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5 Signs That You Got Stuck In Your Comfort Zone

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Your comfort zone is a situation in which you feel comfortable and you don’t have to do anything new or difficult. We all have a comfort zone, but it’s essential to step outside it, challenge yourself, and deal with life in order to grow, transition, and transform. Stepping outside of your comfort zone is key to discovering your passion, accomplishing your goals, and finding happiness.

In this article, I want to share with you 5 signs that you might be stuck in your comfort zone.

Safe but Dangerous Place

You may think that your comfort zone is not a bad place to be, right? I mean, you’re comfortable, so you must be happy?

If only it worked out that way. Unfortunately, the longer you stay within your comfort zone, the less happy you tend to be.

When we are stuck in our comfort zone, we’re willing to stay in a situation that doesn’t make us happy, for fear that the discomfort we’ll feel by stepping outside of our current circumstances will be greater than the discontent we feel now, however unfulfilled we are.

I see a comfort zone as some kind of energy swamp. You may feel like it’s a nice and warm place but in fact, you’re drowning deeper and deeper in that swamp. Very soon you won’t be able to see or hear anything new and exciting, you will stop feeling happiness and joy. The trick with an energy swamp is you’re drowning slowly but surely. And the more comfortable you feel in there the harder it will be to get out. In order to get out of that swamp, you have to start moving!

We all need to learn how to catch the moment when we start drowning in order to start acting. The signs below will help you to diagnose your current situation and so you can begin moving out of your comfort zone.

5 Signs That You Got Stuck In Your Comfort Zone

1. You Don’t Study

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If you think that the time to study has passed when you graduated from school or college then you are definitely in the comfort zone. You have difficulty and reluctance to understand new information especially if it seems complicated or unfamiliar. You have no desire to spend your time and energy on educating yourself on something you don’t understand. You often feel skeptical of unusual and fresh ideas.

If you want to become the person who controls his/her life and creates his/her reality around him you need to make studying a part of your daily routine. Just pick the subject you are curious about but you always felt like it’s too complicated and start learning about it a little bit every day. You can choose a foreign language and start learning five words of phrases every day. Or you can sign for a course. It will boost your intellect, train your memory and will push you out of your comfort zone.

2. You Live the Same Day Over And Over Again

“Don’t live the same day over and over again and call that a life. Life is about evolving mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.” ― Germany Kent

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Do you feel like your today does not differ from yesterday, and your tomorrow will not differ from today? You either don’t believe that something can be changed or, most likely, you are afraid of a change.

If you want to make your life exciting, happy, and joyful you have to start making changes. Despite your fears and discomfort, you need to get out of the energy swamp.

You don’t have to make big changes right away. Even making one change at a time will make a difference in your life. Move slowly but surely.

Start small. For example, start making your coffee differently every morning. Don’t drink the same kind of coffee every morning. Be creative! Or take an alternative route to work. Eat at a new lunch spot. Choose something new from the menu. If you normally go to the gym every morning and work out with the weights, one day a week try to go to yoga class. In other words, come up with something new every day. Change your day up and then big changes will follow!

3. You Don’t Meet New People

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If your environment hasn’t changed in recent months or even years, and you haven’t made any new friends, this is another sign that you are stuck in a comfort zone.

To push yourself out of your comfort zone start doing small things like this daily:

  • initiate a small conversation with a stranger at the gym/yoga class/coffee shop;
  • sit next to someone new at a meeting;
  • make internet-friends with people from other countries (it’s a great way to practice the foreign language you’re learning!);
  • attent social events more often;
  • start traveling alone (it’s easier to make new friends when you travel alone rather than when you’re always surrounded by your old friends);
  • start conversations on social media.

You can easily come up with your own different ways of meeting new people. Each day gives us plenty of opportunities for this! All we need to do is just to catch them!

4. Low Energy/ Lack of Inspiration

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Staying in the comfort zone leads to a lack of goals and inspiration. You see, when our energy level decreases, the desire to create and inspiration disappears. We can’t be creative, inspired and excited about life if we don’t have enough energy.

The energy swamp acts like an energy vampire sucking the energy out of you. That’s why staying in your comfort zone is so dangerous!

It may feel like you have no energy for making any changes in your life. This may lead to the fact that you can get used to destructive conditions such as co-dependent relationships, poor living conditions, and a disdainful attitude to your health and appearance. Even if you think you want to change something you feel like you have no energy and will power for doing this.

Again, try to start small. Make an honest list of what you want to change. Do you want to get healthier? Do you want a romantic relationship that lifts you up? Do you want to be loved and respected? Start with something small! Don’t try to make major changes all at once.

If you want to get healthier, replace your chicken sandwich with a green salad, your soda with herbal tea, your movie night with work out, etc. Pick one thing at a time and turn it into a habit.

If you want to be loved and appreciated by your partner start practicing self-love. Don’t try to convince yourself that you love yourself. It doesn’t work this way. Try to do small self-rituals every day and watch what will happen!

Here are some articles that you may find helpful on your self-love journey:

5 Simple Steps To Boost Your Self-Love

Self-Love Affirmations That Really Work!!

6 Daily Self-Love Practices You Can Start Today

5. The Belief That All Your Problems Will Be Solved By Someone Else

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Of course, we should always believe that the universe will take care of us and lead us in the right direction. However, if you are stuck in your comfort zone you are not willing to take the steps in the direction the Universe is trying to guide you. It may already be sending you signs, opportunities, and the shortest ways to solve your problems and fulfill your desires. But in order to receive help and guidance from the Universe, you need to be open and ready for changes.

You may think that you always pay attention to the signs from the Universe however your problems are still unsolved and you don’t understand clearly the path you need to take. You see, usually, the Universe guides us to the path that lies outside our comfort zone. And in order to see it, we need to look for it beyond our fears and doubts.


Katya Ki is the Founder of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics, cosmology, and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

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10 Female Archetypes: Awaken Your Inner Goddess

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Female archetypes are the roles that we play in the course of life. They are described in the myths of Ancient Greece, Hinduism legends, and even in fairy tales from our childhood. Old as the world, tales offer not just to learn and understand the logic and feelings of the female archetypes, but to participate and live the dramatic events in the life of their characters. This is how the wisdom of generations of women who lived many centuries before us is transmitted, and how they share their knowledge and feelings with us.

In this article, we want to introduce you to 10 female archetypes. Every archetype has its own image, its own functions, emotions, specific manifestations in the body, and thoughts. If you know how to manage these manifestations and read their messages, you can harmonize your body, emotions, and life.

Start with…

drawing a mandala flower with an empty middle part and 10 petals in your journal. The Central part of the mandala represents your essence, the beginning and the end of the experience, which is formless, potential, internal, and eternal. It connects all parts of our being together and at the same time linked to the Earth by an imaginary stem. This stem is connected to the Center of our planet. This is the starting point, the zero-state, where we rest and restore energy, clear the mind of thoughts, and find a connection with the Whole.

On the petals, you need to write the names of the female archetypes. Of course, it is almost impossible to go through the entire spectrum of female archetypes in one session, this task will take time.

By performing these exercises, we bring to life the image of the goddess that the mind is attuned to. After each module, you need to listen to your feelings, talk them out (preferably with your partner), write them down and, maybe even draw them.

Now check and write down how often you have to use this image in your life:

  • the main role;
  • often used;
  • used sometimes;
  • used extremely rarely;
  • never used.).

Now write down whether you like playing this role:

  • yes;
  • no.

Then evaluate the level of physical comfort when you’re playing this role on a ten-point scale (10-excellent, 0-severe discomfort).

Remember that each archetype has its own challenges and advantages, and by rejecting some of them, we are depriving ourselves the opportunity to know and realize our potential. For example, not wanting to be a Dhumavati blocks the path to a long life and often associates old age with the most negative period of life. If you gave yourself 10 points, for example, for the roles of Athena and Artemis, and 2 for Aphrodite or Kali, ask yourself what is so repulsive or annoying about them. You may discover features that you are pushing out of your life.

After working with each female archetype, you need to return to the neutral state through Shavasana and calm pranayama.

10 Female Archetypes

Now let’s take a deeper look at the 10 female archetypes so that you can analyze yourself through the prism of these 10 types of energies.

#1: Persephone

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This female archetype usually manifests itself most actively in adolescence but may return throughout life in critical situations, such as after a divorce. It helps to reconnect with the Soul, its needs, find a new direction in life or its purpose.

Main characteristics:

  • sensitivity, which passes into sensuality;
  • the study of the physical impressions and the impression made;
  • discovering the world and its power.

The connection with her mother is of great importance to Persephone, but, at the same time, she is attracted by the unknown and finds opportunities for adventure. She is busy exploring the external and internal world. Her attention is simultaneously directed inward, to the sensations and movements of energy in the body and outward. She “moves between worlds”, recognizes dream images, and has mediumistic abilities.

Persephone awakening

To experience Persephone awakening, focus on:

  • yoga techniques that free up space between tissues, get rid of muscle cramps;
  • exercises that increase the sensitivity of the feet, hands, ears, face, and neck muscles;
  • practices that help shift attention from mental activity to tactile signals, hearing, taste, and smell;
  • reconnecting with your original nature.

#2: Athena

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The focus of this female archetype is on making decisions, building strategies, and turning ideas into reality. Athena is a true realist who knows how to think and gain authority in her chosen activities. A woman with a strong Athena archetype is highly valued in the modern world.

Main characteristics:

  • hard-worker;
  • focused on building a career;
  • her mind acts purposefully;
  • resourceful;
  • eloquent;
  • strong and competitive.

She can easily become a scientist, a politician, a project manager, or a founder of her own business.

However, she usually does not notice the emotional needs of others and her own fatigue. Since the work brings her a tangible external result, she tends to sacrifice her well-being, emotional and spiritual needs for it.

Athena awakening

To experience Athena awakening, perform:

#3: Artemis

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Initially, Artemis was the goddess of the moon. Then she became a hunting goddess, keeping in touch with nature, understanding, and respecting its laws.

Main characteristics:

  • engaged in sports;
  • loves competitions;
  • takes care of her health and beauty;
  • strength;
  • endurance;
  • achieving her goals is of great importance to her;
  • values her time and doesn’t waste her energy.

Artemis awakening:

To experience Artemis awakening, practice:

  • exercises that improve coordination of movements and attention management;
  • balance asanas;
  • the Tree Pose with your eyes open (attention on a point on the floor) or with your eyes closed (attention on the point between your eyebrows) for 1.5-2 minutes on each leg;
  • Trikonasana, a transition to Parivrtta Trikonasana, for a minute in each pose, attention is distributed from the pelvis in all directions to the limbs and head;
  • Half Moon Pose for a minute on each side (attention on the extension of the leg, spine, and arm, as well as on the supporting arm and leg);
  • The Archer’s pose (attention over the line of the outstretched arm at a point on the horizon) for 1-2 minutes on each leg;
  • Natarjasana;
  • Chaturanga Dandasana – 3 times for 2-3 cycles of breathing.

#4: Hera

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Hera is the Goddess of Marriage and Birth. For Hera, the value of the institution of marriage is the highest goal. She is the wife and sister of Zeus. Her attention is directed to her husband as a light that comes from her heart and gives her spouse a halo of respect, strength, and power. She literally “makes” him a king. Her encouragement and wise counsel restore his faith in himself. She is his “Shakti,” as they say in the East. Her energy makes his plans come true.

Hera awakening:

Sit in the Vajrasana in front of your partner. Now both of you interlace your fingers and raise your hands above your head so that they form a semicircle. Hands symbolize a halo-the glow of energy around the head, activation of the upper centers responsible for clarity, power of projection of thought, and wisdom. Look into the space between your partner’s head and hands, without blinking, and project light, confidence, and inspiration. Imagine that your partner is endowed with the best qualities: courage, wisdom, strength, authority, and justice. Perform for 3-11 minutes.

#5: Demeter

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In this hypostasis, a woman joins the happiness of motherhood. She is ready to give herself completely to her children – to nourish, protect, and educate them.

Usually, every woman turns to Demeter archetype during pregnancy and childbirth.

During pregnancy, the woman’s connection with the Earth, which gives life and shelter to all living beings, is particularly strong. Legs, hips, pelvis filled with warm heaviness, knees and hip joints soften and dilate, the breast is full. She has a strong emotional connection and understanding of the needs of the object of her love.

Demeter awakening

To experience Demeter awakening, practice:

  • Crow pose with pelvic movements left-right, transition to the chair position (2 min), then to Baddha Konasana, and then to Supta Baddha Konasana. Then perform Ustrasana (1-2 min.), Child’s pose, and Supta Vajrasana.
  • Meditation: sitting in Sukhasana, place your palms on your chest, the center of your palm barely touching the chest, your forearms parallel to the floor, your eyes half-closed, and looking at the tip of your nose. Inhale through the nose 5 seconds, exhale 5 seconds, hold your breath for 15 seconds. This practice activates the field in the chest area, increases the sensitivity of the hands and healing abilities.

#6: Hestia

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Hestia is the virgin goddess of the hearth, the right ordering of domesticity, the family, the home, and the state. Her element is the hearth, the fire that warmed the house and brought all the family members together for a meal. Hestia is an independent goddess. Her attention is directed to the harmonization of the internal space of the body and home, as well as any space that she considers hers.

Hestia helps us to understand if we are comfortable in our bodies and our homes. When you’re performing usual activities like working, performing asanas, driving a car, etc. and you feel uncomfortable, this is Hestia trying to attract your attention to your body that needs some healing, rest, or cleansing.

Hestia illuminates your inner space of the body with the light of attention, optimizing muscle effort, and neutralizing tension. Look through Hestia’s eyes at your workplace and home environment, and think about what you would like to change.

Hestia awakening

To awake your inner Hestia, perform smooth side extensions and Surya Namaskar in a slow version, 3 cycles of breathing in each pose. While performing the exercise, observe the slightest sensations that arise in the body, release yourself from tension.

Be attentive to your body! Make a “map of your body”: draw it schematically, like a child’s drawing. Mark with a red marker the areas where you feel tension (for example, hamstrings stretch badly, shoulders are strained, neck movements are difficult, and so on). Note how the sensations change after performing asanas with increased attention to difficult areas.

Try to draw your aura on a piece of paper. Pay attention on what colors you choose to use and the size of it. Do this practice after yoga classes for a week or a month, without looking at the previous drawings. Then compare them. Learn to “read” your condition, mood, and feelings.

#7: Aphrodite (Venus)

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Aphrodite is the goddess of love, sex, beauty, and fertility. She finds and cultivates pleasant, ecstatic sensations in the body, she is engaged in the search for bliss, she experiences and translates it.

Spontaneously, every woman is in a similar state when she falls in love, focusing on filling the body and emotional state with joyous experiences.

Aphrodite never criticizes herself. We can say that her Ojas, Tejas, and prana are in perfect balance. Aphrodite’s attention is focused on feelings of pleasure, she experiences and radiates joy, she is “in the flow” of life, spontaneously and naturally initiates contacts. She is loved and admired. She inspires feats and creativity.

Aphrodite awakening:

  • As you study your body, find places where you are experiencing pleasant sensations right now: warmth, movement, and the desire to stretch. Often similar sensations occur in the thighs, calves, and feet. Start moving, enhancing the pleasant experience. You may begin to make spontaneous movements consisting of asanas, dance moves, and gestures. Let your body guide you.
  • Perform Cobra Pose (1-2 min.), Side Bow Pose, Eagle Pose, Downward-facing Dog Pose with legs lifting.
  • Practice Taoist meditation “Inner smile”.

#8: Tara

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In the Buddhist tradition, Goddess Tara is a female incarnation of the Buddha of compassion, who comes to help in difficult situations. Goddess Tara helps to better understand the needs of others, to tune in with those who need help and care, to become more empathic, loving, and compassionate. The Tara archetype is endowed with a special life-giving power, magnetism, and wisdom.

Tara awakening:

#9: Kali

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Goddess Kali is the dark and violent hypostasis of Parvati, the dark Shakti, and the destructive aspect of Shiva. She is a symbol of destruction. Kali destroys ignorance, maintains world order, and blesses and liberates those who seek to know God.

Kali is independent in making decisions.

The woman of this archetype is reminiscent of Lilith, who refused to submit to Adam. In anger, she is capable of destruction, whereas long-repressed suppressed anger brings destruction to herself. Therefore, knowing how to release her emotions and express her true feelings a woman is able to master her own power, transform it into energy for life, and remove obstacles to further development.

Kali archetype has a special power and both positive and sharply negative features. Some women completely reject this aspect, while others deliberately cultivate it. In order not to suppress periodically accumulated feelings of anger, irritation, and resentment, but to turn them into your allies, you need to recognize them and give yourself the opportunity to express these emotions.

Anger is a natural human emotion. However, the current situation is that we are often angry, but we do not have the ability to adequately express this emotion. The reason is social pressure: almost all of us are taught from childhood that it is bad to be angry, without offering any reasonable ways to solve the problem. A person who freely expresses anger is usually judged by others. As a result, he is good at mastering techniques for suppressing anger, so that it becomes a habit and leads to the accumulation of internal aggression.

Internal aggression can break out in the form of powerful attacks of rage, which are replaced by feelings of guilt.

Another way some people deal with internal anger is to direct it at themselves. This is where the roots of depression and self-destructive behavior lie.

Kali awakening:

To experience Kali awakening, practice:

#10: Dhumavati

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Tantric Goddess Dhumavati represents the fearsome aspect of Devi, the Hindu Divine Mother. She is a very old and very wise woman who has passed all the stages of life, knows the essence of things, feels people at first glance. Her appearance is not particularly attractive, and her essence is the utmost honesty and clarity.

We can turn to this archetype when we want to learn how to be honest with ourselves about our deepest desires, as well as determine the long-term perspective of life decisions.

Dhumavatri awakening

To experience Dhumavatri awakening:

  • work on strengthening your bones and joints;
  • make long-term plans;
  • practice honesty towards yourself and others;
  • chant Dhumavatri mantras.

The Bottom Line

Look at your mandala and think about the female archetypes that resonate the most with you. What do you like the most about these female archetypes? What qualities would you like to develop to become closer to them?

And now think about the female archetypes that you resonate with the least. What emotions are you feeling when you are thinking of them? Are scared? Ashamed? Disappointed?

Take your time to analyze your personal Goddess archetypes. Make a list of qualities and abilities you have. What is your superpower?

Now that have a better understanding of the divine feminine nature hidden inside your human personality you can develop it into the highest manifestation of your essence.


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Lagom: Swedish Philosophy For Living a Meaningful Life

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Did you know that Sweden is one of the happiest countries in the world? What do they do so differently that it helps them stay happy and satisfied with their lives? The answer is found in one word – lagom.

In this article, I will share with you what lagom is and how we can all implement it into our lives and make it more balanced and meaningful.

What Is Lagom?

Lagom (pronounced “lar-gohm”) is the Swedish philosophy that focuses on finding balance in your everyday life through moderation.

This word can be translated as “Not too little. Not too much. Just right.” In other words, if you focus on having enough but not too much, you create a balanced mindset.

The famous Swedish proverb says “There is virtue in moderation”. And this is the main difference between our american mindset which makes us always seek the next best thing.

Lagom philosophy is the opposite of materialism and consumerism. It focuses on creating a balanced, sustainable lifestyle that welcomes the pleasures of existence rather than those of consumption. This philosophy is very practical and applied to everyday lives – food, clothes, lifestyle, work, etc.

Lagom is all about having only what you need. It is the new minimalism for anyone who wants to live with fewer material possessions but aim to enjoy a more meaningful and happier life.

Don’t they get bored living like this?

Lagom is not a rejection of pleasure, but the ability to indulge in it in a moderate and balanced way. Of course, the Swedes also allow themselves to deviate from the plan. If you’ve ever been to Sweden you know what an incredibly strong coffee they brew! Not to mention punch-rolls, chocolate balls, cinnamon buns that Swedes adore. However, after a little indulgence, they do not punish themselves with strict diets but get back to a moderate and balanced lifestyle.

How to practice lagom?

Now let’s talk about how we can implement lagom into our daily life. As I already mentioned, it can be applied to all areas of life. In this article, I will share with you some ideas on how to do it.

Step 1: Inspect your home

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If we try to highlight the area where the Swedes are #1, it is home organizing. Impeccable Sweden style is not overloaded and attracts the eye.

But how did the Swedes manage to create this balance?

They have an innate desire for minimalism and absolutely no desire for hoarding. That’s why there are no boxes in Swedish homes filled with old things like broken phones, a dozen old sweaters, and jeans that we vow to wear one day, old magazines, etc.

Here’s a little clutter test for you. Check the correct statements box:

  • You have a box or drawer with the items that you never use.
  • It takes you more than five minutes to find the right thing.
  • You feel stressed if your friends come to visit you without an invitation because you have to do a big cleaning first.
  • You have things that you don’t use or things that you don’t like anymore.

If you have marked more than two points — it’s time to think about how to throw out the excess.

Here are a few tips on how to declutter without stress:

  • Don’t try to do it all at once. Take 10 minutes a day to declutter.
  • Distribute items in three boxes: keep, give away/donate, and throw away.
  • Use the “buy one thing, get rid of one” rule.
  • Do not allow the emergence of “hot spots” where junk tends to accumulate.
  • Keep your toiletries in a special box.
  • Keep all your papers and documents in folders.

Step 2: Infuse your house with lagom

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Reduce the number of items

For several months, once a week, remove one item from each room — and very soon you will notice that the energy of your house has improved.

Be mindful of what you buy

If you buy a new item, let it be not only beautiful but also functional and high-quality item. Look for handmade items, visit fairs, and meet new artists and designers. But before you buy anything ask yourself if you really need it or perhaps your home already has everything you need.

Invite nature into your house

Use natural eco-friendly materials in the decor. Get indoor plants. Collect twigs, snags, acorns, pebbles from the beach — all this brings you closer to nature. As you may already know, nature heals and if you invite nature into your house you also infuse it with peaceful and healing energy.

Do not clutter the house

Keep it simple. For each new item, get rid of one old.

Step 3: Be mindful of your food

We, Americans, tend to waste lots of food. It makes us spend more money than you probably should. But if we become more mindful in planning and organizing food we can actually save more money than you may think. And the less money we spend the less stress we have. Here are a few tips on how to be more organized with your food.

Freeze your food

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Label the bags of frozen items so that you don’t confuse chili with strawberries.

You can freeze herbs, juice, coconut milk in ice molds.

Freeze overripe bananas so you don’t waste them. You can use them later for making ice cream or smoothies.

Don’t let the vegetables wither

To keep salad leaves and green leafy vegetables fresh longer, wash them, put them in a sealed bag, and put them in the vegetable compartment.

Too much parsley or dill? Finely chop it and freeze it. You can use it for soups and other dishes.

Buy seasonal and local products

Do not use expensive imported ingredients brought from the other side of the planet for preparing your meals. Try to always buy local veggies, berries, and fruit. Find out which fruits and vegetables are in season and try to cook seasonally.

Plan your menu a week in advance

This is a super helpful tip for those who want to reduce the amount of food waste. During the week, prepare simple dishes. Leave new and complex recipes for the weekend, when you have more time. This will also help you to be less stressed about not having enough time.

Step 4: Create a balance between work and personal time

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We tend to go from one polarity to another. Today we’re working hard with no breaks and rest, and tomorrow we are so exhausted that have zero motivation even to get up from the bed. Lagom teaches us to create a balance between work and personal time that you can use for hobby, yoga, rest, or other things you like to do during your free time. Here are some tips on how to do it.

Reduce the number of tasks scheduled for the week and weekend

On the weekend, choose one day when you have nothing planned. This is a day for restoring balance, spending time spontaneously, and communicating with your family and friends.

Good rest is the key to efficiency and stress reduction

Try to go to bed on time and get up a little earlier than usual. An extra half hour in the morning will give you a sense of control over time and self-confidence that you are unlikely to be able to experience while doing everything on the run. If it is still dark outside when you get up, light a candle and drink tea from your favorite mug. It will give you a feeling of self-care and the necessary comfort for feeling safe and relaxed.

Step 5: Take care of your health

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A healthy body and a balanced mind lead to a happy life and less stress. Lagom gives us some tips on how to take care of our health and be more balanced.

Make your workout easier and don’t overdo it

Everyone should make time for rest, work, and active movement. Find a way to work out in a way that brings real benefits to both body and spirit. Make sure that you actually enjoy your workout time. For example, go for a run alone to clear your mind, or go for a walk with friends to chat. If you feel like lifting weights brings more stress to you than enjoyment, then maybe yoga or cardio exercises will suit you better? Don’t try to copy others. Find your own unique way to work out and enjoy it!

Seek balance, but don’t be obsessed with it

There is no doubt that balance is the key component for our physical and mental health. However, we all need to accept that there can always be a slight imbalance in life. There is no need to feel stressed about it. Each of us, from time to time, has days when we have too much work and it’s hard to find time for quality rest. Sometimes it is impossible to find time for the gym and working out. Don’t feel stressed or guilty about that.

Keep it simple

Use natural cosmetics. Skincare is really simple — healthy food, rest, and fresh air will do almost all the work for you.

Step 6: Spend more time outside in contact with nature

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Swedes love to spend time in nature. More than half of Sweden’s territory is covered with forest. Nature is an integral part of Swedes’ life.

The state also strongly supports such leisure. In Sweden, there is a concept called “Allemansrätten” – everyone’s right to access certain public or privately owned land, lakes, and rivers for recreation and exercise. Everyone can freely walk, pick mushrooms and berries, and camp in any place if it does not disturb the peace of others. So, Swedes in any weather go out of town, have picnics, go sailing, etc.

In 2016, the World Wide Fund for Nature conducted a study that found that those who regularly go out to nature feel happier and healthier. Another study also showed that during these “nature time”, we calm down, restore the psyche, and become more creative and peaceful.

Step 7: Don’t get involved into arguments

Try to cultivate peace in every communication you have. Instead of passionately proving your point, try to always find a compromise. If you feel like your opinion is not welcomed, let your opponent keep his/her views, don’t try to change them. Arguments and conflicts lead to stresses, disappointments, and breakups. You can always walk away from the argument and let people have their opinions.

Step 8: Invite celebration into your life

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Arrange small celebrations for yourself for your family and friends. In Sweden, there are many traditions that are designed to unite friends, colleagues, and family members. For example, the sacred Swedish Fika ritual – a coffee break with sweets. Its essence is simple: a hot drink, a treat, and communication without haste. Or Fredagsmys – a cozy Friday ritual, when you are gathering with the family, watch a movie, and eat something tasty. It is these small traditions that create unforgettable memories, evoke a smile, and create a feeling of being loved. This atmosphere reduces stress and makes life more enjoyable.

The Bottom Line

You can start practicing lagom by asking yourself, “Is this lagom?”. When you look inside your crowded closet, or when a big portion of food is placed in front of you, or when you consider that second cookie, ask yourself if you really need it, if it is lagom. Constantly, try to build that balance between work and your personal life. Always make sure you find time to do the things you love. Keep track of your spending, consciously reduce your environmental impact on the world, take purposeful breaks from work, spend quality time with family and friends. By bringing lagom into your life you become much happier, more peaceful, and less stressed.


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3 Tips On How To Get Excited About Life Again

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Do you feel like life isn’t exciting enough? That maybe you’re missing out on something because you just can’t get motivated for anything? Turns out you’re not alone. Most people find it’s more difficult to feel motivated and be excited about life in uncertain times. Therefore, we came up with 3 helpful tips on how to get excited about life again! Read on!

How To Get Excited About Life Again?

When you go on social media you see all those digital influencers with clear goals and commitment to their development. They are highly motivated, inspired by their lives, and looking great. And you find yourself not motivated, not excited, not knowing where to go or what to do, feeling a certain awkwardness, and even guilt for not being like they are.

At such times, you either go into “a bunker of apathy” and turn away from the world or begin a state of overactive almost violent activity, just to justify yourself to others and to yourself.

What can you do if your “internal compass” is broken and no longer shows you what direction to move anymore? What can you do when you don’t know what you want? How do you get rid of apathy and lack of inspiration?

Here are 3 simple tips on how to get excited about life again, find your path, and bring the spark back into your relationship with life.

#1: Take a “vacation” from obligations

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Sometimes your dreams and goals simply have no place in your life, because most of it is occupied by obligations.

Starting from school, we try to acquire “musts” and “shoulds”. Our parents, relatives, teachers set their expectations to meet, and gradually our own dreams disappear. You know what your husband/wife wants, what your children want, what your boss needs from you, but when it comes to you, all you remember is a long list of obligations.

Try for a while, at least for one day, to pause all the burdensome duties. Take a day off from work, order food delivery, turn off your phone, keep the TV off – to free yourself from all obligations and worries to simply be alone with yourself and your thoughts.

In peace and quiet, when you don’t have to do anything, listen to yourself. Dedicate this one day off to practicing mindfulness, meditating, pranayama, yoga, and relaxing. Keep your thoughts away from worries about the future. Focus on the present moment.

After such a “vacation” you will find that your mind is much more clear and your body is rested.

#2: Tune in to your own frequency

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In our digital era, it often happens that we lose our bearings and go astray due to external noise. Under the influence of social networks and the opinions of others, it may seem like your personal goals are not big enough and unworthy of your time and energy.

Social media influencers form a collective opinion that goals like opening a multi-million dollar business or becoming famous are the goals that worth our time. But what if your goal is to learn a deep meditation, or improve your astral traveling skills or develop unconditional love or compassion? What if you want to become a librarian or elementary school teacher? What if you are more passionate about gardening than building a million-dollar company?

Unfortunately, it is a very common thing that unique and very talented people are wasting their time trying to chase false goals and building a false personality that doesn’t match their true selves.

Society tells us the trends we are supposed to follow though these trends can completely contradict our own passions.

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Get 100,000 followers like fashion influencers, lose 30 pounds like workout coaches, visit 20 new countries like travel bloggers… You’re following all these people as motivation to become like them, to succeed like them, to be famous like them. But what if you’re just following the very wrong kind of people? What if your true inspiration is beyond social media?

Think about it! Do you feel frustrated with your personal achievements when you’re scrolling the feed? Do you feel a little (or maybe a lot) jealous about people on social media? Be honest! How do THEY make you feel?

Now try to scan through the people you follow. Find the ones that make you feel small or chase the goals that don’t really resonate with you and unfollow them. You don’t need this kind of influence!

Instead follow the people that resonate with your goals, the teachers that share really valuable information that educate you, the scientists that share innovations, the psychologists that help you to learn more about your blocks and emotions, the artists that share real art and show the highest levels of creativity, the nature pages that help you discover the beauty of the planet we live in, etc.

This, so-called, “social media detox” will help you to save your time and energy from chasing somebody else’s goals, free space for your own inspiration, and creativity.

#3: Expand your “menu”

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It is likely that you do not have enough diverse experience and knowledge about the world to decide what you really want now. A simple example: you probably won’t want a butternut squash smoothie if you’ve never tried it. Similarly in life – it is unlikely that you will have a desire to do bungee jumping if you don’t know much about it.

It is really difficult to decide what you want when your “menu” does not have too many options. Try to expand your palette of life opportunities by trying something new. Think about trying a new hobby (like belly dancing, Zumba, aikido, singing lessons, landscape design, learning a foreign language, etc.) or even a profession.

Try to find activities that you’ve never been involved in before, something new, and that you’ve never thought of doing. It will totally change your energy, your consciousness will expand, and you will start seeing life from a much wider perspective.

The Bottom Line

In moments you lack inspiration, feel apathy, and a loss of purpose, it is important not only to dive into yourself in search of answers but also from time to time to look around – open up to new things and look for something that will respond to you. We hope our tips on how to get excited about life again will help you get out of any stagnation and re-discover your true goals and life purpose.


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