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How To Forgive Someone Who Has Deeply Hurt You

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Each of us, regardless of age and life experience, have been hurt by other people. Sometimes it’s easy to forgive and let go of your resentment. But there are situations that hurt us so deeply that we can’t let go of the pain that takes away our energy and inner peace. If you feel hurt and think that it’s definitely not easy for you to forgive someone who has caused you pain then this article can be helpful. I’ll share with you how to forgive by using different effective techniques for letting go of your resentment.

Why Do We Need to Forgive?

Before I start going into different forgiveness techniques I want you to have a clear understanding of why you need to forgive. Often, I hear people saying: “Why do I need to forgive if the person who hurt me never even apologized?”. And this is a good question! By answering this question I want to give you a list of very serious reasons why you need to learn how to forgive.

10 Reasons Why We Need to Learn How to Forgive

#1 Forgiveness allows us to take responsibility for our own happiness

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Everything that we attract into our lives is just a reflection of our inner world. Our thoughts and actions create our environment. The law of attraction teaches us that we always attract what we radiate.

When we radiate anger and resentment (even on the subconscious level), we make our way, also filled with anger and resentment. Our feelings and emotions are the building blocks for our future.

In other words, if you feel negative emotions towards someone, eventually you will attract these kinds of emotions towards you. Therefore, focusing on something negative will always bring more negativity in your life.

#2 Forgiveness helps us to develop

Family members, husbands, wives, friends, bosses, etc. — all come into our lives so we can learn more about ourselves. Other people are a reflection of our hidden selves. Each person that you meet is a teacher who has come into your life with a special mission – to show you your hidden blocks or to teach you to forgive, to love, to be more compassionate or patient.

By thanking people for being part of your journey and teaching you invaluable life lessons, you will take a huge step toward expanding your consciousness.

If you have a “broken heart” after breaking up with your partner, forgiveness will help you to avoid repeating this unpleasant scenario in the future. If you learn how to forgive the betrayal from your beloved and all the pain he/she caused then you learn that karmic lesson and will never repeat it again in your future relationship. By going through lesson after lesson, you will expand your consciousness that will allow you to avoid repeating the same unpleasant experience over and over again.

#3 Forgiveness helps us stop being the victim

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When you learn how to forgive and be grateful for your karmic lessons, you will finally stop being the victim. Each of us has the gift of creating our own reality. However, you can’t be both – the victim and the Master of your life. When you blame someone else for your problems, when you have resentment towards someone, when you’re angry and mad, you automatically give the other person control of your life and thus choose the role of the victim.

Therefore, if you want to build your life according to your own rules, if you want to choose your destiny and be the Creator of your own reality, then you need to take responsibility for every situation that happens in your world. Instead of blaming others, take a closer look at yourself, your subconscious fears and insecurities, your blocked emotions and feelings. You need to learn your “dark side” and find out what hidden parts of you attracted certain scenarios and people’s behaviors.

Only through self-knowledge can you stop being a victim and become responsible for your own life.

#4 Forgiveness helps us to understand that most people do their best

Treat other people with understanding and empathy. Their actions may be incomprehensible to you, but most people do their best according to their level of awareness and understanding of their surroundings.

#5 Forgiveness helps to be forgiven

We are all human beings and capable of making mistakes. And deep down, we all hope for forgiveness for ourselves. When we forgive others for their actions and the pain they caused us, we create the space in which our wrong actions (conscious or unconscious) against other people will also be forgiven.

The law of attraction works in the way that if we give something, eventually, we will get it back. So, if you offer somebody your forgiveness, eventually, when you need it most, you will be forgiven too.

#6 Forgiveness helps to take control of ego and pride

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Most spiritual teachers would agree with me saying that ego and pride are the biggest obstacles on your spiritual path. It’s extremely difficult to take control of them. Therefore, most spiritual traditions have an endless number of practices helping to gain that control.

However, the most effective lesson that life can give you to test your ego is to put you into the situation when you’re deeply hurt. The whole situation of feeling resentment is a wonderful life lesson that helps you to destroy your ego and pride. You see, if you have too much pride you will never be able to forgive. Forgiveness takes compassion, love, and empathy which are opposite to ego and pride.

#7 Forgiveness creates space for new relationships

By forgiving and letting go, we create a space that we can fill with new people, relationships, and feelings.

#8 Forgiveness removes the separation

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When we have resentment towards someone we create a life that makes us feel like we are not safe. Subconsciously, we feel that we are not protected, insecure, that something bad can happen at any moment. You see, resentment creates disconnection that leads to a conflict with the Universe. Our entire Universe is built on the oneness. And any separation that happens in the macro or micro-world leads to a disaster.

Resentment is an act of separation in our 3D world. Oppositely, forgiveness itself is an act of reuniting and of recognition of oneness with all people and the world we live in.

#9 Resentment can cause cancer

A huge body of evidence has connected cancer with emotional health, and specifically to high-stress levels, a chronic feeling of resentment (suppressed anger) to cancer.

“Extremely low anger scores have been noted in numerous studies of patients with cancer. Such low scores suggest suppression, repression, or restraint of anger. There is evidence to show that suppressed anger can be a precursor to the development of cancer, and also a factor in its progression after diagnosis” [source].

“Extreme suppression of anger was the most commonly identified characteristic of 160 breast cancer patients who were given a detailed psychological interview and self-administered questionnaire” [source]

#10 Forgiveness keeps us away from hurting others

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Have you heard the saying: “Hurt people hurt people”? We all are capable of hurting others as long as we have resentment. Only people that deeply hurt can reflect their pain on others. You see, you always give people what you’re made of. If you are made of love, you will radiate love, and people around you become more loving. But if you hold resentment, you spread the pain that caused it, and people around you will eventually become victims of your destructive pain. Usually, it is our families, friends and the closest people that suffer from our suppressed anger.

Therefore, if you want the people you love to be happy, give them a gift of forgiveness.

5 Spiritual Tools For Forgiveness

#1 Prayer

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Regardless of whether you belong to any religion or not, prayer is a very powerful spiritual tool to forgive someone.

For performing forgiveness prayer, imagine the offender mentally and repeatedly say the following words:

“With gratitude, love and Divine help, I forgive you (name) and accept you for who you are completely.

I apologize to you (Name) for provoking you with my thoughts or actions (conscious or unconscious) to hurt me. I also apologize to you (Name) for negative emotions, thoughts, and actions towards you.

I’m grateful for the karmic lesson that I learned with your help. I’m grateful for your assistance on my spiritual journey.

I’m taking full responsibility for this situation and letting you go!”

#2 Meditation

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Find a comfortable place where no one will disturb you. Close your eyes, relax.

Once you are completely relaxed, imagine that you are in a darkened theater hall. There is a small stage in front of you. Now visualize the person you want to forgive.

When you see this person clearly, imagine that something good is happening to him/her, something that is of great importance to this person. Visualize this person smiling and happy. Hold this image in your mind for a few minutes, and then let it disappear.

Now visualize yourself on that stage. Imagine that something good happened to you. Imagine yourself happy and smiling.

Now concentrate on the idea that there are enough good things in the Universe for all of us. When you feel that your concentration is going away, finish the meditation.

This exercise dissolves the dark clouds of accumulated resentment. Some will find this exercise very difficult. However, consistent practice will make this meditation easier and easier. Do this meditation once a day for a month and see how much easier your life will become.

#3 Making a List

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Write on a piece of paper the names of all the people you think have ever hurt you. Next to each person’s name, write what they did to you and what you resent them for.

Then close your eyes, relax, and one by one visualize each person. Hold a small conversation with each of them and explain to them that in the past you felt anger or resentment towards them, but now intend to do everything in your power to forgive them for everything. Give them your blessing and say: “I forgive you and let you go. Be happy.”

When you are done with this process, write on that piece of paper, “Now I forgive and let you all go”. Burn that piece of paper as a symbol that you are freed from these experiences of the past.

#4 Karmic Relationship Healing Practice

It is a very powerful practice that is aimed at the liberation from negative energy cords to a particular person. I would say that this is the most effective way to heal yourself from resentment and any negative emotions towards other people. To learn more about this practice read my article “Karmic Relationship Healing: Effective Practice To Let Your Past Go!”.

The Bottom Line

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Representatives of different religions, as well as numerous psychologists and spiritual teachers, talk about the importance of forgiveness. They all agree on one thing – if the offender appeared in your life, there is a reason for it. This means that for some reason we need to go through this difficult and painful lesson, just for learning how to love and forgive regardless of circumstances.


Katya Ki is the Founder of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics, cosmology, and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

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How To Cultivate Peace During Uncertain Times: 7 Helpful Tips

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Our entire world has shifted in the last few months and life as we know it has taken a drastic turn. We have all been quarantined in our homes, mandated to keep physical distances from all people and our entire worlds have been turned up-side-down. There’s no doubt that we are living in very fragile times. We as a species are being called to awaken as one collective family and currently, many of us are overcome with fear, stress, high-level anxiety, illness, depression, and feelings of deep despair and hopelessness.

This is why I wanted to share some inspiring, uplifting, and practical things you can incorporate into your daily lives to navigate these challenging times. We should be diligent in our self-care practices, making sure we are tending to our mental, physical and spiritual health.

7 Tips On How To Cultivate Peace During Uncertain Times

Tip #1: ALLOWANCE

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It can be easy to numb ourselves out with television, news, movies, substances, and constantly searching for distractions so that we don’t have to feel our discomfort. This is why tip number one is all about allowing yourself to feel what’s coming up and pushing through to the other side.

Feeling through our emotions can be scary, confusing, and overwhelming. It is an innate response to avoid uncomfortable feelings or situations. We will do anything to avoid being uncomfortable. We forget that our feelings are not who we are, but mere signposts to guide us and give direct messages.

We tend to judge how we’re feeling and then allow that to define our ability to transmute fear, pain, anger, depression, and frustration. We forget that our feelings and emotions are always in flux and that in every moment there’s always an opportunity to change course, to re-direct, to shift perspective, and to heal.

It’s vital that we allow our feelings and emotions the space to be seen, heard, and felt and this comes from us. By allowing our feelings, the severity and longevity of those feelings tend to be less. We must first be able to exercise allowance and compassion for ourselves, in order to be able to fully receive it from others.

When we practice allowing time and space for processing our emotions, we are able to recalibrate our energy and find our center with more ease and grace.

This is a skill that requires patience, practice, and diligence.

As you learn to allow and honor your feelings, you will see how they flow and you will recognize that your self-compassion muscle is getting stronger.

Do not allow your feelings to define you. Our true nature as humans is to feel and our emotions are determined by a multitude of physical, environmental and spiritual factors. We have to take this into consideration when we are assessing and processing our way through difficult times.

So the goal here is to allow your feelings to come to the surface and take time to sit with them, becoming the observer of them, without judgment. When you do this you will notice that your ability to move through them will greatly improve.

Tip #2: CREATE ROUTINES AND RITUALS

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It’s important to create healthy routines and to have intentions, goals, and a direction in your daily life. Create at-home activities that you enjoy.

When you wake up, instead of scrolling through your social media feeds, try to sit in silence for a bit. Give reverence to the new day ahead of you and take the time to express your gratitude. Have a warm beverage in the morning, do some stretches, and set your intentions on how you would like to see your day flow.

If you are working from home, set up a clean organized space to work, filled with things that make your heart warm. If you are not working from home and you have the entire day to move through, make sure you aren’t just sitting around idle for long periods of time and try to moderate your technology usage, whether it be TV, tablets, laptops, video games, etc. Find time to go outside even if it’s for small walks. Fresh air and nature are essentials.

It’s easy to fall into laziness. Know the difference between resting and moderating your downtime. Strive for balance in all things.

Set aside time and presence for spending time with family and friends, whether it be with the people within your home, or if you are alone during this time, make sure you are reaching out via video to people you love.

If you find yourself without others to connect with, there are so many lovely online ways to connect with like-minded individuals across the globe.

Take up a new hobby, work on unfinished projects; home makeovers are a wonderful way to stay busy and simultaneously create more comfort and beauty in your existing environment.

Spring has sprung! It’s the perfect time to start a garden, or just add some potted plants to your space. Plants add so much aesthetics to the environment and give you something to nurture and care for.

Check-in with yourself each morning before you do anything. How is your body feeling? How is your mood? How does your spirit feel? Then proceed to send blessings and gratitude to your body, even if you aren’t feeling well. Your body is listening to every thought you have and responds accordingly, so remember to be kind and gentle.

Set some intentions and small achievable goals to reach for the day. By doing these things you are taking control of your own presence and awareness, co-creating in the experiences that you want to have, instead of being absent and unconsciously allowing things to just fall where they may. You have the power to cultivate the kind of life you desire to live.

Our experiences are dictated by our ability to shift our consciousness. By focusing on nurturing our hearts to be open, with the intention of uplifting not just ourselves, but everyone around us, we allow for the fullness of our existence to come forward. Even and especially in, trying times.

Tip #3: POWER OF PRAYER

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It does NOT matter if you’re religious, or if you aren’t inclined toward developing your spirituality. You can use your own intention and heartfelt desires and send them out into the world. You don’t need to follow any certain religious sect to do this. Intention itself has very powerful effects. It’s the energy behind what you’re sending out that matters and has power.

When we take time to focus on our intentions, with gratitude for what we have and with love in our hearts, they can be directed to individuals, specific geographic locations, situations, or whatever is the focus of the intention. Remember, we are pure ENERGY that cannot be destroyed, only transferred. You have the power to place your intention and energy where you choose.

Do not let any disbelief in a higher power keep you from using YOUR OWN energy to send love and healing to those you love and care for.

Sometimes we get lost in the arguments and disagreements about what we feel or think GOD/Source/Universe/Cosmos is and we forget that all of that energy resides within our being and that we individually have the ability to bless and heal on a global scale.

A prayerful mind is a powerful mind. Prayer does not have to look a certain way. Create what feels comfortable for you and spend some time being present with yourself. I promise you will feel uplifted and nurtured.

We have to exercise getting out of our own egos and allowing our hearts to be open. Practice humbling your ego so that you can listen to your heart. Prayer by definition is “a solemn request or expression of thanks, an earnest hope or wish”. My prayer for you reading this is, that your heart will be filled with inspiration and hope for humanity and every living being on the planet.

Tip #4: FOSTER OR ADOPT AN ANIMAL TO LOVE

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It is a great time to bring a furry friend into the family. Animals are filled with unconditional love and often are very powerful healers. Most animals make great companions.

If you live alone, I highly suggest going to your local humane society and/or animal shelter to find the perfect addition to your family.

If you aren’t able to keep them permanently, then you can foster until a permanent home becomes available. Be careful, though, as you will likely fall head over heels in love with your new friend and not want to let them go. True companionship and connection can be really difficult to come by.

When you care for, nurture and love an animal, they return that love with an innocence and purity that few humans can express. The dynamic between an animal and a human in my humble opinion is one of the most heartfelt connections you can experience.

I make this suggestion with a disclaimer, that if you are not fully prepared, financially stable, or if you are easily annoyed or impatient, then fostering or adoption should not be on your radar. Make the commitment with the full understanding that animals are precious in every way and deserve a present, loving, and capable caretaker.

Tip #5: GET CONNECTED TO AN ONLINE COMMUNITY

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The online community is full of an amazing amount of very valuable, conscious, and loving individuals that can offer their healing abilities and are ready, willing, and waiting to work with you on your healing journey. There are extremely affordable options available, with a multitude of varying modalities offered, depending on the area of expertise you require. You don’t have to suffer in silence and/or be alone with fear, stress, and anxiety.

Tap into a community that you can rely on for an ongoing support system. I have found that receiving healing reiki energy remotely has been highly effective in assisting clearing and removing subconscious blocks, as well as tremendously aiding in healing familial relationships. Sometimes we struggle trying to identify our own blockages, our point of view can become subjective to our current personal circumstances. By consulting and working with an adept that you trust, you gain an objective point of view which can assist with processing things that may not have been seen or been addressed by ourselves, without the help of counsel. Strive to be open to all of the avenues of assistance that are available to you.

Online mental, emotional, and spiritual development support in the last 5 years looks vastly different than it once was. People are more accessible than ever before, the advancements in technology allow us to connect with others from all over the world, there are no borders or boundaries to prevent us from connecting in with others.

There are also many different areas of healing support that have evolved past the typical western model. Western medicine has its function, though if we allow ourselves to be open to exploring, researching, and learning for ourselves, there is also a vast knowledge of ways to heal that aren’t within the range of Western Medicine.

If you struggle with motivation, taking action, being accountable, or just getting inspired, there are many different types of motivational and empowerment coaches ready to help you train your way to make healthy life shifts that you possibly could not have done alone.

Make sure that your social media feeds are filled with positivity, compassionate messages, and creative content that keeps you inspired. Mindlessly scrolling through, getting into online negative conversations, and reading through other toxic waste is a huge energy leakage and a big waste of time. Make sure that you are feeding yourself powerful, impactful messages that impart positive heartfelt responses.

Pay attention to your energy when you scroll through pages of content. Check-in with yourself, ask yourself, do you feel drained? Sad? Angry? Upset? hopeless? If so don’t be afraid to unfollow or unsubscribe to content that’s harming or intruding on your peace, even if it’s a close friend or family member. Remember you are allowed to remove yourself from any entanglements that aren’t serving your highest good.

One of the awesome things about being online is that you get to create and choose what content you follow and consume, so why not fill it with things that inspire, uplift, empower, and motivate you?

Tip #6: MAKE A COMMITMENT TO NURTURE AND GROW

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This is the perfect time to make a commitment to health! Whenever we take even the smallest step towards health and well-being for ourselves it creates more peace and love in our life.

There exists now an amazing opportunity to invest in ourselves, to re-evaluate, to reflect, to reconcile, and to reboot. When have we ever had this opportunity for self-reflection?

It’s never happened in my lifetime and although these times can be filled with extreme fear and stress, this can also be the biggest blessing in disguise. Once any fear or anxiety is transmuted, this could be the ultimate opportunity to step into a higher octave in our lives. This can be what your body, mind, and soul have hungered for. The total reset. We can use this time to learn how to be still, to take a step back and gain newer perspectives.

To take inventory of our lives and see where there could be some adjustments. This is the perfect time to really listen to our hearts and redirect our paths to better serve ourselves and all those around us. This is a wonderful time to strengthen our ability to sit with discomfort and allow it to pass, giving you more trust and confidence in your abilities. Growing in the knowledge that “this too shall pass”.

Tough times come to evolve us, to show us our resiliency, we have no idea what we are made of until we actually have to go through it. We as a collective are being called to pay attention and clean our physical, energetic, and spiritual bodies.

This is the time we have been given to tap in and start the process. Wherever you are on your journey this time can serve you and humanity to the fullest. We must choose our healing and our health.

We can learn to surrender and trust as opposed to ignore and resist.

Tip #7: CREATE WAYS TO GIVE BACK

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This is a powerful tip! Some of you may be thinking, “I’m so tired and I barely have time, energy, or resources to help myself, let alone others”.

What if I told you the smallest acts of kindness are free and most often have the most impact?

Yes, it is true that we must first help ourselves in order to help others. By sharing your gifts of kindness and compassion you heal and create more peace for all parties involved, including yourself.

When we are helping others from our heart space we are raising our own vibration and thus have even more energy to serve with. There’s a time of servitude and a time for rest. A time for work and a time for play. It’s all about balance.

When we serve with an attitude of gratitude, (I know, so cliche!;) the magic that unfolds is truly remarkable. We all know that feeling of being able to help someone in need and no kind deed is ever wasted. Now more than ever we have opportunities as conscious communities to come together and create new ways of being and supporting one another.

We can create models that are inspiring examples for others to create their own. We are being called to see past our differences and unite, to serve one another as we move through this paradigm shift. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. It’s up to us to cultivate peace and love for the planet and as uncertain as times are, I, more than ever, have faith that we can create peace and love for all sentient beings. We are all in this together. Yes, with very different narratives and experiences, though that should not keep us from being supportive, compassionate, and loving with one another.

We can give back in a multitude of ways. Something as simple as a smile to a passerby, or writing a big check to pay someone’s rent for a month, if you’re able, delivering a meal to the sick and shut-in, or surprising a friend with a Venmo treat to a cup of coffee.

My point is that we can serve in any given moment by sending energetic support, financial support, emotional support, physical support in large or small ways. Every deed matters and is valuable. The key is to discern when and where you can give freely from your heart.

The Bottom Line

If I can leave everyone with one thing out of these seven, it is the importance of your self-care. The more you learn to nurture your soul by feeding yourself positive energy, community support, connection with your god-self/higher self, clean whole foods, exercise, time on activities that bring you joy, exposure to whatever nature you have access to, meditation/prayer and compassion for your journey, the more peace you will cultivate.

I hope you find this article helpful and useful. But mostly I hope you are able to cultivate your own peace.


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Jobs for Empaths: The Good and Not-so-good

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Are you an empath? What kind of job did you choose for your career? Is it satisfying? Empaths are super sensitive to the environments and people working around them. Hence, not all job positions are ideal for them. Yes, they absorb energy, feel, and uniquely interpret emotions. Thus, what they choose as their career paths can either drain or be their way to self-realization. Then, what are the right or wrong jobs for empaths? Well, this article is a detailed list!

The Ideal Working Condition

Empaths thrive in working conditions that are less stressful. Hence, an ideal work environment will feature the following:

1. Job Roles With Clear Schedules And Timelines

An empath works best when he set limits on his interactions with others. That way, he can know how to protect his spiritual, mental, and physical well-being. For example, working on demanding tasks with set deadlines forms a sense of safety for the empath. They know that the demanding schedule is only temporary.

2. Small is Better

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A smaller company with fewer people to interact with will be easier for an empath to manage. In contrast, large organizations with many levels of reporting can overwhelm an empath.  Hence, opt for jobs that need you to be self-reliant. Make use of the internet to be part of a bigger team in the comfort of your home or private space.

3. Self-Employment

A self-employed empath chooses his work schedule, including where to set up his office. That way, he can create a functional workspace away from the noise and crowds that can drain his positive energy. If you find it hard to deal with coworkers or demanding bosses, why not set up a private practice.

Then, here are typical jobs for empaths:

1. A Writer

Did you know that empaths make some of the best writers in the world? Yes, think of Judith Orloff, who writes books and posts to empower the empath. Or, Sydney Campos whose writing is about a holistic approach to a healthy lifestyle.

So, if you know how to express yourself with words, consider becoming a writer. It’s a chance to channel your unspoken thoughts through words. Tell stories that will impact others. You can start with a blog. Or, you can be a freelance writer for a magazine in your local community. Better still, become an established author.

2. An Artist

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Are you a creative empath? Why not become an artist? An empath’s mind generates many innovative ideas. Yet, they tend to be introverted, shying away from public avenue to showcase their talents. Art provides the perfect platform to channel all these ideas to the rest of the world. For example, singer Joss Stone is a Grammy award-winning artist who is also an empath. She’s a highly sensitive person who owns some of the top-selling albums in the world.

3. Nurses and CareGivers

The nursing profession calls for someone who can empathize with those in pain. And, an empath will fit into this job naturally. For, they sense when one is in pain and offer help beyond their call of duty.

However, the hospital set up is a volatile environment that drains an empath. As an empath, make use of your rare gift by providing the best care for the sick away from a hospital setup. That is, pick a caregiver job at a nursing home or homecare unit near you. That way, you can do what you love in a calmer environment.

4. A Therapist

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Therapists generally assist persons in dealing with emotional disturbances. Hence, they listen, understand, and guide patients through their treatment. Indeed, mental illnesses are equally as debilitating as physical ones. Then, why not open a private practice as a psychologist or a life coach? Here, you can work with one or small groups of patients in setting new life goals to change their lifestyles.

5. A Hypnotist/Mind Reader

Hypnotism is an excellent technique that prepares an individual for healing. Mind readers and therapists use it to get their subjects to a state that is conducive to reprogram the mind, especially if the patient may be struggling with a painful past.

A hypnotist will assist the person to relax. In turn, he will evoke the subconscious mind to accept a new positive reality. Hence, an empath’s selfless traits are great for a hypnotist. For he will not take advantage of the vulnerable state of the subject. Instead, he will choose a safe treatment to ensure the patient overcomes the negative energy.

Are There Bad Jobs For Empaths?

If you are a highly sensitive person, you want to keep off from jobs that will have an emotional strain on you. However, note that different types of empaths can tolerate such environments differently. Hence, there are no particular bad jobs for empaths. Still, here is a list of job posts you may want to avoid as an empath:

A Veterinarian

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Do you find dealing with worried pet owners, sick pets, and emergency responses too taxing for you? Then, becoming a vet is not an ideal job for you.  

Now, most empaths are pet lovers. More so, they feel at home connecting with nature and wildlife. Yet, a veterinarian’s typical day involves responding to animals in distress. He may be able to save some animals, while others may never recover.

Teaching

The teaching profession is attractive to an empath who has a strong desire to help and impact others. However, there is constant contact with many people all day. Even the short lunch breaks and changes of lessons are full of people interacting.  You also want to catch up on marking assignments and preparing for the next lesson. Moreover, a teacher must be in his/her best mood all the time. Such jobs for empaths can feel exhausting.

Thus, if you feel inclined to impact others through teaching, you should consider one-on-one tutoring or online classes. They are less draining, with ample breaks between. Besides, you get lots of satisfaction seeing your students succeed. 

Final Note

From the above discussion, it is clear that there are no apparent good or bad jobs for empaths. Instead, people should know what they love to do and weigh it against how much pressure they can tolerate. For example, any empath can choose teaching or a vet job and excel in it. Yet, some empaths find reading other peoples’ minds too absorbing for them. Therefore, exercise prudence as you settle for the right career path. And, trust your instincts. If you feel you do not fit in a particular role, be open to explore others. 


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5 Signs That You Got Stuck In Your Comfort Zone

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Your comfort zone is a situation in which you feel comfortable and you don’t have to do anything new or difficult. We all have a comfort zone, but it’s essential to step outside it, challenge yourself, and deal with life in order to grow, transition, and transform. Stepping outside of your comfort zone is key to discovering your passion, accomplishing your goals, and finding happiness.

In this article, I want to share with you 5 signs that you might be stuck in your comfort zone.

Safe but Dangerous Place

You may think that your comfort zone is not a bad place to be, right? I mean, you’re comfortable, so you must be happy?

If only it worked out that way. Unfortunately, the longer you stay within your comfort zone, the less happy you tend to be.

When we are stuck in our comfort zone, we’re willing to stay in a situation that doesn’t make us happy, for fear that the discomfort we’ll feel by stepping outside of our current circumstances will be greater than the discontent we feel now, however unfulfilled we are.

I see a comfort zone as some kind of energy swamp. You may feel like it’s a nice and warm place but in fact, you’re drowning deeper and deeper in that swamp. Very soon you won’t be able to see or hear anything new and exciting, you will stop feeling happiness and joy. The trick with an energy swamp is you’re drowning slowly but surely. And the more comfortable you feel in there the harder it will be to get out. In order to get out of that swamp, you have to start moving!

We all need to learn how to catch the moment when we start drowning in order to start acting. The signs below will help you to diagnose your current situation and so you can begin moving out of your comfort zone.

5 Signs That You Got Stuck In Your Comfort Zone

1. You Don’t Study

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If you think that the time to study has passed when you graduated from school or college then you are definitely in the comfort zone. You have difficulty and reluctance to understand new information especially if it seems complicated or unfamiliar. You have no desire to spend your time and energy on educating yourself on something you don’t understand. You often feel skeptical of unusual and fresh ideas.

If you want to become the person who controls his/her life and creates his/her reality around him you need to make studying a part of your daily routine. Just pick the subject you are curious about but you always felt like it’s too complicated and start learning about it a little bit every day. You can choose a foreign language and start learning five words of phrases every day. Or you can sign for a course. It will boost your intellect, train your memory and will push you out of your comfort zone.

2. You Live the Same Day Over And Over Again

“Don’t live the same day over and over again and call that a life. Life is about evolving mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.” ― Germany Kent

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Do you feel like your today does not differ from yesterday, and your tomorrow will not differ from today? You either don’t believe that something can be changed or, most likely, you are afraid of a change.

If you want to make your life exciting, happy, and joyful you have to start making changes. Despite your fears and discomfort, you need to get out of the energy swamp.

You don’t have to make big changes right away. Even making one change at a time will make a difference in your life. Move slowly but surely.

Start small. For example, start making your coffee differently every morning. Don’t drink the same kind of coffee every morning. Be creative! Or take an alternative route to work. Eat at a new lunch spot. Choose something new from the menu. If you normally go to the gym every morning and work out with the weights, one day a week try to go to yoga class. In other words, come up with something new every day. Change your day up and then big changes will follow!

3. You Don’t Meet New People

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If your environment hasn’t changed in recent months or even years, and you haven’t made any new friends, this is another sign that you are stuck in a comfort zone.

To push yourself out of your comfort zone start doing small things like this daily:

  • initiate a small conversation with a stranger at the gym/yoga class/coffee shop;
  • sit next to someone new at a meeting;
  • make internet-friends with people from other countries (it’s a great way to practice the foreign language you’re learning!);
  • attent social events more often;
  • start traveling alone (it’s easier to make new friends when you travel alone rather than when you’re always surrounded by your old friends);
  • start conversations on social media.

You can easily come up with your own different ways of meeting new people. Each day gives us plenty of opportunities for this! All we need to do is just to catch them!

4. Low Energy/ Lack of Inspiration

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Staying in the comfort zone leads to a lack of goals and inspiration. You see, when our energy level decreases, the desire to create and inspiration disappears. We can’t be creative, inspired and excited about life if we don’t have enough energy.

The energy swamp acts like an energy vampire sucking the energy out of you. That’s why staying in your comfort zone is so dangerous!

It may feel like you have no energy for making any changes in your life. This may lead to the fact that you can get used to destructive conditions such as co-dependent relationships, poor living conditions, and a disdainful attitude to your health and appearance. Even if you think you want to change something you feel like you have no energy and will power for doing this.

Again, try to start small. Make an honest list of what you want to change. Do you want to get healthier? Do you want a romantic relationship that lifts you up? Do you want to be loved and respected? Start with something small! Don’t try to make major changes all at once.

If you want to get healthier, replace your chicken sandwich with a green salad, your soda with herbal tea, your movie night with work out, etc. Pick one thing at a time and turn it into a habit.

If you want to be loved and appreciated by your partner start practicing self-love. Don’t try to convince yourself that you love yourself. It doesn’t work this way. Try to do small self-rituals every day and watch what will happen!

Here are some articles that you may find helpful on your self-love journey:

5 Simple Steps To Boost Your Self-Love

Self-Love Affirmations That Really Work!!

6 Daily Self-Love Practices You Can Start Today

5. The Belief That All Your Problems Will Be Solved By Someone Else

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Of course, we should always believe that the universe will take care of us and lead us in the right direction. However, if you are stuck in your comfort zone you are not willing to take the steps in the direction the Universe is trying to guide you. It may already be sending you signs, opportunities, and the shortest ways to solve your problems and fulfill your desires. But in order to receive help and guidance from the Universe, you need to be open and ready for changes.

You may think that you always pay attention to the signs from the Universe however your problems are still unsolved and you don’t understand clearly the path you need to take. You see, usually, the Universe guides us to the path that lies outside our comfort zone. And in order to see it, we need to look for it beyond our fears and doubts.


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