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Ikigai: Secret Formula For Happiness And Longevity

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Is there a secret formula for longevity and happiness? The Japanese have an answer to this question, and it is called Ikigai (pronounced Ick-ee-guy). This Japanese concept can be translated as “a reason for being”. It refers to having a direction or purpose and motivation in life that makes one’s life worthwhile. In other words, it is a reason to jump out of bed each morning. According to psychological research, if you have a purpose, a motivation, and a reason for getting up in the morning, you become happier and live longer!

Let’s take a deeper look at how this works!

What Is Ikigai?

The word Ikigai consists of two words: ‘Iki’ (to live) and ‘gai’ (reason).

This philosophy originated on the island of Okinawa – home to the largest group of centenarians in the world.

Could the concept of Ikigai contribute to health and longevity?

National Geographic reporter, Dan Buettner, believes it does. According to Buettner, Okinawans have less desire to retire, as people continue to do their favorite job as long as they remain healthy.

Searching for Ikigai is a long process that requires a deep understanding of your desires and needs in all areas of your life.

Unfortunately, most people don’t even know what their purpose and greatest inspiration in life. Not having a reason to jump out of bed each morning leads to a meaningless life, depression, apathy, and even health problems. While some people feel their calling and love for their work, many spend most of their lives trying to figure out what makes them happy.

Four Primary Elements Of Ikigai

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The Ikigai concept consists of four primary elements:

  1. What you love (your passion)
  2. What the world needs (your mission)
  3. What you are good at (your vocation)
  4. What you can get paid for (your profession)

According to the Japanese idea of self-development, each of us has an Ikigai. All we need to do is just to reveal it to make life meaningful and fulfilling.

If you want to discover your Ikigai you need to ask yourself the following four questions:

  1. What do I love?
  2. What am I good at?
  3. What can I be paid for now — or something that could transform into my future hustle?
  4. What does the world need?

Element 1: Your passion

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What is that you love doing? This can be your hobbies: music, dancing, drawing, swimming, cooking gardening. Try to understand what gives you real satisfaction.

These things will motivate you and help you choose the career that suits you best.

If you make enough money, but you are bored and uninterested in the work you do, even if you are successful in it, it may be time to reconsider your preferences.

Element 2: Your mission

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What are you good at? Knowing what you love to do and understanding what you are good at are two different things. You may not like your current job, but you can do it perfectly with a high level of professionalism.

You may enjoy drawing, but your paintings won’t be worth a damn. You may be passionate about one thing, but skilled and talented at something else.

Try to find what you are good at and find out what skills you need to improve.

When you are confident in your abilities, you can build a career and make money by doing what you love. This will help you find satisfaction and feel the meaningfulness of life.

Element 3: Your vocation

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Let’s say you can cook delicious meals. It’s wonderful! However, if you do not share your skills and talents with the world, and do not do what is valuable and what others need, you will not be able to achieve your goals based only on your skills and hobbies.

If you are a good cook, you can work in a restaurant, run your own cafe, or help feed the poor.

Helping others gives us a sense of belonging, and the lack of this element can cause feelings of isolation and loneliness.

Element 4: Your profession

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Although it is important to think about three other elements, you must not forget about make enough money for living a joyful and comfortable life.

True Ikigai can be achieved when all four intersect at the center of a balanced and happy life.

For example, you can do what you love and what others need, but it may not make you money. Or Vice versa, you can choose what is well paid and what you are strong at, but you will feel empty and unrealized.

Striving for Ikigai is a challenge and requires dedication, but it will make your life happier and more meaningful.

10 Ikigai Rules

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The essence of Ikigai can also be represented in the form of 10 rules that were written by Hector Garcia and Francesc Miralles in their book “Ikigai The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life“:

  1. Stay active and don’t retire;
  2. Leave urgency behind and adopt a slower pace of life;
  3. Only eat until you are 80 percent full;
  4. Surround yourself with good friends;
  5. Exercise daily;
  6. Smile and acknowledge people around you;
  7. Live in harmony with nature;
  8. Be grateful for everything that makes you happy;
  9. Live in the moment;
  10. Follow your passion and listen to your heart. This will lead you to Ikigai.

Where Should I Start?

Searching for Ikigai is a process that requires time, effort, and patience. The purpose of your life will become clearer to you over time, but this does not mean that you just need to relax and wait. Here are the steps that you can take already now.

1. Ask questions

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Start with asking yourself the main questions:

  • What do you like to do most?
  • What are you good at?
  • What do others need and what can you offer them?
  • What can you be paid for?

Take your time with the answers, you need clear and detailed answers. But at the same time, it is not necessary to puzzle over questions. Write down your answers.

Trust the natural flow of thoughts. Note all your thoughts and possible answers that you come up with for a few weeks. Some of them may seem crazy and absurd to you, but you should continue to remember or better write down everything that comes to your mind. But most importantly, try to be honest with yourself.

Take into account your experience and important life moments, both personal and professional, to understand what makes you happy, what fascinates you, and what you value the most.

Once you find honest answers and are satisfied with them, try to find the intersection between the four elements. Even if you can’t do it right away, don’t worry. Over time, you will see the picture clearer.

2. Make a plan

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If you find it difficult to answer the above questions, you may want to make a list of all possible answers and draw up a diagram.

Try creating a diagram of four overlapping circles-elements to find your ikigai, and have a clearer picture.

It doesn’t have to be perfect. The main thing is to write down your thoughts and organize them.

The more thoughts and answers you have, the clearer the picture will become.

For example, start by writing what your typical day consists of, and then make a picture of what your ideal Ikigai day should look like. See what you can add or remove compared to your typical day. Perhaps some things will be a discovery for you.

As you improve your picture, you will get closer to the life of Ikigai.

3. Experiment

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Once you have created a plan and started searching for ikigai, you need to check it in action.

You will learn from experience whether you have really found Ikigai and whether it works for you. It’s not enough just to think about it, you have to live it!

If you want to experience the fullness of life, you need to constantly take some actions. Moreover, you will need to constantly adapt and make some adjustments to move on and develop.

You may need to be ok to prioritize some things more or change the direction you’re moving in. For example, if you change your job, you will need to change your habits and lifestyle, learn to multitask, and be a patient learner.

Ikigai will bring certain changes to your life so that you can create the life you want. This may cause some discomfort during the transition period, but as soon as it is over, you will realize that you have come to what you were aiming for.

4. Find support

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While you are working on your Ikigai, it is important to take care of the support you may need during the transition period.

For example, if you plan to change a job, talk to those who have already made progress in similar activities. Don’t be shy to ask such questions as:

  • What did you do to achieve your goals?
  • What difficulties did you face?
  • How long did it take you to make the changes?
  • What was the experience like?
  • What reward did you get?

When you have someone to guide and inspire you, you will be highly motivated to move forward even in the most difficult and desperate moments.

It is worth understanding that on the way to the finish line, you will have to meet certain difficulties and overcome obstacles. This is why it is important to have support that will help you on your way.

5. Follow your own path

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Finding your passion and your ikigai will be the best achievement in your life. However, this may require you to be patient, introspect, and take positive action.

Ikigai is not just about living a healthy and happy life. It’s about opening yourself up and accepting the path you’ve chosen.

It means enjoying life and understanding what really makes you happy and gives meaning to your life.

Ikigai And Longevity

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And in the end, I would like to say a few more words about Okinawa – the Japanese island where Ikigai was originated, and where an incredibly high percentage of centenarians live.

In Okinawa, people try to develop close and meaningful relationships with each other. Friends and family members support each other throughout life, and no one is left abandoned or alone.

The old take care of the young, the young take care of the old. Such connections help not only reduce stress but also provide the necessary support in everyday life, where everyone can count on the other.

In terms of nutrition, most Okinawans eat fruits, vegetables, and tofu. They almost don’t eat meat, fat, sugar, or processed foods, which protects them from cancer, heart disease, and excess weight.

Residents drink a lot of green tea, and also consume ginger, various herbs and chili peppers.

They also exercise regularly – walking, dancing, working in the garden and spending time outdoors.

Many of them do not measure quality of life by wealth and success, but rather by being at peace while living an active and meaningful life.

Scientists have found that Okinawa has the lowest death rate from age-related chronic diseases, as well as one of the highest life expectancy.

There are other places in the world where conditions are similar, but there are not as many centenarians. Perhaps the secret lies in Ikigai.

Conclusion

In conclusion, I would like to share with you one Japanese parable about the the concept of Ikigai in Japan:

In a small village outside of Osaka, a woman in a coma was dying. She suddenly had a feeling that she was taken up to heaven and stood before the Voice of her ancestors.

“Who are you?” the Voice asked her.

“I am the wife of the mayor,” she replied.

“I did not ask whose wife you are but who you are.”

“I am the mother of four children,” she replied.

“I did not ask whose mother you are, but who you are.”

“I am a school teacher,” the woman answered.

“I did not ask what your profession is but who you are.”

And so it went. No matter what she replied, she did not seem to give a satisfactory answer to the question, “Who are you?”

“I am a Shinto.”

“I did not ask what your religion is but who you are.”

“I am the one who wakes up each day to care for my family, and nurture the young minds of the children at my school,” she replied.

She passed the examination, and was sent back to earth. The next morning she woke at sunrise, feeling a deep sense of meaning and purpose. She tended to her children’s lunches, and planned fun lessons for her students that day. The woman had discovered her Ikigai.

Katya Ki is the Founder of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics, cosmology, and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

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10 Divine Feminine Qualities Explained

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Divine feminine and divine masculine are interconnected and can’t exist without one another. This means that despite our cultural associations of masculine and feminine with men and women, respectively, we all have both energies within us. They just might not be evenly balanced. When we have excessive masculine energy, we get aggressive and strive for domination. If there’s too much feminine energy, we get disempowered and suffer from stagnation.

In a world dominated by masculine energy, more and more people today are looking to tap into the divine feminine. In fact, some are going through the divine feminine awakening. In this article, we will explore 10 divine feminine qualities and what they mean.

The Divine Feminine Qualities

#1: Heightened Empathy

Divine Feminine souls are highly empathetic individuals. They easily connect with other people’s emotions, whether negative or positive. In turn, they find their happiness in others and also feel the pain of others as if it was their own. As an empath, the Divine Feminine: –

#2: Communication

Communication is one of the Divine Feminine qualities that facilitate the rest of the feminine traits. The feminine energy makes us relate in a sacred way. Hence, the Divine Feminine uses communication skills to empathize, collaborate, forgive, understand, and nurture others. 

For example, instead of getting defensive when criticized, this individual is receptive to the needs of others and looks for a lesson in an unpleasant experience. And, the feminine communicates from the heart, not the head, to listen more and speak only when necessary.

#3: Creative

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Are you interested in science, entrepreneurship, art, or medicine? If so, when you are going through a Divine Feminine awakening, the feminine energy in you will propel you to become a successful artist, scientist, business owner, or medical practitioner. This energy creates life and will help you manifest your thoughts into concrete forms. You can tap into this creative spring through: –

  • Dreams – Journaling your visions helps you capture the creative messages from your soul and think of ways to turn them into form. 
  • Staying rooted – Referring to and building on the creative thoughts from our parents, school, and culture
  • Using Intuition – Question the status quo to make life better. Asking our inner self for guidance.
  • Pausing and listening to our innovative thoughts – Creative ideas can flood the mind, giving you little time to process them before you forget about them. Yet, visualization and meditation techniques can help us slow down and capture these ingenious messages.

#4: Intuition

Do you find yourself relying on facts and logical explanations in decision making, or are you intuitive, preferring to go with your gut feelings instead? See, the Divine Feminine rarely use logic in their discussions. Instead, they rely on their heightened energy reading capabilities, trusting their intuition more. This intuitive ability sharpens as you progress in your spiritual journey

#5: The Warrior Spirit

The Divine Feminine is humble yet courageous, ready to defend what they love. In turn, if your Divine Feminine is awakening, you will have a vision of what you want and pursue it with a passion. And, should you face challenges along the way, your warrior spirit gives you the drive to press on. Likewise, you stand up for the oppressed in society and prefer using actions more than words. 

#6: Nurturing

Feminine energy is synonymous with nurturing. Here, you find happiness in caring, nourishing, and encouraging others to achieve their full potential. As a parent, you could also be creating an ideal environment for your kids to develop their talents. 

Likewise, a nurturing spouse takes up a supportive role in the relationship. For example, this wife or husband provides the money or emotional support for their personal development. 

#7: Collaboration/Interconnectedness

Collaborative Divine Feminine qualities refer to your natural ability to: –

  • Set goals and direct a team towards achieving them 
  • Work in harmony as part of a team
  • Be knowledgeable and pull the right talent pool to tackle a common goal
  • Lead others by making the first step when tackling challenges
  • Asking relevant questions that help in solving problems at hand
  • Giving credit where it is due
  • Listen attentively to others, to understand their point of view

Hence, the Divine Feminine is always diplomatic when interacting with others. This individual sees the missing links in a bigger picture and uses hindsight to solve recurring challenges. 

#8: Yearning for Immediate Results, But Also Know Patience

If you are a Divine Feminine and dating, chances are you will want your friend to commit to the relationship sooner. Likewise, you will be the first person to take action in a team. Still, you are willing to go the extra mile and wait for others to accomplish a common goal. 

#9: Forgiving

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What are your immediate thoughts when someone wrongs you? Well, if you have a hard time forgiving others, you could be having excessive masculine energy. See, the feminine power in us urges us to let go of grudges to heal from betrayal. More so, we let go of the past and unblock our feminine potential. For this, a Divine Feminine in leadership facilitates conflict resolution and prefers peace over winning. 

#10: Reflective

Finally, the feminine power helps us understand our personality; what and why we like or dislike certain things. More so, we find hidden meanings in conversations, where others overlook clear-cut clues. The Divine Feminine takes time away from crowds to contemplate recurring thoughts. As a deep thinker, this individual looks forward to meaningful conversations to gather new knowledge. 

Similarly, the Divine Feminine can see when someone is pretending or truthful. This reflective quality gives the Divine Feminine emotional intelligence to accept and forgive others or accommodate opposing views.

Conclusion

Are you experiencing a Divine Feminine awakening? If so, you may notice a heightening of Divine Feminine qualities in you. Indeed, if you are a true Divine Feminine soul, you have in-built traits that include empathy, creativity, intuition, nurturing, collaborative, forgiving, and a warrior spirit lying dormant in you. These qualities are crucial in leadership, team dynamics, and nurturing talent. 

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Neotantra vs. Classical Tantra: What’s the Difference?

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The original ancient tantra was a path to enlightenment and liberation for anyone on a spiritual path. Later on, the practice became available to other persons, not necessarily on a spiritual path. Today, tantra is available in the West on a commercial level. This modern and commercial version of the original tantra is called neotantra

And, it is popular in the West, used to spice up sex lives or bring harmony in relationships. So, what does neotantra entail? And, how does it differ from the classical tantra version? Let’s discuss more in this article: –

Understanding Tantra

Tantra is a philosophy and a set of practices that form the basis for our healing and transformation. It revolves around working with the three most powerful human experiences. These are sexual desire, love, and our desire for freedom. Historical records indicate that tantra came into Buddhism and Hinduism in the 6th century. At this time, the practice was in spiritual rituals to invoke all-powerful deities. It, however, spread fast in India, with Hindu and Buddhist monasteries studying its ideologies. 

Some of the pioneers of neotantra include: –

  • Sir John Woodroffe
  • Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh
  • Margot Anand: “Skydancing”  tantra. The Art of Sexual Ecstasy
  • Daniel Odier, Charles Muir, The Richardsons and others

Neotantra vs. Classical Tantra: The Differences

#1: Focus: All vs. Select Ancient Teachings

Classical tantra embraces ancient holistic Hindu, Buddhist, and Jain religious practices. These are authentic tantric teachings to balance, heal, and enrich our physical, spiritual, emotional, and mental being. More so, it liberates us from suffering by getting rid of trauma, societal conditioning, or ignorance, leading us on a path to spiritual awakening.

In contrast, modern tantra focuses on limited ancient instructions relating to sexuality. Here, the practice alters the original teachings on tantric sex to create its western variation. Here, tantric sex draws on the creative power of sexual energy to evoke healing and transformation in our lives. It bridges the gap between sex and spirituality as a form of transcendence. 

#2: Spiritual Sex vs. Sacred Sex

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Since neotantra focuses only on the teachings on sexuality, it is a small puddle in the original classical tantra. The practice combines modern therapeutic techniques with original tantric concepts like sacred rituals and devotions. It aims at elevating the person into a higher level of spirituality. Hence, sexual pleasure is no longer focused only on the genitals but the entire body. Modern tantra benefits us physically, psychologically, sexually, and spiritually. Check out some of the activities typical of neotantra below: –

  • Purifying one’s chakras and consciousness
  • Making the sexual space sacred
  • Having slow, uninterrupted sex
  • Looking at orgasm as a means, not a goal for sexual intimacy
  • Practicing mindfulness during sex; being present in body and mind
  • Becoming aware of your entire body during sex
  • Practicing meditation and relaxation as part of sexual intimacy
  • Attaining transmutation of one’s sexual energies
  • Maintaining eye contact/gaze with a partner
  • Practicing slow and deep breathing
  • Expressing love 
  • Controlling ejaculation and other sexual impulses

In contrast, classical tantra has three traditional forms as follows: –

Monastric Tradition

The monastic tradition of classical tantra refers to an intense way of living where the participants withdraw from mainstream society to pursue purity. The participants live solitary and disciplined lives, characterized by silence, prayer, and a struggle against sin and vice. They spend most of their time studying the ancient tantric texts and practicing sacred rituals like drawing mandalas, singing mantras, and performing ritual prayers (fire pujas). Likewise, the monks sustained their lives by doing simple manual work like farming, gardening, basket weaving, and rope making.

Householder Tradition

The householder tradition of classical tantra involves lay practitioners applying the sacred concepts of tantra to ordinary everyday activities. For example, lay practitioners seek to find magic or unity in nature, people, and animals. They do this as they go about their lifestyles when talking to others, cleaning, working, meditating, or engaging in intimate relationships. The ultimate goal is to live in communion with the universe. 

Wandering Yogis Tradition

During the early medieval period, the Mahasiddha people living in forests and caves of Northern India practiced the wandering yogis tradition. It is a combination of yoga and tantra, also called tantrikas. These people would hold ganachakra ceremonies, a type of tantric feasts, and practice meditation to celebrate the pleasures of senses. There was singing, dancing, eating meat, drinking alcohol, and having sex. Today, the wandering yogis tradition remains active in India, often taught in yogic schools.

#3: Conflicting Sexual Ideologies & Interpretations

Did you know that some neotantra sexual ideologies are considered as sinful when viewed under classical tantra? Indeed, unlike neotantra, classical tantra does not entertain sexual fantasies in pursuit of sexual pleasure. Also, the original tantra views any sexual activity that involves menstrual blood a taboo. 

#4: The Benefits

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Below are some of the benefits of classical tantra: –

  • Growing presence and self-awareness
  • Practicing self-love and body confidence (acceptance)
  • Harmonizes the active and receptive energies
  • Connects our physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual being
  • Expands lovemaking beyond attaining an orgasm
  • Promotes healing, integration, transformation, and spiritual maturity

Here are some of the benefits of neotantra: –

  • Get more from a sexual relationship
  • Attain a sexual awakening characterized by the loving presence and profound intimacy
  • Healing wounds from sexual trauma
  • Have longer and satisfying lovemaking sessions
  • Releases toxic sexual energies, including shame
  • Provokes a journey of self-discovery leading to the entire body or multiple orgasms
  • Improving communication and communion between intimate partners
  • Cultivate a holistic approach towards sexual intimacy, focusing on mind, body, and spiritual connection
  • Delaying orgasm or preventing premature ejaculation or non-ejaculatory orgasms for men

Conclusion

What does tantra mean to you? Tantra continues to be a subject of fascination for many, even misunderstood at times. Yet, the practice has evolved for centuries and is now either classical tantra or modern tantra. Whereas classical tantra sticks to the authentic teachings that are a path to spiritual enlightenment, neotantra focuses on only the sexual component of the original tantra. By channeling sexual energy throughout the body, neotantra aims to achieve a higher level of intimacy and sexual pleasure.

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Empathic Communication: Reaching Out to The Soul

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How much empathy do you naturally have for other people? Do you use this powerful concept to connect with people? See, using empathy in communication makes it easier to tackle topics such as racism and gender-based violence. This approach can calm down violently prone people or make clients respond positively to your team. So, how do you practice empathic communication?  

In this article, I will share the 3 ways to use empathy in communication and how this affects other people. Sounds interesting? Let’s get started.

Understanding Empathic Communication

Empathy refers to our ability to understand and share other people’s feelings. It entails putting yourself in their shoes and looking at the situation at hand from their point of view. Unlike sympathy that divides people, communicating with empathy makes it easy to connect with what others are experiencing at that moment.

Does Communicating with Empathy Make Any Difference?

Yes, empathic communication shapes your interaction with other people as follows: 

#1: You Connect Better You with Your Audience

Empathic communication makes us listen to others to understand their perspective. In turn, your audience knows you hear their point of view and respect it. It is this reciprocation that creates an emotional connection with the audience.

#2: It Portrays Compassion in Your Communication

Suppose you are a call center representative, assisting customers with difficulties using certain products. A caller can tell from your tone or choice of words if you care about them or are simply doing your job. Yet, when you empathize, your show of compassion helps you connect to the other person.

#3: Be Mindful of Your Listeners

Empathic communication forces us to make a careful choice of words when interacting with others. You aim to tailor the message to meet the listener at their perspective. Mindful communication makes every person you interact with feel unique.

It works wonders especially when you deal with lots of clients throughout the day. Each client gets the impression that they are the first ones and that you are eager to know and help them with their orders.

How to Practice Empathic Communication

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Are your interactions with family, friends, or audience robotic? If so, here are empathic communication ideas you can practice to connect better:

#1: Paraphrasing – Check for Understanding

Paraphrasing refers to using your own words to repeat what the other person is saying. It forces you to think about what the other person is telling you. And, when in a group set up, paraphrasing translates words, making more people understand the topic at hand.

Besides, the person talking to you is sure you get them and are not thinking about what you want to say next or a similar situation you’ve had in the past.

To practice paraphrasing:

  • Use your own words to explain what the other person is sharing or feeling.
  • Describe their experiences without injecting your assumptions or beliefs.
  • Start your sentences with such phrases as, “I believe what you mean to say is………………”
  • Use questions to paraphrase. For example, say, “In other words, you’re saying that………….?”
  • Retain the focus on the other person. For example, if someone says, “Working out during the day wears me out. “Don’t paraphrase as, “We probably all get tired when working out during the day, right?”
  • Avoid a judgmental tone in your paraphrases.

Paraphrasing gives the other person a chance to clarify if you understand them or not. Hence, let them restate their position once again where necessary. After all, paraphrasing emphasizes that the discussion is about the other person, not you.

#2: Mirroring – Reflecting What the Speaker Says

Mirroring refers to reflecting the verbal or non-verbal messages as they are from the other person. Here, you aim at reflecting the emotion behind the information. That way, the speaker knows that you understand how they feel.

Unlike paraphrasing, mirroring encourages the other person to open up some more. For example, when you enter a conflict resolution meeting where none of the parties is willing to listen to the other, begin by mirroring their non-verbal gestures. It could be sitting back with hands folded.

As you mimic their doing, switch to a lively posture. The participants begin to mirror your actions without even knowing it. In no time, both parties are on talking terms and discussing how to resolve the crisis.

Mirroring works best when the other person is sharing about a jittery experience in their lives. When they start hesitating, mirroring helps the other person know that it is okay and they can continue to share.

Practice verbal and nonverbal mirroring techniques in communication by:

  • Wearing proper attire for your audience. For example, go casual when talking to a group of students. Switch to a professional outfit when going for a board meeting with chief executives.
  • Sit, stand, or walk side by side with the other person. For example, get down and sit with a patient who is in distress. Or get playful when interacting with kids at a playground.
  • Match the speaker’s pace and volume.

As you use this empathic communication technique, be careful not to overuse it. Too much mirroring can interfere with the speaker’s thought process.  

#3: Supportive Body language

Finally, use eye contact and nodding to indicate your full attention to the speaker. These two techniques work best when you are standing or seated shoulder-to-shoulder with the speaker. Still, avoid staring at the person, lest it makes them feel uncomfortable. Use supportive body language as follows:

  • Look for an appropriate seat or standing position that keeps you shoulder-to-shoulder with the speaker.
  • Combine eye contact and triple nods to demonstrate your interest in the other person. Your eye contact should neither be too little (looks tentative), or too much (looks creepy). Also let the other person speak three to four times longer.

Conclusion

If you have a hard time connecting with people in a meaningful way, try using empathic communication. Communicating with empathy goes beyond that introductory phase in a relationship. It makes us attuned to the content, intention, feeling, and emotion behind the delivery of the message. Paraphrasing, mirroring, and using supportive body language are conscious empathic communication techniques to validate the person’s feelings and listen in a non-judgmental way.

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