Personal Development

6 Effective Tips On How To Deal With Fear

Published

3 years ago

April 22, 2019

Katya Ki

Sooner or later every person asks this question: “How do I deal with fear?”. Fear is one of the most important life lessons every human being learns. Overcoming our fears always makes us stronger. But when we don’t know how to deal with fear it can make our life miserable and destroy us completely.

Life requires the greatest courage. If you are in a state of fear, you do not live, you exist. Living in fear is worse than death. Fear paralyzes you and takes your energy. It is fear that is the root cause of most diseases, as it absorbs a huge amount of energy. There is not a single person on Earth who has not experienced fear or its variations at least once – anxiety, panic, self-doubt, jealousy, etc. That’s why it is so important to know how to deal with fear.

Only brave people can live their lives to the fullest and be happy. However, the paradox is that it is useless to fight fear. Every time we fight against something, we give even more energy to our fear. As a result, it becomes even stronger, and we become weaker.

So how do we deal with fear then? First of all, let’s find out what the nature of fear is.

Understanding The Nature Of Your Fear

Fear is energy, or rather its excessive amount (CHA), which occurs when the object of fear is given excessive importance. Excess energy (CHA) disrupts the balance (LAN) in the energy field and creates a balancing force aimed at its elimination (SO).

For example, if you are walking on the edge of a cliff and are terrified of falling, the balancing forces will try to eliminate the excess energy in the easiest way. In this way, they will push you into the abyss, thereby ending with you as a carrier of excess energy. However, this option does not suit you, so you try your best to keep yourself calm, resisting the actions of balancing forces. In order to balance the excess energy that fear carries, you begin to put extra effort, as a result of which you will lose even more energy.

If the excess energy contained in fear is large enough, you lose control of it. And then the balancing forces do whatever they want to you. You start to panic and fall into the abyss from the cliff.

So, If Fight Your Fear Is Useless, What Can We Do Then?

Any fighting is always useless indeed. Especially when we’re talking about our fears. But there is something we can always do about our fears. Let me share with you my tips on how to deal with fear. They can help you to look at your fears from another angle and take control of them.

6 Tips On How To Deal With Fear

1. Reduce the amount of energy you give to fear

When you find yourself in a state of a panic attack, the first thing you should do is to reduce the amount of energy you give to fear as quickly as possible. To do this, you need to quickly switch your attention to something else. In other words, you need to start doing something. The activity does not necessarily have to concern itself. It’s enough to just make yourself busy with something, no matter what. As soon as you begin to actively engage in something abstract, you will feel your fear and anxiety have subsided.

This way you redirect your energy from thoughts to actions. There is no free energy left for feeding your fear, as it has been transformed into action. As a result, you calm down and stop radiating negativity, that as we all know always attracts what you are afraid of.

2. Create a Plan B

My second tip on how to deal with fear is to reduce its excessive importance by creating the so-called “Plan B”. By “Plan B” I mean a backup option. In other words, speculate on what you will do if what you feared will happen? Think about your behavior. And, thus, calm yourself down.

For example, you are afraid to take the exam because you are afraid to “fail” it. Imagine that you have already “failed”. What are you going to do? Most likely, you will retake it. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Even if you do not pass now, next time you will pass for sure. Take the retake as a backup and take it with you to the exam as a “Plan B” option.

However, do not cling to this option. Just formulate it for yourself, and set it aside. Don’t feed it with your energy. Keep it in your head as a backup option, but visualize at the same time what you want to get ideally – a good score for the exam.

You can use the following affirmation:

“Universe, I trust you completely. I know that you will organize everything in the best way for me anyway. But if possible, please make sure that I pass the exam and get a good grade for it. Thanks!”

3. Observe your fear

My third tip on how to deal with fear is to neutralize it by observing it.

Fear has a significant impact on your life only if you are not able to see yourself from the outside. Look at fear consciously. As soon as you start watching how afraid you are, you will come to realize what is really happening to you. Let yourself be afraid, but do it consciously. In the state of awareness, you do not give energy to your fear, so your negative expectations are not realized.

However, if you start to fight your fear (to force yourself not to be afraid), it means that you attach great importance to it. As a result, you give your energy to fear, due to which it is manifested in your reality.

Thus, it is necessary to stop fighting fear and resist it. Go towards your fear and allow yourself to be scared. Understand that trembling with fear means trying to overcome it. The tremor happens due to the great loss of energy when you begin to attach great importance to your fear. But, when you consciously enter into your fear, you will see how your fear will gradually disappear.

4. Understanding that everything is logical in our Universe

My fourth tip on how to deal with fear is to understand that the Universe never wastes its energy. Everything is logical – it is simply not profitable to spend energy on something that requires large energy costs. Trouble is always associated with high energy costs. And pleasant events, on the contrary, are the norm, and, accordingly, require minimal energy consumption.

When the mind does not understand the law of least resistance, it begins to struggle with the Universe, creating obstacles and new problems. It is the mind, not the Universe! The mind tries to control everything, creating a scenario of undesirable events. And, paradoxically, it is you, and not someone else, scrolling in your head all those thoughts about what you are afraid of and what you do NOT want. And this is how you create for yourself a reality that is full of negative events. Everything is logical – we attract what we reflect.

The thing is, you don’t know and you can’t know how things are supposed to develop in the Universe for your Highest good. So stop constantly worrying about all the possible scenarios. All you have to do is formulate a firm intention to get what you DO WANT and stop focusing on what you would like to avoid. Trust the Universe – it always organizes everything in the best way for you.

Very soon you will notice that all the circumstances in your life begin to develop favorably, as if by themselves, and without your intervention. It is not profitable for the Universe to make troubles for you, not only because it loves and always cares about you, but, above all, because less energy is spent in this way.

When you are happy and satisfied, you draw energy from your Inner source through the positive vibrations that you yourself radiate. When you worry and panic, being under the influence of your ego, you block the connection with your internal source of energy and begin to “pull” this energy directly from the Universe or from the energy field of the people around you, thereby, committing energy theft and violating the Law of energy exchange in the Universe. Moreover, this energy you spend on your negative emotions, creating, thereby, negative energy radiation on the Earth. Of course, such radiation is extremely unprofitable for the Universe. So to compensate for the energy you took from it, it will give you exactly what resonates with your radiation. If you radiate fear, then, accordingly, you will get exactly what you are so afraid of.

Note:

the Internal source of man contains as much energy as the Universe has given him according to his individual development and needs. The increase in the amount of human energy of the internal source occurs through the disclosure of its internal potential. Negative emotions are a form of blocking of the inner potential, which prevents the flow of energy from the internal source. A person under the influence of negative emotions begins to take energy directly from the universal source or from the energy field of the people around him, which leads to a violation of the law of energy exchange.

The Universe compensates for the “stolen” energy by taking away from a person what is important to him: health, close people, well-being, etc. We always receive energy of exactly the quality that we radiate. Negativity always attracts Negativity.

5. Stop vibrating at the low frequency

My fifth tip on how to deal with fear is about offensive people. If you are afraid that you may be offended by a particular person, you need to stop vibrating at the same frequency with him. The one who wants to hurt you emits a low vibration: negative emotions such as aggression, anger, hatred, etc. Because he emits these vibrations, it requires energy to maintain him. Moreover, this energy must be similar to the energy of his emotions – that is, it must also be negative.

The most convenient way to obtain the energy of this quality is to cause fear in his victim. Thus, the victim will give him his energy through the manifestation of fear. This, incidentally, is one of the most common forms of energy vampirism. At the same time, fear always attracts exactly what you are afraid of.

To eliminate this type of fear, it is enough to be really indifferent to a potential offender. Just stop thinking about him, consciously letting him go.

6. Understanding that fear lives in the future

This is my last but very important tip on how to deal with fear. It is very important to realize that fear does not exist in the present moment, it always exists in the future. You are always afraid of something that may happen in the future.

For example, if you are on the edge of a cliff, you are afraid that you may fall. But you will fall in the future, not now. Falling into the abyss even in a second is your future, not the present. In the present moment, you are standing on the edge of a cliff, and you’re not falling into it. In other words, in the present moment, you are doing well.

Or, for example, you are afraid to go to the exam. Realize exactly what you are afraid of. Most likely get a bad score. But even if it happens, it will happen in the future. At this moment you are at home preparing for the exam – right now there is absolutely nothing to be afraid of.

Or, for example, you are afraid of flying on a plane. Be aware of what your fear is specifically associated with. After all, in fact, you are not afraid of the plane, and not even the flight. In fact, you are afraid to die in a plane crash. That is, your real fear is the fear of death, not the plane and not the flight. And now, notice what’s happening in the present moment. You’re sitting in a comfortable airplane seat, the stewardess offers you a cup of tea – there is nothing to be afraid of, everything is good.

Thus, fear always lives in the future. And if you feel fear, then you live there with it. You’re not in the present moment. So instead of actively fighting your fear, just go back to the present moment. Do it right now. Stop reading this article for a moment and look around. This is your present. Just a moment separates your present from the past and the future. The present moment is fleeting and barely perceptible, but it is from this moment that the whole life develops. There is no life either in the past or in the future, it is only in the present. So enter the present moment totally, feel its presence, and you will see that there is no fear.

The past is gone – it’s dead. There is no future yet – it was not born. Every moment of your life die for your past and be born for the future. You will be able to relax only when the past will cease to pull you back, and the future will stop contracting you in a state of fear. In the present moment, we are calm, relaxed, balanced, immortal. In the present moment, we are in peace and harmony!

Up Next

11 Self-Help Documentaries To Watch During Your Hardest Times

Don't Miss

The Games Narcissists Play: How to Avoid Being the Victim

Katya Ki

Katya Ki is the Founder of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics, cosmology, and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

Personal Development

9 Ways to Identify Your Soul Purpose

Published

1 week ago

October 19, 2021

Katya Ki

Our soul purpose refers to our mission or vocation in life. It relates to finding the true meaning of life and your contribution to the universe. Think of the times you contemplate where your life is going, or your natural yearning to grow.

This has nothing to do with buying a house, getting married and having kids, or building a business empire.

Instead, it can be your yearning to create, feel, care-take, achieve, or lead. Hence, once you know your soul purpose, you can align your thoughts and goals to achieve it. That way, you attain a sense of fulfillment and live a longer, purposeful life.

How Do You Identify Your Soul Purpose?

There are many ways to identify your soul purpose. They include: –

#1: Look Inwards

We all have what it takes to achieve our soul purpose. Yet, many of us have limiting beliefs or inner child issues. These are setbacks that make us feel that our lives are a mistake. Like we should be doing something else right now.

Yet, annoying as it sounds, we are where we need to be.

However, we should now pay attention to the soul when it speaks to us, giving us the urge to pursue a career, write a book, or go to a place. Identifying your soul purpose begins when you overcome these limiting beliefs and inner child issues and listen to your nudge to grow. Hypnotherapy and guided meditation are excellent tools that can help us in this.

#2: Practice Self Compassion

Are you living with a disability or a chronic illness that forces you to change your career path or live away from your loved ones? You can still find your soul purpose by first accepting such limitations. Indeed, looking beyond your restrictions allows you to be an observer and not a victim. Next, you express self-compassion and divert your goals in line with your constraints. This self-awareness helps you to notice opportunities available to you for being where you are at the moment.

#3: Focus on Purpose not Goals

Whatever goals you set should align with your ultimate purpose in life. Otherwise, once you accomplish these goals, you start feeling empty and seeing the grass is greener on the other side. In addition, anytime you set a goal, ask yourself what contribution it makes towards your true passion. For example, maintain a journal where you scrutinize what you plan against your desired purpose in life.

#4: Know Your True Needs

Do you know what you need? Are these your true needs? Often, we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, not realizing what we truly need. It could be the need to be significant, loved or connect, grow or contribute, or certain.

These are not materials needs like food, shelter, and clothing.

Then discover your true needs by attuning to yourself. Here, use such practices as Kundalini meditation and crystal healing to follow clues that your body gives you. That way, you can determine your true needs and improve your wellbeing.

#5: Have an Abundance Mindset

Having an abundance mindset is about focusing on what you possess right now to achieve your soul purpose. You see the beauty in your current circumstances. That way, you overcome your fear of lack and begin living with a positive attitude.

An abundance mindset shifts your perspective to see your current circumstances as an exciting journey rather than a stressful life beyond your control. Focus on what you have by practicing gratitude, volunteering your skills and time to a worthy cause, and choosing your words wisely.

#6: Take Charge of Your Life

Are fear and anxiety the driving forces of your current life choices? For example, do you pursue a career to please your parents? Or, are you in an unhappy relationship to portray a successful family person as per societal norms?

Any decision you make out of fear or anxiety drives you further away from your soul purpose.

Such options make you a victim of your circumstances. Yet, your circumstances are a result of your choices. Break this vicious cycle by focusing on solutions instead of short-term quick fixes. Also, notice your tendency to blame others or complain about your circumstances. Next, hold yourself accountable to others to overcome difficult situations.

#7: Focus on What Makes You Happy

Take stock of your life so far. What past experiences brought joy to you? It could be the time you secured that all-important client for your employer. Or, the moments you spend away from home with a loved one. That is where your true passion lies. Now, focus on turning that passion into a profitable career.

#8: Create a Personal Vision Statement

Your life vision statement summarizes your values, strengths, and goals. It is an inspiring declaration about how you see yourself in the future. It can be something like, “To help others overcome their limiting beliefs by overcoming my own and reaching my goals”, or “To inspire others in nurturing their creativity.”

#9: Have Some “Me Time”

Finally, you can identify your soul purpose by spending quality time away from the crowds to reflect on your life. As you do this, take deep breaths, seek more knowledge by reading books, listen to inspirational audios, exercise, and maintain a healthy diet.

Practicing self-care helps you appreciate yourself. It focuses on developing the best version of you that is fit for pursuing that soul purpose.

Conclusion

We all feel a force that pushes us towards a particular life direction. If this is the direction that you choose, then you are living your soul purpose. Otherwise, ignoring or assuming this nudging feeling may mean you are pursuing goals that leave you feeling empty afterward. Identify your soul purpose and the necessary life changes to achieve it.

Awareness

Spiritual Empath: 10 Signs You Could Be One

Published

4 weeks ago

September 27, 2021

SOLANCHA STAFF

Picture this: Your daughter spends a lot of time away from her peers, preferring to play with her imaginary friend instead. Or, your son says he talks to his late grandma every night when he goes to bed. What can you make of this? If this child is a highly sensitive person (HSP), chances are, you are raising a spiritual empath. The same applies to adult empaths who have unique abilities to connect to the world of the spirit.

What Is a Spiritual Empath?

A spiritual empath is a highly sensitive person who senses an angel, spirit guide, or any other spiritual being nearby. And, these spiritual beings can channel their messages to the physical realm using words or actions by this spiritual empath.

However, as an empath, this heightened sensation and interaction with the world of the spirit can be overwhelming. So, discover if you are a spiritual empath by examining the following tell-tale signs: –

The Signs of a Typical Spiritual Empath

#1: Is a Compassionate Person

A spiritual empath has profound feelings towards others, especially those in need. In turn, they find it easy to connect to both people and spiritual beings. They show kindness to all, including animals and nature.

#2: Has an Approachable Personality

Do your friends, family members, and colleagues find it easy to share their problems with you? For example, do you find yourself soothing a crying child in an airplane? Or, are you always mediating quarrels amongst your peers at school? It could be that, as a spiritual empath, you have a welcoming aura around you. Hence, those near you feel calm and trust you with their deepest fears.

#3: Hates Conflict

Do you give in to arguments for the sake of making peace? If so, you could be a spiritual empath. See, spiritual empaths are in-born peacemakers. They avoid heated arguments at all costs, even if it means losing something in the process.

#4: Feels Like an Emotional Sponge

If you find yourself aware of what others are feeling to the point of experiencing their pain, joy, anxiety, or worry, you could be a spiritual empath. Here, you absorb the negative and positive energies in your surroundings without uttering any words.

#5: Has Their Intuition Always on Point

A spiritual empath is in tune with what is happening in the immediate surroundings. In turn, they rely on how they feel about different situations to make decisions. For example, the spiritual empath may have a gut feeling that going to the shopping mall today is not a good idea. Only to switch on the news and find out there is a blizzard coming that way.

#6: Can Sense New Vibes Right Away

Do you walk into a room and feel a rush of new energy entering or leaving it? It gets complicated when you are in a crowded place because, you get bombarded with all these conflicting energies, hence, draining your mind.

#7: Treasures Their ‘Me Time’

Note that a spiritual empath has little control over what negative or positive energies to absorb. Hence, this empath feels at peace when away from the crowds, conflicting energies, or any disturbances.

#8: Is an Introverted Person

Spiritual empaths like to reflect on all the emotions and thoughts for the day. They do this by isolating themselves from the crowds, spending quiet time to think things through. In turn, they take longer to make up their minds about everything. And, they express their emotions through poetry rather than verbal conversations.

#9: Feels Exhausted in Public Places

If you are a spiritual empath, you find commuter trains, airports, shopping malls, and other crowded public areas draining. Here, negative energies from all around you get you anxious, to the point of getting sick.

#10: Wants to End Human Suffering

Spiritual empaths sense when negative events are about to happen. For example, their intuition kicks in when a child is about to fall and hurt themselves at the poolside. And, they may notice a serious illness by looking at a pimple or a mild skin discoloration. In response, spiritual empaths try all they can to prevent or end this suffering.

Coping Mechanisms for a Spiritual Empath

If you suspect that you are a spiritual empath, practice coping habits that protect your mental health. These are day-to-day routines that keep you in control of when to open or close those channels of communication with the spirit world.

Here are some quick tips to get you started: –

#1: Practice Self-Awareness

If you suspect that you are a spiritual empath, take time to understand yourself. Practice self-awareness to know your surroundings and identify what triggers feelings of depression and anxiety. Likewise, set healthy boundaries that ensure you only deal with situations that you can handle.

#2: Channel Your Emotions Towards Positive Activities

Did you know that spiritual empaths become spiritual teachers and professional mediums, helping others through their unique gift? So, if you have a child who shows signs of a spiritual empath, nurture these abilities.

#3: Meditate Daily

Daily meditation helps in cleansing negative energies. Likewise, it is a grounding technique that assists spiritual empaths on how to manage their thought processes. That way, they have control over how they react to others.

#4: Crystal Healing

Crystal healing taps into the healing powers of Mother Nature. For example, wearing a Rose Quartz bracelet can ground, soothe, and heal the heart chakra. Likewise, Black Tourmaline redirects negative energies away from you, grounds and calms you, and helps in activating the root chakra.

#5: Support System

Who do you run to when you feel overwhelmed? Ideally, a spiritual empath should have a supportive family and circle of friends with their best interest at heart. Likewise, seek professional help if you are going through depression or anxiety.

Conclusion

If you are a sensitive person who often connects to the spirit world, you could be a spiritual empath. Instead of suppressing your vivid dreams or thoughts, use them to help those in need around you. Still, adjust your lifestyle to cope with the overwhelming energies coming your way.

Take our 2-min quiz to find out what type of empath you are (CLICK HERE).

Personal Development

Divine Masculine Awakening: Achieving Balance Through Spiritual Maturity

Published

2 months ago

August 24, 2021

SOLANCHA STAFF

We all have divine masculine and divine feminine archetypal energies. The divine masculine is direct and represents the giving nature. In contrast, the divine feminine is cyclical, expressing a receiving nature. When working together, these two energies dance to form a spiral similar to yin and yang or SO and CHA. Indeed, the dualistic nature of the universe exists because of these two opposite energies. Think of day and night, hot and cold, light and dark, yin and yang, and so on.

Anyone seeking spiritual maturity must nurture, honor, and balance the masculine and feminine energies. When these energies come into harmony and balance with one another, they begin to express divine qualities. Though they exist in everyone, women awaken their divine feminine nature more often, and men are encouraged to activate their divine masculine energies. Here, the individual proactively embraces a healthy way of expressing the side they wish to cultivate. For example, a man can seek to learn all of life’s lessons about masculinity.

So, this guide will focus on divine masculine energy. More so, we will define it, identify signs of its awakening, and share tips on how to awaken the divine masculine energy within you.

What is ‘Divine Masculine’?

The divine masculine is an energy of expansion. It refers to focused strength and action in a manner that is in harmony with beauty and wholeness. This energy is not gender-sensitive, hence, manifests in both men and women. It is believed that the divine masculine energy is connected to the left side of the brain.

What are the Signs of Divine Masculine Awakening?

Signs of Divine Masculine Awakening Image

When you awaken your divine masculine, the following things happen: –

#1: You Develop Great Confidence

Divine masculine awakening provokes healthy confidence and belief in your actions, not to be mistaken for arrogance. It stems from having that diving masculine energy within, giving the person confidence to face any task because they know they are guided by spirit. You no longer see hurdles as stumbling blocks but as stepping stones to success.

#2: You Become Loyal and Trustworthy

When your divine masculine awakens, it brings out commitment, understanding, and faithfulness in you. It places value on the bond you share with your partner. Since it believes in the revered union of love and the boundaries necessary for the relationship to flourish, your loyalty and self-control come naturally.

Faithfulness becomes your way of living rather than an imposed behavior. Hence, when a man who labels himself as a womanizer starts to show loyalty and trust toward their long-time partner, it is a clear sign of the divine masculine awakening in them.

#3: You Become Protective

While masculine energy drives us to protect what we like, divine masculine energy drives us to protect the innocent and righteous path of life. Hence, you feel drawn to show unconditional love towards everything and everyone in your care. That way, your spouse, child, sibling, parent, friend, or colleague feels safe and protected when close to you. And, the energy will attract more people to you, for they feel safe with you.

#4: You Practice Self Care

Anyone undergoing a diving masculine awakening owns their actions. This energy helps you identify your needs. In turn, you get proactive with self-care routines as you work towards your happiness. Likewise, you are in control of your actions. Hence, you know when to exert your divine masculine power to help others.

#5: Show Responsibility

The divine masculine energy makes you responsible enough not to be a victim of those that need rescuing. More so, when you make a mistake, this energy gives you the courage to reflect and acknowledge your wrongdoing. Anyone whose divine masculine is awake sees the blame game as a waste of energy.

#6: You Are More Active

Does your comfort zone seem not comforting anymore? If you are the kind of person who felt content and seemed to settle in their career, relationships, or studies, a divine masculine awakening will push you from a passive to an active lifestyle.

Now, you find it automatic to take the initiative to go out and pursue new and higher goals. And when you rest, it is only to review and strategize your next course of action. The healthy confidence you have assures you that you can reach your goals as long as you never give up on them.

5 Ways to Awaken Your Divine

Are you seeking to awaken the divine masculine within you? Here are 5 ways to do so: –

#1: Heal Your Father

Do you have any grudge or unresolved issues with your father, grandfather, or any other father figure? It could be anger or hatred you have for the trauma, abuse, or neglect you went through as a child. Or, it could be a sense of betrayal when your father figure gave you up for adoption. Whatever the source, strive to let go and make peace, even if this father figure is no longer alive.

#2: Heal Your Sexuality

If your sexuality revolves around seeking instant gratification or body pleasures, you need to change this perspective. By learning everything about the relationship between sexuality and divine masculinity, you will discover that your sexuality can be a great source of creativity and inspiration. Hence, you can create whatever you want from a powerful perspective. Start by reading more about the sacredness of sex and how you can practice what you learn.

#3: Physical Movement

Divine masculine awakening requires you to be a person on the move. For example, you can take part in martial arts to build your physical and mental power. Or, enroll at the gym. Your divine masculine energy gets outlet through these physical activities.

#4: Care for Others

As mentioned earlier, divine masculine energy has a giving nature. It wants to serve and share with others. Therefore, to awaken it, find a course that is bigger than you. Share your skills with those who need them.

#5: Lead a Purposeful Life

Embark on a soul-seeking journey to figure out your purpose in life. Ask deep soul questions about your existence, where you come from, and why you are here today. By doing so, you learn to live truthfully without fear of taking risks. Hence, your divine masculine energy will follow that direction to fulfill your life purpose.

Conclusion

The divine masculine and divine feminine energies work together in a balanced way to create a powerful dynamic in our lives. However, you must awaken them. We hope this guide helped you understand better what divine masculine energy is and how to awaken it. May it help you attain spiritual maturity and balance in life.