Quarantine made married and engaged couples face big challenges in the relationship. 40% of couples surveyed reported spending more than 20 extra hours per week with their partners as a result of social distancing. However, only 18% of surveyed couples reported satisfaction in communication with their partner, with the largest source of conflict reported was how often to have sex. In this article, we want to introduce you to sexual harmony and how to achieve it based on Ayurvedic principles.

If you happen to struggle in your relationship during this global pandemic, sexual harmony principles can not only help you to balance and improve your relationship, but more importantly, can help you to be in harmony with yourself and your true nature!

Ayurveda And Sexual Harmony

To achieve wellness, the principles of Ayurveda work to equate the three elemental doshas (also known as mind-body types) of Pitta, Vata, and Kapha within the body. 

According to Ayurveda, proper nutrition, healthy sleep, and harmonious sexual relationship are the basis of human health.

If we look at the Ayurvedic texts, we will see how important sex life was and how seriously it was taken. In ancient treatises, you can find detailed recommendations on how to establish an intimate life, how much sex we really need, and how to have sex properly. This all leads to sexual harmony.

All the recommendations below are based on the experience of many generations who lived in harmony with nature and natural biological rhythms.

How Much Sex Do We Need?

Advice on regulating sexual life can be found in the treatise “Ashtanga Hridayam”, which was written by Vagbhata more than 2,5 thousand years ago. According to this sacred text:

• during the winter season, a person can have sex every day, as long as he/she can;
• during the spring and fall season, a person can have sex once every three days;
• during the summertime, a person can have sex once a fortnight.

Why is it recommended to limit sex in the summer? You see, during the summer heat, Pitta dosha can get out of control, and frequent intercourse can worsen this imbalance. Spring and autumn are considered a moderate period. Therefore, sex every three days will not exhaust the body and will not bring the dosha out of balance.

Sexual Harmony Based On Your Dosha

Not only in nutrition but also in intimate matters, you need to take into account the individual constitution – dosha. After all, dosha reacts differently to a relationship with a partner.

If you don’t know your dosha, please take our Ayurvedic Body Type Quiz!

Pitta Dosha

The people of the Pitta dosha are strong, energetic, and passionate. They like frequent sex, which can bring the fire element out of balance. Therefore, Pitta dosha is better to observe moderation, especially during the summer season.

Vata Dosha

The people of the Vata dosha are lean, lively, and creative. They may have trouble sleeping and may be overly sensitive. Vata dosha people should take care of the preservation of Ojas and restrict sexual contact until full energy recovery.

Kapha Dosha

The people of Kapha dosha tend to be overweight, emotionally calm, and stable. This dosha type has a strong body and therefore, these people can have sex more often without draining the Ojas.

How To Get Energy?

Aphrodisiacs are often mentioned in the sacred texts about sexual relationships. Why are they needed? The fact is that sex drains Ojas — the life force that gives energy and is responsible for the immune system. Strong Ojas not only supports the body’s tissues in a healthy state, but it is also responsible for a stable mind, clear consciousness, and stress resistance.

For a strong libido and recovery of Ojas, you need to eat well. Did you know that usually people burn up to 300 calories during sex? Therefore, a light salad or smoothie will not make up for the energy spent. Make sure you eat nutritious meals that contain coconut or olive oil.

Ayurvedic Remedies to Support Libido

Ashwagandha

The Kama Sutra mentions ashwagandha in its literature as a potent sexual stimulant. Ayurvedic doctors recommend ashwagandha to men. Its use increases the level of testosterone by 40%, as well as improves mobility and sperm count, which has a positive effect on the treatment of male infertility.

For men, ashwagandha stimulates the production of nitric oxide in the body. This causes a dilatation of the blood vessels that carry blood to the genitals, leading to increased sexual desire.

For women, taking ashwagandha typically produces an increase in sexual desire and satisfaction.

Safed Musli

This ayurvedic remedy is effective for erectile dysfunction, low libido in both men and women. Safed Musli increases stamina in general and during sex in particular.

It increases the production of testosterone, improves the sperm count and enhances sexual desire.

The benefits of healthy intimacy go beyond sexual satisfaction. Partners who enjoy healthy sexual life also experience its beneficial effects in other areas of their romantic life. Better intimacy leads to better communication and togetherness – which is the secret to any conscious relationship.

Shatavari

This is the best ayurvedic herb for the female reproductive system: it rejuvenates and normalizes the hormones. As an aphrodisiac, it removes frigidity and restores sexual desire.

Shatavari has a toning and calming effect on the woman’s body which helps restore her libido. Also, it enhances the reproductive system.

Chyawanprash

It is a nourishing jam that blends Ayurvedic herbs into a base of amla, a fruit known to be a natural source of antioxidants.

Chyawanprash was originally formulated to strengthen and revitalize the reproductive organs. It plays a very important role in triggering the reproductive system and promotes vitality and sexual health. In addition, chyawanprash promotes fertility, healthy libido, sexual stamina in both men and women.

Coconut oil

Give each other a tantric massage with coconut oil. Its cooling effect protects against overheating during sex. In addition, it will make your skin soft and pleasant to the touch!

The Bottom Line

Sex begins outside of the bed and even the bedroom. A full sexual life is based on trust and conscious communication. Be attentive to each other, show care, and understanding. This way you will create a comfortable space for each other and be able to openly express your feelings, talk about what turns you on, what you want to recieve from your partner. Openness and trust will fill your sex life with joy and pleasurable experiments. And by following all the above Ayurvedic tips you will increase your passion and create a sexual harmony in your relationship!

Do you know someone with a high sense of his abilities, in total disregard of everyone else? You could be dealing with a narcissist. And, it gets a bit twisted with a sexual narcissist. These types manipulate those around them for their sexual pleasure. They want to have as many partners as possible to portray a sexual prowess that they believe they possess. Yet, such a person never gets intimate with anyone.

Who is a Sexual Narcissist?

A sexual narcissist is a master seducer. His personality disorder means that he seeks sexual pleasure from others with no plans of reciprocating. That is, his sexual needs come first. Since they feel superior over their partners, they will want to control their spouses, yet remain noncommittal.

So, what happens if you are in a sexual relationship with such a person? It is almost certain that you will get hurt in the process.

How to Identify a Sexual Narcissist?

What are the telltale signs that you are dating a sexual narcissist? Can you protect yourself from such a toxic relationship?

1. A Natural Charmer

Sexual narcissists know what to say or do to appear romantic to their partners. Picture this: Does his allure win you over the first few encounters? Does his charisma make you feel appreciated and special? Or, do you find yourself having a weak spot for his seductive ways? All those dinners, gifts, and special attention he gives you are intentional. He wants to prove himself that he can conquer whoever he wants with his sex appeal. However, such a stance never lasts.

2. No Intimacy in The Relationship

A relationship with a sexual narcissist dwells more on the physical gratification. He finds it impossible to invest emotions in the relationship.

For example, does your partner focus more on perfecting his lovemaking techniques? Does it seem like he cares less whether you have an intimate connection in the first place? Plus, do you often feel like you are his object of sexual pleasure?

Such partners insist on you maintaining a specific sexy look. Alternatively, they want you to take a crash diet to look a certain way, not caring how you feel about the change.

Intimacy requires partners to empathize with one another. In turn, you must show that you care about the other person’s feelings. However, a sexual narcissist will struggle with showing such intimacy.

3. Available For Sex Only

A sexual narcissist will put a lot of pressure on the partner so that they can meet for sex. But, he quickly leaves and never checks on the partner afterward. It’s the kind of person that leaves their spouses feeling empty and used.

This neglect after sex only shows that they are in the relationship for sexual pleasure and not love. The only other time he will show interest in the sexual partner is when he looks forward to another sexual encounter.

4. Cheating with Multiple Partners

Since a sexual narcissist is never intimate with anyone, he tends to have many sexual partners at the same time. It is a sexual addiction that can only be satisfied by seeking enjoyment from more people. Even in a marriage, such a person will be cheating on the spouse continuously. To cover his behavior, sexual narcissists have a violent relationship with their spouses.

In contrast, when single, they will never commit to the relationship. Instead, he will hop from one partner to another, trying to quench his thirst for sexual gratification. 

5. They Belittle Their Partners

Does your partner insult you for no reason? Don’t be quick to blame yourself. For a sexual narcissist, nothing good can come out of their partners. They always find fault in the way their partners carry themselves. Often, they will point out flaws to their partners to put them down in public. It is their cruel way to appear superior and relevant.

Indeed, in the eyes of the sexual narcissists, their partners are little to them. So, before you start doubting and blaming yourself for things you did not do, first confirm if your partner is a sexual narcissist or not. 

6. They Will Not Handle Criticism Well

Have you ever tried to point out a mistake to a sexual narcissist? He will throw a tantrum, give you the silent treatment, or shift the blame on you. More so, he behaves like a bully or an angry child to avoid facing the consequences of his actions. In fact, they often make ridicule out of the situation.

Where possible, he will try to attack the other person at a personal level to belittle them. When this does not work, he will resort to the cold shoulder. You know, denying the other love and affection in any given relationship. This cold treatment will continue until the day the partner gives in.

Often, sexual narcissist also plays a victim. He can accuse the other person of being ungrateful for his contribution so far. 

7. It Is A One-Sided Relationship

How much can you meet his sexual demands? A typical sexual relationship with a sexual narcissist revolves around his narcissistic needs. For example, he will dictate what to wear when going out, how long you can stay out, and with who. He wants to control your thoughts into believing that your sole purpose in the relationship is to please him. Even so, he will try to make you feel guilty anytime you decide to enjoy the union.

A one-sided relationship is more of a slave and master association than an intimate couple is. In extreme cases, sexual narcissists will control every aspect of their partner’s lives, disconnecting them from the rest of the world.

Conclusion

Are you in a relationship with a sexual narcissist? A sexual narcissist cares more about portraying a happy relationship. Yet, he does nothing to make his spouse feel loved and wanted. If you’re a victim, understand and appreciate your self-worth. That way, you can take measures to protect your emotional wellbeing because such links can drain a spouse leading to stress and depression.   

It seems that in our modern world, there are so many ways to help find love – Tinder, numerous dating apps, etc. However, there are more and more lonely people in the world. Why does it happen? Why are modern people so disconnected and lost? Well, many are simply not ready for love, feelings, relationships, commitment. Others have so many blocks that keep them away from expressing and receiving love: fears, doubts, traumas, etc. We, modern people, are so afraid to love and get hurt that we choose to not allow ourselves to love. For that reason, there is a big number of people who have their Heart chakras blocked. And this is a big problem for modern humanity!

In this article, I want to share with you a very special and powerful meditation that will help you not just to attract love, but also calm your mind, and charge you with positive love vibrations that will work as a magnet for people. After practicing this love meditation you will literally start radiating the vibes of love – and you will surely attract exactly what you radiate!

Where to Start?

Attracting a harmonious romantic relationship always starts with self-love. We always attract exactly the kind of partner that reflects our attitude to ourselves. If you often criticize yourself, then your partner will be sure to criticize you too. If you are used to being a victim, then you will attract a partner who will play the role of a tyrant. If you constantly feel guilty, then your partner will find a thousand reasons to blame you for something. In other words, your partner will always be a “mirror” that reflects your innermost thoughts and feelings about yourself. Therefore, you should start with developing self-love and the habit of talking and thinking about yourself only in a positive way!

Do you want to receive more love? Great, it’s a healthy feeling! Satisfy your need for the expression of love that you want the most, and you will feel so much better. Give yourself the attention you want to receive. If you want flowers, buy yourself a beautiful bouquet. If you want to hear compliments, say the exact words you want to hear to yourself, looking in the mirror! Tell yourself everything you want to hear from other people. Do not skimp on affection, do not be afraid to say the most tender and kind words to yourself. Express self-love fully!

One friend of mine suffered from a lack of compliments from her boyfriend. I asked her, “How often do you compliment yourself?” She looked at me in confusion and said, “Never! I’m not a narcissist!” I had to spend several hours explaining to her that narcissism has nothing to do with self-love and there is nothing wrong with complimenting yourself. And as soon as my friend accepted this and started practicing self-love affirmations her boyfriend started giving her all kinds of compliments and attention! “This is a miracle!”, my friend said the next time we met. “This is not a miracle! That’s how the Law of attraction works! Whatever we radiate, we attract!”, I replied with a smile.

Meditation to Attract Love: What’s Important to Know?

Meditation to attract love is an effective way to find not only a soulmate but also to find inner peace and harmony.

Before you start your meditation to attract love, you need to create a special atmosphere. Here are some tips on how to do this:

1. find a quiet and peaceful place where no one can distract you;
2. put on clean and comfortable clothing;
3. turn off all the gadgets and electronic items, phones, computers, anything that might interfere with your meditation;
4. choose the music for your meditation – it can be meditation music, the sounds of the ocean, the sounds of nature, etc.;
5. light pink or red candles, rose essential oil or incense;
6. sit in a comfortable position and take a few deep breaths to relax as much as possible.

Now you can start the meditation.

Meditation to Attract Love

Close your eyes.

Imagine that you are standing at the entrance to a mysterious grotto or cave. At the entrance, you are met by two majestic peacocks, who wave their heads at you and offer you to enter. You go in and see a huge crystal, shining and shimmering under the trickles of water. From this water comes a pleasant aroma. You go further and hear the voices of angels and heavenly guides who are saying to you: “Follow us”.

You walk through the corridors of your life and at the call of your guardian angels, you enter a small hall that you have never seen before. It’s very cozy! The ceiling is shimmering with pink hues, all in soft carpets and pink pillows. You have entered the sacred realm of love. Here are all your guardian angels and heavenly guides who accompany you in all your good endeavors. Here is everyone you love and who loves you and wishes you well.

Your guardian angel takes your hand and walks to the center of the room. Here you see a small pool of rose water. This water is warm and beckons you to take a dip. In the center of this pool is an elevation from which the source of love flows. It never stops and never ends. The streams of love are endless.

You get naked (or you can visualize yourself in thin transparent clothes) and go into this pool. Feel yourself submerged in soft and warm water. You dip your whole body into it. Love waters wash over you. You are immersed in love. Your whole body, every cell of your body breathes love and is saturated with it. You are filled with a sense of tremendous lightness and joy. You enjoy swimming in this sacred love waters. Stay there as long as you want.

Then come out of the pool and visualize that your soulmate is standing right in front of you. He looks at you with eyes filled with love.

Now imagine that a delicate, fragrant flower is blooming in your heart. Rose, peony, lotus – choose any flower that you associate with the purest form of love. From this flower comes love energy. It looks like pink light. This energy moves towards the heart of your soulmate and enters it. In response to your love energy, the love energy of your soulmate also comes out of his/her heart and enters yours. Now you are connected by a double loop of love energy. Stay in this visualization as long as you like.

Now hug your loved one, and imagine that he/she hugs you too. You feel incredibly happy that you are together and you are in love. There are no fears or doubts. You feel absolute love, trust, and devotion.

Feel this moment. Remember this pleasant feeling. Keep it in your heart even after finishing the meditation. Now that you experienced happiness, joy, and bliss, you can open your eyes.

The Bottom Line

This meditation is very powerful and effective! Practice it at least twice a week for two months, and you will surely notice an extraordinary change in your life and your perception of yourself and the people around you. Your aura will be glowing with love. And people will be attracted to your blissful radiance like moths to a flame.

Don’t tell anyone that you are doing this meditation. Keep it a secret!