The wounded inner child lives in our subconscious, protecting us from the outside world. It needs guidance and loving-kindness from our adult self so it can learn to trust this world and feel whole again. Until the inner child is healed, our past problems and pain will continue to reveal themselves. According to the laws of karma, we are fated to repeat the cycle until we consciously break it. The seeds of karma that created the wounds in our inner child are stored in our subconscious. Until we replace these seeds of karma by planting new, positive seeds, they will continue to grow and ripen into negative outcomes. And, by planting the seeds of positive karma, we also benefit from the positive characteristics of a healed inner child.
This quiz will help you to determine your wounded inner child archetype so that you know what aspect of your inner child you need to heal. When answering the questions, try to be as honest with yourself as possible. Don’t rush to click on the answer button, take time to think about it. You may feel like you could choose several answers, but you can only choose one answer, the one that resonates with you the most. You may also feel like nothing resonates, then take some time to think about each answer a little more, tune into your subconscious and pull the memories or information that will be the best match to one of the answers. Remember that this quiz is designed for people with a wounded inner child. If you feel like you are not one of them, this quiz is probably not for you.
Quiz: What’s Your Wounded Inner Child Archetype?
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How would you describe the family you come from?
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What's, in your opinion, the easiest way to gain acceptance and love from others?
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How would you describe your childhood challenges?
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What belief/program, in your opinion, creates the most pressure and stress in your life or/and doesn't allow you to live up to your potential?
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You have a tendency ...
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Did you have to take responsibility for someone close to you very early in life?
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Do you feel an inner pressure to succeed?
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Do you tend to avoid any trials, challenges, or competitions?
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Do you often help others to solve their problems?
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Do you have a tendency to be attracted to people who can support you financially or take care of you?
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Do you have a tendency to be attracted to people who make you feel needed?
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What's the easiest way to make you like somebody?
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How do you think people see you?
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How do you think your romantic partner would describe you?
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Is it hard for you to say 'no' to people when they need you?
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What does your self-love depend on?
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Are you competitive?
Wounded Inner Child Archetype
People Pleaser
You care more about those around you than about yourself. It’s hard for you to say “no” to people. You usually say “yes” to everyone and put yourself second. You often ignore your own needs in favor of others. You are usually attracted to people who make you feel “needed”. You often find yourself in co-dependent relationships. In order to heal your inner child wounds, you have to start setting personal boundaries, learn to say “no” to people, practice self-care, and prioritize your needs. Your affirmation is: “I love myself. I take care of myself with love. I am safe. I am enough.”
Perfectionist
You feel seen, heard, and valued through success and achievements. Perhaps, you come from a family where one parent was a perfectionist. You had a strong focus on performance and success in your childhood, whether in the school environment or in the family. This might have made you believe that you have to achieve high performance and outperform others in order to be worth something and to earn your place in the world. Not being successful enough makes you feel incomplete. You live in a constant pressure to perform. You may even believe that the only way to receive love is to be perfect. That’s why you make sure your physical appearance is always perfect. Your academic achievements, financial and professional status are also very important for your self-worth. In order to heal your inner child wounds, you have to practice unconditional self-love, focus more on your inner peace and spirituality, and let go of your “perfect” self-image. Your affirmation is: “I love and accept myself the way I am. I am perfect and whole in my imperfection. I am free. I am loved. I am enough!”
Underachiever
You keep yourself unseen and beneath your potential due to the fear of criticism or shame of failure. You never get in anyone’s way and never compete with others. Perhaps, you come from a family where one of your parents was “inferior” to another parent or financially dependent on them. Or, maybe you had an excessively high focus on achievements during childhood. You believe that it’s easier to get along with people when you are quiet, “good”, and agreeable. Maybe you even feel like you are not good enough to be seen or have needs. Usually, you avoid any trials and challenges as you are extremely afraid of failure and criticism, leaving your potential unfulfilled. In order to heal your inner child, you need to get out of your “cozy shell” and allow yourself to stand out. Get out of your comfort zone and be okay with criticism and failures. Learn to express yourself, to show your authentic self to the world. Even if you’ll get criticized for that, it is so worth it! Allow yourself to speak your truth. Your affirmation is: “I deserve to be seen and heard. I fulfill my potential. I love and accept myself the way I am. I am free to be who I am. I am enough!”
Rescuer
You always try to help, protect, and save others. You believe that by helping others you take control over the situation those people are in. It gives you a sense of security. You felt needed very early in life and this made you feel like this is your responsibility to always help others. Therefore, you are often attracted to people who need your help or your advice. And you are happy to help. However, in your attempts to help others you may forget about your own needs. Too many responsibilities create a big pressure so that it’s hard to relax and you may often feel exhausted. To heal this wound, you need to learn to prioritize your self-care and self-love routine. There’s nothing wrong with helping others. However, you shouldn’t sacrifice your own needs for others' happiness. Be honest with yourself and ask yourself: “Can I really help this person or is it my ego wants me to save him?”. If you know you can’t help, learn to be okay with saying “no”. And if you feel like you can, then do it without getting attached to the result. Do whatever you can but don’t overdo so that you become responsible for other people’s life. Your affirmation is: “I allow myself to relax. I allow myself to take care of my needs. I take care of myself with love. I love and accept myself for who I am.”
“Forever” Child
Others see you as a fun and cheerful person who doesn’t have any problems or struggles. Being always surrounded by people is your way to avoid dealing with your pain and vulnerability. You never show your weakness, pain, or vulnerability. You only show your happy, funny, and strong side. Perhaps, you experienced rejection in your childhood when you showed anger, sadness, or other “uncomfortable” emotions, which is why you developed the belief that you would only be loved and accepted if you were happy and spread a good mood. This often happens with boys when their fathers don’t allow them to cry. This makes them emotionally unavailable partners. You are often attracted to people who act like if they were your parents, who can support you financially or take care of you. In order to heal this wound, you need to do your shadow work. It is essential to accept yourself fully - with all your negative and positive emotions and feelings. You have to understand that it’s okay to feel sad when you’re going through a sad moment in life. It’s okay to be weak and vulnerable when you feel this way. It’s okay to show people your authentic self - with all your ups and downs. Your affirmation is: “I love and accept myself the way I am. I allow myself to feel and express all my emotions. I am emotionally mature. It is safe to feel. I am whole.”
