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No matter how positive, happy, loving and compassionate we are, each of us has had moments when people have tried to stir our emotions, to offend, to hurt or to humiliate us. And sometimes, unbeknownst to us, negative people involve us in an invisible swamp of negativity and pessimism. Admit it, sometimes it happens!

In our era of digital technology and social networking, meeting with negative people is almost inevitable. You can post something very positive on your social media page, hoping to provide some inspiration for your followers. But next thing you know somebody is pouring verbal dirt on you and your inspirational post. This is how all good intentions and positivity get destroyed.

You may ask: “What do they want from me? Why can’t they just leave me alone? Why do they need to push all this negativity on me?”. The answer is obvious – they need your energy. All negative people, in essence, are energy vampires. By stirring the negative emotions within you they are feeding off your energy. And the most absurd thing is that you, yourself, give them your energy.

Personally, I constantly face various forms of negativity. People try to make me upset, hurt me or just try to prove I’m wrong. That’s why I’m going to share with you five tips that I follow when I encounter negative people.

Tip 1: Don’t take on any negativity. Until you accept it, it belongs to whoever brought it.

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The first thing to understand is that when we respond to any form of negativity, we always lose energy. In other words, we “voluntarily” give it to the offender. Think about it – do you really want it? It is best to totally ignore any manifestations of negativity put towards you.

Many people, once they hear negativity, seek to explain or to prove something to the offender. But this behavior is the result of the over-activity of the Ego. Ego always forces us to prove something to someone, it always wants to win the dispute. But these kinds of actions will never lead to anything good.  That’s why when you face negative people, give up the fight, give up the desire to prove something. Energetically you vibrate at different frequencies, so any of your arguments will not be accepted. Just keep it in mind.

Tip 2: Find compassion

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You have to realize that the person who spews out negativity does it not because he or she is evil or bad, but because he or she is overflowing with these negative emotions. He or she became so negative not because they are experiencing such a good life. His or her negative behavior is a result of suffering, self-torture, self-loathing and lack of love.

Negative people spill out onto others what they are overflowing – NEGATIVITY.

Any person who tries to offend another is deeply unhappy. And the only feeling this kind of person has to evoke is sincere compassion. It’s not easy for me even to imagine how much resentment you must have to begin offending; how much you need to hate yourself to start pouring out your hate onto others. Keep in mind – the way we treat others is a reflection of how we treat ourselves.

Tip 3: Forgive and let them go

“Hatred has never stopped hatred. Only love stops hate. This is the eternal law.” 

~ Gautama Buddha

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Always try to forgive your offenders. Resentment doesn’t lead to anything good. Moreover, resentment is often the main cause of cancer. Why torment yourself with resentment? When we focus on resentment, we live in the past. Resentment draws energy from us and prevents us from moving freely through life. That’s why it’s so important to forgive and let go. Free yourself from the past and move towards your happy future.

Tip 4: Start sharing

It may seem strange but when you meet negative people it is a signal that it’s time to share. You need to start giving (sharing) what your abuser so desperately needs. Of course, I’m talking about love. You have to understand that only a person who wasn’t loved enough, and who doesn’t love himself, is capable of negative actions.

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That’s why I’m asking you to give your love to your oppressors and with all your heart wish them well. Remember that it’s only offended people who are trying to offend. Happy people always want to make others happy. A happy person has no envy, no anger, no hatred.

When a person hurts us it is a sign that he is deeply unhappy.
Happy people don’t throw out the negativity.
They just don’t have it inside.

When I encounter negative people, I understand that my job is to give this person what he is seeking – love. And the more negativity he sends my way, the more love I sent to him in response.

Of course, there is no need to talk about love with negative people. Obviously, their egos can’t admit that they are really offended and unloved. I never try to annoy them or to communicate with them personally. I share my love by simply focusing my attention on the thought: “I bless you with my love!”. Sometimes I repeat this thought 100 times.

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To accept my love or not is the choice of every person. But at least I respond to evil with love and thus neutralize it for myself.

Once I bless a person with my love I usually express my intention to transmute any manifestation of negativity into an illusion. After that, I focus my attention on another thought: “My reality is free from all forms of negativity”.

Try this simple method and see how easily you can neutralize any negativity with just the power of your positive thought!

Tip 5: Be grateful

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Always be grateful when you meet negative people. First of all, be grateful for the life lessons they teach you: compassion, patience, unconditional love. And, secondly, be grateful for their subconscious choice to use you as a source of unconditional love. Be grateful for their trust! After all, this means that at an energy level you really radiate vibrations of love. And they felt it! That’s why subconsciously they came to you.

Conclusion

Let’s be conscious of facing negative people! It is not necessary to interact with them, to prove something to them or to encourage them to love and be kind. Just try to keep track of your feelings and emotions, and do not pull the negativity into yourself. Radiate love, compassion, and kindness instead.


Katya Ki is the Founder and Editor-In-Chief of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Feng Shui Master, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

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Abundance Haircuts In April: Good And Bad Days To Cut Your Hair

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Abundance Haircuts is a little-known sutra that reveals negative consequences of cutting your hair on the bad days and incredible benefits of cutting it on the good days. Bad and good days for this sutra are based on the Tibetan Calendar. Dates of Abundance Haircuts are calculated according to extremely complex formulas by experienced Feng Shui Masters. Naturally, each year, depending on the stars and their position, these days change.

Most people in the Western world have never heard about abundance haircuts. While for Eastern people it’s not a new practice. In this article, I will share with you this powerful sutra and give you a special calendar for abundance haircuts in April with good and bad days for haircuts. Unfortunately, most of the world is dealing with a global pandemic called Covid 19 or Coronavirus. Picking your next hair salon appointment is most likely not an option for most this month but if you are able to have a family member or roommate trim your hair – only choose good days for abundance haircuts in April!

Why Is Hair So Important?

Since ancient times, people have given hair and any manipulation of it a sacred meaning. It was thought, that through one’s hair people can connect with the Universe. Hair serves as “antennas” and “guides” between our world and the world of Heaven. And so far this knowledge has not lost its relevance. Hair connects us with Higher forces, cosmic energy, God, Higher consciousness. By connecting through the hair to the Cosmos, a person is fed by the energies of Abundance and Health.

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There were many beliefs associated with hair, some of them have survived to the present day. For example: in any case, you should not get a haircut by yourself, as in this case there is a deformation of your energy field, which can lead to poor health. It is also not recommended to get a haircut on the days of a lunar or solar Eclipse: the hair can suffer, weaken, lose shine and volume.

What Are “Abundance Haircuts”?

It has long been known that there are days when it is especially favorable to cut hair. Among these days there are days of “Abundance haircuts.”

Abundance haircuts is a special ritual to attract abundance flows into your life. It is good to say special affirmations and mantras for abundance and prosperity on this day. So you will strengthen the ritual haircut and make it a more effective and efficient force.

On this day it would be beneficial to chant the Lakshmi mantra:

OM HREEM SHREEM LAKSHMI BYO NAMAHA

Or Ganesh mantra:

OM SHRI GANESHAYA NAMAHA

It is also very beneficial to say positive affirmations like:

  • I deserve to be abundantly happy and healthy!
  • My abundance is constantly growing!
  • I always have money for everything I need!
  • Money comes to me easily and fast!
  • I’m grateful for my abundant life!

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Somatic Narcissist: A Detailed Guide to Identify One

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Narcissistic behavior is a disorder that manifests in many ways. For a somatic narcissist, it is all about physical appearance. If you’ve met someone whose self-love is more about how he looks, he might be a somatic narcissist. In this guide, we want to explore how somatic narcissist functions. More so, we’ll share with you 7 key signs to look out for when you are interacting with a somatic narcissist. Let’s get to it!

Categories of Narcissists

Psychologists classify narcissists into three categories:

  1. a cerebral narcissist;
  2. a sexual narcissist;
  3. a somatic narcissist.

Now, a cerebral narcissist will want to assert his values on you based on his superior view of his intellect.

In contrast, a sexual narcissist sees his sexual prowess domineering over everyone.

However, a somatic narcissist will want you to acknowledge his worth based on his physical appearance. We are discussing these types today.

The Typical Somatic Narcissist

Have you ever met persons obsessed with the finer details of their appearances? They will spend hours in front of the mirror each day to prepare for the day. If it is a woman, she will talk endlessly about her hair, latest beauty treatment, or clothes. For men, they tend to spend lots of time and money at the gym to achieve and maintain the body image they want.

7 Tell-Tale Signs That You Are Dealing With a Somatic Narcissist

#1: Appearance Comes First

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A somatic narcissist will spend an unreasonable amount of time and money to get the perfect body image they want. For example, they prefer exotic dining and designer wear. They will also pay hefty subscriptions to join a premium fitness club. Such persons will also spend most of their income on cosmetic surgery, trying to correct their looks.

On the same note, a somatic narcissist will always find fault in other people’s appearances. For example, they will make nasty jokes about an obese person. Alternatively, they make it their business to follow up and set unrealistic standards for others.

Do you know those persons who give unsolicited advice on how to dress up around them? Well, it gets worse when a somatic narcissist leads a team. He will try and impose his eating and fitness habits on to the other team members.  It does not matter whether such practices will suit the team or not.

#2: They Have No Intimate Sexual Relationship

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Sex partners are often mere objects of pleasure to a somatic narcissist. For, they view the sexual act as a means to conquer the other. Hence, they will seduce and have several partners at the same time.  In turn, they validate their view of themselves by feeling sexually desirable to multiple partners. Yet, they will not show any emotional involvement in the relationships. It is their way to conquer and move on to the next target without getting hurt in the process.

#3: They Are Self-Centered

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Like other narcissists, a somatic narcissist always thinks about his interests above those around him. For example, when you excel as a team, he will want to take credit for the feat. A typical somatic narcissist shows no empathy for those around him. Instead, this single relation will further drain the emotions of anyone near him.

#4: A Sadistic Sense Of Pleasure

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Does your partner find pleasure in bringing you down? Then, you could be dealing with a somatic narcissist. Some somatic narcissists enjoy hurting others to gratify themselves. Take, for example, your boss scolding you for your executive image around customers. It only means that he sees you as a threat to his ego. In turn, he will give you unfounded punishments to try to discourage you from looking superior before him.

#5: They Will Not Accept Negative Criticism

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A somatic narcissist is never the type to receive negative criticism without putting up a fight. His self-righteous image of himself makes him get aggressive when probed for his flawed works. In response, such a person can become abusive or violent to deny responsibility for his actions. They do this to avoid any humiliation and emptiness for accepting that they are in the wrong. To spot this sign in a somatic narcissist, try taking part in an exercise that will conflict with their interest. If he overreacts or behaves irrationally, then that’s your proof right there.

#6: Their Needs Come First

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A typical somatic narcissist will appear to you as a charming and charismatic person. Hence, they will quickly draw you to associate with them. In fact, the more you give them your attention and approval, the more they want you in their lives. Yet, as time passes by, you notice how they always give their needs a priority above everyone else’s needs. When you stop feeding their narcissist needs, they immediately start losing interest in you.

#7: They Are Master Manipulators

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Does your partner or colleague manipulate your emotions to get what he wants from you? You know, they lie about something to twist your reality. In addition, what they say is the opposite of what they do. Moreover, they always want to make you feel guilty of something so that you can give in to their demands.

If you have someone who lies and is still playing a victim, he is a master manipulator. Somatic narcissists, too tend to use the gaslighting technique to get what they want. For example, if they wake up in a bad mood, they will try to attribute it to you. In turn, they get you to pity them and try to make up to them.

In Conclusion – Why Is It Important To Know A Somatic Narcissist?

A somatic narcissist can make you lose your self-esteem since they always try to point out your physical flaws. Their craving for approval can leave you scarred emotionally. It is how they make themselves look superior. Yet their appeal is never skin-deep. Hence, by understanding the somatic narcissist, you can come up with ways to protect yourself from getting hurt. For example, take your time to know the person before committing to a serious sexual relationship. Plus, it would help if you insisted on treating one another fairly.


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Been Told You’re Too Shy? You Might Be an Introverted Empath

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In general, empaths handle everyday challenges in different ways. They internalize both the negative and positive vibes around them as their own. While it is hectic to live as an introverted empath, did you know that most of the empaths are indeed introverts? Yes, the virtues that empaths portray go hand in hand with introverts. Still, we have plenty of empaths who are extroverts. Then, how can you know if you are an introverted empath? Here are the telltale signs!

8 Sighs You Might Be an Introverted Empath

#1: They Lack Social Skills

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An empath who is an introvert is often said to be shy. In real sense, it is an absence of necessary social skills. Think about it. If you are an empath, how many times does an opportunity present itself to interact with others? Do you tend to withdraw to a comfort zone away from the crowds? Then, you could be an introverted empath.

For example, most introverted empaths will find it challenging to go on dates. They get anxious thinking of what the other person will say or think about them. And, if in a relationship, they struggle to express their romantic feelings. Other social skills lacking in introverted empaths include the inability to solve conflicts and poor listening skills.

#2: They Prefer A Solitude Lifestyle

An introverted empath prefers to be alone most times. They struggle to fit into the pre-set social norms. Even so, interacting in social gatherings feels like living a lie. For example, do you know of persons who always complain that they are lonely? Yet, given a chance, they ignore anyone trying to befriend them?

They always feel crowded. The constant interaction with others overwhelms them. Hence, if you find yourself feeling out of place or always faking a lifestyle to fit into other’s expectations, you could be an introverted empath.

#3: They Avoid Being the Center of Attention

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Are you an empath who dreads networking? Would you avoid any opportunity that will put you in the spotlight? It could be you are an introverted empath who finds it impossible to fake a friendship. Such networking sessions demand that you make small talk and be friendly to all. It gets complicated when the empath’s intuition urges him/her to stay away from certain toxic persons.

An introverted empath in a leadership position must come up with ways to cope. That is, the empath should minimize the time spent in meetings and social gatherings. Also, a daily meditation routine will help overcome the anxiety of being the center of attention.

#4: They Never Offer Help

Here is the thing: an introverted empath will feel the pain and suffering of those around him. More so, he wants to help them feel better. But this kind of empath will never offer help unless you ask for it. Yes, to them, they feel like trespassing when they get involved in other people’s lives. In contrast, they need help to help others.

What can you do to help those in need when you are an introverted empath? Try and visualize the impact of your help to the needy person. As you debate whether to help or not, keep the self-talk positive. Then, practice getting out of your comfort zone.

#5: Crowds and Noise Are Too Suffocating

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Most introverted empaths hate being in shopping malls, open markets, beaches, or concerts. Such areas are draining to them. In turn, they often have to look for a quiet place to recharge their energies. For example, a simple ride in a public bus feels like an eternity to this empath. Yet, if you ask them why they think this way, they can’t explain it. It is the same case when in a place with strange odors.

#6: They Rarely Talk

Introverted empaths are quiet persons. Yet, their minds are exploding with conversations they would want to have with those around them. Even when they choose to speak, they find it hard to say precisely what’s on their minds.

And, replying to others in conversations is a battle of choosing the right words to appear relevant. In turn, such persons hardly engage in small talks.

Researchers say that introverted empath’s solitude lifestyle contributes to him not able to hold small talks. They fear being judged or misinterpreted by others. Hence, most times, such a person is the observer in the group.

#7: Obsession with Self-Improvement

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Usually, an empath knows that his surrounding affects his emotions more like a curse than a blessing. Hence, being an introvert, he will try to make sure he makes the right decisions that are good for him. An introverted empath feels like perfection is an illusion that is too high to achieve.

It is this obsession to be right that makes an introverted empath always to want to improve himself. Only that, he seeks self-improvement so that he can please the other person, not for his benefit.

#8: They Are Their Worst Enemies

Now, when you sum up how an introverted empath behaves, his actions hurt him the most. For example, he has conflicting feelings of wanting to help and being too shy to do so. In turn, he moves around feeling guilty for not lending a helping hand.

In addition, the introverted empath will put himself down for his shortcomings. He even questions whether he is a true friend to his close circle. Yet, he assumes all his achievements, some of which are extraordinary.

Final Note: How Can You Thrive as An Introverted Empath?

Do the above telltale signs describe your personality? Then, you must find ways to live a healthy and fulfilling life in this fast-paced society. Do you struggle with anxiety and depression? Instead of wallowing in an addiction, seek help. Professional counselors and psychologists can assist you to overcome your self-doubt.

Does your introvert nature attract narcissists and energy vampires? Learn how to identify one. These toxic people take advantage of an empath’s vulnerable state to benefit themselves.

Finally, is your self-care routine all about those around you? It is time to heal yourself! Know that you can only be helpful to others when your mind and body are healthy.


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