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What to Expect When Dating an Empath: Empathy vs. Emotional War

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Dating an empath must pretty much be difficult. Often described as overly sensitive, empaths possess the rare gift of an ability to intuitively feel and comprehend what the next person is going through from within their frame of reference. Owing to their acute sensitivity, they are more vulnerable to getting hurt especially in relationships.

Empaths naturally react to the slightest provocations. It may be the sight of an animal in distress or the sound of a child crying in anguish or pain. The immediate surrounding thus plays a key role in determining whether they will be happy and energized or sad.

Most people are afraid of dating an empath because of their ability to see through people and tell what is really going on. They fear their partner might be over-protective or over-reactive in sensitive situations. And these fears are actually true.

How to Know If You Are Dating an Empath

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You may be unconsciously dating an empath. Below are common traits that we associate with empaths:

  • Empaths are highly sensitive people. They are overly keen about themselves and their immediate environment. Naturally, they can observe and notice things, which an ordinary person wouldn’t.
  • They possess a lot of empathy. Whatever the next person is feeling, good or bad, empaths will feel to the same scale. This is both exhausting and flourishing for them. It is exhausting if around negative energy and flourishing if surrounded by peace and love.
  • They are introverted. Crowds overwhelm Empaths. That is why they prefer one-to-one contact or small groups. They connect better with individuals than groups.
  • Empaths are very intuitive. It is practically impossible to lie to an empath. They are led by their intuition, which is right most of the time. Consequently, they can separate positive vibes from negative energy.
  • They love spending time alone. Being around people leaves them drained, and therefore, they need to constantly stay away to re-energize. This may be partly why they don’t last in intimate relationships. They have a big heart and worry more about others than themselves, which wears them out.

How to Interact with Empaths

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If you are dating an empath, there are a few adjustments you have to make. This is what relationships are about anyway, right? Initially, these changes might be tough and inconvenient, but once you adapt everything should work just fine. With time, you will realize that empaths are adorable people capable of loving and being loved just like any other person.

Give them alone time

When they stay alone from you, it is not because they don’t want you around, but rather to decompress and recharge. It is their means of self-preservation. Create a routine that encompasses breaks within the day.

Establish some physical space

This may be your bathroom, living room, or even the study area. It may seem a bit abnormal, but empaths have certain spaces that can’t be evaded at all. This requires you to compromise, but it’s a step closer towards building a stronger relationship.

Make requests, not demands

Dating an empath may be demanding. If there is something that you’d love your partner to change about themselves, there is a proper way of asking without coming out as if you are imposing. Approach them when they are decompressed and at peace and then tell them in a sensitive manner.

Do not yell at him or her. You might have arguments occasionally but you should never yell at an empath. They are very sensitive about little things and yelling may make them snap.

Take it slow

Do not rush things. It may take a little longer making adjustments but do not rush yourself or your partner. Give each other time to adapt to each other. Similarly, address a single issue at a time to avoid overwhelming them with stress. Empaths are drained drastically by sad and unpleasant situations because of their overly sensitive nature.

They are not broken – stop “fixing”

We ruin most relationships because of couples trying to ‘fix’ the other. There are those things you may not like about your partner. Try compromising and if you can’t then talk it up with him or her in a settled manner. Do not try to mold him or her into something they are not. You just have to trust your instincts and play your part well.

Be playful with your partner

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Empaths tend to be serious most of the time. Lighten up the mood by bringing out the inner child in them at times. This is healthy for both of you and your relationship.

Be honest and truthful

We often lie at times to save ourselves or to avoid disappointing our partners. It is almost impossible to lie to an empath. They always have a way of feeling the inner truth, and if they are persistent, eventually you will confess the truth. Endeavor to be open and truthful because empaths can’t handle being lied to. If issues come up, handle them in complete honesty with each other. However, don’t forget to be mindful of their feelings.

Does the future look bright?

It is important not to work too hard to make things work in a relationship that explicitly has no future. Walk out if you feel that things are hopeless for the two of you. Otherwise, such a relationship might hurt your partner or you emotionally. However, if you take your time to know your partner well, you’ll discover their loveable inner character. Besides, “nothing good comes easy”. Dating an empath has its challenges, but if well done, it is one of the most fulfilling relationships. The rest will fall in place with time.

In Conclusion

Many people confuse empaths for weak people who are nothing but scared. The opposite is true. When surrounded by positive energy they flourish into lovely creatures that are so much fun to hang around. There is no ultimate guide to loving a person, and dating an empath is an exciting experience despite all the compromises. All it takes is enough commitment from both parties and sufficient communication.

Katya Ki is the Founder of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics, cosmology, and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

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How to Attract Love in 2021: Life-Changing Feng Shui Tips

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If you’re truly serious about looking for a soulmate and want to settle down, get married and start a family, you can rejoice as 2021 may finally be your year for finding love! In this article, I will share with you life-changing Feng Shui tips on how to attract love in 2021! Also, if you’re already in a relationship, I will give you a few tips on how to protect your marriage and balance your relationship in 2021.

Feng Shui Tips On How To Attract Love In 2021

Tip #1: Enhance the East Sector

For singles, it looks to be a good year for romance as the Peach Blossom Star has flown to the East sector. East is the sector of the Rabbit who is associated with the energy of the Moon and the Moon Goddess who rules love and romantic relationships and everything related to romance.

The legend tells that if you catch the attention of the Moon Goddess, she will assist in all matters of the heart, improve relationships between those in love, and help those still looking for love.

Since Romance Star is residing in the East this year, you need to enhance the East sector, the Moon Rabbit’s home, in order to manifest love and romance. To do so display the Rabbit in the Moon in the East corner of your living space. Placing this powerful Feng Shui activator in the East will help those of you who are single to meet someone special. Also, it helps those of you who are already married to keep your relationship strong.

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Tip #2: Attract Love In 2021 By Displaying Your Peach Blossom Animal

If you want to speed things up in the area of marriage, display your Peach Blossom Animal in the appropriate location designated for your animal sign. If you don’t know your Peach Blossom Animal, use this simple Peach blossom formula to find out.

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Tip #3: Protect Your Relationship From The External Flower of Romance Star

However, all is not rosy in the area of love. Romance blossoms but does not last in 2021. Marriages and serious relationships become vulnerable in 2021. Unhappiness leads to affairs.

If you are already married, be aware of the External Flower of Romance Star in the chart which unfortunately makes all marriages vulnerable due to outside temptation. This is the year when “innocent friendships” at work may develop into something more serious and destroy a marriage.

The External Flower of the Romance Star brings betrayals and infidelity in marriages, with many outside temptations affecting those born in the years of the Rat, Rabbit, and Sheep.

To protect your marriage from third parties, display the Rabbit in the Moon in the East corner of your living space.

Also, carry the Enhancing Relationships Amulet. This amulet is a powerful protection against third party troublemakers. It prevents infidelities and improves relationships between the spouses.

Display the Marriage Happiness Ducks in the Southwest and East. This beautiful Feng Shui activator brings not just marital happiness. It lights up your life and helps you see all the beauty and good qualities in each other. These beautiful ducks also subdue inharmonious energies that cause quarrels and arguments. This is the essential symbol for the home of any married couple, as it ensures you stay happily married for a long time. It strengthens your love for one another and brings plenty of joy and good times to the marriage. 

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If you suspect that your spouse is already involved with someone, you can call on Kurukulle a powerful Goddess of love by chanting the Kurukulle mantra:

“OM KURUKULLE HRIH SOHA”

Chant it 21 times daily.

The Bottom Line

Remember that if you’re looking for love and romance that can lead to marriage, the Peach Blossom Formula is an extremely fast-acting method. Place your Peach Blossom Animal in the appropriate sector to attract your soulmate. This is also an effective way if you have been dating a long time, for you to get your partner to finally propose!

This is a good year for love! Make the most of it!

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Essential Oils For Attracting Love And Romance

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Did you know that plants have very powerful energy? The essential oils made out of plants retain this energy and are able to transfer them to your aura through the sense of smell. They are capable of strengthening and purifying your energy field. Moreover, some essential oils align your aura with the energy of love and happiness and make you more attractive. It was essential oils that were one of the secret tools that Cleopatra used to enhance her own attractiveness. In this article, we will share with you the most effective essential oils for attracting love and romance, as well as different ways to use them.

How Does It Work?

The main advantage of essential oils is their specific aroma. The aroma enters the brain through the olfactory organs and affects the pituitary gland, causing it to secrete endorphins – happiness hormones. Under their influence, people feel happier, more relaxed, calmer, and more confident.

Different essential oils have different properties. That’s why it’s very important to know the exact properties of the essential oils for attracting love so you can make the right choice!

Essential Oils For Attracting Love

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Ylang-Ylang

This essential oil is considered the most powerful aphrodisiac. It awakens sensuality, passion and energetically increases the attractiveness.

Jasmine

The scent of jasmine awakens tenderness. The sultry scent of jasmine works as an aphrodisiac for both men and women. This aroma promotes confidence and eases anxiety to create a sense of relaxation.

Ginger

This essential oil has a musky, earthy aroma. This is a truly masculine fragrance. The arousing aroma of ginger essential oil increases self-confidence and physical strength.

Cinnamon

This is the scent of love and care. It increases self-respect, ability to take care of yourself and other people, passion, and loyalty to your partner.

Patchouli

This beautiful essential oil has long been used in Indian wedding ceremonies. It relaxes and rekindles desire.

Rose

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This essential oil attracts love, brings care, and comfort. Not only does rose oil support women’s reproductive health, but the calming aroma also creates an environment of relaxation that fosters intimacy. Rose essential oil smells like a truly Royal presentation of feelings and emotions.

Nutmeg

This essential oil is one of the most popular ingredients used in love spells. And there is a good reason for that! Nutmeg essential oil attracts love like a magnet at the energy level. In addition, it stimulates a low sex drive and creates an intimate connection.

Sandalwood

This magical essential oil helps to relax, relieve tension, and creates the type of intimacy that allows you to communicate with your partner on a heart level. It soothes nerves and promotes sexuality, especially in men. 

Neroli

This is a great essential oil for boosting desire, relieving anxiety and calming the nerves.

Clary Sage

This essential oil is a powerful aphrodisiac that boosts libido.

Now let us share with you the most effective ways to use essential oils for attracting love!

5 Ways To Use Essential Oils For Attracting Love And Romance

#1 Love Bath

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One of the most pleasurable ways to use essential oils for attracting love is taking a love bath!

For making a love bath mix the essential oil with 30-50 grams bath salt then put it into the bath. You can use any essential oils for attracting love listed above, however, there are three powerful oil combinations for love baths that are known since ancient times:

Love Bath #1

  • 2 drops of bergamot essential oil
  • 2 drops of ylang-ylang essential oil
  • 2 drops of patchouli essential oil

Love Bath #2

  • 2 drops of rose essential oil
  • 2 drops of ylang-ylang essential oil
  • 1 drop of sandalwood essential oil

Love Bath #3

  • 3 drops of ylang-ylang essential oil
  • 2 drops of sandalwood essential oil
  • 3 drops of rose essential oil
  • 2 drops of Muscat essential oil

You can take a love bath alone (as a preparation for a date night) or together with your partner.

#2 Love Talisman

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To prepare it, you will need:

  • 3.5 ounces of sunflower oil
  • 10 drops of ylang-ylang essential oil
  • 3 vanilla pods
  • a small crystal (charged with your intention to attract love and romance into your life)

Pour sunflower oil into a small saucepan and add 10 drops of Ylang-ylang essential oil. Slightly heat and add 3 vanilla pods and a crystal. Bring this mixture to a boil. Then cool it and pour it into a glass bottle. Now, this bottle is your love talisman!

#3 Body Spray

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This body spray provides a deep relaxation before bedtime while helping to rekindle desire. You can use it for a romantic evening to create a sweet space, to become uplifted and adored.

Ingredients:

  • 7 drops of bergamot
  • 7 drops of lemon essential oil
  • 7 drops of patchouli essential oil
  • 3 drops of rose essential oil

Add essential oils to a 2-ounce mist bottle and fill with clean water. Replace cap and shake vigorously until well blended. To use, shake the bottle and apply 3 to 5 sprays to the body.

#4 Love Perfume

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This magical perfume works as an aphrodisiac for both men and women. The heady floral aroma promotes confidence and eases anxiety to create a sense of relaxation. Try a bit of this beautiful scent on the inside of your wrists, behind your ears, and on other pulse points.

Ingredients:

  • 4 drops of jasmine essential oil
  • 3 drops of frankincense essential oil
  • 3 drops of orange essential oil

Add the essential oils into a 10-ml roll-on applicator. Fill the tube with a carrier oil. Shake well before each use.

#5 Love Diffuser Blend

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Put some love in the air with this magical blend!

Ingredients:

  • 3 drops of ylang-ylang essential oil
  • 3 drops of orange essential oil
  • 2 drops of clary sage essential oil

Just drop these essential oils into an electric diffuser, adjusting the ratio as needed, and set it up in your bedroom.

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What Is Tantra? Demystifying The Myths

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What is tantra? Tantra in literal terms can be compared to technology. Just like we harness technology to create what we want – physical items or otherwise, tantra is leveraged to enable us to make available, an intelligence beyond our present capabilities. It is a sophisticated process of awareness, openness, and harmony. It allows you to open your heart and move the energies within your body through conscious awareness.

Demystifying Tantra

Tantra originated from India and was documented in Sanskrit texts from the 6th to about the 13th century. It was (and still is) meant to enhance the mastery of one’s energies and how to harness them. Tantra works to help us to love and understand our lives. It also creates a spiritual connection with everything that is present in our lives. And in this case, even our partners.

The nature of the human mind is such that if we can distinctly create something in our mind, the next step would be to empower that with our life energy. And if we can do that, it will become a living reality by itself. Most humans have lost this power because their minds have become restless. Their life energies are also not sufficiently organized to put them behind whatever they wish.

There are tools that we can use to harness our mind and energies to making an intelligence that surpasses our present capabilities. These tools are referred to as tantric methods. We use tantra to make things happen. Tantra methods are varied. In yoga, we refer to it as tantra yoga. In sexuality, we relate to the tantra method as tantric sex. With Tantra, you work on your mind, energies, emotions, body, and heart, collectively or separately, to achieve something.

If you’re still wondering what is tantra, we can conclude that if you are able to strengthen yourself physically such that you can accomplish arduous tasks, then that is Tantra. Similarly, tantra is when you manage to employ your energies to your heart. This makes you kind and loving to all.

Tantra and Sexuality

For most people (especially in Western countries), the mention of tantra resonates with acrobatic sexuality – hours and hours of it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy prolonged sex. However, tantra works mainly to enhance a more intimate and stronger connection with your partner.

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So, all this begs the question, what is tantra with regards to sexuality?

To answer this question, I will refer to a form of tantra called tantric sex.

Tantric sex, an ancient Hindu practice, had remained hidden from the public for ages due to religious reasons. However, it is now open to all. Tantric sex is a form of slow sex. It is designed as a way of weaving and expanding the energies at play during sex. The aim is for the whole experience to be as enjoyable and rewarding as possible.

Sexuality is potent. Its energies are some of the most intense. Tantric sex enables you to harness this energy appropriately. Instead of demanding fulfillment from your partner, tantra helps you to find it within yourself. This creates stability and harmony in relationships.

Tantra also allows couples to enjoy better sex. It provides an avenue in which they eradicate the negative emotions that work to inhibit the blossoming of relationships. In Tantra, sex isn’t a taboo or something to be ashamed of. Instead, it is sacred and an expression of our inherent ability to experience joy with others.

There are specific guidelines when performing the tantra that I apply. These guidelines are extremely useful in facilitating a bond with my partner and providing a conducive atmosphere for intimacy. In many ways, it enhances sensuality even before you initiate intercourse.

The Basic Tantric Sex Principles are:

  • Creating a sacred place for your sexual time with your partner.
  • Slowing down and being aware and present with each other.
  • Honoring your lover.
  • Emphasizing total body sexual foreplay.

Use tantric breathing exercises to channel your Kundalini. The term refers to sexual energy that stays dormant in your body until it is awakened. It then spreads from the base of your spine to the top of your head, through your Chakras (your body energy centers).

The Impacts of Tantra on Spirituality As Well As Sexual Relationships

Tantra enables you to channel your energies into achieving calmness and inner peace which are integral components of your spirituality.

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The emphasis of tantric sex on honoring your lover and taking out negative thoughts about them as well as yourself, from your mind is essential in promoting healthy relationships.

Today’s lives and hustles mean that we rarely stop and get to understand the special people in our lives. Tantra enhances connecting with your lover more intensely. This improves the bond you share with each other. You get to understand each other on a very high level. It also provides adequate closeness in your intimacy which enhances your union.

The ability to experience sexual pleasure is vital in any sexual relationship. Tantric sex enables you to harness sexual energy. The pleasurable sensations get exaggerated and experienced over long periods. After all, sex is part of being human, and enjoying it in the best way possible is essential to our wellbeing.

In tantra, we learn how to use our mind, energies, and body as instruments with which we can achieve higher possibilities. When correctly implemented, tantra enhances spiritual healing and wellness.

Tips for Spicing Up Lovemaking Based On Tantric Sex

Mental Manipulation

The key to enjoying sex lies in one’s mind. If anything the brain is the organ that processes our sensations. What this means is that any negative thoughts including misgivings about ourselves or our partners will ultimately hinder us from enjoying the experiences. You, therefore, need to shed it all and have a clear mind.

Think of it as having an intimate relationship with the best version of your partner. Release the past and immerse yourself in the now – the present. Keep it all out and focus on the experiences at hand. Focus on the nourishing thoughts about yourself, your body as well as your partner’s.

Establish and Maintain Eye Contact

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Having eye contact with your partner during sex (as well as during foreplay) is one of the best ways to connect with them. Intimacy is not just about intercourse. It is also about getting to be one with your partner. Eye contact enables you to fully immerse yourself in your sensations as well as those of your partner.

One way to start is by eye gazing. Sit across each other on the bed with no touching and merely stare into each other’s eyes for about five minutes. Essentially, it creates a deep level of connection with your partner even before you touch one another.

Meditate As You Have Sex

What I mean by this, is to picture the sensations while being fully aware of your present moment. If you tune in to your five senses, you will experience everything that you perceive at that moment. This will happen through what you see, hear, feel, smell, and taste.

The next step is to use your sexual energy to get into a state of trance. For regular sex, your sensations and the turn-on are localized in your genitals. However, with tantra, you can direct this energy to the brain, and through the rest of the body. It will get you into a profound state of consciousness.

In Conclusion

Orgasm or climaxing is usually a short-lived period of extreme pleasure. However, with tantric sex, due to the intense circulation of sexual energy, as well as the fact that you’re more in a state of trance, the orgasm leads to the entire body coming alive. Instead of being a brief experience, the body radiates these extreme pleasure sensations for hours and hours. With this, I hope the question of what is tantra has been comprehensively addressed.

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