No matter how positive, happy, loving and compassionate we are, each of us has had moments when people have tried to stir our emotions, to offend, to hurt or to humiliate us. And sometimes, unbeknownst to us, negative people involve us in an invisible swamp of negativity and pessimism. Admit it, sometimes it happens!
In our era of digital technology and social networking, meeting with negative people is almost inevitable. You can post something very positive on your social media page, hoping to provide some inspiration for your followers. But next thing you know somebody is pouring verbal dirt on you and your inspirational post. This is how all good intentions and positivity get destroyed.
You may ask: “What do they want from me? Why can’t they just leave me alone? Why do they need to push all this negativity on me?”. The answer is obvious – they need your energy. All negative people, in essence, are energy vampires. By stirring the negative emotions within you they are feeding off your energy. And the most absurd thing is that you, yourself, give them your energy.
Personally, I constantly face various forms of negativity. People try to make me upset, hurt me or just try to prove I’m wrong. That’s why I’m going to share with you five tips that I follow when I encounter negative people.
Tip 1: Don’t take on any negativity. Until you accept it, it belongs to whoever brought it.
The first thing to understand is that when we respond to any form of negativity, we always lose energy. In other words, we “voluntarily” give it to the offender. Think about it – do you really want it? It is best to totally ignore any manifestations of negativity put towards you.
Many people, once they hear negativity, seek to explain or to prove something to the offender. But this behavior is the result of the over-activity of the Ego. Ego always forces us to prove something to someone, it always wants to win the dispute. But these kinds of actions will never lead to anything good. That’s why when you face negative people, give up the fight, give up the desire to prove something. Energetically you vibrate at different frequencies, so any of your arguments will not be accepted. Just keep it in mind.
Tip 2: Find compassion
You have to realize that the person who spews out negativity does it not because he or she is evil or bad, but because he or she is overflowing with these negative emotions. He or she became so negative not because they are experiencing such a good life. His or her negative behavior is a result of suffering, self-torture, self-loathing and lack of love.
Negative people spill out onto others what they are overflowing – NEGATIVITY.
Any person who tries to offend another is deeply unhappy. And the only feeling this kind of person has to evoke is sincere compassion. It’s not easy for me even to imagine how much resentment you must have to begin offending; how much you need to hate yourself to start pouring out your hate onto others. Keep in mind – the way we treat others is a reflection of how we treat ourselves.
Tip 3: Forgive and let them go
“Hatred has never stopped hatred. Only love stops hate. This is the eternal law.”
~ Gautama Buddha
Always try to forgive your offenders. Resentment doesn’t lead to anything good. Moreover, resentment is often the main cause of cancer. Why torment yourself with resentment? When we focus on resentment, we live in the past. Resentment draws energy from us and prevents us from moving freely through life. That’s why it’s so important to forgive and let go. Free yourself from the past and move towards your happy future.
Tip 4: Start sharing
It may seem strange but when you meet negative people it is a signal that it’s time to share. You need to start giving (sharing) what your abuser so desperately needs. Of course, I’m talking about love. You have to understand that only a person who wasn’t loved enough, and who doesn’t love himself, is capable of negative actions.
That’s why I’m asking you to give your love to your oppressors and with all your heart wish them well. Remember that it’s only offended people who are trying to offend. Happy people always want to make others happy. A happy person has no envy, no anger, no hatred.
When a person hurts us it is a sign that he is deeply unhappy.
Happy people don’t throw out the negativity.
They just don’t have it inside.
When I encounter negative people, I understand that my job is to give this person what he is seeking – love. And the more negativity he sends my way, the more love I sent to him in response.
Of course, there is no need to talk about love with negative people. Obviously, their egos can’t admit that they are really offended and unloved. I never try to annoy them or to communicate with them personally. I share my love by simply focusing my attention on the thought: “I bless you with my love!”. Sometimes I repeat this thought 100 times.
To accept my love or not is the choice of every person. But at least I respond to evil with love and thus neutralize it for myself.
Once I bless a person with my love I usually express my intention to transmute any manifestation of negativity into an illusion. After that, I focus my attention on another thought: “My reality is free from all forms of negativity”.
Try this simple method and see how easily you can neutralize any negativity with just the power of your positive thought!
Tip 5: Be grateful
Always be grateful when you meet negative people. First of all, be grateful for the life lessons they teach you: compassion, patience, unconditional love. And, secondly, be grateful for their subconscious choice to use you as a source of unconditional love. Be grateful for their trust! After all, this means that at an energy level you really radiate vibrations of love. And they felt it! That’s why subconsciously they came to you.
Let’s be conscious of facing negative people! It is not necessary to interact with them, to prove something to them or to encourage them to love and be kind. Just try to keep track of your feelings and emotions, and do not pull the negativity into yourself. Radiate love, compassion, and kindness instead.