What is tantra? Tantra in literal terms can be compared to technology. Just like we harness technology to create what we want – physical items or otherwise, tantra is leveraged to enable us to make available, an intelligence beyond our present capabilities. It is a sophisticated process of awareness, openness, and harmony. It allows you to open your heart and move the energies within your body through conscious awareness.
Tantra originated from India and was documented in Sanskrit texts from the 6th to about the 13th century. It was (and still is) meant to enhance the mastery of one’s energies and how to harness them. Tantra works to help us to love and understand our lives. It also creates a spiritual connection with everything that is present in our lives. And in this case, even our partners.
The nature of the human mind is such that if we can distinctly create something in our mind, the next step would be to empower that with our life energy. And if we can do that, it will become a living reality by itself. Most humans have lost this power because their minds have become restless. Their life energies are also not sufficiently organized to put them behind whatever they wish.
There are tools that we can use to harness our mind and energies to making an intelligence that surpasses our present capabilities. These tools are referred to as tantric methods. We use tantra to make things happen. Tantra methods are varied. In yoga, we refer to it as tantra yoga. In sexuality, we relate to the tantra method as tantric sex. With Tantra, you work on your mind, energies, emotions, body, and heart, collectively or separately, to achieve something.
If you’re still wondering what is tantra, we can conclude that if you are able to strengthen yourself physically such that you can accomplish arduous tasks, then that is Tantra. Similarly, tantra is when you manage to employ your energies to your heart. This makes you kind and loving to all.
Tantra and Sexuality
For most people (especially in Western countries), the mention of tantra resonates with acrobatic sexuality – hours and hours of it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy prolonged sex. However, tantra works mainly to enhance a more intimate and stronger connection with your partner.
So, all this begs the question, what is tantra with regards to sexuality?
To answer this question, I will refer to a form of tantra called tantric sex.
Tantric sex, an ancient Hindu practice, had remained hidden from the public for ages due to religious reasons. However, it is now open to all. Tantric sex is a form of slow sex. It is designed as a way of weaving and expanding the energies at play during sex. The aim is for the whole experience to be as enjoyable and rewarding as possible.
Sexuality is potent. Its energies are some of the most intense. Tantric sex enables you to harness this energy appropriately. Instead of demanding fulfillment from your partner, tantra helps you to find it within yourself. This creates stability and harmony in relationships.
Tantra also allows couples to enjoy better sex. It provides an avenue in which they eradicate the negative emotions that work to inhibit the blossoming of relationships. In Tantra, sex isn’t a taboo or something to be ashamed of. Instead, it is sacred and an expression of our inherent ability to experience joy with others.
There are specific guidelines when performing the tantra that I apply. These guidelines are extremely useful in facilitating a bond with my partner and providing a conducive atmosphere for intimacy. In many ways, it enhances sensuality even before you initiate intercourse.
The Basic Tantric Sex Principles are:
- Creating a sacred place for your sexual time with your partner.
- Slowing down and being aware and present with each other.
- Honoring your lover.
- Emphasizing total body sexual foreplay.
Use tantric breathing exercises to channel your Kundalini. The term refers to sexual energy that stays dormant in your body until it is awakened. It then spreads from the base of your spine to the top of your head, through your Chakras (your body energy centers).
The Impacts of Tantra on Spirituality As Well As Sexual Relationships
Tantra enables you to channel your energies into achieving calmness and inner peace which are integral components of your spirituality.
The emphasis of tantric sex on honoring your lover and taking out negative thoughts about them as well as yourself, from your mind is essential in promoting healthy relationships.
Today’s lives and hustles mean that we rarely stop and get to understand the special people in our lives. Tantra enhances connecting with your lover more intensely. This improves the bond you share with each other. You get to understand each other on a very high level. It also provides adequate closeness in your intimacy which enhances your union.
The ability to experience sexual pleasure is vital in any sexual relationship. Tantric sex enables you to harness sexual energy. The pleasurable sensations get exaggerated and experienced over long periods. After all, sex is part of being human, and enjoying it in the best way possible is essential to our wellbeing.
In tantra, we learn how to use our mind, energies, and body as instruments with which we can achieve higher possibilities. When correctly implemented, tantra enhances spiritual healing and wellness.
Tips for Spicing Up Lovemaking Based On Tantric Sex
The key to enjoying sex lies in one’s mind. If anything the brain is the organ that processes our sensations. What this means is that any negative thoughts including misgivings about ourselves or our partners will ultimately hinder us from enjoying the experiences. You, therefore, need to shed it all and have a clear mind.
Think of it as having an intimate relationship with the best version of your partner. Release the past and immerse yourself in the now – the present. Keep it all out and focus on the experiences at hand. Focus on the nourishing thoughts about yourself, your body as well as your partner’s.
Establish and Maintain Eye Contact
Having eye contact with your partner during sex (as well as during foreplay) is one of the best ways to connect with them. Intimacy is not just about intercourse. It is also about getting to be one with your partner. Eye contact enables you to fully immerse yourself in your sensations as well as those of your partner.
One way to start is by eye gazing. Sit across each other on the bed with no touching and merely stare into each other’s eyes for about five minutes. Essentially, it creates a deep level of connection with your partner even before you touch one another.
Meditate As You Have Sex
What I mean by this, is to picture the sensations while being fully aware of your present moment. If you tune in to your five senses, you will experience everything that you perceive at that moment. This will happen through what you see, hear, feel, smell, and taste.
The next step is to use your sexual energy to get into a state of trance. For regular sex, your sensations and the turn-on are localized in your genitals. However, with tantra, you can direct this energy to the brain, and through the rest of the body. It will get you into a profound state of consciousness.
Orgasm or climaxing is usually a short-lived period of extreme pleasure. However, with tantric sex, due to the intense circulation of sexual energy, as well as the fact that you’re more in a state of trance, the orgasm leads to the entire body coming alive. Instead of being a brief experience, the body radiates these extreme pleasure sensations for hours and hours. With this, I hope the question of what is tantra has been comprehensively addressed.