In this article, I want to introduce you to the Mature feminine energy, its importance in the creation process, and its essential qualities.

The Nature Of The Feminine Energy

The feminine role in the process of Creation is represented as the nurturing and sustaining aspect of energy consciousness. One of the most important things the feminine aspect does is creating and holding the space to nurture the creation. The feminine aspect creates the form, or womb in which creation will grow and unfold. Think of it as the limiting walls or boundaries of potential that masculine energy can express itself within.

SO is the magnetic or feminine force that exists in nature. CHA is the masculine electric force that exists within nature. All of life is electromagnetic or polarized. LAN is the state of harmony, balance and equilibrium between these two poles. SOLANCHA thus is the harmonious rhythm and cosmic pulsation of electromagnetic energy that flows throughout the universe.

The power of feminine energy depends on how much of herself she will give to nurture and sustain creation. If consciousness changes its focus and moves from the feminine aspect into the masculine to thrust into another direction, the initially desired creation may suffer if not die unless the focus is returned to the fullness of the original container of feminine wisdom. Feminine energy is qualitative while masculine energy is quantiative.

It is essential to realize that the feminine aspect of Creation is to become one with the Creation in some way. For most people, it is hard to understand since we live in separate bodies and physical offspring become separate (from their parents) individuals. Yet, the womb of the mother nourishes the fetus until it is born into the world. She and the fetus are one until it is born. So too the feminine aspect of our being for any creation in which we engage.

What Is the Mature Feminine?

The mature feminine aspect represents the willingness to give of herself and become whatever she needs to become to nurture the creation. She nurtures the creation in the way it needs to be nurtured to grow thus her limitations become the limitations of the creation. Those limitations can lead to a positive or negative manifestation.

It is essential to understand that the creation can only unfold true to itself to the extent the feminine nurturing energy has matured.

It’s important to understand that this statement is true for males and females alike for both possess a feminine aspect. We are just more aware of the feminine aspect of females.

Both males and females have a feminine aspect that is needed to nurture any creation in which the male or female become engaged in creating. If we cannot adequately nurture the need of our feminine creative aspect, we will be unable to properly meet the needs of our creation.

On this point, it needs to be realized the mature feminine does not throw her energy or her life away. There is no foolishness, ego, or parasitic relationship here. It is an act that transcends the individual. The mature feminine will give of her life if necessary but it is not done to sustain a creation that will not become self-sufficient.

When the mature feminine energy is active, it is able to pull out of the masculine things the masculine does not know it is capable of doing. In many ways, the masculine does not know what it’s capabilities are. It takes the feminine to call it forth and pull out its essence though the container of her magnetic form.

It’s important to understand that this is not about a woman needing to call out what she sees as inappropriate behavior within a man. It is about the feminine within a male or female calling forth the masculine within herself/himself.

Let’s look at this from the consciousness perspective. The masculine aspect of consciousness is not aware of itself unless there is a movement of contrast energy, the feminine aspect of consciousness, is presented. In this sense, it takes the feminine energy, for the masculine to awaken. Hence the feminine nurturing energy awakens the masculine aspect of consciousness and magnetically pulls it toward its full potential.

The ripening of the Self is really about the maturing of our nurturing creative feminine aspect of being. It is about being able to become internally and externally whatever is needed for the Creation to unfold.

The ripening of the Self is about learning how to become more feminine to call forth the masculine aspect of our creative spirit to thrust out into the world a more authentic version of itself. This is what each of us needs to learn – living our truth in the world.

Our truth and our creative energy and power to live that truth has long suppressed by the world in which we grow up. Although we can be successful in life, we can still be suppressing the inner spark. We tend to live in the way in which we have been programmed to live. Therefore, it is essential for each of us to develop our mature feminine presence, to call forth our creative spirit, and create a safe and secure space for us to live our full potential.

Mature Feminine & Mature Masculine Vs. Immature Feminine & Immature Masculine

For the Creation to be born, the Mature Feminine is as needed as the Mature Masculine. No matter what you’re trying to create – whether it is a balanced relationship or successful business – you need balanced energy that is based on these two principles – feminine and masculine. Any Creation, any manifestation, any idea needs these two qualities of energy to conceive the desired and give it birth.

However, most people are guided by false beliefs, and when trying to manifest all they can produce is a poor Creation, lacking any quality or even nothing at all. Therefore, it is important to understand the difference between the mature and immature feminine and masculine aspects.

Immature Masculine:

• Competitive
• Separation
• Ego-centric
• Self-serving
• Boisterous
• Arrogant
• Emotionally detached
• Motivated by self-serving interests
• Insecure
• Identifies with material possessions.

Mature Masculine:

• Present
• Man on a mission
• Heart-centered
• Focused
• Determined
• Seeks collaboration
• Motivated by his mission
• Emotionally intelligent

Immature Feminine:

• Gossipy
• Jealous
• Needs validation from external sources
• Low self-worth
• Ego-centric
• Seductive – uses sexuality to manipulate others and get attention

Mature Feminine:

• Present
• Nurturing
• Empowering
• Emotionally intelligent
• Self-fulfilled and oozing self-love
• Sensual
• Confident in sexual energy
• Motivated by heart and what will be of benefit to others
• Whole

Next time you try to create something or manifest your goals, think about what emotions and qualities attract you to that project. If you are motivated by your competitive spirit – the immature masculine is speaking within you. This is the sign that with such poor intentions you will not succeed.

Or, if you try to build your new relationship based on pure sexual desires without heart and deep feelings being involved, the immature feminine is crying for attention within you. Such a relationship will not last long.

Test your desires on their maturity before you put any energy into their manifestations.

Developing Mature Feminine On External Level

Though every person despite the gender has both – feminine and masculine – energies within, women are external representatives of feminine energy on our planet. Therefore, it is especially essential for us, women, to develop mature femininity.

Though, we all have our slips between immature and mature – it is just good to be aware first and foremost of where our intentions are and what is motivating us. Therefore, I created the below list of mature feminine abilities as a reminder, first of all, for myself. Hopefully, this list can also provide some guidance for you on your self-development journey.

#1: The ability to love

The immature feminine begs for love and attention, while the mature feminine offers them to others as her precious gifts. This becomes possible only in a state of fullness, which is inseparable from the ability to love yourself unconditionally.

Loving yourself means accepting yourself and any emotions, taking care of your physical body and mental health, valuing your time, and not allowing others to overstep their boundaries. It means never, under any circumstances, betray yourself!

#2: The ability to enjoy life

Enjoying your life every single moment without regrets is a form of Zen. The ability to relax and really enjoy everything you do and be present is a sign of self-connection, inner balance, and high intuitiveness.

This means not thinking about work when you are spending time with your family and friends, not scrolling on the phone when you are having your morning coffee, not watching TV when having your dinner, etc. It all comes down to simply being able to breathe, hear, see, and feel consciously.

#3: The ability to be alone

This skill manifests itself in relationships: especially with the closest people. The behavior of the immature feminine is to “stick” to her protector/guardian, best friend, go with them at the same speed, “downsize” herself just to fit in, and not to stay alone.

The mature feminine loves and knows how to be alone and enjoys it. She sees aloneness as a gift to her soul and feels satisfaction from the bond she forms with herself.

This is also the ability to stay without a smartphone for several days and enjoy your own company.

The Bottom Line

We create our life every single second by choosing the thoughts we think, the emotions we feel, and the actions we take. Our reality is created by our thoughts that we color with emotions and express in actions. Every single thought – the seed we sow to manifest our reality – has its masculine and feminine qualities.

In order to create our desired reality, we need to support the inner marriage of the masculine and feminine energies of our thoughts. Let that support be based on harmonious and balanced qualities of the mature feminine and masculine so that the life you create brings you great happiness and joy.

Life always gives us challenges and life lessons for our development and personal evolution. Each of us in one way or another is dealing with some sort of life challenges. However, some people happen to manage these challenges better than others. You can find lots of examples where a big life challenge made a person much stronger and more successful in life, whereas a small problem another person faced caused him to go into a deep depression and mental breakdown.

So, why can some people handle anything and turn lemons into lemonade whereas others can’t deal with even the smallest of problems without feeling stressed?

In this article, we will share with you what emotional balance is and what are the principles of emotionally balanced people. Also, we will give you some helpful tips on how to improve your emotional health and become more emotionally balanced so that you can enjoy your life and deal with life challenges in a more harmonious way.

Emotional Health

We all manage stressful situations differently. Some of us can stay calm and balanced while solving a problem, while others violently show uncontrollable emotions.

It’s not a bad thing to be emotional, but it can negatively affect the course of events. And if you are an overly emotional person, you probably know about it.

The ability to remain calm in a stressful situation indicates a person’s emotional health. If you’re not emotionally healthy, chances are you’re going to run into trouble and turn a tiny problem into a big disaster.

The way you process your emotions determines how you will deal with issues as they arise in your life. If you’re emotionally disconnected with yourself, it makes it that much harder for you to process and cope with life circumstances and problems that you may encounter. When you’re able to truly find inner peace and balance your emotional self you’ll start to see life challenges in an entirely different way.

5 Principles Of Emotional Balance

The emotional balance may be an innate skill, but you can also develop it by starting to apply these 5 principles of emotionally balanced people.

#1: Wait for the right moment instead of acting right away

This will help you master the skill of impulsive control – the ability to stop and think about whether you want to act. By learning to control yourself, you can take a break and evaluate the situation, and potentially committed actions in the long term.

For example, a friend or family member might make you angry. In response, you can immediately say or do something that may disrupt the relationship. The control skill will help you to choose an action that matches your best intentions.

#2: Take a pause

Emotionally stable people are patient – they can take a pause before reacting to the situation. If you are not such a person, remember how you reacted in a fit of anger? Now, think about what your response would be if you were patient for one hour.

If the first principle was about choosing the best action, this one is about sitting with your emotions and not taking any action. During this time, you will find a solution that will correspond to your intentions in the best way.

#3: The healing power of time

Acceptance doesn’t mean being weak and giving up or letting stress get the better of you. On the contrary, it is about understanding your emotions and believing that you will be OK.

Time heals! The feelings of sadness or frustration are temporary – they will gradually go away as time passes.

When you are emotionally imbalanced you may think that you will never get out of this state. Now, remember the last time you felt like this. You may have thought that this tough time would never be over, but you eventually felt better. And it always gets better as time heals!

#4: Make time for yourself

Emotionally stable people are organized people who know their self-worth and value their time. They know that taking care of themselves is the way they replenish their resources and become stronger.

Self-care for such people is a daily practice.

They have certain tools that they can use during times of stress to relieve it and regain their calm: meditation, yoga, sports, meeting a friend, a сup of tea, etc.

So, next time when you feel like stress is taking control over you, instead of allowing your emotions to guide you to self-destructive mode, focus on your inner peace – go to yoga class, do some breathing exercises, or meditate. Turn off your restless mind and listen to your inner voice!

#5: Focus on good things

Where attention goes, energy flows and manifestation occurs. You will attract whatever is most often and most powerfully on your mind and in your heart. So don’t focus on “what’s wrong.” You will only attract more of the same. Don’t waste your precious energy on something you don’t want to attract into your life! Shift your focus on good things instead. Remember that there is always something to be grateful for. Keep a positive mindset!

Count your blessings, not your troubles!

Counting your blessings puts you into a state of gratitude which opens the flow to attract more happiness and joy into your life. When you turn your attention to all the goodness that you already have you’ll find that you’ll begin to see things you had not noticed before and feel more appreciative of your life. With this kind of mindset, you will be able to deal with your life challenges in a more balanced way and see the right solutions for your problems more clearly.

Are You Emotionally Balanced?

After reading a bit about what it means to be emotionally balanced, how do you feel? Do you believe that you are emotionally balanced, or are there some areas of your life that you could use a little change in?

According to Dan Mager, MSW, “there are several levels of awareness involved in cultivating emotional balance:

#1: Become consciously aware that you are experiencing an emotion

Although you may not know specifically what the feeling is, it is important to simply notice and acknowledge that you have some feeling.

#2: Identify the particular emotion

It may be helpful to close your eyes, turn your focus inward, and allow yourself to experience that emotion in your body. Different emotions are typically experienced in different parts of the body.

For example, anger might manifest as tightness in your neck and shoulders, sadness as an ache in your chest, fear as a knot in your stomach, and joy as warmth in your heart.

#3: Put the emotion into words

“I’m feeling anxious.” “I’m feeling angry.” “I’m feeling sad.”

Putting the emotions you experience into words by making these simple self-statements can create the space you can use to respond intentionally rather than react automatically and unconsciously.

How to Become Emotionally Balanced?

The good thing is that there are plenty of ways in which you can learn to balance your emotions, learn self-love, and see life in a more positive way. Here are some quick tips from Dan Mager, MSW to improve your emotional health you can start with.

#1: Feel your feelings

Instead of blocking your emotions or denying them allow yourself to feel whatever you’re experiencing. Write down your negative emotions instead of acting on them so you can vent.

#2: Grow daily

Every day challenge yourself to take risks. By doing this, you allow yourself to grow and boost your self-love. The risks don’t have to be hard. For example, you can talk to someone new, or learn a new skill, or even set a workout goal.

#3: Focus on the present moment

You see, usually, our mental health becomes challenged when we focus too much on what was or what could be. Though it is important to have structure and plans in your life, allowing them to consume your mind can be detrimental. It is easier to deal with reality when you start focusing on the present moment and stop worrying about the future.

#4: Laugh more

Try to find the bright side of things and laugh a little more through the ups and downs in life.

#5: Be grateful

Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, it’s great to show gratitude for what you do. Start reciting positive things about your life on a daily basis. Things like “I’m happy I have a job” and “I’m blessed I have a home” can start to make you appreciate more of what you have now.

#6: Make your heart sing

Connecting to something larger than yourself makes your life purposeful and meaningful. Do more of what makes your heart sing. It could be meditation, aerial yoga class, or seeing friends more often.

#7: Watch who you surround yourself with

You may need to take a look at your relationships to determine if they’re healthy. Having people who give off negative energy can certainly affect your emotional health. You may need to separate yourself from them as you learn to heal. Do this from a place of love and compassion, rather than righteousness or by wronging anyone.

The Bottom Line

Emotional stability is all about a balanced attitude to challenging situations and daily problems. By practicing the above principles and tips and learning how to respond to stress, you can live more joyfully and be a support to others.

Fear impacts all of us, and very often holds us back from pursuing the things we really want. If you are one of those people who let their biggest dreams fade away just because you are too afraid to pursue them, this article is for you! We are going to dig deeper and find out what this fear that holds you back looks like. You will learn what your fear archetype is and what you can actually do about it.

Destructive Power Of Fear

Fear is one of the basic human instincts that is supposed to protect us and make us act faster in dangerous situations. But at the same time, fear also inhibits and hinders our self-expression and progress. It is fear that can prevent us from living the life that we dream of and from expressing our full potential. So it turns out that this instinct of self-preservation can ruin our lives.

Everyone’s fear manifests itself in different ways, and people deal with it differently. Ruth Soukup, entrepreneur, and author of “Do It Scared” discovered seven fear archetypes and came up with the best ways to overcome each of them.

Which one describes yours the best? Read on!

7 Fear Archetypes

Fear Archetype #1: Procrastinator

Also known as a perfectionist who tends to postpone things or not start them at all, because they are afraid to do everything imperfectly or make a mistake. And since it doesn’t work out perfectly in most cases, these people prefer not to take on a failed idea or project at all.

This archetype may manifest itself as:

• fear of commitment;
• fear of getting started.

Procrastinators tend to be indecisive when they need to act quickly. Usually, they prefer to plan everything in detail, do research, the organization of the process is more important than the actions themselves. As a result, they have many incomplete and unmanifested ideas and plans and rarely get anything done.

Are you a Procrastinator?

You can consider yourself a procrastinator if you:

• never feel like things are done or ready if you like to plan things way in advance;
• research tends to be more important than the action itself;
• have trouble committing or saying yes to things that are outside of your comfort zone.

What can you do?

• Get out of their comfort zone and say “Yes” more often to everything new, even if it is not planned.
• Set a deadline for when your planning and researching period will end and when you’ll actually get started.
• Realize that the problem with ‘perfect’ is that nothing will ever be good enough.
• Set realistic standards and work towards doing your best.

Fear Archetype #2: The Rule Follower

Such people are dedicated to following the distinct rules and guidelines set by those around them. They’re obsessed with always trying to make the right decision, despite its potential effect on their own success.

The rule followers are very afraid of changes.

They tend to see the world in black and white and feel anxious anytime they sense themselves or other people stepping outside the norms of acceptable behavior. They may also be overly concerned with making sure other people are making good decisions.

The rule followers may avoid taking risks, especially when they are not sure whether there is a “right” path to follow, and their fear of authority may prevent them from coloring outside the lines of trusting their own judgment.

Are you the Rule Follower?

You can consider yourself the rule follower if you:

• like knowing there is an established protocol to follow;
• strongly prefer for things to be done the “right” way;
• spend time worrying about regulations and things not being done correctly.

What can you do?

• get out of the dual perception of the world, stop seeing everything as “either right or wrong”;
• realize the fact that an unknown path can lead to something new and beautiful;
• practice self-compassion;
• realize that it’s OK to make mistakes – this is necessary for your personal growth;
• define your own set of guiding principles instead of always leaning on others or outside factors.

Fear Archetype #3: The People Pleaser

The desire to please everyone arises from a deep fear of being rejected by others. Such people care about what others think of them, and they are very afraid of public condemnation. The worst thing for such people is to be ridiculed or rejected by someone.

The people pleasers are afraid of being judged which also manifests itself as the fear of letting people down and the fear of what other people might say. Essentially, the People Pleaser’s biggest concern can often be summed up as the fear of how others may react.

Usually, they pay a lot of attention to their appearance and care a lot about their reputation and status symbols such as a nice car, home, or designer labels.

Are you the People Pleaser?

You can consider yourself the people pleaser if you:

• have a hard time saying no, setting limits, and establishing healthy boundaries;
• are overcommitted;
• allow other people’s priorities and requests to override your own goals and dreams;
• are often worried about looking foolish or being judged;
• worry about letting other people down;
• struggle to disagree when others share an opinion.

What can you do?

• spend more time alone and learn to hear yourself first;
• stop saying “yes” when you want to say “no”;
• learn to set your boundaries when communicating with people;
• realize that you can’t pour from an empty cup, meaning that when you’re in tune with your own wants and desires, you become a better friend, partner, and family member;
• remind yourself that you deserve to be prioritized, just as much as other people in your life.

Fear Archetype #4: Outcast

This is the opposite of those who try to please. Such people, on the contrary, try to be as different as possible, to show their individuality and the fact that they do not care about the opinion of others.

Behind all this is a huge fear of rejection or a fear of trusting other people. This fear archetype manifests itself by rejecting others before they have a chance to be rejected.

While to outside observers, the Outcast often appears to be fearless, inwardly he often believes other people can’t be counted on or trusted and he tends to view even the mildest slight or dismissal as confirmation of that belief, which in turn causes the Outcast to reject others even more frequently.

Are you an Outcast?

You can consider yourself an Outcast if you:

• struggle to ask for help;
• don’t trust others;
• keep your distance from other people;
• push people away and do not let them get too close;
• tend to think “I don’t need anyone, I’m on my own”.

What can you do?

• work on your self-esteem;
• don’t be afraid to ask for help and express your feelings;
• take the time to ask yourself if you are focusing on the worst-case scenario and what some other alternatives may be;
• give others a chance;
• look for evidence that you can trust others and know that if things don’t go well you are already experienced at ending a situation.

Fear Archetype #5: The Self-Doubter

This fear archetype is dominated by the fear of not being good enough. Those who self-doubt tend to feel insecure about themselves and their capabilities. Therefore, they can find it difficult to put themselves out there.

The Self-Doubter often judges others to mask his own fears and insecurities.

Such people may also struggle with feelings of intense jealousy toward someone who is doing the things they wish they could do. This jealousy may manifest itself in the form of sarcasm, gossip, or criticism.

These people are very insecure about themselves. In fact, they are afraid of themselves and their self-expression. Here there is a fear of the opinions of others, and the fear of not being good enough or not qualified enough.

Doubts prevent such people from starting something new. They doubt and criticize themselves and often envy those who succeed.

Are you the Self-Doubter?

You can consider yourself as the Self-Doubter if you:

• avoid trying new things or taking risks because you don’t believe in yourself or your abilities;
• often feel jealous;
• frequently struggle with feeling unworthy or unqualified;
• tend to be hypercritical of yourself and others.

What can you do?

• start doing what you’ve always wanted to do and dreamed of, even if it seems scary;
• step outside of your comfort zone every once in a while and take note of the outcome.

Fear Archetype #6: The Excuse Maker

This fear archetype struggles most with the fear of taking responsibility. It can also manifest itself as the fear of being held accountable, or the fear of being found at fault.

Instead of stepping up to lead every once in a while, the Excuse Maker finds himself taking a backseat to avoid accountability. They prefer to let others make decisions for them avoiding personal responsibility.

Such people are terrified of having the finger pointed in their direction. Therefore they always look for someone or something to blame for why they can’t do something.

Are you the Excuse Maker?

You can consider yourself as the Excuse Maker if you:

• tend to shift blame and avoid responsibility;
• get nervous at the idea of being in charge;
• feel uncomfortable with making a final decision, for fear of being blamed for an unfavorable outcome;
• are prone to blame any current struggles on other people or circumstances.
• often have an explanation for why you are not able to do something.

What can you do?

• start with setting small daily goals and stick with them;
• try the S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely) goal model to help create measurable and realistic goals;
• break down each of your goals – then you will be able to bring structure and trackability to them.

Fear Archetype #7: The Pessimist

This fear archetype struggles with the fear of adversity and hardship. Such people often feel victimized due to past or current trauma or difficulties. They can tend to look at hardships as stop signs or a reason to give up.

This fear archetype struggles most with the fear of adversity, which often manifests itself as the fear of pain.

Pessimists are easily waylaid by any challenging circumstances that come their way. This is due to the fact that they are very afraid of adversity and hardship. In difficult situations, they feel like they lack control over them.

In any challenging situation, the Pessimist only sees obstacles and troubles but never sees the opportunities for growth and perseverance. Any problem they face in life is a legitimate reason to give up or to not try at all.

Are you the Pessimist?

You can consider yourself as the Pessimist if you:

• get stuck in bitterness toward other people or unfair circumstances;
• struggle to face your circumstances head-on instead of preferring to hide to avoid additional pain;
• fear of adversity and hardship;
• tend to feel like there is no real solution for your problem and therefore would rather not try to solve it at all;
• tend to look at hardships as stop signs or a reason to give up.

What can you do?

• learn to look at hardships as stepping stones or lessons, instead of roadblocks;
• see obstacles as an opportunity for growth and perseverance;
• stop hiding trying to avoid pain;
• get rid of victim mentality;
• when something tough gets thrown your way, take a moment to step back and evaluate the situation;
• when facing a challenge or problem, think about the lesson it might be teaching you, or how you can make the outcome more favorable.

The Bottom Line

Each of us can manifest all these archetypes, but some of them you may find particularly pronounced.

Did you recognize yourself in these fear archetypes? Well… Identifying the type of fear is the first step to overcoming it!