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What Is Echoism? The Silent Response to Narcissism Explained

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3 weeks ago

July 12, 2021

If you have an active narcissistic parent, spouse, sibling, or leader figure in your life, you may find yourself losing your voice in the relationship. Your true identity is either completely stripped away, or never gets a chance to nurture and take root. In turn, you find yourself always agreeing with what the narcissistic person says. Dr. Craig Malkin, a psychologist, researcher, and author, popularized the term “Echoism” to describe this behavior.

This article will share with you what echoism is, what its signs are, and how you can recognize an echoist.

The Origin: The Greek Mythology, Echo

Before we discuss “what is echoism?” we need to understand its origin. A story is told about the Curse of Hera explaining the origin of echoism as follows: –

The Couple

Goddess Hera was the wife of Zeus. God Zeus was attracted to nymphs. He would frequent earth to have affairs with them. His escapades made Hera jealous. She was determined to catch her husband red-handed. Hence, she followed him around Mount Cithaeron, watching his every move.

The Plan

On recognizing this, Zeus came up with a plan to occupy his wife. He engaged Echo, a mountain nymph residing at Mount Cithaeron, to have long chats with Hera. That way, he would have ample time to get away and continue with his affairs unnoticed.

Still, eventually, Hera recognized what was happening. Out of fury, she cursed Echo to never speak her mind ever again. Instead, Echo would only repeat the most recently spoken words of another person.

One day, while Echo was up and about all alone in the woods, she saw and fell in love with a charming young man by the name of Narcissus. Narcissus was hunting deer in the forest and had roamed away from his colleagues. Echo followed Narcissus silently, unable to share her fondness for him. Yet soon enough, as luck would have it, Echo found an opportunity to do so.

See, Narcissus would call out to his buddies by asking, “Is anyone there?” And, Echo would use this chance to repeat the question, to catch Narcissus’ attention. Upon hearing her, Narcissus shouted, “Let’s come together.” For he thought it was his mates who had replied to him. Instead, Echo reiterated these words while racing towards Narcissist. But Narcissist rejected her, leaving her in despair.

The Ending

Later on, Narcissus would pass by a lake and catch a glimpse of himself. He fell in love and became obsessed with his image. Unable to move on, Narcissus ended up dying there, leaving Echo in desperate mourning. Eventually, Echo died too but left her voice behind.

The Lesson

In a nutshell, the above Greek mythology summarizes the events of Echo, who was the original victim of a narcissist. And isn’t this what we see happening to our society every day? Love-entanglements that lead to murder or suicide?

Echoism in the 21^st Century

Despite echoism originating centuries earlier, it is only until the year 2015 that Dr. Greg Malkin came up with the term Echoism. In his book, Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping With Narcissists, Malkin views echoism as a direct effect of being in a relationship with a narcissist. Today, psychologists observe that there are a growing number of people with echoism.

What Is Echoism?

Echoism is a new word in the world of mental health which involves people losing their sense of self as they constantly try to “prop up” those with more inflated egos in their life.

Narcissism vs. Echoism

Narcissism and echoism are two extreme behaviors on the same spectrum. On one hand, narcissists come out as selfish, show grandiosity, are in constant need of admiration, and view themselves as better than everybody else. In contrast, echoists portray the opposite of narcissism. They are always afraid of feeling special, standing out, or expressing their needs. Instead, they forfeit their interests for the sake of others.

How Does Echoism Develop?

Interestingly, the relationship between a narcissist and an echoist starts with the narcissist “rescuing” the echoist from a situation that is not good. Think of that narcissistic spouse who rescues their partner from losing their home to auctioneers. Or, it could be a narcissistic leader using their influence to secure a job for a fresh college graduate.

However, this altruistic narcissist manipulates the echoist to pay back this gesture by obliging to all their demands.

Since most echoists grow up in a narcissistic relationship, they feel they owe the narcissist. In turn, they will do and speak whatever the narcissist dictates. Narcissists love such behavior because, they get to be the center of attention.

The Signs

Now that we understand what is echoism, what are the tell-tale signs? Well, you can identify an echoist if this person: –

Is an extreme people pleaser.
Struggles to accept compliments or praise of any kind. Here, instead of saying thank you, they will reflect or ignore the compliment.
Is an excellent listener but never shares their problems with anyone. These are the persons you run to when you need to offload your problems, yet they never seem to have a bad day.
Hates being the center of attention.
Defines their identity as per what the narcissist dictates.
Is quick to take the blame when things go wrong.
Fears being seen as needy, hence, never asks for favors.
Is in constant search for validation but rarely ever gets it. Hence, this person revolves in a cycle of seeking out people to get that validation.
Tends to look for someone who will boost their self-esteem. This other person ends up putting their own needs behind the needs of the narcissist too.
Represses their feelings to support other people. They never focus on themselves or allow anyone to focus on them.
Feels the urge to give everything they have in return for affection from the narcissist. In contrast, they sacrifice their all as a way to express their love.

Echoism vs. Empathy vs. Introversion

Regrettably, many people dismiss the above signs of echoism, mistaking them for an empath or an introvert. Yet, the two are quite different. Indeed, most echoists are quite intelligent and successful persons. They may be nice and supportive but never doormats.

Moreover, a lot of echoists are capable of making independent decisions. And, should you raise an alarm about their behavior, they may even get upset. To them, this is not a big deal.

Secondly, whereas introverts like to be quiet and overthink most aspects of their lives, echoists depict introverted ways only because they learned that it is unsafe to express them.

The Bottom Line

If you are in a toxic relationship that makes you become an echoist, you ought to free yourself from it as soon as possible. For, echoism leads to unhealthy boundaries and habits that can hinder your development. Seek professional help and begin your journey of narcissistic abuse recovery.

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Feng Shui Astrology For August 2021: The Month of the Fire Monkey

Published

3 days ago

July 29, 2021

Katya Ki

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Feng Shui astrology is based on the Chinese calendar. The dates of the beginning and the end of the months are different from those generally accepted in the Gregorian calendar. According to the Chinese calendar, the seventh month of the year starts on August 8th, 2021, and ends on September 7th, 2021. Therefore, all the recommendations are given in this article will be accurate until September 7th, 2021.

Feng Shui astrology believes that each month has its unique energy and character. Therefore, each month’s energy is expressed through one of the 12 Zodiac animals and connected to one of the 5 elements.

August 2021 is the month of the Fire Monkey. In this article, I will share with you what kind of energy and events to expect in August 2021 and how to properly choose dates for different events.

Feng Shui Astrology for August 2021

The Energy of the Month of the Fire Monkey

According to the Chinese calendar, August 2021 is ruled by the Fire Monkey.

Feng Shui Astrology For August 2000 Wood Monkey Image

In Chinese mythology, the Fire Monkey is an image of the setting sun shining over a lake or other surfaces where sunlight is reflected. The Fire Monkey is very smart, witty, and creative. At the same time, the Fire Monkey is astute and hardworking, pays great attention to details, and has an amazing ability to concentrate. Under the influence of the energies of the month, people may manifest similar traits.

In Chinese metaphysics, the Fire Monkey is symbolized by “burning metal”. Therefore, in August 2021 various inflammations of the respiratory organs, lungs, and skin can occur more often. This month, it is vital to strengthen your immune system!

The fire element represents warmth, joy, fun, and optimism. However, the symbol of the month is the setting sun which symbolizes declining energy. According to the Chinese calendar, fall has already come, and the heat of the Sun is not too strong. It warms up, but not enough.

This month, it could be difficult for people to maintain an optimistic attitude and stay emotionally balanced. Therefore, there are still risks of conflicts and disharmonious relations both between individuals and in the world as a whole.

There is a high probability of sharp jumps in the stock markets. People who are actively trading should follow the news more closely so as not to miss the moments of fluctuations.

In August 2021, it is not recommended to travel in the Southeast and Southwest directions. This recommendation only applies to long-distance trips. It is ok to take a walk or move around the city or close to it in the Southeast or Southwest direction.

Auspicious Days In August 2021

August 12th and 24th, and September 5th are good dates for starting any positive affairs. Actions started on these dates will get off to a good start and have every chance of success. However, these dates are not recommended for starting a medical treatment and anything related to romantic affairs. These dates are not suitable for those born in the year of the Dog.

August 7th, 8th, and 20th, and September 1st are good dates for official openings and long-term affairs. These dates are good for signing a new agreement, getting a new job, or starting school. However, these dates are not suitable for those born in the year of the Horse.

Days With a Higher Risk of Getting Viruses And Other Contagious Diseases

August 13th and 25th – during these days it’s easier to get a disease, which is especially important at the current time. Therefore, make sure you’re being extra cautious during these days, as there is an increased risk of getting infections and viruses!

Inauspicious Days In August 2021

August 10th and 22nd, and September 3rd are unfavorable dates to start important things. They bring difficulties, obstacles, and problems.

August 15th and 27th are not suitable dates for a lot of activity, organizing important events, or starting medical treatment. But you can use these dates to complete old cases.

July 14th is a “No Wealth Day“. This date is not suitable for starting a business, making investments, or signing financial agreements.

Feng Shui Astrology For August 2021: Check Out Your Bagua Sectors

If you are new to Bagua, make sure to read my articles:

Feng Shui Bagua: 8 Aspirations

The Feng Shui Bagua Map: How to Use It?

According to Feng Shui astrology, each of the 9 sectors of your house is under the influence of a certain type of energy. This energy changes from month to month, from year to year. In this particular article, I will not be talking about the annual chart but focusing on the energy influence of the month.

Now let me share with you Feng Shui astrology for August 2021!

Center

This sector is the luckiest part of the house this month. The center sector brings wealth and prosperity in August 2021. Therefore, it’s highly recommended to spend more time in this part of your house or office. Those with open plan houses benefit from the energies of the month even more, as the lucky energies easily get spread to the whole house. Make sure you keep this sector well-lit with bright lights. Display the Celestial Water Dragon in the central part of your house to attract wealth, success, and new opportunities.

North

This sector brings creative energy to its residents. Those residing here should make use of their boosted creativity to formulate new ideas. To attract joy and happiness, display Lou Han Sitting on Dragon Tortoise in this sector.

The North sector also brings popularity and romance luck this month. If you’re looking for love, display the “Rabbit in the Moon” Love Enhancer in this sector. If you’re married and want to rejuvenate your relationship, display Dragon and Phoenix Mirrors.

Northwest

This sector brings loss and betrayal to its residents in August 2021. The energies of the month also bring the possibility of fire and illness to houses that face Northwest and occupants of the Northwest rooms. To suppress illness energies, display the Healing Deer in the Northwest sector. To protect yourself from robbery and money loss, place the Anti Robbery Plaque here.

Northeast

This sector brings illness energies to its residents. Those living in this part of the house could get sick more easily. Suppress the illness energies by displaying the Medicine Buddha and The 7 Sugata Gau here. If your bedroom is located in the Northeast sector, carry a Health Talisman throughout the month.

East

Feng Shui astrology for August promises windfalls and recognition to those residing in this part of the house. Spending more time in this sector brings completion luck, so projects and goals you start can get finished, speedily, and successfully. To activate the lucky energies of this sector, just spend more time here, play music, and switch on more lights here. Also, display the Sum-of-Ten Amulet in the East part of your house.

West

Feng Shui astrology for August 2021 promises new luck and opportunities to those residing in the West sector. If things have been difficult for you, this month promises to mark a turning point. Your career luck gets a boost and those in the positions of management find themselves making some very important decisions. Activate your success luck by displaying the Victorious Windhorse Carrying a Jewel here.

South

Feng Shui astrology for August 2021 promises a quarrelsome month to the residents of the South rooms. This sector brings disagreements, conflicts, and some stressful legal problems. To subtle quarrelsome energies, display a pair of Peace & Harmony Apples here. Try not to spend too much time here. Keep this sector as quiet as possible. Avoid chatting or using this sector as your main dining area.

Southeast

This sector brings loss and betrayal to its residents in August 2021. This is a dangerous month for investments and anything related to money. If you’re residing in the Southeast part of the house, try to avoid risky speculation and do not gamble! Donating some money or doing some charity will help you neutralize the negative energies of this sector. To protect yourself from money losses, place the Anti-Robbery Plaque with Door Guardians.

Southwest

Feng Shui astrology for August 2021 promises a dangerous month for those residing in the Southwest sector of the house! The energy of the month brings arguments, cash flow problems, obstacles, and a number of mistakes. Try to avoid spending time here and keep it inactive. Protect yourself by displaying the Five Element Pagoda with Tree of Life here.

Feng Shui Astrology For August 2021: Bonus Tip

For sectors of the home where good energy resides, it is excellent to activate with plenty of noisy activity. Have the radio, TV, or fan placed here to churn up the energy so there is a good level of noise. Also, it is very favorable to install brighter lights in these sectors. Moving the energy in these ways will encourage yang chi to manifest to your advantage.

Astrology

The Most Accurate Horoscope for August 2021

Published

4 days ago

July 28, 2021

Katya Ki

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This article will share with you the most accurate horoscope for August 2021 based on the Feng Shui flying stars chart. This horoscope includes predictions for different spheres of life and Chinese zodiac signs and very important tips for protection from negative influences of the month and the activation of positive events and good luck.

Most Accurate Horoscope Based On Chinese Zodiac Signs

I believe that the Chinese Horoscope is one of the most accurate horoscopes you can use for correcting the energy of the month in your favor. I follow its recommendations every month and it really helps me to not only attract positive events into my life but also to prevent unfortunate ones.

I often hear that if you focus on positive things in life and follow the law of attraction rules, astrology doesn’t affect you. Yes, a positive mindset is very crucial; however, according to Eastern teachings, there are three kinds of luck that affect each of us:

human luck;
earth luck;
heaven luck.

Your positive mindset is your human luck which is just 33% of your total luck score. Your heaven luck (another 33%) comes from astrology. And your earth luck (33%) depends on Feng Shui and the energy you surround yourself with.

Of course, you can rely on your human luck and believe that your positive mindset can help you overcome all the obstacles. However, let’s say something negative happened and somebody yelled at you or your husband/wife cheated on you or somebody you love died. How many of us can stay 100% calm and positive in situations like this? You see when you allow yourself to react to a negative situation in a negative way you lose your human luck. Now you can rely only on your heaven and earth luck.

Ok, now let’s take a look at your earth luck. Is your house 100% balanced? Is it 100% clean and free of blockages? Does it have all the remedies and protection from negative energy? If your answer is “no”, well, you can’t really rely on your earth luck. And now all that is left is your heaven luck that depends on astrology.

With the help of Chinese astrology, you can fix your situation, protect yourself from the negative influences of the month, and activate good luck! All you need to know is what type of energy rules the month and how to deal with it.

It can be quite dangerous to play around with the energy of the month. After reading my monthly horoscope articles, people who have started to religiously follow all of the Feng Shui recommendations noticed big improvements in their lives. Today I want to share with you these priceless recommendations for August 2021. I’m asking you to take everything you’ll read below seriously. It’s especially important to get all the protection tools for the month because they are literally life saviors!

For reading your Horoscope for August 2021, all you need to know is your Chinese zodiac sign. To do this, you just need to find your date of birth in the Hundred Year Calendar (click here)!

Horoscope For August 2021

RAT (1948, 1960, 1972, 1984, 1996, 2008, 2020)

Those born in the year of the Rat are feeling inspired this month. This is a prolific time for writers, artists, creators, and actors. Anything that requires imagination and creativity will lead you to success. Also, this is a good month for romance and attracting a new relationship. To attract love into your life, carry the Love Amulet with Moon Rabbit.

OX (1949, 1961, 1973, 1985, 1997, 2009, 2021)

Those born in the year of the Ox should beware of illness energy. In August 2021, you should take extra care of your health. Try to find time to rest and restore your energy levels. Remember that when you don’t get enough sleep. your immune system weakens making you more susceptible to all kinds of health problems. To protect your health, carry the Tortoise and Snake Health Talisman.

TIGER (1950, 1962, 1974, 1986, 1998, 2010)

Those born in the year of the Tiger are susceptible to falling sick this month. In August 2021, you may notice that the pace at work is quicker than you would like. However, try not to get overly competitive worrying about others getting ahead of you. Try to collaborate instead and ask for help if you need it. Carry the Garuda Wu Lou Health Amulet to protect your health.

RABBIT (1951, 1963, 1975, 1987, 1999, 2011)

Horoscope for August 2021 promises a lucky month to those born in the year of the Rabbit. There is a good chance to receive recognition at work. Moreover, August 2021 will bring you windfall luck – either a money bonus, a promotion, or a new contract. This is the month when it’s OK to spoil yourself and spend some month on something you really want. To activate your luck, carry the Sum-of-Ten Amulet.

DRAGON (1952, 1964, 1976, 1988, 2000, 2012)

Those born in the year of the Dragon should be extra careful this month as there is a danger of robbery, betrayals, and money loss. Make sure you take more care of personal safety. Don’t trust others too easily, even those closest to you. People may try to take advantage of you if they get a chance. The best advice for this month is to lie low and avoid any financial risks. To neutralize the negative influences of the month, carry the Kuan Kung on Horseback Anti-Betrayal Amulet and keep a Tree of Life 5 Element Pagoda close by all times.

SNAKE (1953, 1965, 1977, 1989, 2001, 2013)

Horoscope for August 2021 promises aggravating times to those born in the year of the Snake. This month, you may notice that everything that seemed to go smoothly now appears to have problems. August 2021 may also bring a real risk of money loss, robbery, and betrayals. Try to be extra careful when investing and conserve your cash. There is also an indication of danger to your personal safety, so stay alert. Try to lie low this month and avoid any risks. To protect your health, carry the Tortoise and Snake Health Talisman. Carry the Anti-Burglary Talisman Card to protect yourself against loss.

HORSE (1954, 1966, 1978, 1990, 2002, 2014)

August 2021 brings quarrels and conflict to those born in the year of the Horse. This month, you may feel more provoked and more prone to outbursts of emotions. It’s essential to keep your emotions in check this month. If not careful, you may overstep your boundaries and cause harm to your relationships with others. Display the Rooster with Crown on your desk to dissolve conflict and politicking at work.

SHEEP (1955, 1967, 1979, 1991, 2003, 2015)

Horoscope for August 2021 promises a misfortunate month full of obstacles and mishaps to those born in the year of the Sheep. August 2021 may bring you all kinds of havoc – money loss, accidents, and problems at work. There could be unexpected delays and mistakes to correct. Therefore, make sure you double-check your work before handing it in. Try to focus more on getting current work done rather than taking on new responsibilities. You could end up spreading yourself too thin and run the risk of being overworked and performing under par. To protect yourself from all kinds of mishaps, carry the 5 Element Pagoda with Tree of Life Amulet. Display Garuda Wu Lou by your bedside to protect your health and vitality.

MONKEY (1956, 1968, 1980, 1992, 2004, 2016)

Those born in the year of the Monkey are having a difficult misfortunate month. There seem to be never-ending problems to solve at work. This is the time when office politics may rear its ugly head. Your stress level is getting increased and this could lead to arguments and fights with others. Display a Rooster with a Crown on your work desk to suppress conflict at work. To protect yourself from all kinds of mishaps, carry the 5 Element Pagoda with Tree of Life Amulet.

ROOSTER (1957, 1969, 1981, 1993, 2005, 2017)

Horoscope for August 2021 promises a bright and beautiful month, bringing success and money luck. This month you will feel more confident in your leadership skills. This is a good time to show off your skills a little and attract the eye of someone who can make a big difference to your future. Seize the opportunities that come to you. This is the time to step out of your comfort zone and be courageous. To activate your fortune this month, carry the Windhorse Success Amulet.

DOG (1958, 1970, 1982, 1994, 2006, 2018)

August 2021 brings the risk of loss and betrayal to those born in the year of the Dog. It’s not recommended to attract too much attention and put money at risk this month. This is a time when it’s best to stay under the radar. Delay starting anything new and don’t trust others easily. To protect yourself from betrayals and disloyalties, carry the Kuan Kung on Horseback amulet.

BOAR (1959, 1971, 1983, 1995, 2007, 2019)

August 2021 can be a difficult time for those born in the year of the Boar. The energies of the month may bring money loss, betrayals, and robbery. This is the time when you should be especially mindful of who you invite into your inner circle. People around you can have a hidden agenda. It’s better to rely on yourself than on others this month. Additionally, your chart has an indication of the health problems this month. You may get sick or have fatigue. Therefore, it’s essential to carry the Tortoise and Snake Health Talisman to protect your health and the Anti-Burglary Talisman Card to protect yourself against loss.

Abundant Living

Abundance Haircuts In August 2021: Good And Bad Days To Cut Your Hair

Published

1 week ago

July 23, 2021

Katya Ki

Abundance Haircuts is a little-known sutra that reveals the negative consequences of cutting your hair on the bad days and the incredible benefits of cutting it on the good days. Bad and good days for this sutra are based on the Tibetan Calendar. Dates of Abundance Haircuts are calculated according to extremely complex formulas by experienced Feng Shui Masters. Naturally, each year, depending on the stars and their position, these days change.

Most people in the Western world have never heard about abundance haircuts. While for Eastern people it’s not a new practice. In this article, I will share with you this powerful sutra and give you a special calendar for abundance haircuts in August 2021 with good and bad days for haircuts. Pay attention to what day you’re picking for your next hair salon appointment – only choose good days for abundance haircuts in August 2021.

Why Is Hair So Important?

Since ancient times, people have given hair and any manipulation of it a sacred meaning. It was thought, that through one’s hair people can connect with the Universe. Hair serves as “antennas” and “guides” between our world and the world of Heaven. And so far this knowledge has not lost its relevance. Hair connects us with Higher forces, cosmic energy, God, Higher consciousness. By connecting through the hair to the Cosmos, a person is fed by the energies of Abundance and Health.

There were many beliefs associated with hair, some of them have survived to the present day. For example: in any case, you should not get a haircut by yourself, as in this case there is a deformation of your energy field, which can lead to poor health. It is also not recommended to get a haircut on the days of a lunar or solar Eclipse: the hair can suffer, weaken, lose shine, and volume.

What Are “Abundance Haircuts”?

It has long been known that there are days when it is especially favorable to cut hair. Among these days there are days of “Abundance haircuts.”

Abundance haircuts are a special ritual to attract abundance flows into your life. It is good to say abundance affirmations and mantras on this day. So you will strengthen the ritual haircut and make it a more effective and efficient force.

On this day it would be beneficial to chant the Lakshmi mantra:

OM HREEM SHREEM LAKSHMI BYO NAMAHA

Or Ganesh mantra:

OM SHRI GANESHAYA NAMAHA

It is also very beneficial to say abundance affirmations like: