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Trauma bonding is a dysfunctional attachment that develops in the presence of danger, shame, or exploitation. Think of such phrases as; “You broke me, but you are the only one who can fix me.” Or “I know my partner is abusive, but I can’t imagine a life without him.” These bonds are common in narcissistic […]
Our shadow emotions influence most aspects of our lives without us knowing it. It could be that curse word you uttered out of nowhere. Or the hateful comments you made about a photo you saw online. Whatever it is, our shadow self, unless dealt with, has the potential to cause havoc in our lives. That’s […]
Have you ever encountered someone who thinks everything goes wrong for them? During conversations, they frequently paint themselves as a victim in a world that continually takes advantage of them. When they discuss their problems, they often blame other people and avoid taking personal responsibility. People who frequently complain and undermine themselves may have a […]
If you are a free spirit, chances are you struggle to fit in your family or friend’s circles. That is normal. See, as a true spirit, you value your freedom over complacency. You would rather dictate the terms of your life than conform to societal norms. Well, this nonconformist attitude to life is never free […]
Fawning is about being big on pleasing people and engaging in pacifying behaviors. In fawn trauma response, the victim prioritizes appeasing people and receiving approval. We know it feels great to be liked by the people around you. But it is utterly useless if you are losing yourself while at it. And this is what […]
Vulnerable narcissists tend to have a character that will typically pass as the opposite of narcissism. They tend to be more sensitive and, therefore, difficult to spot. You may realize you are dealing with or are in a relationship with a vulnerable narcissist when you are already too deep into it. Similarly, their actions may […]
Did you know that having narcissistic traits that make you assertive without necessarily being manipulative to hurt others is healthy? Well, psychologists clinically diagnose and classify destructive narcissistic traits as narcissistic personality disorders (NPD). And, NPD varies from person to person depending on their most noticeable clinical patterns. So, are you or do you know […]
What comes to mind when you think of a narcissist? A selfish person who uses their victim for self-gain, right? In contrast, we see a codependent person as excessively selfless and an easy victim to a narcissist. Yet, both the narcissist and the codependent person have unhealthy views of themselves. See, they share similar needs […]
Are you an empath supernova? If so, what are the implications of your new personality to the narcissist? We all know empaths to be caring and understanding, always ready to put the needs of others first. However, when empaths are under constant narcissistic abuse they turn into supernovas. For them, enough is enough. Since they […]
Do you feel guilty or excessively responsible for your parents? And, does this over-concern meddle with your ability to tap into opportunities either professionally or romantically now that you are an adult? Well, an adolescent or young adult who is uneasy about leaving home, or feels less supported upon return is probably growing in an […]
Our childhood events shape what kind of adults we become. Hence, parents strive to give their children the best care possible. However, if you grew up in the hands of a narcissistic mother or father, their mental illness may trigger soul loss in you. In turn, you develop ego defense mechanisms that impair your self-growth. […]
If you want to have healthy relationships and a peaceful life, it is essential to have personal boundaries. Personal boundaries are basic guidelines of how you want to be treated. Without boundaries, you will eventually start feeling like you’ve been depleted, taken advantage of, taken for granted, or intruded upon. Sooner or later, poor personal boundaries […]