Fear impacts all of us, and very often holds us back from pursuing the things we really want. If you are one of those people who let their biggest dreams fade away just because you are too afraid to pursue them, this article is for you! We are going to dig deeper and find out what this fear that holds you back looks like. You will learn what your fear archetype is and what you can actually do about it.

Destructive Power Of Fear

Fear is one of the basic human instincts that is supposed to protect us and make us act faster in dangerous situations. But at the same time, fear also inhibits and hinders our self-expression and progress. It is fear that can prevent us from living the life that we dream of and from expressing our full potential. So it turns out that this instinct of self-preservation can ruin our lives.

Everyone’s fear manifests itself in different ways, and people deal with it differently. Ruth Soukup, entrepreneur, and author of “Do It Scared” discovered seven fear archetypes and came up with the best ways to overcome each of them.

Which one describes yours the best? Read on!

7 Fear Archetypes

Fear Archetype #1: Procrastinator

Also known as a perfectionist who tends to postpone things or not start them at all, because they are afraid to do everything imperfectly or make a mistake. And since it doesn’t work out perfectly in most cases, these people prefer not to take on a failed idea or project at all.

This archetype may manifest itself as:

• fear of commitment;
• fear of getting started.

Procrastinators tend to be indecisive when they need to act quickly. Usually, they prefer to plan everything in detail, do research, the organization of the process is more important than the actions themselves. As a result, they have many incomplete and unmanifested ideas and plans and rarely get anything done.

Are you a Procrastinator?

You can consider yourself a procrastinator if you:

• never feel like things are done or ready if you like to plan things way in advance;
• research tends to be more important than the action itself;
• have trouble committing or saying yes to things that are outside of your comfort zone.

What can you do?

• Get out of their comfort zone and say “Yes” more often to everything new, even if it is not planned.
• Set a deadline for when your planning and researching period will end and when you’ll actually get started.
• Realize that the problem with ‘perfect’ is that nothing will ever be good enough.
• Set realistic standards and work towards doing your best.

Fear Archetype #2: The Rule Follower

Such people are dedicated to following the distinct rules and guidelines set by those around them. They’re obsessed with always trying to make the right decision, despite its potential effect on their own success.

The rule followers are very afraid of changes.

They tend to see the world in black and white and feel anxious anytime they sense themselves or other people stepping outside the norms of acceptable behavior. They may also be overly concerned with making sure other people are making good decisions.

The rule followers may avoid taking risks, especially when they are not sure whether there is a “right” path to follow, and their fear of authority may prevent them from coloring outside the lines of trusting their own judgment.

Are you the Rule Follower?

You can consider yourself the rule follower if you:

• like knowing there is an established protocol to follow;
• strongly prefer for things to be done the “right” way;
• spend time worrying about regulations and things not being done correctly.

What can you do?

• get out of the dual perception of the world, stop seeing everything as “either right or wrong”;
• realize the fact that an unknown path can lead to something new and beautiful;
• practice self-compassion;
• realize that it’s OK to make mistakes – this is necessary for your personal growth;
• define your own set of guiding principles instead of always leaning on others or outside factors.

Fear Archetype #3: The People Pleaser

The desire to please everyone arises from a deep fear of being rejected by others. Such people care about what others think of them, and they are very afraid of public condemnation. The worst thing for such people is to be ridiculed or rejected by someone.

The people pleasers are afraid of being judged which also manifests itself as the fear of letting people down and the fear of what other people might say. Essentially, the People Pleaser’s biggest concern can often be summed up as the fear of how others may react.

Usually, they pay a lot of attention to their appearance and care a lot about their reputation and status symbols such as a nice car, home, or designer labels.

Are you the People Pleaser?

You can consider yourself the people pleaser if you:

• have a hard time saying no, setting limits, and establishing healthy boundaries;
• are overcommitted;
• allow other people’s priorities and requests to override your own goals and dreams;
• are often worried about looking foolish or being judged;
• worry about letting other people down;
• struggle to disagree when others share an opinion.

What can you do?

• spend more time alone and learn to hear yourself first;
• stop saying “yes” when you want to say “no”;
• learn to set your boundaries when communicating with people;
• realize that you can’t pour from an empty cup, meaning that when you’re in tune with your own wants and desires, you become a better friend, partner, and family member;
• remind yourself that you deserve to be prioritized, just as much as other people in your life.

Fear Archetype #4: Outcast

This is the opposite of those who try to please. Such people, on the contrary, try to be as different as possible, to show their individuality and the fact that they do not care about the opinion of others.

Behind all this is a huge fear of rejection or a fear of trusting other people. This fear archetype manifests itself by rejecting others before they have a chance to be rejected.

While to outside observers, the Outcast often appears to be fearless, inwardly he often believes other people can’t be counted on or trusted and he tends to view even the mildest slight or dismissal as confirmation of that belief, which in turn causes the Outcast to reject others even more frequently.

Are you an Outcast?

You can consider yourself an Outcast if you:

• struggle to ask for help;
• don’t trust others;
• keep your distance from other people;
• push people away and do not let them get too close;
• tend to think “I don’t need anyone, I’m on my own”.

What can you do?

• work on your self-esteem;
• don’t be afraid to ask for help and express your feelings;
• take the time to ask yourself if you are focusing on the worst-case scenario and what some other alternatives may be;
• give others a chance;
• look for evidence that you can trust others and know that if things don’t go well you are already experienced at ending a situation.

Fear Archetype #5: The Self-Doubter

This fear archetype is dominated by the fear of not being good enough. Those who self-doubt tend to feel insecure about themselves and their capabilities. Therefore, they can find it difficult to put themselves out there.

The Self-Doubter often judges others to mask his own fears and insecurities.

Such people may also struggle with feelings of intense jealousy toward someone who is doing the things they wish they could do. This jealousy may manifest itself in the form of sarcasm, gossip, or criticism.

These people are very insecure about themselves. In fact, they are afraid of themselves and their self-expression. Here there is a fear of the opinions of others, and the fear of not being good enough or not qualified enough.

Doubts prevent such people from starting something new. They doubt and criticize themselves and often envy those who succeed.

Are you the Self-Doubter?

You can consider yourself as the Self-Doubter if you:

• avoid trying new things or taking risks because you don’t believe in yourself or your abilities;
• often feel jealous;
• frequently struggle with feeling unworthy or unqualified;
• tend to be hypercritical of yourself and others.

What can you do?

• start doing what you’ve always wanted to do and dreamed of, even if it seems scary;
• step outside of your comfort zone every once in a while and take note of the outcome.

Fear Archetype #6: The Excuse Maker

This fear archetype struggles most with the fear of taking responsibility. It can also manifest itself as the fear of being held accountable, or the fear of being found at fault.

Instead of stepping up to lead every once in a while, the Excuse Maker finds himself taking a backseat to avoid accountability. They prefer to let others make decisions for them avoiding personal responsibility.

Such people are terrified of having the finger pointed in their direction. Therefore they always look for someone or something to blame for why they can’t do something.

Are you the Excuse Maker?

You can consider yourself as the Excuse Maker if you:

• tend to shift blame and avoid responsibility;
• get nervous at the idea of being in charge;
• feel uncomfortable with making a final decision, for fear of being blamed for an unfavorable outcome;
• are prone to blame any current struggles on other people or circumstances.
• often have an explanation for why you are not able to do something.

What can you do?

• start with setting small daily goals and stick with them;
• try the S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely) goal model to help create measurable and realistic goals;
• break down each of your goals – then you will be able to bring structure and trackability to them.

Fear Archetype #7: The Pessimist

This fear archetype struggles with the fear of adversity and hardship. Such people often feel victimized due to past or current trauma or difficulties. They can tend to look at hardships as stop signs or a reason to give up.

This fear archetype struggles most with the fear of adversity, which often manifests itself as the fear of pain.

Pessimists are easily waylaid by any challenging circumstances that come their way. This is due to the fact that they are very afraid of adversity and hardship. In difficult situations, they feel like they lack control over them.

In any challenging situation, the Pessimist only sees obstacles and troubles but never sees the opportunities for growth and perseverance. Any problem they face in life is a legitimate reason to give up or to not try at all.

Are you the Pessimist?

You can consider yourself as the Pessimist if you:

• get stuck in bitterness toward other people or unfair circumstances;
• struggle to face your circumstances head-on instead of preferring to hide to avoid additional pain;
• fear of adversity and hardship;
• tend to feel like there is no real solution for your problem and therefore would rather not try to solve it at all;
• tend to look at hardships as stop signs or a reason to give up.

What can you do?

• learn to look at hardships as stepping stones or lessons, instead of roadblocks;
• see obstacles as an opportunity for growth and perseverance;
• stop hiding trying to avoid pain;
• get rid of victim mentality;
• when something tough gets thrown your way, take a moment to step back and evaluate the situation;
• when facing a challenge or problem, think about the lesson it might be teaching you, or how you can make the outcome more favorable.

The Bottom Line

Each of us can manifest all these archetypes, but some of them you may find particularly pronounced.

Did you recognize yourself in these fear archetypes? Well… Identifying the type of fear is the first step to overcoming it!

Have you noticed that anytime you are in a decisive, learning, or any other thought process, there is a persistent internal dialogue going on in your mind? This inner speech comes naturally, enabling us to reason so that we make decisions based on the current situation. However, it mostly refers to our past failures and successes as stored in our subconscious mind.

For example, a tough past can provoke a negative internal dialogue that affects our moods. In addition, sometimes this inner speech works to beat ourselves up with unhappy thoughts and negative language. For example, it reinforces anxiety when we are worried.

Nevertheless, did you know that you could manage your internal dialogue to safeguard your mental wellbeing? Yes, you can stop a negative internal dialogue and replace it with a positive one. Here is how.

Self-Awareness

First, can you effortlessly tune in to your internal dialogue? Are you aware of when and why it happens? You can only stop negative thoughts if you know what brings them in the first place.

Meditation

We live in a world that bombards us with lots of stimuli. Think of kids who need your attention, the TV, social media scrutinizing our lives, and multiple cell phone messages and calls. Plus, we all work so hard to succeed in our careers, finances, and family.

These stimuli and aspirations rarely allow us time for silence and reflection. If you are living a fast-paced life, meditation can help you focus on your thoughts. For example, practicing Inner Smile meditation quiets the mind of all the negative thoughts, even for a few minutes.

And, if the traditional meditation techniques are a no-no to you, you can: –

• Enjoy a forest bath in the public park
• Spare some minutes each day to tend to your garden
• Listen to guided sleep meditation each night
• Take deep breaths

 Mindful Thinking

If you are new to meditation, you can practice mindful thinking throughout the day. It will help you understand what is lingering in your mind at different times. That way, you can identify the sequence of activities that lead you to think the way you do.

Meditation and mindful thinking will help you to stop negative internal dialogue by: –

• Knowing if and when you have dominant-negative or positive thoughts. What occupies your mind?
• Pin-pointing your dominant time orientation. Do you think more about the past, future, or present?
• Identifying to what extent these thoughts affect your moods. How far does your internal dialogue go if left unattended?
• Determining your source of motivation especially if you desire to improve yourself.

Replacing Negative Internal Dialogue with a Positive One

Practice Positive Affirmations

Is your mind drifting into a negative internal dialogue? First, say stop. Then, start reading or reciting positive affirmations. Positive affirmations are powerful in arresting fears and worries that affect our thought process. These affirmations allow us to live our lives in the present and accept our current stages in life.

To practice positive affirmations, it requires lots of repetition. Here are some tips: –

• Use present tense when affirming yourself
• State the feelings you want and your subconscious mind will own them
• Pin the affirmations in the kitchen, dressing table, and walkways. Listen to them before you sleep, when driving to work, or when relaxing on a Sunday afternoon

Create a Confidence Boost

Negative internal dialogue dampens our self-confidence. When this happens, we struggle to stay motivated and productive. To deal with this challenge, come up with an awesome list. This list is your confidence boost whenever your internal dialogue makes you beat yourself up. Here are things you can include in your Awesome list: –

• List of your achievements for the day or week
• A diary on your 100 days of rejection challenge
• Your self-love plan that includes realistic targets
• Ways how you assist others in need

Maintain a Gratitude Journal

A gratitude journal is similar to an awesome list, only that you use it to remind yourself of what you have achieved so far. For example, you can list the top 10 things that you are thankful for. Refer to this list at least once or twice a week. Write or read this journal as part of your existing habit. Read and update your journal when taking your coffee, riding the bus, or preparing to sleep. By making it a habit, you can stay consistent in acknowledging your achievements.

Be Your Friend

Negative internal dialogue is like an enemy within you that you struggle to control. We often put ourselves down using powerful thoughts that we would never use on someone else. For example, when you look in the mirror, the internal dialogue may shame your body using a harsh description of your flaws. Yet, you wouldn’t critic a friend in the same way if you were to describe them.

Then, why not start looking at this inner speech as your friend? When you do so, you will make it a habit to look for positives in your life.

Live in the Present

Do you struggle to live in the present? Are you finding it hard to let go of your past, or are too anxious to get into the future? You could be going through a difficult phase of life that makes it hard to live in the present. Because of that, your internal dialogue keeps reminding you of a time when things were better. Likewise, you could be struggling with a tough past. You need to change your view of today. Believe that each moment you have is a gift. Learn to forgive and let go.

Have a Support Network

Sometimes, our negative self-talk can overwhelm us to the point of harming us. Think of the times when you want to improve your skills and apply for a promotion, but your internal dialogue tells you that you’ve never achieved anything. Create a support network of family and friends who will be on the lookout for any negative behavior changes in you. This support system will help you get through anxiety, depression, or get you back to reality.

The Bottom Line

Note that our thoughts and feelings are not always reality. And, 85% of what we worry about never happens. Then, the best approach to stop internal dialogue is by attacking it through meditation and mindful thinking. Once you identify it, you can change your thought process through positive affirmations, maintaining confidence boosters, and gratitude journals. Still, a support network of friends or family can help you get back to reality when your thought process drifts you into self-harm.

Have you ever walked into a new place and immediately picked up on its mood? Was it a feeling of the injustices stored at a museum or a sacred shrine that made your stomach churn? If these scenarios resonate with you, you could be a geomantic empath. And if you are, do you understand this personality? What challenges do you face as a geomantic empath? And, are there coping tips you can learn for a healthy lifestyle? I have compiled this detailed guide just for you. Let’s chat.

Who is a Geomantic Empath?

A geomantic empath is a personality type that is highly sensitive towards the energies of our planet. This trait manifests itself as an uncanny ability to tell how the earth is shifting. This empath type tends to have a deep connection with older places like cemeteries and temples.

In addition, the empath may pick on energies about an impending natural disaster before it happens. Or, they may be able to relate to the pain, joy, or fears that form the history of a particular location. Such empaths have their energies intuitively adapted to their environment.

The Challenges a Geomantic Empath Faces

#1: Natural Inclination To Toxic Environments

Whenever geomantic empaths visit locations where they have a deep connection with, they tend to extend their stay or come back as often as possible. It could be a location that the empath has had a past life there. In turn, they revisit the place to relive those close energies.

Now, it only becomes challenging when such destinations have negative energies. For example, a geomantic empath may feel intense spiritual energy when visiting the Holocaust Memorial in Berlin, Emergency Rooms in hospitals, or passing through an accident site. All of a sudden, they feel sad when in these places but they cannot explain why.

#2: Total Self-Isolation

Often, empaths need time away from people or places that overwhelm them. It is a well-deserved break from the constant involuntary absorbing of other people’s emotions. However, for some geomantic empaths, this alone time can turn into self-isolation. The thought of stepping out of the house, going on vacation, or relocating to a new city makes them anxious. They might lock themselves in their comfort zones, cut short their careers, and watch the rest of the universe moving. When it reaches this point, the empath is often mistaken for an introvert.

#3: Struggles With Depression and Anxiety

A geomantic empath faces conflicting emotions of different places all the time. Think of the anger, pain, and suffering from one place, then switching a charming party environment.  More so, the empaths tend to feel guilty when celebrating, knowing that there are places where others are suffering. This inner conflict can trigger stress. Moreover, if left unchecked, this self-doubt can lead to anxiety and depression.

The Coping Tips For Geomantic Empaths

If you struggle with the above challenges of a geomantic empath, you must learn to exploit your unique abilities and safeguard your emotional wellbeing from circumstances that are toxic to you. Here are some tips to help you cope and lead a healthy lifestyle.

#1: Channel The Sensitivity Towards a Career

Did you know that geomantic empaths excel as spatial engineers, architects, interior designers, or in any other profession that involves working with space or structures? For example, as an interior designer, the empath can turn the happy memories of a home into a personal statement that pushes up the property value. Likewise, as spatial engineers, they can read an aircraft or spacecraft to gain valuable insight from them.

#2: Practice Boundaries Exercises

Are you drawn to negative vibes of a crime scene or a psychiatric hospital? Did you know that you could free yourself of these negative tendencies by creating an emotional boundary? Yes, you define what feelings are acceptable to you and keep off those that drain you. That way, you can pinpoint situations that you have no control over (circumstances in the outside world) and those that you can control (within you).

Typical boundary exercises include:

Practicing self-awareness

Examine your surroundings for boundaries or lack of them. What makes you lose self-control? When you are aware of your surroundings, you will notice a change that infringes on your confines. That way, you can react positively to protect your emotions.

Meditation

If you ever feel deprived, deep meditation can help you boost your energy levels. For example, did you know that you could relieve anxiety by practicing humming bee breath? This shallow breathing technique induces relaxation.

In addition, meditation using sacred geometry is particularly potent on a geomantic empath. Here, the empath taps into the pearls of wisdom of ancient times by studying the symbolic geometry associated with those ages. 

Crystal Healing

Our thought processes and emotions connect to our physical bodies. In turn, any distortion our energies can manifest as an illness. That is how geomantic empaths find themselves struggling with anxiety and depression. Luckily, nature provides us healing through its abundant crystals. These crystals suck out all the negative energies that cause us depression and anxiety. Different types of stones can correct energy imbalances causing us distress and depression. They include citrine, sunstone, carnelian, Tiger’s Eye, blue ace agate, and rose quartz.

#3: Maintain Healthy Relationships

Instead of going into pure self-isolation, a geomantic empath should cultivate healthy relationships. Socialize within emotional boundaries. For example, check out the restaurant, coffee shop, club, or shopping mall where you intend to meet up with friends before you step out. Is it a spot you would enjoy or you better avoid it?

When in healthy relationships, friends, colleagues, or family members become your support system, looking after your wellbeing. This way, you protect your mental health, sustain a career, and get opportunities to help others with your gifts.

Conclusion

When you step into a place, and you can feel its emotions, your thoughts and consciousness are responsive to your environment. You might also experience panic attacks when near anxious people. Unless you learn how to harness this deep connection, geomantic empath personality may pose challenges to your wellbeing. Self-awareness creates a boundary that provides freedom when in a toxic environment. Likewise, meditation and crystal healing can help to cleanse all the negativity in our aura. Finally, appreciate your personality and strive to lead a healthy lifestyle.