Personal Development

6 Effective Tips On How To Deal With Fear

Published

2 years ago

April 22, 2019

Sooner or later every person asks this question: “How do I deal with fear?”. Fear is one of the most important life lessons every human being learns. Overcoming our fears always makes us stronger. But when we don’t know how to deal with fear it can make our life miserable and destroy us completely.

Life requires the greatest courage. If you are in a state of fear, you do not live, you exist. Living in fear is worse than death. Fear paralyzes you and takes your energy. It is fear that is the root cause of most diseases, as it absorbs a huge amount of energy. There is not a single person on Earth who has not experienced fear or its variations at least once – anxiety, panic, self-doubt, jealousy, etc. That’s why it is so important to know how to deal with fear.

Only brave people can live their lives to the fullest and be happy. However, the paradox is that it is useless to fight fear. Every time we fight against something, we give even more energy to our fear. As a result, it becomes even stronger, and we become weaker.

So how do we deal with fear then? First of all, let’s find out what the nature of fear is.

Understanding The Nature Of Your Fear

Fear is energy, or rather its excessive amount (CHA), which occurs when the object of fear is given excessive importance. Excess energy (CHA) disrupts the balance (LAN) in the energy field and creates a balancing force aimed at its elimination (SO).

For example, if you are walking on the edge of a cliff and are terrified of falling, the balancing forces will try to eliminate the excess energy in the easiest way. In this way, they will push you into the abyss, thereby ending with you as a carrier of excess energy. However, this option does not suit you, so you try your best to keep yourself calm, resisting the actions of balancing forces. In order to balance the excess energy that fear carries, you begin to put extra effort, as a result of which you will lose even more energy.

If the excess energy contained in fear is large enough, you lose control of it. And then the balancing forces do whatever they want to you. You start to panic and fall into the abyss from the cliff.

So, If Fight Your Fear Is Useless, What Can We Do Then?

Any fighting is always useless indeed. Especially when we’re talking about our fears. But there is something we can always do about our fears. Let me share with you my tips on how to deal with fear. They can help you to look at your fears from another angle and take control of them.

6 Tips On How To Deal With Fear

1. Reduce the amount of energy you give to fear

When you find yourself in a state of a panic attack, the first thing you should do is to reduce the amount of energy you give to fear as quickly as possible. To do this, you need to quickly switch your attention to something else. In other words, you need to start doing something. The activity does not necessarily have to concern itself. It’s enough to just make yourself busy with something, no matter what. As soon as you begin to actively engage in something abstract, you will feel your fear and anxiety have subsided.

This way you redirect your energy from thoughts to actions. There is no free energy left for feeding your fear, as it has been transformed into action. As a result, you calm down and stop radiating negativity, that as we all know always attracts what you are afraid of.

2. Create a Plan B

My second tip on how to deal with fear is to reduce its excessive importance by creating the so-called “Plan B”. By “Plan B” I mean a backup option. In other words, speculate on what you will do if what you feared will happen? Think about your behavior. And, thus, calm yourself down.

For example, you are afraid to take the exam because you are afraid to “fail” it. Imagine that you have already “failed”. What are you going to do? Most likely, you will retake it. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Even if you do not pass now, next time you will pass for sure. Take the retake as a backup and take it with you to the exam as a “Plan B” option.

However, do not cling to this option. Just formulate it for yourself, and set it aside. Don’t feed it with your energy. Keep it in your head as a backup option, but visualize at the same time what you want to get ideally – a good score for the exam.

You can use the following affirmation:

“Universe, I trust you completely. I know that you will organize everything in the best way for me anyway. But if possible, please make sure that I pass the exam and get a good grade for it. Thanks!”

3. Observe your fear

My third tip on how to deal with fear is to neutralize it by observing it.

Fear has a significant impact on your life only if you are not able to see yourself from the outside. Look at fear consciously. As soon as you start watching how afraid you are, you will come to realize what is really happening to you. Let yourself be afraid, but do it consciously. In the state of awareness, you do not give energy to your fear, so your negative expectations are not realized.

However, if you start to fight your fear (to force yourself not to be afraid), it means that you attach great importance to it. As a result, you give your energy to fear, due to which it is manifested in your reality.

Thus, it is necessary to stop fighting fear and resist it. Go towards your fear and allow yourself to be scared. Understand that trembling with fear means trying to overcome it. The tremor happens due to the great loss of energy when you begin to attach great importance to your fear. But, when you consciously enter into your fear, you will see how your fear will gradually disappear.

4. Understanding that everything is logical in our Universe

My fourth tip on how to deal with fear is to understand that the Universe never wastes its energy. Everything is logical – it is simply not profitable to spend energy on something that requires large energy costs. Trouble is always associated with high energy costs. And pleasant events, on the contrary, are the norm, and, accordingly, require minimal energy consumption.

When the mind does not understand the law of least resistance, it begins to struggle with the Universe, creating obstacles and new problems. It is the mind, not the Universe! The mind tries to control everything, creating a scenario of undesirable events. And, paradoxically, it is you, and not someone else, scrolling in your head all those thoughts about what you are afraid of and what you do NOT want. And this is how you create for yourself a reality that is full of negative events. Everything is logical – we attract what we reflect.

The thing is, you don’t know and you can’t know how things are supposed to develop in the Universe for your Highest good. So stop constantly worrying about all the possible scenarios. All you have to do is formulate a firm intention to get what you DO WANT and stop focusing on what you would like to avoid. Trust the Universe – it always organizes everything in the best way for you.

Very soon you will notice that all the circumstances in your life begin to develop favorably, as if by themselves, and without your intervention. It is not profitable for the Universe to make troubles for you, not only because it loves and always cares about you, but, above all, because less energy is spent in this way.

When you are happy and satisfied, you draw energy from your Inner source through the positive vibrations that you yourself radiate. When you worry and panic, being under the influence of your ego, you block the connection with your internal source of energy and begin to “pull” this energy directly from the Universe or from the energy field of the people around you, thereby, committing energy theft and violating the Law of energy exchange in the Universe. Moreover, this energy you spend on your negative emotions, creating, thereby, negative energy radiation on the Earth. Of course, such radiation is extremely unprofitable for the Universe. So to compensate for the energy you took from it, it will give you exactly what resonates with your radiation. If you radiate fear, then, accordingly, you will get exactly what you are so afraid of.

Note:

the Internal source of man contains as much energy as the Universe has given him according to his individual development and needs. The increase in the amount of human energy of the internal source occurs through the disclosure of its internal potential. Negative emotions are a form of blocking of the inner potential, which prevents the flow of energy from the internal source. A person under the influence of negative emotions begins to take energy directly from the universal source or from the energy field of the people around him, which leads to a violation of the law of energy exchange.

The Universe compensates for the “stolen” energy by taking away from a person what is important to him: health, close people, well-being, etc. We always receive energy of exactly the quality that we radiate. Negativity always attracts Negativity.

5. Stop vibrating at the low frequency

My fifth tip on how to deal with fear is about offensive people. If you are afraid that you may be offended by a particular person, you need to stop vibrating at the same frequency with him. The one who wants to hurt you emits a low vibration: negative emotions such as aggression, anger, hatred, etc. Because he emits these vibrations, it requires energy to maintain him. Moreover, this energy must be similar to the energy of his emotions – that is, it must also be negative.

The most convenient way to obtain the energy of this quality is to cause fear in his victim. Thus, the victim will give him his energy through the manifestation of fear. This, incidentally, is one of the most common forms of energy vampirism. At the same time, fear always attracts exactly what you are afraid of.

To eliminate this type of fear, it is enough to be really indifferent to a potential offender. Just stop thinking about him, consciously letting him go.

6. Understanding that fear lives in the future

This is my last but very important tip on how to deal with fear. It is very important to realize that fear does not exist in the present moment, it always exists in the future. You are always afraid of something that may happen in the future.

For example, if you are on the edge of a cliff, you are afraid that you may fall. But you will fall in the future, not now. Falling into the abyss even in a second is your future, not the present. In the present moment, you are standing on the edge of a cliff, and you’re not falling into it. In other words, in the present moment, you are doing well.

Or, for example, you are afraid to go to the exam. Realize exactly what you are afraid of. Most likely get a bad score. But even if it happens, it will happen in the future. At this moment you are at home preparing for the exam – right now there is absolutely nothing to be afraid of.

Or, for example, you are afraid of flying on a plane. Be aware of what your fear is specifically associated with. After all, in fact, you are not afraid of the plane, and not even the flight. In fact, you are afraid to die in a plane crash. That is, your real fear is the fear of death, not the plane and not the flight. And now, notice what’s happening in the present moment. You’re sitting in a comfortable airplane seat, the stewardess offers you a cup of tea – there is nothing to be afraid of, everything is good.

Thus, fear always lives in the future. And if you feel fear, then you live there with it. You’re not in the present moment. So instead of actively fighting your fear, just go back to the present moment. Do it right now. Stop reading this article for a moment and look around. This is your present. Just a moment separates your present from the past and the future. The present moment is fleeting and barely perceptible, but it is from this moment that the whole life develops. There is no life either in the past or in the future, it is only in the present. So enter the present moment totally, feel its presence, and you will see that there is no fear.

The past is gone – it’s dead. There is no future yet – it was not born. Every moment of your life die for your past and be born for the future. You will be able to relax only when the past will cease to pull you back, and the future will stop contracting you in a state of fear. In the present moment, we are calm, relaxed, balanced, immortal. In the present moment, we are in peace and harmony!

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10 Must-Watch Conscious Movies That Make You Think Deeply

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1 week ago

July 21, 2021

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As humans, stories are one of our most powerful forms of communication. We love stories! They help us to understand important ideas and make sense of the world around us. Everything we go through in our lives is a story, every dream we have is a story, and there’s a story behind every achievement and every failure. That’s why it makes sense that we love movies since they perfectly embody interesting stories. Some of us watch movies to get inspired or motivated, others – to find a sense of relief from our daily stress, to have a mind-twisting experience, or to even feel empathy by letting them touch our hearts. It’s not a secret that the right kind of movie can even help us grow as individuals and be a powerful tool for self-reflection. Conscious movies can encourage us to question our lives, ideas, and principles, realize our infinite potential and endless possibilities, and even understand where we’re heading as a society.

In this article, we want to share with you our list of 10 conscious movies that will definitely make you think deeply and question old paradigms.

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The Art of Deep Listening: A Healing Practice for Suffering Souls

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3 weeks ago

July 8, 2021

SOLANCHA STAFF

Are you battling anxiety or depression? Does waking up each day feel like a struggle? If so, you could be having undigested emotions weighing you down. Huh? See, trauma, abuse, or a sudden illness can make us have unpleasant emotions leading to soul loss. Unless you start your healing process, these emotions remain hidden in your subconscious, causing havoc to your life for years to come. Indeed, we can never wish away our unpleasant feelings. But we can deal with them through the art of deep listening.

What Is Deep Listening?

Deep listening is a form of mindful meditation whereby you become fully present to your inner self or those around you. Simply put, it is a spiritual practice of listening to connect. Here, you engage in quiet moments that help you awaken your buried emotions.

Similarly, you nurture a connection with anyone talking to you at that moment, sharing your goals, dreams, fears, and concerns. Hence, it entails listening to yourself or others to form a connection.

Active Listening vs. Deep Listening

Active listening refers to you choosing to be fully present in a conversation. It forms the basis of deep listening because you focus on what the other person is saying as you become an active listener. Deep listeners go a step further to connect to those non-verbal communications from the other person. More so, deep listening includes listening to our emotions to connect to them.

Why Do We Need to Practice Deep Listening?

Listening with intention helps you understand your surrounding and the people closest to you. In turn, you learn how to best respond to your emotions and those of others. This understanding is necessary when undertaking your soul loss healing process. Below are more benefits of deep listening:

#1: Develop Resistance Against Surrounding Distractions

We live in a digital age where smartphones, computers, and other smart gadgets distract us all day. These technologies make it almost impossible to maintain eye contact when talking to someone else. Likewise, they eat into our self-care time, robbing us of a chance to connect to our inner feelings. Deep listening encourages us to maintain undivided attention to our inner self or those near us.

#2: Resist the Temptation to Respond Without Deep Thought

One of the barriers to effective communication is selective listening. Here, we choose what we want to hear, then formulate responses that we think are suitable. A biased listener is always quick to offer solutions without taking into account the other person’s feelings. Likewise, if we never take time to listen to our inner self, we may judge ourselves based on the stigma surrounding our conditions.

#3: Facilitates Soul Loss Healing Process

Have you been diagnosed with a mental illness? Do you feel like you are going crazy because that is what society brands you? If so, you may find yourself hiding away from friends and family, fearing being caught off guard by their out-of-control emotions.

However, did you know that a bit of deep listening practice can unearth the unresolved emotions behind mental illness?

A person who understands the root cause of their mental conditions can practice self-care and have self-compassion for healthy living because shadow emotions are never permanent. Mindful meditation allows you to change your emotional triggers, hence, facilitate the soul loss healing process.

Deep Listening Must Be Intentional

Now, anyone can practice deep listening at any time or place. However, did you know that not everyone can listen without bias or aiming to be a problem solver? Yes, deep listening is not easy. It takes time and practice to develop the skills.

The Techniques

Now that we have an idea of what deep listening is all about, here are some top deep listening techniques you can start practicing today:

#1: Heart-Gut Centering

Are you making a life-changing decision? Find a quiet place at home or outdoors. Set up your mat or pillows to sit comfortably. Place one hand on your stomach and the other against your chest. Concentrate on listening to your inner voice. What do you hear?

The head, heart, and gut are the centers of our decision-making. The head is our rational brain, the heart is the emotional brain, and the gut is the intuitive brain. There are lots of instances where we follow our gut feelings or heart feelings. These are the times where logical thinking using our brain may not be adequate in assessing emotions.

Listening to your heart and gut allows you to be a rational thinker who weighs your feelings and emotions. In turn, you avoid cognitive dissonance, a state of inner conflict that can lead to anxiety and depression.

#2: Listening to the Surrounding Voices

When was the last time you were still and listened to voices all around you? It may be the whistling trees in your backyard, a shaky door, a ticking clock, or the sound of your breathing. Whatever you get to hear, allowing yourself to connect to your surrounding gets you into a mindful state. This awareness state refreshes your mind, expands your thought process, and renews your wisdom and intelligence.

#3: Journal Your Thoughts

Are you feeling lonely, depressed, or in a crisis? Put what you are feeling in writing. Conscious writing is an excellent way to practice deep listening. You use pen and paper as an avenue for your creative energy and ideas to flow. Doing so gives you mental clarity, regaining a sense of sanity when overwhelmed with emotions.

Here are some tips to get you started:

Use a pen and paper instead of your smartphone or notebook. Journaling your thought this way is real and tangible.
Write it as it is, immediately the thought pops in your head. Do not overthink.
Maintain a dream journal. Capture what you remember from your dreams, then reflect on it.
Grammatical errors are allowed. What matters is getting your thoughts on paper.
Read aloud what you have written. It will give you a chance to hear your thoughts and voice your unspoken pain and trauma.

Conclusion

Deep listening is necessary if you want to develop mindful thinking and grow your emotional intelligence. These two aspects ensure you stay in tune with your inner self and be more susceptible to non-verbal communications from others. That way, you live in the present, embrace your uniqueness, and cut yourself some slack, especially when undergoing a challenging emotional experience.

Personal Development

What Type Of Empath Are You? Take This 2-min Quiz To Find Out

Published

1 month ago

June 15, 2021

SOLANCHA STAFF

An empath is someone with the unique ability to mirror the feelings of another person even without undergoing their circumstances. In its purest form, it means being able to be in another person’s shoes emotionally or having that extra dose of empathy within you. Being an empath is not easy, and sometimes it takes a toll on you. The good thing is that when you know what type of empath you are, you can use your gift in a healthy way and create a lasting positive impact on people and the environment around you. Or you can even build a fulfilling career!

You see, empathy is a true gift when you know how to use it. You can heal, guide, protect and deeply understand the lives of the people, animals, and the environments around you. Or, maybe you can predict events and even save lives?

The key is to know exactly what type of empath you are and how to open up your potential so that you can be helpful and, at the same time, protected from negative energies you could be picking up.

Types of Empath

There are many empath types that deal with different aspects with empathy with their own specifics and unique expressions. In this article, we decided to focus on the 6 most common types that represent the most common expressions of empathy.

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Emotional empath

You have a unique ability to pick up another person’s emotions or energy without even having to talk to them and you do so without asking questions. When you say, “l feel you,” you mean it to the core. If your friend or family member is upset or sad, you may soon find yourself upset or sad. As an emotional empath, you can get truly exhausted by friends who are constant complainers who dwell in the negative, or narcissists who suck up all the attention and never reciprocate when they’re feeling down. Because of this, you tend to get drained by emotional vampires. Therefore, it is essential for you to practice self-care and learn how to differentiate other people’s emotions from your own.

Physical empath

You are able to pick up physical symptoms from other people and absorb them into your own body. You intuitively “sense” or know what ails a person and what they need to feel better. You can feel the subtle energy of a person and even change that person’s subtle energy field so they can be healed. However, you have to be very careful you aren't taking on other people's pain. Being a physical empath, may help you to become a highly skilled energy worker, Reiki healer, acupuncturist, massage therapist or yoga instructor. What an amazing gift!

Geomantic empath

You can read the energetic signals transmitted by mother earth. In fact, you may have already felt and/or predicted a natural disaster before it occurred. Or, you may be able to relate to the pain, joy, or fears that form the history of a particular location. You have your energies intuitively adapted to your environment. As a geomantic empath, you can be strongly affected energetically by natural disasters, weather, and the environment being harmed. Remember that connecting with nature works restorative wonders. This could be as simple as meditating under a tree, "earthing," or prioritizing enough outdoor time. You, as a geomantic empath, have a strong need to feel close to nature, so honoring that is important for your health and energy.

Animal empath

You are highly skilled at feeling and embodying the energy of other animals. As an animal empath, you have a deep understanding of what animals need and are trying to communicate. You have an uncanny ability to connect with wildlife of every kind. It may feel like a somewhat telepathic connection, where you sense what an animal wants. You are naturally inclined to go into work with animals, particularly where you directly caring for the animal. Being around/helping animals brings you joy. Think about using more of your time to foster this part of your life, by volunteering with a local shelter. You could even take it one step further by practicing energy healing, such as Reiki, on the animals in your life.

Heyoka empath

A Heyoka is a Native American term that means mirror. You feel and sense the thoughts and emotions of others and then act them out in front of another person. You show the person all the unwanted aspects or their inner shadow. In a sense, you are very much like a guru because you come here to help others evolve and do so by playing a stage character for the others to see a reflection of themselves. You may find yourself doing things such as reading and eating differently or in an unconventional manner. You process things in a completely different pattern and think outside the box. Crowds and public places tend to drain your energy. That is why you often prefer being in your own company. Alone time gives you enough time to decompress from all the negative energy you take in and re-energize.

Claircognizant empath

Claircognizance is the inner knowing of an event without having prior knowledge. Information, insight, and special knowledge comes to you in the form of thought, or a subtle sense of knowing. Sometimes you know what somebody will say before they even finish speaking. You are a human lie detector who has an uncanny knack of determining when someone is being authentic or not. You always know the outcome of a situation before it happens or even provides hints on how it will turn out. You love figuring things out, and people always seek your opinion, be it work-related or personal stuff. In addition, you do a lot of analytical thinking and help people find solutions when they are stuck. You don’t have to feel like a weirdo every time you make an inference that turns out to be true. Pick yourself up and dust off the self-doubt. Look yourself in the mirror and make peace with that person looking back at you. Embrace the claircognizant empath you are.