Dating

How to Deal With the Challenges of Dating As a Vegan

Published

1 month ago

September 19, 2018

Dating, including vegan dating, should be fun. This interaction might someday involve courtship and engaging in social activities together (mountain climbing and visiting animal sanctuaries get better together).

Ultimately, you would want your dating time to enable you to assess a suitable intimate partner for a long-term relationship. But what happens in vegan dating; especially if you are vegan and your date, is not? Are you the one to compromise or your date?

Cruelty-free dating is a challenge that vegans face when finding potential life mates. If not careful, the dating experience can be very disappointing.

Cruelty-Free Dating

Generally, we vegans make a lifetime commitment to live a cruelty-free life. This means that the restaurants we frequent should humanely handle animals. The brand of clothes and footwear we wear should have the bunny logo. The entertainment spots we visit should observe animal rights especially if animals are used to provide the entertainment.

And last but not least, the food we eat should be 100% vegan. No life is worth sacrificing for a dinner plate, right! When two vegan people date, they tend to reinforce each other’s choices. But this can be challenging when we choose to date a non-vegan.

How Do We Handle Vegan Dating?

So you think you have finally met the one and you are going on your first date. How will you explain your hesitation to visit his favorite restaurant? Should you just come out straight and tell your partner that you are vegan? Will you tell him (her) that the last time you were in a restaurant the smell of ribs barbequing almost made you cry?

You don’t have to!

Structure Your Priorities

The first rule in vegan dating is to never make the dinner table the center of your relationship. You have so much you can share as a couple including getting to know each other better, sharing each other’s plans and ambitions, and even playing silly games and laughing. Make a conscious decision to dwell on the relationship.

Focusing on what to eat and what to avoid dilutes your quality time with your partner. Let your partner discover your healthy lifestyle orientation when you order your chickpea flour omelet with spinach, onion, tomato and bell peppers while he orders his cheese and ham omelet. Even when he brings up the topic, you should not dwell too much on it. Instead, just briefly let them know that you are a vegan by choice and that you enjoy your lifestyle and respect those who do not live the vegan way. Remember it is your first date. You have many more dates to change them.

You Don’t Owe Anyone an Explanation – Your Life Your Choices

Another challenge that vegans face when dating non-vegans is the need to always explain why they prefer cruelty-free options. This happens more often when going on a group date like camping with friends. Remember that not all non-vegans will take your reasons positively. Some may even make derogatory remarks about your choices.

So this brings us to our second rule in vegan dating. Respect matters a lot! If you and your partner can respect each other’s preferences, then you will be able to tolerate one another.

Do You Have Anything Else in Common?

The third rule in vegan dating is to focus on your shared interests. Does your partner like doing yoga? Turn your yoga session into a date. Does he like rock climbing, hiking, or bowling? Or maybe he is an animal lover like you. Then spend your date in an animal sanctuary. While at it, discuss the reasons why you love doing these activities.

An action-packed date is a great way to release tension between the two of you. With time, as you share more and more interests, you may find your partner also liking the vegan lifestyle because as you continue dating, you grow closer to one another.

Change Begins at Home

Are you planning to move in with your partner? Address the changes that need to be made in your house first. You may have to use separate sets of utensils and pans and agree on where to store your kitchen food supplies if your partner is still non-vegan when you decide to move-in. Discussing these changes will make your stay together as comfortable as possible.

Don’t Push Your Lifestyle Too Far

Another challenge we vegans have when dating non-vegans is that we are too passionate about our lifestyle. We might find ourselves preaching about it while on a date!

So rule number five: never turn a date into a vegan crusade. Dietary differences tend to create dating discord. And trying to convert your partner into a vegan will make it worse. Stop reminding your partner how awful you felt about the chicken he ate. Give them time and let your partner be the one to initiate the interest in your healthy lifestyle habits.

Don’t force them to eat the vegan meals they don’t fancy. You’ll end up alone. When your partner sees how happy and healthy you are in your lifestyle choices, he or she is bound to be attracted to it. Then when he (she) shows interest in a vegan diet, that’s your opportunity to show your kitchen prowess by fixing him (her) a delicious vegan meal.

Be Flexible

Stay honest and open to possibilities. Even as you are trying to accept your partner’s choices, he (she) is also doing the same for you. Trying to look good by pretending to like everything your partner does will cut short your dating experience. When he suggests that you attend a circus involving caged animals, be honest, and tell him how you feel.

One of the benefits of dating is getting to know each other and accommodating one another. There will always be opportunities whereby the two of you can reach a compromise. So still, have an open mind as you date.

In Conclusion

Dating difficulties exist in every relationship, whether similar lifestyle or vegan dating. What matters is your perception. Work towards growing your relationship into an intimate one. Don’t let the romantic fever the two of you be put off by issues about being vegan or non-vegan.

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This Simple Love Ritual Will Help You Attract A Romantic Relationship

Published

3 months ago

July 27, 2018

Katya Ki

Confidence in your own attractiveness is the most important component of success in love. If you lack self-confidence, this love ritual will help you gain much-needed belief in yourself and your own attractiveness.

I always say that if you want to be loved, first of all, you need to love yourself! Allow yourself to open your heart to a beautiful love, trust the Universe and be ready for pleasant surprises!

This love ritual helps to enhance romantic luck and set you up for love energy.

Love Ritual

This love ritual helps to attract romantic a relationship into your life.

For performing this love ritual you will need:

a pink or red candle;
mirror;
pen;
a sheet of pink paper;
a picture of you;
pink or red ribbon.

It is best to do this ritual in the evening when it’s already getting dark.

Make sure that you are not disturbed for 20 minutes. Turn off the phone. Tune in to inner peace, joy, and self-confidence. Trust your feelings. You can turn on meditative music to set the mood. All this helps to create the right mood.

In a dark room, light the candle so that its flame illuminates your reflection in the mirror. Try to look into your soul, thinking only good about for yourself. Focus your thoughts on your own wonderful qualities, as well as your desire to start a new relationship.

Take a few deep breaths, imagining how when you exhale, all your doubts, fears and negative feelings about intimacy go away.

After a while, take a pen and, while in a calm and relaxed state, write down the qualities that you would like to see in your potential partner on a sheet of pink paper. Here you can also write a few positive words that will come to your mind, such as “tenderness”, “harmony“, etc. Put together your picture and the paper with the qualities of your potential partner. Tie them with a pink or red ribbon. Connect them together also in your imagination.

Then attach your picture and the list to the mirror so that they are reflected in it, and say the following words 3 times:

All my fears and doubts have flown away.
My heart is open to you, come to me,
Love and happiness are heading my way,
I’m happy in love! Let it be!

Meditate for 5-10 minutes on the imaginary image of your soulmate. Visualize your desired romantic relationship. The more detailed your visualization is the better!

At the end of the meditation, extinguish the candle with your fingers. Never blow on the candle in such cases, because you can take away the energy from your intention.

Put your picture and the list of qualities in your love sector according to Feng Shui (Southwest). Be absolutely confident that your reality is already changing in such a way that in the near future you will meet your soulmate.

Note! Do not tell anyone about your experience, keep your intention in secret! And very soon you will see the result!

Dating

Pay Attention! Sexual Egregores Cause Relationship Problems!

Published

3 months ago

July 26, 2018

Katya Ki

Sexual energy is the most powerful creative energy on our planet. When there is too much creative energy it transforms into the opposite – a destructive force that causes relationship problems and freezes spiritual development.

Each sexual connection we have in our life (even short-term) forms a powerful egregore connected to the energy body. The fact is that sexual energy is always aimed at creation – thus, children are born and egregores are formed.

That’s why I think it’s very important to be aware of sexual egregores you’re still attached to. It will help you to avoid many relationship problems you could experience in the future.

What Is An Egregore?

Egregore is a sustainable energy-informational structure, engendered by the thoughts and emotions of people.

The egregore itself is formed on an energy level, but it feeds on the energy of the physical plane. The egregore exists as long as it has adherents capable of maintaining the necessary level of energy in it for its existence, as well as until its idea is “alive”.

Egregores have the ability to transmit and receive energy at their own frequencies. That is why not everyone can catch the signals of a particular egregore. Such signals are able to catch only those people who are aligned with this particular egregore.

Egregore provides a person with the necessary resources and provides him (her) with the necessary energy to solve his (her) tasks. However, it should be understood that the resources and energy provided by the egregore are given for solving specific problems of the egregore itself. If a person, instead of solving the problems of the egregore, spends energy and resources on something else, then energy and resources are taken away from him (her).

The egregore itself is a neutral form. However, when you create a new egregore, an old egregore of similar quality must be destroyed. Otherwise, the old egregore will put all its forces to destroy the new one, or at least slow down its development.

Sexual Egregores

Sexual connection arises initially at the level of thoughts and emotions. First, there is a sexual desire, then the desire to satisfy it, and only after that it gets satisfied on the physical plane. That’s the algorithm in which a sexual egregore gets created.

Thus, you have as many sexual egregores as many sexual partners you’ve had in life. Since all of these egregores were built on the energy of the same quality (sexual energy), they all have the ability to influence each other. The task of each egregore is to keep you in a relationship with a sexual partner, as a result of which, in fact, it was formed. Thus, you may have several egregores in the confrontation, taking away your energy.

This fight for your energy will continue until you destroy all egregores based on your past relationships. The danger of having such egregores is that they are trying to destroy the relationship you have at the moment, taking the energy away from it, as well as taking energy from your partner.

A Lack Of Energy Leads To Relationship Problems

Past relationship egregores can act like energy parasites that suck your energy, your partner’s energy and eventually create relationship problems.

Here is the list of signs (relationship problems) that show if you have the lack of energy in your relationship:

quarrels, scandals, swearing;
lack of understanding;
lack of intimacy;
distrust;
cheating;
jealousy;
fatigue;
aggression;
spite;
no desire to be alone with each other, the need to be in a company of friends (i.e. your egregore is so depleted and weak that you just need to be among other people to get energy support from them because your relationship almost has no energy to survive. You explain yourself that you just want to have fun, that without friends you are bored. Although actually, not boredom is forcing you to be in the company of other people but the lack of energy. When there is enough energy in your relationship, it can’t be boring. Therefore, you’re able to have fun only in with your friends – because you are full of energy taken from a friendship egregore).

Sexual Egregores May Keep You Away From Relationships

If at the moment you are alone and can not create a relationship, it can also indicate that it is the sexual egregores of your past that attract all sorts of failures in love, preventing you from meeting your soulmate. They will try to “cut to the root” any relationship because in this case, you will continue to feed them with your energy.

The only way to get rid of the destructive effects of an egregore is its destruction. To do this, first of all, it is necessary to realize the danger of having such an egregore, and then – without regret to destroy it.

How To Destroy a Sexual Egregore?

The process of liberation from destructive sexual egregors consists of the following steps.

Step 1: Make A List Of All Your Sexual Partners.

It’s very important to make a list of all your sexual partners. It gives you a clear idea of what to work with.

Stage 2: Remove Any Material Connections With Your Ex Sexual Partners

Using the list of your ex sexual partners remove any material connections with each of them:

remove their phone numbers from your phone memory;
burn all the pictures where you’re together, and delete them from electronic devices and social networks;
get rid of all the gifts that your ex-partners gave you (give them to someone, give them to charity, and if they are of no value – just throw them away);
stay away from any discussions of your ex-partners with friends or family members;
try to protect yourself from any interaction with your ex-partners.

Stage 3: Karmic Relationship Healing

In order to destroy energy cords with every sexual partner you’ve had in life you should consider doing a karmic relationship healing. Use the list of your ex-partners so you won’t forget anyone! This is very important because if you don’t heal your karmic relationship you will transfer your previous relationship to the next incarnation in the form of a karmic bond, which will be a big obstacle to your full development in this and next life. To learn more about this practice read my article “Karmic Relationship Healing: Effective Practice To Let Your Past Go!”

Conclusion

When you free yourself from your past you’ll step into a new stage of your life. Nothing will pull you back anymore, you’ll stop experiencing the same relationship problems again and again. You will be free from your past so you can enter a new relationship! What’s more important is that you’ll be able not just to receive love but also to give it. You’ll be able to be happy and make your partner happy too. By destroying sexual egregores of your past you’ll finally be able to create a loving and harmonious relationship!

Dating

Love Affirmations That Really WORK!!

Published

3 months ago

July 17, 2018

Katya Ki

Love is the main creative force, the binding fabric of the Universe. Everything alive on our planet is circling in the eternal act of love. And our spiritual development can only progress through love. When we fall in love, it means that we connect with the whole Universe in a great dance of creativity. It gives us strength, inspiration, birth to new ideas and impetus to our development. Before I share my favorite love affirmations with you, I would like to say a couple words about love.

Let’s Talk About Love

The greatest secret of happiness is to love yourself, be in a good mood and think positively!

If you love yourself, you will never suffer from the loss of love. You have to understand that your relationship with yourself is reflected in all your other relationships (with your partner, family members, colleagues or friends).

I’m sure you noticed that the most attractive energy comes from people who sincerely and unconditionally love themselves. And there is nothing surprising about the fact that the better you treat yourself, the better quality of relationship you attract. In this regard, “better quality” is shown in not allowing yourself to have those relationships that are unworthy of you, in which you humiliate yourself or suffer. “Better quality” means always to choose the best for yourself, never compromise with yourself and never sacrifice your self-love!

How Do Love Affirmations Work?

First of all, let me tell you that in my opinion love affirmations are the most effective formula for finding love. I’m 100% confident that affirmations work for everyone who has enough discipline, willpower, and concentration for everyday practice.

Affirmations are positive statements that program your subconscious mind to fulfill all your desires. In accordance with this program, joyful and happy desired events will gradually enter into your life.

Most people can’t even imagine how effective affirmations are! Affirmations are your main key to reprogramming your consciousness. That’s why the trick is to keep repeating them again and again until they are firmly imprinted in your subconscious.

How To Practice Love Affirmations?

In this article, I decided to share with you the system that I created for myself many years ago when I was suffering from unrequited love. Later I discovered that this system works amazingly not just for myself but also for my friends and students. This system helped me not only to meet my great love but also learn to love myself! That is why I recommend you start practicing with self-love affirmations and then move on to Universal love affirmations and Love affirmations for attracting a partner.

My Love Affirmation System includes 3 groups:

1. Self-love affirmations
2. Universal love affirmations
3. Love affirmations for attracting a partner for romantic relationships.

Read these affirmations in the morning immediately after waking up and in the evening before going to bed. Practice the first group of affirmations for 21 days. Then (after 21 days of daily practice) add the second group to your daily practice. Read both groups of affirmations for another 21 days. Then add the 3rd group of affirmations. Practice all 3 groups of affirmations daily until you see the result.

Group 1 – Self-Love Affirmations

Start practicing love affirmations with this group.

We always attract what we radiate. That is why – in order to attract a partner, you must first become a source of love. When you radiate love you become a magnet for love. You become more attractive not only on an energy level but even your appearance will start to change! When you love yourself you become a source of joy and inspiration for others. You look attractive, happy and calm. In my article “5 Simple Steps To Boost Your Self-Love” I share how to love yourself. Don’t forget to check it out!

The following affirmations will help you to boost your self-love.

I LOVE and accept myself for who I am!
I LOVE my personality!
I LOVE my body!
I LOVE my behavior!
Every day I become more and more attractive! I can see it and people around me can see it too!
I respect myself!
I think about myself only in a positive LOVING way!
I talk about myself only in a respectful and LOVING way!
I am LOVE!
I’m in LOVE with myself!

Group 2 – Universal Love Affirmations

Continuing the theme on how to become the source of love. We need to learn not only to love ourselves but also to love our lives and everything and everyone around us!

The following love affirmations will help to tune into the energy of love towards the whole world.

I radiate LOVE!
There is LOVE inside and around me!
My life is full of LOVE!
I LOVE myself and the whole world!
I am a source of LOVE!
May my LOVE fill the Universe!
I’m in LOVE with my life!
I LOVE everyone I know and everyone who knows me LOVES me! I feel it!
I LOVE the whole world and the whole world LOVES me! I feel it!
I LOVE the whole Universe and the whole Universe LOVES me! I feel it!

Group 3 – Love Affirmations For Attracting a Partner

Finally, we come to the last set of affirmations – and probably the reason you began to read this article – love affirmations to attract a partner.

I let go of my past and open up myself to LOVE and new relationships!
I welcome new relationships and new LOVE!
I am open to LOVE unconditionally!
I am open to receive LOVE!
I’m grateful for LOVE!
I have a big respect and LOVE for men (women)!
I’m in LOVE and I am LOVED! I live in peace and harmony!
I attract harmonious and happy relationship into my life!
My partner respects me and loves me as much as I love and respect him (her)!
I am happy in LOVE!

The Bottom Line

There is nothing more important than love. In order to attract love, we have to become its source first. It’s not difficult to do if we keep our focus on it. Affirmations are a great tool which helps us not only reprogram ourselves from negativity to positivity, from self-hate to self-love, from misery to happiness but also to keep our focus on only what we desire.

If you want to attract love, first of all, you should stop focusing on your loneliness but start focusing on LOVE instead. While reading love affirmations visualize that you already have what you intend to attract: self-love, acceptance, romantic relationships, etc. Not just the positive words of love affirmations but also the feeling of having what you want attracts the desired results! Combine a power of thoughts with a power of words and a power of visualization and you will always attract what you want into your life!