What is tantra? Tantra in literal terms can be compared to technology. Just like we harness technology to create what we want – physical items or otherwise, tantra is leveraged to enable us to make available, an intelligence beyond our present capabilities. It is a sophisticated process of awareness, openness, and harmony. It allows you to open your heart and move the energies within your body through conscious awareness.

Demystifying Tantra

Tantra originated from India and was documented in Sanskrit texts from the 6th to about the 13th century. It was (and still is) meant to enhance the mastery of one’s energies and how to harness them. Tantra works to help us to love and understand our lives. It also creates a spiritual connection with everything that is present in our lives. And in this case, even our partners.

The nature of the human mind is such that if we can distinctly create something in our mind, the next step would be to empower that with our life energy. And if we can do that, it will become a living reality by itself. Most humans have lost this power because their minds have become restless. Their life energies are also not sufficiently organized to put them behind whatever they wish.

There are tools that we can use to harness our mind and energies to making an intelligence that surpasses our present capabilities. These tools are referred to as tantric methods. We use tantra to make things happen. Tantra methods are varied. In yoga, we refer to it as tantra yoga. In sexuality, we relate to the tantra method as tantric sex. With Tantra, you work on your mind, energies, emotions, body, and heart, collectively or separately, to achieve something.

If you’re still wondering what is tantra, we can conclude that if you are able to strengthen yourself physically such that you can accomplish arduous tasks, then that is Tantra. Similarly, tantra is when you manage to employ your energies to your heart. This makes you kind and loving to all.

Tantra and Sexuality

For most people (especially in Western countries), the mention of tantra resonates with acrobatic sexuality – hours and hours of it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy prolonged sex. However, tantra works mainly to enhance a more intimate and stronger connection with your partner.

So, all this begs the question, what is tantra with regards to sexuality?

To answer this question, I will refer to a form of tantra called tantric sex.

Tantric sex, an ancient Hindu practice, had remained hidden from the public for ages due to religious reasons. However, it is now open to all. Tantric sex is a form of slow sex. It is designed as a way of weaving and expanding the energies at play during sex. The aim is for the whole experience to be as enjoyable and rewarding as possible.

Sexuality is potent. Its energies are some of the most intense. Tantric sex enables you to harness this energy appropriately. Instead of demanding fulfillment from your partner, tantra helps you to find it within yourself. This creates stability and harmony in relationships.

Tantra also allows couples to enjoy better sex. It provides an avenue in which they eradicate the negative emotions that work to inhibit the blossoming of relationships. In Tantra, sex isn’t a taboo or something to be ashamed. Instead, it is sacred and an expression of our inherent ability to experience joy with others.

There are specific guidelines when performing tantra that I apply. These guidelines are extremely useful in facilitating a bond with my partner and providing a conducive atmosphere for intimacy. In many ways, it enhances sensuality even before you initiate intercourse.

The Basic Tantric Sex Principles are:

• Creating a sacred place for your sexual time with your partner.
• Slowing down and being aware and present with each other.
• Honoring your lover.
• Emphasizing total body sexual foreplay.

Use tantric breathing exercises to channel your Kundalini. The term refers to sexual energy that stays dormant in your body until it is awakened. It then spreads from the base of your spine to the top of your head, through your Chakras (your body energy centers).

The Impacts of Tantra on Spirituality As Well As Sexual Relationships

Tantra enables you to channel your energies into achieving calmness and inner peace which are integral components of your spirituality.

The emphasis of tantric sex on honoring your lover and taking out negative thoughts about them as well as yourself, from your mind is essential in promoting healthy relationships.

Today’s lives and hustles mean that we rarely stop and get to understand the special people in our lives. Tantra enhances connecting with your lover more intensely. This improves the bond you share with each other. You get to understand each other on a very high level. It also provides adequate closeness in your intimacy which enhances your union.

The ability to experience sexual pleasure is vital in any sexual relationship. Tantric sex enables you to harness sexual energy. The pleasurable sensations get exaggerated and experienced over long periods. After all, sex is part of being human and enjoying it in the best way possible is essential to our wellbeing.

In tantra, we learn how to use our mind, energies, and body as instruments with which we can achieve higher possibilities. When correctly implemented, tantra enhances spiritual healing and wellness.

Tips for Spicing Up Lovemaking Based On Tantric Sex

Mental Manipulation

The key to enjoying sex lies in one’s mind. If anything the brain is the organ that processes our sensations. What this means is that any negative thoughts including misgivings about ourselves or our partners will ultimately hinder us from enjoying the experiences. You, therefore, need to shed it all and have a clear mind.

Think of it as having an intimate relationship with the best version of your partner. Release the past and immerse yourself in the now – the present. Keep it all out and focus on the experiences at hand. Focus on the nourishing thoughts about yourself, your body as well as your partner’s.

Establish and Maintain Eye Contact

Having eye contact with your partner during sex (as well as during foreplay) is one of the best ways to connect with them. Intimacy is not just about intercourse. It is also about getting to be one with your partner. Eye contact enables you to fully immerse yourself in your sensations as well as those of your partner.

One way to start is by eye gazing. Sit across each other on the bed with no touching and merely stare into each other’s eyes for about five minutes. Essentially, it creates a deep level of connection with your partner even before you touch one another.

Meditate As You Have Sex

What I mean by this, is to picture the sensations while being fully aware of your present moment. If you tune in to your five senses, you will experience everything that you perceive at that moment. This will happen through what you see, hear, feel, smell, and taste.

The next step is to use your sexual energy to get into a state of trance. For regular sex, your sensations and the turn-on are localized in your genitals. However, with tantra, you can direct this energy to the brain and through the rest of the body. It will get you into a profound state of consciousness.

In Conclusion

Orgasm or climaxing is usually a short-lived period of extreme pleasure. However, with tantric sex, due to the intense circulation of sexual energy, as well as the fact that you’re more in a state of trance, the orgasm leads to the entire body coming alive. Instead of being a brief experience, the body radiates these extreme pleasure sensations for hours and hours. With this, I hope the question of what is tantra has been comprehensively addressed.

Do you believe in conscious relationship and pure love? And not just any love; the love that brings total satisfaction. It’s easy to conclude that true love went away with the winds, right? We need to change the current love paradigm. It is a total failure. And that’s why I have written this article to help redefine relationships.

So what is conscious relationship?

Conscious relationship is a relationship that focuses on growth and purpose. As partners, you commit to relationship commitment, self-respect, self-love, and self-worth. It’s a relationship that attracts right-minded people with similar dreams, and self-determination. It does not encourage fear, irritation, abuse, or similar vices in a relationship.

The Qualities of a Conscious Relationship

The following qualities define a conscious relationship:

Total Focus on Growth

As a couple, you should be determined to love and care for each other. Your curiosity to learn from one another should be epic. Be committed to grow and develop together in physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual realms while trying to fulfill each other. Conscious relationship allows mutual respect, trust, independence, and freedom. This, therefore, accelerates growth in the relationship.

Commitment to Own Up

You and your partner are unique and different in your own ways. A conscious relationship allows you to own up to your mess; whether in the past, present, or the future confusion. As a couple, you realize that issues don’t always move in the right direction. Therefore, when things go wrong, you (as a couple) accept it. However, it does not mean that you are in a failing relationship, or with the wrong partner. You are just committed to looking beyond your past and current situations throughout the relationship. You are ready to face the belief, concerns, and the evolution of the new relationship that is more deeply rooted.

Mutual Acceptance

The differences in a relationship should not break you. How you solve these differences matters a lot. Some couples spend their entire life trying to change their partner’s mind and concept without success. Why? Because most of the differences are majorly on their perception! Conscious relationship overlooks personal views and commands a mutual respect. You may disagree with each other, but appreciation and respect is center stage.

Free Communication

Every partner is allowed to express their feeling without the fear of judgment. How do you expect your partner to understand what you want or feel without communicating? It’s impossible! On the other hand, listening to your partner is also what conscious relationship entails. It may not be easy at first, but once you do, you experience immense healing in the relationship. Poor to no-communication kills most modern-day relationships. Conscious relationship emphasizes to always try to see deeper into your partner’s situation before making a judgment and above all respect their views and feelings.

Why Should You Seek to Have a Conscious Relationship?

True love does not condone selfishness but rather aims for mutual growth. With conscious relationship, growth and personal transformation are the primary focus.

Additionally, you take full responsibility for what you do without blaming each other regardless of the situation. So that’s a burden off your shoulders, right? Finally, conscious relationship welcomes and accepts all the feelings, emotions, and thoughts. There is a mutual understanding of each other and there is a commitment to make it work. What more would you ask for?

8 Ways to Create Conscious Relationship

Below are my top eight tips to create and practice conscious relationship. With these tips, we can improve most of the past romantic relationships that were not conscious to stand the test of time.

1. Self-love and Self-respect

First of all, learn to love yourself. How can you love someone else genuinely if you don’t love yourself? And how will you believe it when they say the three magic words: I love you? This is what makes people say they feel unappreciated in a relationship. Similarly, if you learn to respect yourself, you will have the courage to stand for what you believe amid conflict. Once you’ve mastered self-love and self-respect, the next step is to extend the same love and respect to your partner.

2. Be Committed

According to research, lack of commitment is the number one destroyer of relationships and most especially marriages. Dedicate to commit to your partner. Complement them without expecting anything in return. Make your relationship work with the “mentality” that you’re both there to stay. Do you understand what I mean?

3. Learning For the Sake of Growth

Be willing to learn new things in the relationship. Discover new feelings, emotions, sexual pleasures, and similar lessons for the sake of your relationships growth. A conscious relationship refrains from negative defensive behaviors. These include the silent treatment, quarreling, criticism, bringing each other down mentally, and hurting each other emotionally and physically.

4. Honesty

Conscious relationship upholds true openness. Express your feelings and thoughts with transparency and  sincerity. All the anger, sadness, joy, fear, and affection, is openly discussed, and analyzed. Be willing and ready to listen to your partner without judgment.

5. Unity

When you decide to practice a conscious relationship, do not hold back from making decisions as one. In addition to decision making, practice unity in family projects, finances, and investments. Give reasonable assurances and take it as your responsibility to fulfill your partner. These covenants and promises live in the spirit too.

6. Accountability

Every partner is accountable for their mistakes and eventualities. You have to take action to improve yourself for the sake of growing the relationship. Similarly, you shouldn’t look forward to finding faults in your partner. On the contrary, help them to become a better person in the relationship.

7. Appreciation and Gratitude

Come up with excellent and impressive ways to appreciate your partner. A simple thank you, you look lovely today, and similar phrases go a long way in showing gratitude. The relationship blossoms when you practice these virtues.

8. Practice Love and Affection

Conscious relationship allows you to practice love as a couple. Understand your completeness and express emotions. Open your heart to receive the same warmth and affection from your partner.

In Conclusion

Conscious relationship has incredible qualities and concepts that fuel a healthy relationship. As you start the journey to conscious relationship, it is necessary to assess your partner too. Are they prepared to commit mutually? If the answer is yes, jump in with both arms open to embrace them. But if they are not, don’t try to change them. You might get hurt in the end.

Love is the main creative force, the binding fabric of the Universe. Everything alive on our planet is circling in the eternal act of love. And our spiritual development can only progress through love. When we fall in love, it means that we connect with the whole Universe in a great dance of creativity. It gives us strength, inspiration, birth to new ideas and impetus to our development. Before I share my favorite love affirmations with you, I would like to say a couple of words about love.

Let’s Talk About Love

The greatest secret of happiness is to love yourself, be in a good mood and think positively!

If you love yourself, you will never suffer from the loss of love. You have to understand that your relationship with yourself is reflected in all your other relationships (with your partner, family members, colleagues or friends).

I’m sure you noticed that the most attractive energy comes from people who sincerely and unconditionally love themselves. And there is nothing surprising about the fact that the better you treat yourself, the better quality of relationship you attract. In this regard, “better quality” is shown in not allowing yourself to have those relationships that are unworthy of you, in which you humiliate yourself or suffer. “Better quality” means always to choose the best for yourself, never compromise with yourself and never sacrifice your self-love!

How Do Love Affirmations Work?

First of all, let me tell you that in my opinion love affirmations are the most effective formula for finding love. I’m 100% confident that affirmations work for everyone who has enough discipline, willpower, and concentration for everyday practice.

Affirmations are positive statements that program your subconscious mind to fulfill all your desires. In accordance with this program, joyful and happy desired events will gradually enter into your life.

Most people can’t even imagine how effective affirmations are! Affirmations are your main key to reprogramming your consciousness. That’s why the trick is to keep repeating them again and again until they are firmly imprinted in your subconscious.

How To Practice Love Affirmations?

In this article, I decided to share with you the system that I created for myself many years ago when I was suffering from unrequited love. Later I discovered that this system works amazingly not just for myself but also for my friends and students.  This system helped me not only to meet my great love but also learn to love myself! That is why I recommend you start practicing with self-love affirmations and then move on to Universal love affirmations and Love affirmations for attracting a partner.

My Love Affirmation System includes 3 groups:

1. Self-love affirmations
2. Universal love affirmations
3. Love affirmations for attracting a partner for romantic relationships.

Read these affirmations in the morning immediately after waking up and in the evening before going to bed. Practice the first group of affirmations for 21 days. Then (after 21 days of daily practice) add the second group to your daily practice. Read both groups of affirmations for another 21 days. Then add the 3rd group of affirmations. Practice all 3 groups of affirmations daily until you see the result.

Group 1 – Self-Love Affirmations

Start practicing love affirmations with this group.

We always attract what we radiate. That is why – in order to attract a partner, you must first become a source of love. When you radiate love you become a magnet for love. You become more attractive not only on an energy level but even your appearance will start to change! When you love yourself you become a source of joy and inspiration for others. You look attractive, happy and calm. In my article “5 Simple Steps To Boost Your Self-Love” I share how to love yourself. Don’t forget to check it out!

The following affirmations will help you to boost your self-love.

• I LOVE and accept myself for who I am!
• I LOVE my personality!
• I LOVE my body!
• I LOVE my behavior!
• Every day I become more and more attractive! I can see it and people around me can see it too!
• I respect myself!
• I think about myself only in a positive LOVING way!
• I talk about myself only in a respectful and LOVING way!
• I am LOVE!
• I’m in LOVE with myself!

Group 2 – Universal Love Affirmations

Continuing the theme on how to become the source of love. We need to learn not only to love ourselves but also to love our lives and everything and everyone around us!

The following love affirmations will help to tune into the energy of love towards the whole world.

• I radiate LOVE!
• There is LOVE inside and around me!
• My life is full of LOVE!
• I LOVE myself and the whole world!
• I am a source of LOVE!
• May my LOVE fill the Universe!
• I’m in LOVE with my life!
• I LOVE everyone I know and everyone who knows me LOVES me! I feel it!
• I LOVE the whole world and the whole world LOVES me! I feel it!
• I LOVE the whole Universe and the whole Universe LOVES me! I feel it!

Group 3 – Love Affirmations For Attracting a Partner

Finally, we come to the last set of affirmations – and probably the reason you began to read this article – love affirmations to attract a partner.

• I let go of my past and open up myself to LOVE and new relationships!
• I welcome new relationships and new LOVE!
• I am open to LOVE unconditionally!
• I am open to receive LOVE!
• I’m grateful for LOVE!
• I have a big respect and LOVE for men (women)!
• I’m in LOVE and I am LOVED! I live in peace and harmony!
• I attract harmonious and happy relationship into my life!
• My partner respects me and loves me as much as I love and respect him (her)!
• I am happy in LOVE!

The Bottom Line

There is nothing more important than love. In order to attract love, we have to become its source first. It’s not difficult to do if we keep our focus on it. Affirmations are a great tool which helps us not only reprogram ourselves from negativity to positivity, from self-hate to self-love, from misery to happiness but also to keep our focus on only what we desire.

If you want to attract love, first of all, you should stop focusing on your loneliness but start focusing on LOVE instead. While reading love affirmations visualize that you already have what you intend to attract: self-love, acceptance, romantic relationships, etc. Not just the positive words of love affirmations but also the feeling of having what you want attracts the desired results! Combine the power of thoughts with a power of words and a power of visualization and you will always attract what you want into your life!