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5 Simple Steps To Boost Your Self-Love

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All of us have heard about the importance of loving ourselves. We are well aware that self-love is the key to success, harmony, and abundant living. Until we learn how to love ourselves we can’t spiritually develop.

Theoretically, it would seem that everything is so clear and simple. But when it comes to practice, we all face difficulties.

So what is self-love?

The first thing we learn from any master class or book on positive thinking is that we have to love, respect and accept ourselves. Without this, we can’t develop. But when it comes to practice, the big question arises: “What does it mean to love yourself

Self-love is the foundation on which our whole life is built. If this foundation is not strong enough or does not exist at all, then our whole life is very shaky and unreliable. It can collapse at any time. In order to avoid this, we need to learn to love ourselves.

Unfortunately, many people are convinced that loving yourself means being selfish or narcissistic. However, it is not like that at all. Self-love and selfishness or narcissism are completely opposite concepts. To love yourself means to accept yourself and to realize your divine nature. To be selfish or a narcissist means to put your ego on display.

Moreover, if we can’t love ourselves, we can’t love anyone. If we can’t love the closest and dearest person in the world – ourselves – how can we love someone else? It can be passion, affection, but not love. Love always comes from the inside, and only when it overflows us, it pours out to the outside.

5 Steps Towards Self-Love

Step 1: Acceptance

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Accept yourself as you are! Whatever mistakes you made in your life, accept them and don’t judge yourself. Everything happened the way it was supposed to happen. And you did what you had to do. Respect the choices that you have made in the past and that you are making now.

Accept what you don’t like about yourself. Realize that what you call “imperfections” are actually your unique qualities that fall out of the scope of the “standard.” We have been taught since our childhood to be like everyone else. And everything that distinguished us from others was condemned. But it shouldn’t be that way! We must learn to be ourselves without any limitations. We need to learn to perceive our “imperfections” as unique manifestations of ourselves.

Step 2: Self-Sufficiency

Realize that no one or nothing can make you whole. You’re already self-sufficient! You need to learn to love yourself regardless of whether someone else loves you or not. Your happiness cannot be dependent on your relationships.

Besides that, many people believe that certain achievements in life will help them love themselves more. But this is far from reality! Neither a career, nor an expensive car, nor a luxurious mansion on the beach, nor designer clothes, will make you love yourself. All this luxury can only enhance your ego, but self-love will never depend on such things. And it is very important to understand this!

You don’t need a reason to love yourself. True love is always born for no reason. We start to love ourselves just like that, here and now, just the way we are.

Step 3-Destruction Of The Pedestals

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Stop putting people on the pedestal. Stop thinking that someone might be better than you are or worse. Learn not to compare yourself to other people. If you accept and love your uniqueness (which, as I have already said, consists of those qualities that society calls “imperfections”), then you realize that any comparison is inappropriate! You are who you are. No one is better or worse than you. Destroy all the pedestals that you have created. And understand that all people are equal. Don’t idealize anyone. We’re all just humans – nobody is perfect! Besides that the ideal is always dead, there is no movement, there is no need for development. So throw away all those thoughts about reaching this illusional ideal level of yourself. Stop this race to perfection! It doesn’t make any sense!

Step 4-Self-Respect

Self-love can’t exist without self-respect. Learn to respect yourself, your time and space!

Free your space from negative people, as well as from those people with who you are uncomfortable with or who are not interesting for you to communicate with. Free yourself from those people who steal your energy. Stop talking to people who only talk about themselves, but are never interested in you. Change your environment! As soon as you free yourself from people you don’t resonate with, you will attract a new environment into your life. From now on surround yourself only with people you enjoy interacting with.

Sometimes we can’t explain to ourselves why we don’t resonate with someone. I would advise not even try to find out the reasons why, but just keep a person you don’t resonate with at a distance. You should trust your intuition. If you don’t want to interact with someone without any particular reason, it means that you subconsciously (intuitively) feel that this person can bring nothing but problems into your life!

Step 5 – Alignment

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Live in alignment with yourself. Don’t do things you don’t want to. I am not talking about everyday duties that cannot be avoided. I am talking about things that don’t resonate with our beliefs and contradict our worldview. For example, when we go to dinner though we don’t want to. And we doing it only because we don’t want to offend someone who invited us. Or, when the seller starts to impose on us some product that we do not need at all, but we buy it because we don’t want to upset the seller. These kinds of acts destroy our self-respect and our authority in our own eyes!

Remember that every time you step over yourself in order to not offend someone, you show a deep disrespect for yourself and the absence of self-love.

The Bottom Line

It is impossible to teach self-love in one minute. This process can take months or even years. Just understand that self-love is your path, your daily practice, but not the final destination. Self-love is made up of simple things you do every day. Only by learning to love yourself can you learn to truly love others. Not only family or friends, but also every living creature that you meet on your way!

Namaste!


Katya Ki is the Founder of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics, cosmology, and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

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Peach Blossom Luck Formula: Feng Shui Method For Attracting Love

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Peach Blossom Formula is the most easy-to-use Feng Shui method for activating love luck. However, this formula should be used only if you want to attract a serious and meaningful relationship into your life. This method is not suitable for those who are looking for frivolous fun. Peach Blossom formula is designed to attract a soulmate or a marriage partner, activate your marriage luck, and bring true love into your life. Therefore before using it ask yourself if you are ready for a serious relationship!

What Is Peach Blossom In Feng Shui?

Peach blossom is a culturally determined association of a lover’s face with the beauty of peach blossoms in Chinese folklore.

The formula contains a Chinese zodiac sign (animal) that helps in attracting love, your personal Chinese zodiac sign and its location in the house.

Although the Peach blossom luck formula is mostly used when looking for a serious love relationship, it can also be used to attract like-minded friends, too.

The Peach blossom luck formula is based on the calculations of the Feng Shui school, which uses the so-called “four pillars of fate”. It determines your personality type and the most appropriate type of luck in love.

This method focuses on the four animal signs that occupy the four cardinal directions of the compass. Each of these four Animals has the power to bring Peach blossom marriage luck to a specific group of people born under certain Animal signs.

Despite its name, the Peach blossom luck formula does not imply the use of peach flowers as a Feng Shui symbol. You don’t have to cover the bedroom walls with peach wallpaper or use peach color decor.

How To Use the Peach Blossom Luck Formula?

First, you need to identify your Chinese zodiac sign. To do this, you just need to find your date of birth in the Hundred Year Calendar (click here)!

Now that you know your Chinese zodiac sign you can find your Peach blossom animal sign in the chart below and display you peach blossom animal in the corresponding Bagua sector (direction). This is where you have to use your creativity and go for a representation of the animal energy that you like. It can be a painting, a picture, a statue of your Peach Blossom animal. You can even draw it yourself. The main rule is – you should like it and it should really speak to your heart.

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Peach Blossom Luck For the Rat, Monkey, and Dragon

If you were born in the years of Rat, Monkey, or Dragon, the animal Chi that will unlock your Peach blossom luck is the Rooster placed in the West sector of your house or West corner of your bedroom. The size of the image or statue doesn’t matter, as long as the Rooster is beautifully made. It is preferable if the Rooster is adorned with jewels.

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Peach Blossom Luck For the Rabbit, Boar, and Sheep

If you were born in the years of Rabbit, Boar, or Monkey, the animal Chi that will unlock your Peach blossom luck is the Rat placed in the North sector of your house or North corner of your bedroom. Look for the Rat figurine that is well made. Alternatively, you can use a figurine of a mongoose spewing jewels.

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Peach Blossom Luck For the Snake, Rooster, and Ox

If you were born in the years of Snake, Rooster, or Ox, the animal Chi that will unlock your Peach blossom luck is the Horse placed in the South sector of your house or South corner of your bedroom. Make sure the Horse figurine/image has jewels and is well made. The more beautiful your Horse figurine/image is, the better it will be able to manifest your match.

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Peach Blossom Luck For the Tiger, Horse, and Dog

If you were born in the years of Tiger, Horse, or Dog, the animal Chi that will unlock your Peach blossom luck is the Rabbit placed in the East sector of your house or East corner of your bedroom. If possible, get the Rabbit figurine that is bedecked with jewels.

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What Happens When You Activate Your Peach Blossom Luck?

Activating your Peach blossom luck will create the situation for you to meet someone with serious intentions. However, it doesn’t guarantee the longevity or quality of the marriage. These aspects depend on your own karma.

Feng Shui creates the Chi that is conducive to life being happy and joyful. But it is not magic and cannot be used for changing someone’s destiny or karma. Feng Shui accounts for only 1/3 of your luck. The other 2/3 are down to your karma and the choices you make.

If you are currently dating someone but he/she is afraid of making a commitment, you need to understand that the Peach blossom luck will not make him/her want to marry you. You should know that it can even trigger a break up in the relationship if there is no destiny affinity between you and your partner. Thus, by breaking the relationship that is not going anywhere, it could be clearing the way for you to meet your true soulmate.

The Bottom Line

After you activate your peach blossom luck, you have to be patient. When you almost forget about it (usually, it takes about 3 months or a little longer), your soulmate will appear in your life.

As simple as it sounds, there are many people that have successfully used the Peach blossom luck formula, so you can give it a try and enjoy its wonderful results!


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Sexual Narcissist: The 7 Signs You are Dealing with One

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Do you know someone with a high sense of his abilities, in total disregard of everyone else? You could be dealing with a narcissist. And, it gets a bit twisted with a sexual narcissist. These types manipulate those around them for their sexual pleasure. They want to have as many partners as possible to portray a sexual prowess that they believe they possess. Yet, such a person never gets intimate with anyone.

Who is a Sexual Narcissist?

A sexual narcissist is a master seducer. His personality disorder means that he seeks sexual pleasure from others with no plans of reciprocating. That is, his sexual needs come first. Since they feel superior over their partners, they will want to control their spouses, yet remain noncommittal.

So, what happens if you are in a sexual relationship with such a person? It is almost certain that you will get hurt in the process.

How to Identify a Sexual Narcissist?

What are the telltale signs that you are dating a sexual narcissist? Can you protect yourself from such a toxic relationship?

1. A Natural Charmer

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Sexual narcissists know what to say or do to appear romantic to their partners. Picture this: Does his allure win you over the first few encounters? Does his charisma make you feel appreciated and special? Or, do you find yourself having a weak spot for his seductive ways? All those dinners, gifts, and special attention he gives you are intentional. He wants to prove himself that he can conquer whoever he wants with his sex appeal. However, such a stance never lasts.

2. No Intimacy in The Relationship

A relationship with a sexual narcissist dwells more on the physical gratification. He finds it impossible to invest emotions in the relationship.

For example, does your partner focus more on perfecting his lovemaking techniques? Does it seem like he cares less whether you have an intimate connection in the first place? Plus, do you often feel like you are his object of sexual pleasure?

Such partners insist on you maintaining a specific sexy look. Alternatively, they want you to take a crash diet to look a certain way, not caring how you feel about the change.

Intimacy requires partners to empathize with one another. In turn, you must show that you care about the other person’s feelings. However, a sexual narcissist will struggle with showing such intimacy.

3. Available For Sex Only

A sexual narcissist will put a lot of pressure on the partner so that they can meet for sex. But, he quickly leaves and never checks on the partner afterward. It’s the kind of person that leaves their spouses feeling empty and used.

This neglect after sex only shows that they are in the relationship for sexual pleasure and not love. The only other time he will show interest in the sexual partner is when he looks forward to another sexual encounter.

4. Cheating with Multiple Partners

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Since a sexual narcissist is never intimate with anyone, he tends to have many sexual partners at the same time. It is a sexual addiction that can only be satisfied by seeking enjoyment from more people. Even in a marriage, such a person will be cheating on the spouse continuously. To cover his behavior, sexual narcissists have a violent relationship with their spouses.

In contrast, when single, they will never commit to the relationship. Instead, he will hop from one partner to another, trying to quench his thirst for sexual gratification. 

5. They Belittle Their Partners

Does your partner insult you for no reason? Don’t be quick to blame yourself. For a sexual narcissist, nothing good can come out of their partners. They always find fault in the way their partners carry themselves. Often, they will point out flaws to their partners to put them down in public. It is their cruel way to appear superior and relevant.

Indeed, in the eyes of the sexual narcissists, their partners are little to them. So, before you start doubting and blaming yourself for things you did not do, first confirm if your partner is a sexual narcissist or not. 

6. They Will Not Handle Criticism Well

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Have you ever tried to point out a mistake to a sexual narcissist? He will throw a tantrum, give you the silent treatment, or shift the blame on you. More so, he behaves like a bully or an angry child to avoid facing the consequences of his actions. In fact, they often make ridicule out of the situation.

Where possible, he will try to attack the other person at a personal level to belittle them. When this does not work, he will resort to the cold shoulder. You know, denying the other love and affection in any given relationship. This cold treatment will continue until the day the partner gives in.

Often, sexual narcissist also plays a victim. He can accuse the other person of being ungrateful for his contribution so far. 

7. It Is A One-Sided Relationship

How much can you meet his sexual demands? A typical sexual relationship with a sexual narcissist revolves around his narcissistic needs. For example, he will dictate what to wear when going out, how long you can stay out, and with who. He wants to control your thoughts into believing that your sole purpose in the relationship is to please him. Even so, he will try to make you feel guilty anytime you decide to enjoy the union.

A one-sided relationship is more of a slave and master association than an intimate couple is. In extreme cases, sexual narcissists will control every aspect of their partner’s lives, disconnecting them from the rest of the world.

Conclusion

Are you in a relationship with a sexual narcissist? A sexual narcissist cares more about portraying a happy relationship. Yet, he does nothing to make his spouse feel loved and wanted. If you’re a victim, understand and appreciate your self-worth. That way, you can take measures to protect your emotional wellbeing because such links can drain a spouse leading to stress and depression.   


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Powerful Meditation to Attract Love and Romance

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It seems that in our modern world, there are so many ways to help find love – Tinder, numerous dating apps, etc. However, there are more and more lonely people in the world. Why does it happen? Why are modern people so disconnected and lost? Well, many are simply not ready for love, feelings, relationships, commitment. Others have so many blocks that keep them away from expressing and receiving love: fears, doubts, traumas, etc. We, modern people, are so afraid to love and get hurt that we choose to not allow ourselves to love. For that reason, there is a big number of people who have their Heart chakras blocked. And this is a big problem for modern humanity!

In this article, I want to share with you a very special and powerful meditation that will help you not just to attract love, but also calm your mind, and charge you with positive love vibrations that will work as a magnet for people. After practicing this love meditation you will literally start radiating the vibes of love – and you will surely attract exactly what you radiate!

Where to Start?

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Attracting a harmonious romantic relationship always starts with self-love. We always attract exactly the kind of partner that reflects our attitude to ourselves. If you often criticize yourself, then your partner will be sure to criticize you too. If you are used to being a victim, then you will attract a partner who will play the role of a tyrant. If you constantly feel guilty, then your partner will find a thousand reasons to blame you for something. In other words, your partner will always be a “mirror” that reflects your innermost thoughts and feelings about yourself. Therefore, you should start with developing self-love and the habit of talking and thinking about yourself only in a positive way!

Do you want to receive more love? Great, it’s a healthy feeling! Satisfy your need for the expression of love that you want the most, and you will feel so much better. Give yourself the attention you want to receive. If you want flowers, buy yourself a beautiful bouquet. If you want to hear compliments, say the exact words you want to hear to yourself, looking in the mirror! Tell yourself everything you want to hear from other people. Do not skimp on affection, do not be afraid to say the most tender and kind words to yourself. Express self-love fully!

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One friend of mine suffered from a lack of compliments from her boyfriend. I asked her, “How often do you compliment yourself?” She looked at me in confusion and said, “Never! I’m not a narcissist!” I had to spend several hours explaining to her that narcissism has nothing to do with self-love and there is nothing wrong with complimenting yourself. And as soon as my friend accepted this and started practicing self-love affirmations her boyfriend started giving her all kinds of compliments and attention! “This is a miracle!”, my friend said the next time we met. “This is not a miracle! That’s how the Law of attraction works! Whatever we radiate, we attract!”, I replied with a smile.

Meditation to Attract Love: What’s Important to Know?

Meditation to attract love is an effective way to find not only a soulmate but also to find inner peace and harmony.

Before you start your meditation to attract love, you need to create a special atmosphere. Here are some tips on how to do this:

  1. find a quiet and peaceful place where no one can distract you;
  2. put on clean and comfortable clothing;
  3. turn off all the gadgets and electronic items, phones, computers, anything that might interfere with your meditation;
  4. choose the music for your meditation – it can be meditation music, the sounds of the ocean, the sounds of nature, etc.;
  5. light pink or red candles, rose essential oil or incense;
  6. sit in a comfortable position and take a few deep breaths to relax as much as possible.

Now you can start the meditation.

Meditation to Attract Love

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Close your eyes.

Imagine that you are standing at the entrance to a mysterious grotto or cave. At the entrance, you are met by two majestic peacocks, who wave their heads at you and offer you to enter. You go in and see a huge crystal, shining and shimmering under the trickles of water. From this water comes a pleasant aroma. You go further and hear the voices of angels and heavenly guides who are saying to you: “Follow us”.

You walk through the corridors of your life and at the call of your guardian angels, you enter a small hall that you have never seen before. It’s very cozy! The ceiling is shimmering with pink hues, all in soft carpets and pink pillows. You have entered the sacred realm of love. Here are all your guardian angels and heavenly guides who accompany you in all your good endeavors. Here is everyone you love and who loves you and wishes you well.

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Your guardian angel takes your hand and walks to the center of the room. Here you see a small pool of rose water. This water is warm and beckons you to take a dip. In the center of this pool is an elevation from which the source of love flows. It never stops and never ends. The streams of love are endless.

You get naked (or you can visualize yourself in thin transparent clothes) and go into this pool. Feel yourself submerged in soft and warm water. You dip your whole body into it. Love waters wash over you. You are immersed in love. Your whole body, every cell of your body breathes love and is saturated with it. You are filled with a sense of tremendous lightness and joy. You enjoy swimming in this sacred love waters. Stay there as long as you want.

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Then come out of the pool and visualize that your soulmate is standing right in front of you. He looks at you with eyes filled with love.

Now imagine that a delicate, fragrant flower is blooming in your heart. Rose, peony, lotus – choose any flower that you associate with the purest form of love. From this flower comes love energy. It looks like pink light. This energy moves towards the heart of your soulmate and enters it. In response to your love energy, the love energy of your soulmate also comes out of his/her heart and enters yours. Now you are connected by a double loop of love energy. Stay in this visualization as long as you like.

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Now hug your loved one, and imagine that he/she hugs you too. You feel incredibly happy that you are together and you are in love. There are no fears or doubts. You feel absolute love, trust, and devotion.

Feel this moment. Remember this pleasant feeling. Keep it in your heart even after finishing the meditation. Now that you experienced happiness, joy, and bliss, you can open your eyes.

The Bottom Line

This meditation is very powerful and effective! Practice it at least twice a week for two months, and you will surely notice an extraordinary change in your life and your perception of yourself and the people around you. Your aura will be glowing with love. And people will be attracted to your blissful radiance like moths to a flame.

Don’t tell anyone that you are doing this meditation. Keep it a secret!


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