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How To Forgive Someone Who Has Deeply Hurt You

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Each of us, regardless of age and life experience, have been hurt by other people. Sometimes it’s easy to forgive and let go of your resentment. But there are situations that hurt us so deeply that we can’t let go of the pain that takes away our energy and inner peace. If you feel hurt and think that it’s definitely not easy for you to forgive someone who has caused you pain then this article can be helpful. I’ll share with you how to forgive by using different effective techniques for letting go of your resentment.

Why Do We Need to Forgive?

Before I start going into different forgiveness techniques I want you to have a clear understanding of why you need to forgive. Often, I hear people saying: “Why do I need to forgive if the person who hurt me never even apologized?”. And this is a good question! By answering this question I want to give you a list of very serious reasons why you need to learn how to forgive.

10 Reasons Why We Need to Learn How to Forgive

#1 Forgiveness allows us to take responsibility for our own happiness

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Everything that we attract into our lives is just a reflection of our inner world. Our thoughts and actions create our environment. The law of attraction teaches us that we always attract what we radiate.

When we radiate anger and resentment (even on the subconscious level), we make our way, also filled with anger and resentment. Our feelings and emotions are the building blocks for our future.

In other words, if you feel negative emotions towards someone, eventually you will attract these kinds of emotions towards you. Therefore, focusing on something negative will always bring more negativity in your life.

#2 Forgiveness helps us to develop

Family members, husbands, wives, friends, bosses, etc. — all come into our lives so we can learn more about ourselves. Other people are a reflection of our hidden selves. Each person that you meet is a teacher who has come into your life with a special mission – to show you your hidden blocks or to teach you to forgive, to love, to be more compassionate or patient.

By thanking people for being part of your journey and teaching you invaluable life lessons, you will take a huge step toward expanding your consciousness.

If you have a “broken heart” after breaking up with your partner, forgiveness will help you to avoid repeating this unpleasant scenario in the future. If you learn how to forgive the betrayal from your beloved and all the pain he/she caused then you learn that karmic lesson and will never repeat it again in your future relationship. By going through lesson after lesson, you will expand your consciousness that will allow you to avoid repeating the same unpleasant experience over and over again.

#3 Forgiveness helps us stop being the victim

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When you learn how to forgive and be grateful for your karmic lessons, you will finally stop being the victim. Each of us has the gift of creating our own reality. However, you can’t be both – the victim and the Master of your life. When you blame someone else for your problems, when you have resentment towards someone, when you’re angry and mad, you automatically give the other person control of your life and thus choose the role of the victim.

Therefore, if you want to build your life according to your own rules, if you want to choose your destiny and be the Creator of your own reality, then you need to take responsibility for every situation that happens in your world. Instead of blaming others, take a closer look at yourself, your subconscious fears and insecurities, your blocked emotions and feelings. You need to learn your “dark side” and find out what hidden parts of you attracted certain scenarios and people’s behaviors.

Only through self-knowledge can you stop being a victim and become responsible for your own life.

#4 Forgiveness helps us to understand that most people do their best

Treat other people with understanding and empathy. Their actions may be incomprehensible to you, but most people do their best according to their level of awareness and understanding of their surroundings.

#5 Forgiveness helps to be forgiven

We are all human beings and capable of making mistakes. And deep down, we all hope for forgiveness for ourselves. When we forgive others for their actions and the pain they caused us, we create the space in which our wrong actions (conscious or unconscious) against other people will also be forgiven.

The law of attraction works in the way that if we give something, eventually, we will get it back. So, if you offer somebody your forgiveness, eventually, when you need it most, you will be forgiven too.

#6 Forgiveness helps to take control of ego and pride

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Most spiritual teachers would agree with me saying that ego and pride are the biggest obstacles on your spiritual path. It’s extremely difficult to take control of them. Therefore, most spiritual traditions have an endless number of practices helping to gain that control.

However, the most effective lesson that life can give you to test your ego is to put you into the situation when you’re deeply hurt. The whole situation of feeling resentment is a wonderful life lesson that helps you to destroy your ego and pride. You see, if you have too much pride you will never be able to forgive. Forgiveness takes compassion, love, and empathy which are opposite to ego and pride.

#7 Forgiveness creates space for new relationships

By forgiving and letting go, we create a space that we can fill with new people, relationships, and feelings.

#8 Forgiveness removes the separation

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When we have resentment towards someone we create a life that makes us feel like we are not safe. Subconsciously, we feel that we are not protected, insecure, that something bad can happen at any moment. You see, resentment creates disconnection that leads to a conflict with the Universe. Our entire Universe is built on the oneness. And any separation that happens in the macro or micro-world leads to a disaster.

Resentment is an act of separation in our 3D world. Oppositely, forgiveness itself is an act of reuniting and of recognition of oneness with all people and the world we live in.

#9 Resentment can cause cancer

A huge body of evidence has connected cancer with emotional health, and specifically to high-stress levels, a chronic feeling of resentment (suppressed anger) to cancer.

“Extremely low anger scores have been noted in numerous studies of patients with cancer. Such low scores suggest suppression, repression, or restraint of anger. There is evidence to show that suppressed anger can be a precursor to the development of cancer, and also a factor in its progression after diagnosis” [source].

“Extreme suppression of anger was the most commonly identified characteristic of 160 breast cancer patients who were given a detailed psychological interview and self-administered questionnaire” [source]

#10 Forgiveness keeps us away from hurting others

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Have you heard the saying: “Hurt people hurt people”? We all are capable of hurting others as long as we have resentment. Only people that deeply hurt can reflect their pain on others. You see, you always give people what you’re made of. If you are made of love, you will radiate love, and people around you become more loving. But if you hold resentment, you spread the pain that caused it, and people around you will eventually become victims of your destructive pain. Usually, it is our families, friends and the closest people that suffer from our suppressed anger.

Therefore, if you want the people you love to be happy, give them a gift of forgiveness.

5 Spiritual Tools For Forgiveness

#1 Prayer

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Regardless of whether you belong to any religion or not, prayer is a very powerful spiritual tool to forgive someone.

For performing forgiveness prayer, imagine the offender mentally and repeatedly say the following words:

“With gratitude, love and Divine help, I forgive you (name) and accept you for who you are completely.

I apologize to you (Name) for provoking you with my thoughts or actions (conscious or unconscious) to hurt me. I also apologize to you (Name) for negative emotions, thoughts, and actions towards you.

I’m grateful for the karmic lesson that I learned with your help. I’m grateful for your assistance on my spiritual journey.

I’m taking full responsibility for this situation and letting you go!”

#2 Meditation

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Find a comfortable place where no one will disturb you. Close your eyes, relax.

Once you are completely relaxed, imagine that you are in a darkened theater hall. There is a small stage in front of you. Now visualize the person you want to forgive.

When you see this person clearly, imagine that something good is happening to him/her, something that is of great importance to this person. Visualize this person smiling and happy. Hold this image in your mind for a few minutes, and then let it disappear.

Now visualize yourself on that stage. Imagine that something good happened to you. Imagine yourself happy and smiling.

Now concentrate on the idea that there are enough good things in the Universe for all of us. When you feel that your concentration is going away, finish the meditation.

This exercise dissolves the dark clouds of accumulated resentment. Some will find this exercise very difficult. However, consistent practice will make this meditation easier and easier. Do this meditation once a day for a month and see how much easier your life will become.

#3 Making a List

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Write on a piece of paper the names of all the people you think have ever hurt you. Next to each person’s name, write what they did to you and what you resent them for.

Then close your eyes, relax, and one by one visualize each person. Hold a small conversation with each of them and explain to them that in the past you felt anger or resentment towards them, but now intend to do everything in your power to forgive them for everything. Give them your blessing and say: “I forgive you and let you go. Be happy.”

When you are done with this process, write on that piece of paper, “Now I forgive and let you all go”. Burn that piece of paper as a symbol that you are freed from these experiences of the past.

#4 Karmic Relationship Healing Practice

It is a very powerful practice that is aimed at the liberation from negative energy cords to a particular person. I would say that this is the most effective way to heal yourself from resentment and any negative emotions towards other people. To learn more about this practice read my article “Karmic Relationship Healing: Effective Practice To Let Your Past Go!”.

The Bottom Line

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Representatives of different religions, as well as numerous psychologists and spiritual teachers, talk about the importance of forgiveness. They all agree on one thing – if the offender appeared in your life, there is a reason for it. This means that for some reason we need to go through this difficult and painful lesson, just for learning how to love and forgive regardless of circumstances.

Katya Ki is the Founder and Editor-In-Chief of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Feng Shui Master, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

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Astral Projection Guide For Beginners

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Astral projection can serve as a wonderful tool for your spiritual journey. However, there are certain things you need to know about it before you even start trying to practice it. In this article, I want to share with you an astral projection guide that can help you better understand astral projection and learn some helpful tips on how to start your astral journey!

What Is Astral Projection?

Astral projection is an “out-of-body” state in which consciousness moves from a dense physical body to a less dense astral plane. In this case, human consciousness controls the situation and sees the surrounding reality, including observation of his physical body.

Astral projection is inextricably connected to lucid dreaming. These two phenomenons have similarities and, at the same time, big differences.

Lucid dreaming is the self-realization in a dream. In other words, lucid dreaming is an altered state of consciousness in which you are aware that you are dreaming and can control the content of the dream in one way or another. This is a kind of borderline state between REM sleep and wakefulness.

Astral projection (or astral travel) is an intentional out-of-body experience that assumes the existence of a soul or consciousness called an “astral body” that is separate from the physical body and capable of traveling outside it throughout the universe.

Astral projection is a person’s wanderings in the external world but lucid dreaming is rather a journey within his/her own subconscious.

Lucid dreaming, as well as the astral projection, are fraught with dangers. However, the level of seriousness of the danger is different. For example, sometimes lucid dreaming is accompanied by nightmares, without bringing real harm. At the same time, during astral travel, you can face quite dangerous astral entities that can cling to your astral body bringing a lot of trouble.

What Is An Astral Body?

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Between your spiritual and physical body, there is an intermediate body known as the astral body. It is lighter, less dense, and more changeable than the physical body. The astral body is in most cases recognizable, as is the human form, but it can also change appearance, shapes, and do fun things like moving through walls.

What Is The Astral Plane?

The astral plane is one of several (most often, seven or twelve) planes of existence, along with physical, etheric, causal, and mental. Although humans function within all these dimensions at once, they are usually only conscious of the physical plane. The astral plane is the level beyond the physical, the realm of dreams, spirits, and psychic phenomena, the substance, and vehicle for the contact between the material and the mystical.

While it is usually referred to in the singular as the astral plane, there are actually many different levels of it. Within the astral plane, there are numerous densities and vibrations, commonly divided into the lower, middle, and higher planes. Each of these planes is associated with a distinctive sound and color. After death, people are thought to shed their physical bodies and exist in the astral plane in astral bodies resembling their previous physical ones. From there, they may ascend to a higher plane of existence and/or be reincarnated in a different physical form.

Astral Travel In Astral World

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The Astral world is much less dense and more liquid than the physical. Travel in the astral is not bound by the limitations of time and space. You can visit different dimensions, as well as make a journey to the past or future of your experience. For many people, these trips allow communicating with deceased loved ones.

The astral planes range from the ordinary to the phantasmagoric and the Divine.

Is Astral Projection Dangerous?

There are some risks you should be aware of when practice astral traveling!

#1 Improper grounding

The very first thing you should learn is how to ground yourself before making an exit into astral projection. To learn more about grounding, read my article “Earth Grounding Techniques Everyone Should Use“.

#2 Astral Addiction

Once you master the astral projection skill, you will always have a desire to do it all the time. The more you astral project the more you want to stay in the astral. It can turn into a real addiction. And the problem is that your material life will start to suffer. Therefore, you should always try to find a healthy balance!

#3 Exhaustion

It is quite common to feel exhausted after returning from astral travel. Especially strongly it affects beginners. Therefore, it is very important to let yourself rest and sleep after your astral travel.

Astral Projection Guide

It’s better to start practicing astral projection in the morning, instead of doing it at night. Start in the early hours in the morning when you are still sleepy. Some say it is easier to achieve the necessary state of relaxation and heightened awareness at dawn.

Step 1: Relaxation

This is the most important step in the astral projection guide!

You basically need to relax every single part of your physical body and your mind. In other words, you need to create a synthesis of physical and psychological relaxation. Breathing exercises (pranayama) can help you with it.

With each breath, relax one of the muscles of your body, starting with the legs. Try to breathe deeply. A slow inhale fills the stomach and lungs and helps your muscles to relax. Then exhale slowly.

Step 2: Reaching The Edge Of Sleep

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In psychology, this state is known as hypnagogic. Hypnagogia is the experience of the transitional state from wakefulness to sleep: the hypnagogic state of consciousness, during the onset of sleep. In this state, the presence of auditory, visual, tactile and logical hallucinations, as well as sleep paralysis, is possible.

To achieve this state, lie down on the floor or on a hard bed as if going to sleep. Arms bend at the elbows and keep upright with emphasis on the elbows. When you suddenly begin to fall asleep, your hand will fall and you will wake up. With practice, you can learn to control the hypnagogic state.

There is another method to get into a hypnagogic state. You need to relax and focus on any object. Gradually your mind will start to consume different thoughts. These thoughts will become more and more uncontrollable. Finally, your consciousness will step back and stop controlling your thoughts. This means, that you’re entering a hypnagogic state. Try not to strain. Allow yourself to be in this state.

Look at all the visions passively with no logic being involved. Don’t try to move thoughts in the right direction. Your goal is to maintain a passive state of sleep. It is known as the “alpha sleep” phase (or State A). This is the necessary step before you do a stable astral projection.

Step 3: Deepening Controlled Sleep

The next step of the astral projection guide is to start clearing your mind, purifying your thoughts and mental body. You can observe your mental body on a mental level through closed eyes. Try to mentally embrace your mental field. In the beginning, don’t do anything, just mentally look at it. Your physical eyes should peer into the blackness of your closed eyelids.

After a while, light patterns will start appearing in front of your closed eyes. Observe them. Patterns appear due to relaxation and nerve discharges. They do not carry any information and do not matter. Ignore them. When the patterns stop, it means that you enter another state, which is called “State B”.

Now you should perform another transition. From “State B”, you have to get even deeper relaxation, which will be “State C”.

“State C” is the phase of deep relaxation in which you lose your awareness of the body, and feel as you’re falling as if in a warm, safe shroud. Nothing affects your senses, you do not give in to sensory stimulation. You are in a void where your only source of stimulation is your thoughts.

“State C” is the anticipation of entering the astral, but the ideal state for this is another state – “State D” which is a modified state C. It is caused by a rested and refreshed state of your body and mind. “State D” is not caused by fatigue, but is a state of complete rest and readiness to make the transition. This condition can be experienced in a natural way. For example, enter it in the morning or after a short sleep in the afternoon. Practice it for a while. Observe all your sensations.

Step 4: Vibration

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This is the second important part of the astral projection guide.

Many astral travelers have noted that such vibrations occur at the beginning of the projection. The vibrations feel like a slight tingling throughout the body, as if the electricity of a weak discharge permeates you completely and passes through the whole body.

The causes of such electrical discharges are a mystery. Perhaps this is a physical registration of the moment of leaving the astral body, that is, its exit from the physical, the moment of separation. Many of us experience similar sensations, for example, when we quickly fall asleep and suddenly feel some “shake”, a shudder of the physical body, from which we wake up.

How To Enter The Vibrational State?

Remove all jewelry or other items that touch your body, including headbands, bracelets, rings, chains.

Close the blinds on the windows for creating darkness in the room. But don’t block out all the light. Just make it dark enough.

Lie on your back. Do not cross arms and legs, lie straight. Attention: over the past year, the magnetic North has shifted towards Russia, so first specify its coordinates.

Before you begin to create an astral projection, ensure complete physical security. Warn loved ones not to disturb you, remove all possible sources of noise. You should not be disturbed by anyone or anything during the practice. Make sure there will be no noise, sudden phone calls, alarms, and other sounds.

Keep your eyes closed and step by step enter a state of complete relaxation.

Tell yourself that you will remember everything that will happen to you and your consciousness during the upcoming practice of creating an astral projection, and you will remember everything that will be useful for your experience. Repeat the intention in the formulated form three times.

Continue breathing slowly and calmly through your half-open mouth. Make sure that your jaw is relaxed.

While breathing, concentrate on the emptiness that is in front of your closed eyes.

Then start concentrating on a point 12 inches from the middle of your forehead. And then move it away, somewhere about 60 inches. Concentrate on this point again.

Rotate the point 90 degrees. Direction – up above the head along the axis of your body. Concentrate on that new point.

Mentally draw a line from the original point, which was 12 inches from the forehead, then to the remote point at 60 inches and to the new point. Imagine a new point vibrating. Start creating the same vibrations inside the body and stretch your vibrations to this point. Touch that point.

Return to your body.

The first experience will be weak, you may not even be able to understand what you experienced was vibrations. But, after the repeated performance, you will recognize the vibrations and will be able to feel them intensely.

Step 5: Vibration State Control

The next step of the astral projection guide is to learn how to control the vibrations. Mentally pass the vibrations through the head, through the whole body to the toes. Make the vibrations stay in the whole body at the same time and increase their strength. Create vibrational waves. Let the waves go from head to toe.

To create a wave effect, you need to concentrate the vibrations in your head, and then mentally push the wave down through your whole body. Practice over and over again. Your goal is to learn how to cause vibrations on command, adjust their strength and intensity.

Before you make your first astral projection, learn to control the vibrational state. When the goal is achieved, it means that you are ready for astral projection!

Step 6: Partial Separation

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The key point of this step is thought control! Your goal is to keep your mind focused on the idea of leaving the body. It is necessary to forbid thoughts to wander. Your mind must remain static. The emergence of delusional thoughts often leads to a loss of control over the situation, and this, in turn, interferes with astral projection.

After you enter the vibrational state, start exploring the OBE (out-of-body experience). Get your experience outside of bodily existence!

Before you make an astral projection, learn to control yourself outside the body, first release the astral arm or leg from your physical body. If this is difficult to do, then try to stretch the limb until it reaches a familiar object, such as the wall next to you or the headboard. Then push the limb through this object. Put it back in place by placing it back in the physical shell. After that, reduce the oscillation frequency and stop the experiment. Lie still for a while after practice. You need to fully return to your physical body, to your reality. This exercise will prepare you for the full exit of the astral body.

Step 7: Exit The Astral Body From The Physical Body

There are different methods for performing the exit of the astral body from the physical body.

Method 1: “Lifting”

The essence of this method is to lift your astral body from the physical body. To do it, you need to think that you are becoming lighter and lighter. Find lightness after entering the vibration state. Mentally move yourself to float upward. Focus on this goal and let no extraneous thoughts interrupt it. In this case, the astral projection will happen naturally.

Method 2: “Rotation”

You can apply this method only after you have entered into a vibration state. After that, try to roll over, as if you are turning over in bed over your side on your stomach. There is no need to try to turn over your physical body. This should be done by your astral body!

Try to twist your body from the top and actually flip into the astral body right out of your physical body. If everything is done correctly, then you will find yourself as if outside the body, but next to it. Mentally force yourself to go upwards. Pull yourself up to the ceiling. At this point, you should be pushed to the ceiling and find yourself floating above the physical body facing it.

Method 3: “Rope”

Imagine a rope that hangs from the ceiling right above your body. Stretch out your astral arms towards it. You may feel dizzy, it’s normal. Now take the rope and focus on climbing up the rope.

The Bottom Line

Most astral travelers explore the physical world they know during their astral projections. However, there are limitless possibilities to explore during astral projections. When you are able to project into the Higher Astral plane you can even get access to the Akashic Records.

Moreover, during your astral projections, you can travel through time and space, and even communicate with other people (and sometimes with other astral projections), astral beings, build astral worlds, etc. All you need is consistent practice and you will discover many different ways to explore the Astral plane.

Hopefully, this astral projection guide was useful for you and very soon you will be able to start your own astral journey!

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8 Incredibly Powerful Crystals For Confidence

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In this article, I will share with you the most powerful crystals for confidence, their properties, and how they can help you to build your will power, boost your self-esteem, and manifest your biggest dreams into reality!

In lithotherapy, stones are classified according to their dominant energies. It can be masculine or feminine energy (Yang or Yin). Also taken into account are the proportions of the 4 elements: Fire, Water, Air, and Earth. Based on these characteristics, you can choose the crystals for the development of particular abilities or attracting certain events to your life.

Crystals For Confidence: What Are They?

Confidence is associated with Yang energy and the elements of Fire and Earth. When crystals contain these kinds of energy in sufficient amounts, they help their owner to develop willpower, determination, and confidence.

The Most Powerful Crystals For Confidence

#1 Citrine

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Because of its shining surface and Golden hue, citrine is traditionally associated with the Sun energy. This beautiful crystal serves as a symbol of the unshakeable core of the personality. Therefore, citrine, like other minerals associated with the Sun energy, contributes to the development of confidence. Moreover, citrine is a mineral that can banish pessimistic thoughts and return the joy of life.

It is suitable for people whose self-doubt is accompanied by melancholy, excessive concern about health, various fears. It is a crystal of optimism. Citrine awakens your deeply hidden “inner child“, and makes you more open, playful, natural. And this more cheerful view of the world, in turn, has a positive impact on self-esteem.

It is best to wear citrine closer to the head. Therefore women can wear citrine earrings, and men – a pendant on a short chain.

#2 Hematite

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The name hematite comes from the Greek word “heme”, meaning blood, the essence of human life. This crystal has long been considered a talisman of courage. Medieval warriors wore hematite before important battles. This powerful crystal improves physical health.

It is perfect for those people whose self-doubt is associated with insufficient physical strength, shyness because of their own fragility. In emotional terms, hematite teaches its owner to defend their interests at all costs. Moreover, this crystal for confidence eliminates the fear of detractors and the constant search for approval from others.

#3 Garnet

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It is considered a crystal of passion and willpower. Garnet eliminates shyness and also enhances all feelings associated with sexuality and aggression. It is a crystal of self-confidence. Garnet helps to reveal creative abilities.

It is suitable for those people who suffer from doubts about their own professional or creative competence. This beautiful crystal for confidence helps to cope with the lack of support and faith in your abilities from others. With garnet as a talisman, people gain unshakable confidence in their uniqueness.

Moreover, this powerful crystal is suitable for people who find their appearance unattractive and suffer from it. In ancient times, garnet was revered as a symbol of love and loyalty. An excess of Yang energy and the element of Fire has a positive effect on the male potency. Women wearing garnet jewelry become more liberated in sensual terms.

This crystal is associated with energy centers that are located in the lower part of the body. Therefore, it’s best to wear garnet in a ring or pendant.

#4 Rhodonite

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This beautiful crystal not only increases the energy potential of its owner but also helps to spend this energy in the most constructive way. Most people that wear rhodonite notice that they become more focused and goal-oriented. They start to see clearly their mission and purpose on Earth. Moreover, rhodonite is considered a mineral of renewal and favorable life changes.

Rhodonite has the ability to purify from the negative influence of the past, painful memories, bad habits, and pessimistic thoughts.

#5 Zircon

Zircon gives the feeling of an unshakable inner core inside, which will withstand any life challenges.

If you want to boost your self-confidence then transparent zircon is most effective. It banishes fears and illusions.

This beautiful crystal is suitable for those people who are prone to excessive self-sacrifice for the sake of others. If you temporarily lost yourself in endless attempts to please others, following fashion and playing by other people’s rules, zircon can help you find a way out of this situation. This crystal protects people engaged in intellectual work. It improves concentration, productivity, develops human ingenuity, which has a positive effect on confidence and self-esteem.

#6 Obsidian

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This mineral is essentially a volcanic glass, treated in a special way. Volcanic lava is the perfect expression of the unity of the Fire and Earth elements, and obsidian is abundantly saturated with their influence.

The Fire element awakens creativity, desire to change, and reinforces will. The Earth element helps to see a concrete and practical direction.

Obsidian is a crystal with a strong energy. It is suitable for people who are used to set big goals and are not afraid of change. This powerful crystal tests the person for durability and to those who successfully pass this test, obsidian gives incredible power.

#7 Carnelian

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By activating the first three chakras, Carnelian provides a powerful boost to your confidence, willpower, and self-esteem. If you want to achieve something but have fears and doubts, the carnelian can give you the confidence and willpower to go for it. This beautiful crystal will empower you to build your dream life and reach the most unbelievable goals. With this powerful crystal, you will always feel like anything is possible and achievable!

#8 Sunstone

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This beautiful crystal activates and attunes your Sacral and Solar Plexus chakras to stimulate your creative expression and help you manifest it into physical reality.

Sunstone also promotes leadership and activates the qualities of healthy masculine energy.

Moreover, this powerful crystal for confidence helps you transform and temper negative emotions, like anger, envy or resentment. It can also help you lift your vibration to rise above negative energies that may arise along your spiritual path.

How To Use Crystals For Confidence For Your Meditations?

According to the Indian teachings on the energy structure of the human body, there are several energy centers associated with confidence. One such center is the Solar plexus chakra. This chakra is associated with willpower, determination, and leadership. Therefore, it is very beneficial to work with your Solar plexus chakra if you want to boost your confidence. For doing this, use crystals for confidence during your meditation. Simply place the selected crystal for confidence in your Solar plexus area and visualize how the crystal is balancing your Solar plexus chakra with its energy. Stay in meditation as long as you need it.

Conclusion

When choosing what crystals for confidence to buy, rely on your intuition. Hold the crystal in your hand for a few minutes and try to feel its energy. If it gets hot, it is the sign that the crystal is calling for you. A slight pulsation coming from the crystal is the sign that the vibrations of the crystal are suitable for you. Buying jewelry or crystal, it is important not to regret its cost. Emotions should only be positive.

I hope this article was helpful for you and now you can find a perfect crystal that will boost your confidence and self-esteem!

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Emotional Healing From Narcissistic Abuse: Start Living Again

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Are you starting to rebuild your self-worth after a prolonged narcissistic abuse? First, congratulations! It takes lots of courage to do so. Not all victims experience emotional healing from narcissistic abuse. Besides, unless you consciously seek emotional healing from narcissistic abuse, you can quickly turn from being a victim to a perpetrator. So, where do you start?

Call the Abuse for What It Is

The first step toward emotional healing from narcissistic abuse is to put a label to the abuse you went through. Call it out for what it is!

When you have been a victim of narcissistic abuse, acknowledge what happened, to start your healing process. Remember, narcissists will do all they can to prevent you from dealing with this hurt. Hence, the second step.

Detach Yourself from the Narcissist

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Sometimes a narcissist creates an environment that is not conducive for emotional healing. Since they see their actions as fair, they will try as much as possible to convince you that what they did to you is okay.

Moreover, as long as you are in this toxic environment, it will be almost impossible to heal from the abuse. Hence, change your surroundings.

For example, you can start by deleting their links from all your social media profiles. You can also block them from texting or calling you.

Similarly, if you can physically get away from this person, then here are a few ideas you can use:

  • First, take a weekend vacation away from an abusive partner.
  • Secondly, request for a job transfer from a narcissist boss.
  • Thirdly, switch classes to another teacher.

In other words, do all that it takes to separate yourself from the source of the abuse. 

Set Clear Boundaries

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Do you still trust the person who inflicted pain on you? How often do you make independent decisions about yourself? Narcissistic abuse often happens when one has total trust in the perpetrator.

The victim puts his/her guard down, allowing the abuser to inflict pain on them. Hence, start setting clear boundaries about what is and is not acceptable to you. Let the narcissist know when they cross these boundaries and demand a change in their behavior.

If need be, seek assistance from someone that you both trust and respect.

Detoxify

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Living with a narcissist has a long-term emotional drain on the victims. This drain is particularly hard on empaths who tend to absorb all negative energy coming their way as their own. Hence, as part of the healing process, you need to cleanse your energy and mind first.

You can achieve this through meditation, using crystals for healing, full body massage, and other relaxation techniques. Get in touch with nature and let its positive energy impact on you once again.

Forgive Yourself

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Now that you can separate yourself from the abuse and the abuser, what do we mean when we talk about emotional healing from narcissistic abuse?

Often, as a victim of narcissistic abuse, you may blame yourself for what happened to you. It’s understandable to feel that way. Still, don’t dwell too much on self-pity and hate. Note that you are an ordinary person who did all you could to protect yourself.

Since the narcissist is a natural manipulator, your efforts may not have been adequate to shield you from harm. He/she may have used your traits against you. It’s okay. It was not your fault. Hence, learn to forgive yourself.

Besides, now you know the games narcissists play. Plan not to be a victim in the future.

Take Responsibility

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Once you have acknowledged the abuse, and forgiven yourself, take responsibility for what you may have overlooked. Despite being a victim, deep down in your heart, you may have ignored that feeling that kept reminding you something was not right.

Take a step back and think of the series of events that led to the abuse. Was there anything you would have done differently? 

For example, did you feel that this is not the person you want to marry, and despite your parents’ advice against it, you still went ahead with the wedding? Or, did you cheer on the narcissist because he/she was showering you with expensive gifts?

Learn from these mistakes and promise not to do them again.

Focus on the Future

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You made it through the narcissistic abuse. Now, get back to planning your future. This step is essential in helping you detach with your painful past. Do this by dedicating quality time to self-improvement.

Dream again!

Start your day with some uplifting quotes or positive affirmations! Save up for that long summer vacation that your partner never wanted you to go. Go back to school and refresh or learn a new skill. Love yourself.

Help Others through Their Healing Process

One other way to attain emotional healing from narcissistic abuse is by helping other victims heal from their wounds. This way, you’ll get to share your experience and discuss ways of coping as a group.

Take part in group meditation and therapy sessions. Be conscious of what is happening around you and swing to action whenever you need to.

Conclusion

Emotional healing from a narcissistic abuse may seem impossible, especially if you’ve been going through it for so long that you lost touch with reality. Still, you can always start your journey to recovery even now. Start by acknowledging that you are a victim and keep off from the narcissist. I hope these tips will help you know what to do to make your healing process successful. Use these tips also to avoid a similar narcissistic abuse in the future.

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