra resonates with acrobatic sexuality – hours and hours of it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy prolonged sex. However, tantra works mainly to enhance a more intimate and stronger connection with your partner.

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So, all this begs the question, what is tantra with regards to sexuality?

To answer this question, I will refer to a form of tantra called tantric sex.

Tantric sex, an ancient Hindu practice, had remained hidden from the public for ages due to religious reasons. However, it is now open to all. Tantric sex is a form of slow sex. It is designed as a way of weaving and expanding the energies at play during sex. The aim is for the whole experience to be as enjoyable and rewarding as possible.

Sexuality is potent. Its energies are some of the most intense. Tantric sex enables you to harness this energy appropriately. Instead of demanding fulfillment from your partner, tantra helps you to find it within yourself. This creates stability and harmony in relationships.

Tantra also allows couples to enjoy better sex. It provides an avenue in which they eradicate the negative emotions that work to inhibit the blossoming of relationships. In Tantra, sex isn’t a taboo or something to be ashamed. Instead, it is sacred and an expression of our inherent ability to experience joy with others.

There are specific guidelines when performing tantra that I apply. These guidelines are extremely useful in facilitating a bond with my partner and providing a conducive atmosphere for intimacy. In many ways, it enhances sensuality even before you initiate intercourse.

The Basic Tantric Sex Principles are:

  • Creating a sacred place for your sexual time with your partner.
  • Slowing down and being aware and present with each other.
  • Honoring your lover.
  • Emphasizing total body sexual foreplay.

Use tantric breathing exercises to channel your Kundalini. The term refers to sexual energy that stays dormant in your body until it is awakened. It then spreads from the base of your spine to the top of your head, through your Chakras (your body energy centers).

The Impacts of Tantra on Spirituality As Well As Sexual Relationships

Tantra enables you to channel your energies into achieving calmness and inner peace which are integral components of your spirituality.

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The emphasis of tantric sex on honoring your lover and taking out negative thoughts about them as well as yourself, from your mind is essential in promoting healthy relationships.

Today’s lives and hustles mean that we rarely stop and get to understand the special people in our lives. Tantra enhances connecting with your lover more intensely. This improves the bond you share with each other. You get to understand each other on a very high level. It also provides adequate closeness in your intimacy which enhances your union.

The ability to experience sexual pleasure is vital in any sexual relationship. Tantric sex enables you to harness sexual energy. The pleasurable sensations get exaggerated and experienced over long periods. After all, sex is part of being human and enjoying it in the best way possible is essential to our wellbeing.

In tantra, we learn how to use our mind, energies, and body as instruments with which we can achieve higher possibilities. When correctly implemented, tantra enhances spiritual healing and wellness.

Tips for Spicing Up Lovemaking Based On Tantric Sex

Mental Manipulation

The key to enjoying sex lies in one’s mind. If anything the brain is the organ that processes our sensations. What this means is that any negative thoughts including misgivings about ourselves or our partners will ultimately hinder us from enjoying the experiences. You, therefore, need to shed it all and have a clear mind.

Think of it as having an intimate relationship with the best version of your partner. Release the past and immerse yourself in the now – the present. Keep it all out and focus on the experiences at hand. Focus on the nourishing thoughts about yourself, your body as well as your partner’s.

Establish and Maintain Eye Contact

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Having eye contact with your partner during sex (as well as during foreplay) is one of the best ways to connect with them. Intimacy is not just about intercourse. It is also about getting to be one with your partner. Eye contact enables you to fully immerse yourself in your sensations as well as those of your partner.

One way to start is by eye gazing. Sit across each other on the bed with no touching and merely stare into each other’s eyes for about five minutes. Essentially, it creates a deep level of connection with your partner even before you touch one another.

Meditate As You Have Sex

What I mean by this, is to picture the sensations while being fully aware of your present moment. If you tune in to your five senses, you will experience everything that you perceive at that moment. This will happen through what you see, hear, feel, smell, and taste.

The next step is to use your sexual energy to get into a state of trance. For regular sex, your sensations and the turn-on are localized in your genitals. However, with tantra, you can direct this energy to the brain and through the rest of the body. It will get you into a profound state of consciousness.

In Conclusion

Orgasm or climaxing is usually a short-lived period of extreme pleasure. However, with tantric sex, due to the intense circulation of sexual energy, as well as the fact that you’re more in a state of trance, the orgasm leads to the entire body coming alive. Instead of being a brief experience, the body radiates these extreme pleasure sensations for hours and hours. With this, I hope the question of what is tantra has been comprehensively addressed.


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8 Ways To Create Conscious Relationship

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Do you believe in conscious relationship and pure love? And not just any love; the love that brings total satisfaction. It’s easy to conclude that true love went away with the winds, right? We need to change the current love paradigm. It is a total failure. And that’s why I have written this article to help redefine relationships.

So what is conscious relationship?

Conscious relationship is a relationship that focuses on growth and purpose. As partners, you commit to relationship commitment, self-respect, self-love, and self-worth. It’s a relationship that attracts right-minded people with similar dreams, and self-determination. It does not encourage fear, irritation, abuse, or similar vices in a relationship.

The Qualities of a Conscious Relationship

The following qualities define a conscious relationship:

Total Focus on Growth

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As a couple, you should be determined to love and care for each other. Your curiosity to learn from one another should be epic. Be committed to grow and develop together in physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual realms while trying to fulfill each other. Conscious relationship allows mutual respect, trust, independence, and freedom. This, therefore, accelerates growth in the relationship.

Commitment to Own Up

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You and your partner are unique and different in your own ways. A conscious relationship allows you to own up to your mess; whether in the past, present, or the future confusion. As a couple, you realize that issues don’t always move in the right direction. Therefore, when things go wrong, you (as a couple) accept it. However, it does not mean that you are in a failing relationship, or with the wrong partner. You are just committed to looking beyond your past and current situations throughout the relationship. You are ready to face the belief, concerns, and the evolution of the new relationship that is more deeply rooted.

Mutual Acceptance

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The differences in a relationship should not break you. How you solve these differences matters a lot. Some couples spend their entire life trying to change their partner’s mind and concept without success. Why? Because most of the differences are majorly on their perception! Conscious relationship overlooks personal views and commands a mutual respect. You may disagree with each other, but appreciation and respect is center stage.

Free Communication

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Every partner is allowed to express their feeling without the fear of judgment. How do you expect your partner to understand what you want or feel without communicating? It’s impossible! On the other hand, listening to your partner is also what conscious relationship entails. It may not be easy at first, but once you do, you experience immense healing in the relationship. Poor to no-communication kills most modern-day relationships. Conscious relationship emphasizes to always try to see deeper into your partner’s situation before making a judgment and above all respect their views and feelings.

Why Should You Seek to Have a Conscious Relationship?

True love does not condone selfishness but rather aims for mutual growth. With conscious relationship, growth and personal transformation are the primary focus.

Additionally, you take full responsibility for what you do without blaming each other regardless of the situation. So that’s a burden off your shoulders, right? Finally, conscious relationship welcomes and accepts all the feelings, emotions, and thoughts. There is a mutual understanding of each other and there is a commitment to make it work. What more would you ask for?

8 Ways to Create Conscious Relationship

Below are my top eight tips to create and practice conscious relationship. With these tips, we can improve most of the past romantic relationships that were not conscious to stand the test of time.

  1. Self-love and Self-respect

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First of all, learn to love yourself. How can you love someone else genuinely if you don’t love yourself? And how will you believe it when they say the three magic words: I love you? This is what makes people say they feel unappreciated in a relationship. Similarly, if you learn to respect yourself, you will have the courage to stand for what you believe amid conflict. Once you’ve mastered self-love and self-respect, the next step is to extend the same love and respect to your partner.

  1. Be Committed

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According to research, lack of commitment is the number one destroyer of relationships and most especially marriages. Dedicate to commit to your partner. Complement them without expecting anything in return. Make your relationship work with the “mentality” that you’re both there to stay. Do you understand what I mean?

  1. Learning For the Sake of Growth

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Be willing to learn new things in the relationship. Discover new feelings, emotions, sexual pleasures, and similar lessons for the sake of your relationships growth. A conscious relationship refrains from negative defensive behaviors. These include the silent treatment, quarreling, criticism, bringing each other down mentally, and hurting each other emotionally and physically.

  1. Honesty

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Conscious relationship upholds true openness. Express your feelings and thoughts with transparency and  sincerity. All the anger, sadness, joy, fear, and affection, is openly discussed, and analyzed. Be willing and ready to listen to your partner without judgment.

  1. Unity

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When you decide to practice a conscious relationship, do not hold back from making decisions as one. In addition to decision making, practice unity in family projects, finances, and investments. Give reasonable assurances and take it as your responsibility to fulfill your partner. These covenants and promises live in the spirit too.

  1. Accountability

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Every partner is accountable for their mistakes and eventualities. You have to take action to improve yourself for the sake of growing the relationship. Similarly, you shouldn’t look forward to finding faults in your partner. On the contrary, help them to become a better person in the relationship.

  1. Appreciation and Gratitude

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Come up with excellent and impressive ways to appreciate your partner. A simple thank you, you look lovely today, and similar phrases go a long way in showing gratitude. The relationship blossoms when you practice these virtues.

  1. Practice Love and Affection

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Conscious relationship allows you to practice love as a couple. Understand your completeness and express emotions. Open your heart to receive the same warmth and affection from your partner.

In Conclusion

Conscious relationship has incredible qualities and concepts that fuel a healthy relationship. As you start the journey to conscious relationship, it is necessary to assess your partner too. Are they prepared to commit mutually? If the answer is yes, jump in with both arms open to embrace them. But if they are not, don’t try to change them. You might get hurt in the end.


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