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Third Eye Opening Symptoms Everyone Should Know

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Usually, opening the Third Eye requires a lot of effort and practice. But sometimes its opening happens spontaneously and people may not even know that what they are experiencing is actually Third Eye opening symptoms. In this article, I want to share with you the most common Third Eye opening symptoms. Watch yourself and see if you experience any of them!

What Is the Third Eye?

According to some occult schools, the Third Eye is located inside the skull and has an egg shape. Sometimes it is described as a “Cosmic Egg” and equated to the source of all creation.

It is believed that the Third Eye activation awakens a huge force that can not only transfer you from one world to another but also create your own.

In the Hindu tradition, the Third Eye is the sixth primary chakra or energy center in the body, often referred to as the “gate of the soul”. When the Third Eye is activated, a person’s perception of other realms is enhanced and they are able to receive tremendous knowledge and wisdom.

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The Third Eye provides an opportunity to telepathically communication, see spirits and even receive messages directly from other beings. Unsurprisingly, people with an open the Third Eye are known in some cultures as “prophets”.

Helena Blavatsky, the author of the book “The Secret Doctrine” and the founder of modern theosophy, anatomically correlates the Third Eye and the pineal gland in the brain. According to the Secret Doctrine of Blavatsky, back in the days, all people had an active Third Eye, but over time, it atrophied and decreased. What’s left of it is now known as the pineal gland.

However, according to adherents of the Eastern teachings, the Third Eye can be activated. For a long time, the truth about the opening of the Third Eye was hidden, it was one of the elements of mysticism. However, over time, more and more people became interested in this topic and today the Third Eye is being studied at the academic level, not to mention the experiments in secret laboratories.

To learn more about how to activate your Third Eye read my article “Best Techniques For Your Third Eye Chakra Activation”.

Third Eye Opening Symptoms

There are different kinds of symptoms you may experience when your Third Eye is opening. You may experience them mentally or/and physically. I combined these symptoms in different groups for your convenience.

Mental Symptoms

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  • You have vivid dreams that you remember in detail. When having these dreams you realize in your dream that you’re dreaming.
  • Your creativity is expanding and emphatic and cognitive abilities are growing.
  • Orientation in any, even unfamiliar space increases several times even when your eyes are closed.
  • You can predict certain events happening to you or other people.
  • Your intuition increases and your inner voice never fails.
  • You have the ability to tell what the other person is currently thinking.
  • You can see people’s auras and their colors.

Physical Symptoms

Anyone who is working on their Third Eye activation should be aware that this is a very responsible activity, creating certain stress on your body. Therefore, after some intense exercise, you may feel a change in your physical condition. This may cause discomfort, but it indicates the Third Eye opening.

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Headache

It is usually concentrated in the anterior area of the forehead and is characterized by heaviness, increased pressure in the Third eye area. Unpleasant sensations of this kind are associated with the activity of the pineal gland, which can be initially completely atrophied, and in this case, even severe migraines may happen. After headaches, as a rule, a person is disturbed by pulsation and tingling in the forehead area.

Slight dizziness and hallucinations

These changes indicate a change in brain waves, switching to alpha frequencies instead of the usual beta frequencies. It turns out that during the day a person is in a light state of trance.

Burning between the eyebrows

In India, this symptom is considered to be the most important and indicative of the obvious Third Eye opening. To cool your Third Eye you can use sandalwood paste or any oil or cream against burns.

Goosebumps on your forehead, accompanied by the appearance of cracking sounds that emanate from the head

Increased activity of lateral vision and bright flashes under the eyelids after closing the eyes

Itching and heaviness in the palms

Depending on the process of the Third Eye opening, the feelings and symptoms may vary and depend on the degree of its activity. Very severe headaches, for example, may be complemented by a runny nose. But it can be quite dangerous when the Third Eye opening happens suddenly and causes sharp physical changes and trigger anxiety, panic, and even depression.

Usually, such symptoms indicate the hyperactivity of the Third Eye. This means that it dominates over other energy centers (chakras). In this case, it’s best to temporarily stop your Third Eye activation exercises and focus on its balancing techniques.

You should also keep in mind that the symptoms of the blocked Third Eye largely coincide with the above symptoms. This may include chronic runny nose, headaches, constant fatigue, low concentration, phobias, and panic attacks. Given this similarity, try to listen carefully to your body before and after the Third eye activation exercises.

4 Stages of Third Eye Opening

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The visions that people with an open Third Eye see may be different. Moreover, the character of the visions you have indicates the stage of your Third Eye opening at the moment.

Stage 1

The first stage is characterized by light reflections in the Third Eye area. You start seeing things in unusual lighting and with a strange color palette. Sometimes your visions can resemble hallucinations, i.e. dreams in a state of wakefulness.

This is the very first stage of the gradual functioning of the Third Eye. As for ordinary dreams, they become more logical and meaningful.

Stage 2

The second stage can be achieved only after overcoming one’s experiences of the first stage. On this stage, strange objects in your visions become more recognizable: you see known things from a different angle. There are still not quite clear, but dynamic visions.

The advantage of working with the Third Eye on this stage is that visions always give answers to the questions posed and arise at will. However, they very rarely belong to a future time; as a rule, they show the recent past or present.

Stage 3

The third stage is characterized by sharp, clear, bright and colorful visions, very close to real physical vision. But this can happen only after you experience a feeling of a flickering fire in your forehead area. This allows the image not to disappear immediately, but to gradually burn out within a minute.

At this stage, your visions appear quite suddenly and they are shine and sparkle. This is the time when you may experience very strong feelings of shock and want to jump out of your skin. It is necessary to learn how to manage these feelings and use them to prolong your visions.

Stage 4

This is the Master level that is characterized by limitless possibilities of the third eye. Visions become tangible and contain sound, taste, and aroma. Now you can clearly see the events of the future in your visions.

As a rule, only yogis, who knew all their physiological processes at the expense of internal vision, could manage to reach this level. In addition, this stage is characterized by the flight of the astral body to any point of the earth or even the Universe.

Conclusion

Each person is unique as well as his/her spiritual experiences. Therefore, the Third Eye opening symptoms can vary depending on a person and his/her spiritual path. Individual symptoms can be as strongly expressed as barely noticeable. Even if you don’t notice any changes this doesn’t mean that your Third Eye chakra is not opening. Keep practicing and exercising and eventually, you’ll see the result.

Katya Ki is the Founder of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics, cosmology, and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

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14 Signs of Spiritual Maturity that Indicate Your Spiritual Growth

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Spiritual maturity is not a religious concept. It has humanitarian objectives through balanced behaviors of spiritual understanding. Spiritual maturity is a gradual process of discovering your inner-self (or God Self) that goes along with self-discipline. It is important to understand that I am talking about a sufficiently “mobile” model of a Mature personality, allowing a different set of characterological features. However, in this article, I want to consider certain factors that can form the Central frame of such a personal model. And these factors I will describe through different signs of spiritual maturity.

Signs Of Spiritual Maturity

Authenticity

The famous American psychotherapist James Bugental calls authenticity the most important existential value of a human being. He identifies three main features of authentic existence:

  • full awareness of the present moment of life;
  • independent choice of the way of life at that moment;
  • taking personal responsibility for this choice.

The authenticity to some extent generalizes many properties of the individual. First of all, it is an expression of sincerity towards another. An authentic person wants to be himself in his immediate reactions and in his holistic behavior. He allows himself not to know all the answers to life’s questions.

He doesn’t act like he’s in love if he feels hostile at the moment. The difficulties of most people are that they spend a lot of vital energy on playing roles, or creating an external facade, instead of using it to solve their real problems.

If the person most of the time hides his true self behind the mask of any selected role, it is not surprising that in response he will receive the same insincere attitude of others. Authenticity is the most complete example of flexible behavior.

Openness to Own Experience and Acceptance of Feelings

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Here, by openness, I mean sincerity in the perception of one’s own feelings. Social experience teaches to deny, to reject the feelings, in particular, negative ones. The pressure of others forces to displace or suppress sadness, irritability, and anger. Society tells us: “don’t cry, don’t be nervous”, etc.

A spiritually mature person will not drive away any feelings, including negative ones. He accepts and experiences any feelings he has. Only, in this case, can you successfully control your behavior. It is because our displaced feelings are irrational, that is, they become a source of uncontrolled behavior.

When we realize our emotional reactions, we can choose our behavior in each situation, and not allow unconscious feelings to violate the regulation of our behavior. Therefore, we call ourselves “spiritually mature” only if we are capable of showing our tolerance for the whole range of ours and other emotional reactions.

Development of Self-Knowledge

Limited self-knowledge implies a restriction of freedom, and deep self-knowledge increases the possibility of choice in one’s life. The more a person knows about himself, the better he will understand other people, and Vice versa – the more a person understands others, the deeper he understands himself. Not being able to hear what’s going on inside us increases our exposure to stress and limits our effectiveness in life. It is very important to treat yourself realistically and consciously.

The Strength of Personality and Identity

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A mature person knows who he is, who he can become, what he wants from life, what is important for him in essence and what does not matter. He turns to life with questions, answers the questions posed to him by life, and constantly tests his values.

A spiritually mature person can’t be a reflection of the hopes of other people, he acts on his own internal position. This allows him to feel strong in interpersonal relationships.

Tolerance to Uncertainty (the Ability to Withstand Uncertainty)

Many people feel uncomfortable in situations where there is a lack of structure, clarity, and certainty. But spiritual development requires letting the comfort zone go and opening oneself up to a new experience. When we dive into our spiritual journey we have no guarantees or clarity of what to expect. A spiritual journey is very individual and even very experienced spiritual gurus can’t give us all the answers to what to expect.

A spiritually mature person understands this. He knows that life is an adventurous journey. That’s why we never know what the coming day is preparing for us, what kind of challenges we will face, and what decisions we will have to make. All we can have is strong confidence in our own intuition and the adequacy of feelings, confidence in constructive decisions, and the ability to take risks – all these qualities help us to endure the tension created by the uncertainty of the entire series of life situations.

Personal Responsibility

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Since most life situations arise under our control, we should be responsible for our actions in these situations. Understanding your responsibility allows you to freely and consciously make a choice at any time of communication – to agree with the arguments of the interlocutor or to enter into a productive confrontation.

Personal responsibility helps to take criticism more constructively. In such cases, criticism does not trigger the mechanisms of psychological protection but serves as useful feedback that improves the efficiency of activities and even life itself.

The Depth of Relationships With Others

When a spiritually mature person evaluates other people (their feelings, views, peculiar traits) he does it without condemnation and the use of labels.

Some people feel that expressing positive feelings obliges and thereby restricts freedom and makes them vulnerable. Others are afraid of rejection, so they feel that the safest position is the rejection of close relations. And they are satisfied with the communication with the partner in the distance.

But if you have enough spiritual maturity you don’t have such fears. You are able to freely express your feelings, both positive and negative, when communicating with other people.

Refusal of Perfectionism

Spiritual maturity involves a refusal of the desire to be perfect. Instead of blaming ourselves for our mistakes, we need to take them as our lessons. If we accept that we are not perfect, we will avoid unnecessary tension and feelings of guilt. In this case, relations with others become deeper and at the same time more real.

Empathy

Spiritual maturity implies the ability of a person to feel empathy. Empaths understand the feelings of the people they communicate with, as well as mandatory consideration of them in the process of communication. The range of empathy manifestation varies widely: from a light emotional response to a full immersion in the world of feelings of your interlocutor. Empaths realize that the feelings they experience are a reflection of the feelings of their interlocutors.

Kindness and Compassion

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Kindness is based on the fundamental concept of self-recognition. We are required to treat all aspects of ourselves with compassion. Not just our positive aspects but also those ones that we previously denied. Spiritual maturity is a reflection of our deep gratitude, kindness, compassion, and forgiveness.

Only once we treat ourselves with kindness and compassion can we treat others the same way. Our attitude towards others is always a reflection of our attitude towards ourselves. That’s why I always say: “Love yourself first!”.

Patience

Spiritual maturity implies an understanding of the fact that the process of awakening goes through many periods and cycles. It requires our deepest commitment.

True patience does not aspire to any achievement. It allows us to open up for the timeless. When Einstein explained the nature of time by example, he said, “When you sit with a nice girl for two hours you think it’s only a minute, but when you sit on a hot stove for a minute you think it’s two hours. That’s relativity.”

Awakening is not a matter of weeks, years, or lives, but a matter of loving and patient disclosure to the mystery at this moment.

A Sense of the Sacred

Spiritually mature people treat every action they do as a sacred practice. Spiritual maturity means an understanding of the fact that if we need to bring light and compassion into the world, we have to start with our own lives. Our personal lives become more genuine spiritual practices than any series of experiences we have or any philosophy we share. This personal approach to practice means respect for the individual and the universal in our lives. Moreover, we also honor our individual body, our individual family, and our community, as well as our personal history of joy and sorrow. Spiritually mature people have a deep understanding that their personal spiritual awakening affects all other creatures.

Independent Discovery

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Instead of accepting some philosophy or blindly following some great teacher, going on an insurmountable path, we must recognize that we need to see for ourselves. In spiritual maturity, we find a great sense of autonomy – not as a reaction to authority, but as a basis for sincere recognition of the fact that we, like Buddha, are capable of spiritual awakening. Spiritual maturity has a deeply democratic quality. It means that all individuals have the opportunity to discover what is sacred and to free themselves.

This sense of exploration combines the openness of the mind with “discerning wisdom,” the ability to separate the useful from the harmful, which keeps the eyes open. With an open mind, we always learn.

Our sense of discovery gives us the opportunity to use the great wisdom traditions to learn from teachers and be part of the community. While at the same time in contact with ourselves, to see the truth and speak the truth with great respect to our own integrity and to our own awakening. This kind of research allows us to be more honest with ourselves.

Flexibility

Flexibility implies that spiritual life is not about accepting a particular philosophy or set of beliefs or teachings, nor is it about confronting or opposing anyone. It is the lightness of the heart that implies that all spiritual means are rafts to come to freedom.

The flexibility of the mindset contributes lightness and humor to spiritual practice. It allows us to see that there are thousands of ways to reach spiritual awakening. And if we choose one way and other people choose another way there is nothing wrong with this. We may follow different paths to reach the same destination.

Conclusion

With spiritual maturity, our ability to forgive and free ourselves grows and deepens. This shows the natural resolution of our conflicts and the ability to return to joy and peace. When we reach spiritual maturity we see spirituality as a question of who we are rather than of what ideal, philosophy, religion, or guru we follow. A spirituality of this kind is full of joy and integrity; it is both ordinary and awakened. Such spiritual maturity allows the light of the divine to shine through us.

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The September New Moon: Here’s How It Will Affect Us

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The moon is waning to a new moon on September 25th at 5:55 p.m. EDT. This is when the Moon is lost in the glare of the Sun and completely invisible. The September new moon is a powerful time that can give impetus to our spiritual development and personal evolution. I will share everything you need to know about this new moon in this article.

The New Moon In Vedic Astrology

In Vedic astrology, the new moon is called Amavasya. It is the time when the Moon and the Sun line up.

According to Vedic astrologyShukla paksha, the brightest part of the lunar month begins with Amavasya, when one can count on the indulgence and benefits of the gods. It is recommended to dedicate the new moon to spiritual practices, offerings, and prayers. It is also considered a favorable period for completing previously started projects, cleaning, and charity.

Amavasya is considered the most favorable period to engage in your personal development; spend this day in meditation and prayers.

It is said that any activity related to material affairs will not bring any benefits on this day. However, any spiritual practice you engage in will multiply its benefits when performed during Amavasya. The same can be said about charity and donations done during Amavasya – you will be generously rewarded for your acts of kindness.

The September New Moon

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According to Jyotish (Vedic astrology), the September new moon occurs in Virgo. 

The moon in Virgo is a time of fuss and the need to take into account a lot of little things. If you have a meeting or a deal to close, be prepared for a lot of additional stipulations and conditions. You will have to spend some extra time working on documents.

The energies of this new moon will make people criticize each other and focus on even minor mistakes that didn’t matter much on other days.

During this time, we will all want more order in life. On the negative side, many of us will be annoyed by negligence, inaccuracy, and violation of obligations. All these small tasks will increase internal tension, which will eventually lead to apathy and laziness.

The new moon in Virgo encourages us to pay more attention to the little things. We will have a desire to improve any shortcomings that we notice. At this time, it will be easier to notice small details than distant prospects. Therefore, it’s best to focus on a detailed study of ongoing projects rather than planning new ones.

If you have to interact with authorities during this new moon period, keep in mind that officials will be biased, uncooperative, and not willing to take into account your circumstances. Therefore, it is better to plan a visit to state institutions for other days.

Virgo increases the need for cleanliness and simplicity, so if you have an interview or important negotiations, pay attention to your appearance! It is better to give preference to calm tones in clothes, and pay attention to high-quality accessories during this period. Also, it is good to wear white quartz, which has the ability to absorb all the negative energy, purify your aura, and relieve stress.

The New Moon In Uttara Phalguni Nakshatra

According to Vedic astrology, the September new moon takes place in the lunar mansion of Uttara Phalguni Nakshatra. Let’s take a closer look at this lunar mansion and what kind of energy it represents.

Uttara Phalguni is the Sun-ruled nakshatra. It carries the iconography of a hammock or the rear legs of a cot. Its symbolism is associated with tranquil spaces, healing, and recuperation.

Uttara Phalguni is also called the “Star of Patronage” for its love of humanity and its caring nature. It will drive a desire to alleviate the suffering of society. However, in this desire, a person could become controlling and very stubborn. During this new moon, we may see how those in power will become more totalitarian and controlling, pushing their agenda “in the name of love for humanity”.

Also, this nakshatra deals with relationships and commitments, which makes this new moon a good time to reflect on your relationships and what you can do to improve them. Use this powerful time to honor your current relationships and express your gratitude for the people around you. This is a good time for introspection. Think about what you can do to develop a deeper level of commitment in your relationships and become more loyal to others.

Health-related Issues

Uttara Phalguni may cause weakness of the small intestine (ulcers), disease of the genitalia, injury to the lower spine, severe headaches, appendicitis, thrombosis, and inflammatory conditions of the liver.

The nature of Uttara Phalguni nakshatra: Rajas

Rajas is the energy of change. It represents passion, desire, effort, and pain. The nature of rajas is characterized by a sense of attachment, a desire to satisfy desires.

The new moon in Rajas manifests itself as an active desire to do something, irritation, passion, and strength. The energy of the new moon in Rajas gives anxiety, stubbornness, and a strong possessive instinct. Many will experience anxiety and difficulty with mental concentration during this time.

The goal of Uttara Phalguni nakshatra: Moksha

Moksha is the release from the cycle of rebirth impelled by the law of karma. It is liberation from dependence, from the mirage created by dharma, kama, and artha. Moksha is the dissolution of delusions. The influence of this nakshatra gives an impetus to spiritual practice. During the new moon period, we should be more focused on our spiritual goals and less on the material.

Spiritual Lessons to Learn

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  • During the new moon in Virgo, we will be more than usual irritated by other people’s shortcomings. This is a good time for working on patience and acceptance of others the way they are. The energy of the new moon will help to acquire these qualities throughout the month.
  • Refrain from criticism! Don’t criticize people even in your thoughts. Let people be the way they are without trying to change them or tell them what to do. Any criticism during the new moon in Virgo may turn into a conflict. Therefore, try to control your thoughts and your words.
  • Learn to relax and let go of your attachments. Your desire to control everything causes lots of stress and may even lead to depression. Use this powerful time of the month to relax, meditate, and practice pranayama and yoga. This will help you to clear your mind and cultivate more self-love and compassion for the world.

Dos and Don’ts During the September New Moon

Amavasya is one of the best days for donations. When you’re making donations during the new moon, the beneficial effect of it is greatly enhanced, and your negative karma gets purified.

Our emotions play a very important role on the new moon. If you are happy on this day, you will become even happier; if you are unhappy – you will become unhappier. Any of our qualities are strengthened on this day. Therefore, the new moon is a very important time for spiritual seekers since the effect of any puja or recited mantra becomes even stronger on this day.

Amavasya is a great time for new beginnings. This is the time to discard old habits and thoughts, all failures, and embrace the new experience that the new moon promises us.

Favorable activities during Amavasya:

  • Completing tasks
  • Paying off debts
  • Throwing away the old and unnecessary things
  • Fasting
  • Giving donations and gifts
  • Meeting with your parents or other family members
  • Performing any spiritual practices
  • House cleaning (it will help you to clean not only the space around you but also your mind)
  • Honoring deceased ancestors (you can just think about them or look at their pictures)
  • Doing charity (you can donate anything except money)
  • Tuning in to harmony and love
  • Forgiving yourself and others

Unfavorable activities during Amavasya:

  • Making important purchases
  • Getting married
  • Making important appointments
  • Start training
  • Making promises
  • Surgeries
  • Start building a house, or enter the house
  • Making final decisions
  • Taking trips, business trips, travel
  • Making repairs, renovations
  • Appointing important meetings that can affect the execution of transactions, the conduct of business, etc.
  • Making money transactions (invest money, transfer large sums, borrow or lend);
  • Overworking

Manifesting On New Moon

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It’s very beneficial to use positive affirmations during the new moon. During this time, affirmations have a special power – they make your positive thoughts and intentions grow and gain strength more quickly. That is why such practices as creating a vision board or Reiki wish box, will be particularly effective on the new moon.

Here are some examples of the high-vibe affirmations you can practice on the New Moon:

  • Love is my inspiration, my conversation, and my life! Peace is my natural state! Gratitude is my way of seeing and being! The face of God greets me everywhere I go!
  • Every cell of my body temple celebrates health and wholeness!
  • All my relationships match the high vibration of unconditional love!
  • Positive thoughts revitalize my body temple!
  • Abundance blesses every aspect of my life!
  • I am guided, governed, and gifted by the eternal presence of Spirit within me! The high frequency of divine love resounds through all of my relationships! Excellence is encoded in my soul and evident in my expression! A consciousness of awe and wonder makes things possible in my life!
  • My commitment to peace, love, and kindness raises the vibrations of the planet!
  • The sweet water of appreciation bathes everything I do!

The Moon Mantra

During the New Moon, it’s beneficial to chant the Moon mantra “Om Chandraya Namaha” 108 times. This powerful mantra vibrates with the energy of the Moon. Chanting this beautiful mantra will help you see things more clearly and look beyond “illusions” to see the deeper meaning in things and the truth that lies within.

Buddha Shakyamuni Mantra

It is very beneficial to chant the Buddha Shakyamuni mantra during the new moon. Recite “Om Muni Muni Maha Muniye Soha” 3, 7, 21, or 108 times. When chanting the mantra, visualize how the Divine Light purifies all your subtle bodies and frees your consciousness from outdated programs.

Chanting the Buddha Shakyamuni mantra brings a change in our consciousness, helps to reach enlightenment, inspires us with new ideas, and gives us confidence in our abilities. Also, it relieves uncertainty and distorted perception of reality.

The Bottom Line

The September new moon will make us more attentive to others’ shortcomings. Don’t let your inner critic ruin your relationship. Focus on your inner peace instead and give yourself a gift of relaxation by meditating, practicing yoga, taking a ritual bath, and doing breathwork. This is a great time for hobbies, studying something you’re really interested in (like astrology, tarot, or foreign languages, for example). It’s great to spend this time closer to nature, hiking or gardening. This is a powerful time for loosening control and following Divine guidance. Be kind, compassionate, and gentle with people during this new moon and always!

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Are You Gaslighting Yourself? 6 Signs You Could Be Unknowingly Doing It

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All people ever talk about is being gaslighted by other parties. But do you know you could also unknowingly be gaslighting yourself? You are your best friend and also your worst enemy. How you treat yourself is a significant determinant of how your mental health turns out. It also determines how you associate with other people. For instance, if you gaslight yourself, you will most likely let other people gaslight you.

What is Self-Gaslighting?

Self-gaslighting happens when we dismiss our feelings and experiences. You can be deeply hurt, but with self-gaslighting, you will invalidate the pain and try to get yourself over it. It may sound like,

“I know friends who have been through worse,”

‘It is not that bad,”

“Other victims got over this fast; I don’t know why I cannot get over it.”

“I should let go of this and move on.”

Many times, self-gaslighting happens when you pick the mantra from a gaslighter. It may also come from past childhood traumas.

Self-gaslighting can be difficult to recognize, especially by people who identify as being spiritual. This is because self-reflection, shadow work, and mindfulness practices are all based on the truthful relfection of our thoughts, behaviors, and actions. This level of awareness allows us to make positive changes in our thoughts and behaviors in an effort to create a more harmonious life for ourselves. The issue arises when the constructive self-reflection and awareness turn into destructive self-blame.

Signs You Are Gaslighting Yourself

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Here are six clear signs that you are a self-gaslighter. If you do any of this, please do your mental health some justice and work on stopping the gaslighting.

#1: You Justify Someone Else’s Bad Behavior

Many of us have been here, making excuses for other people’s toxic behaviors. When people make mistakes, they should take personal responsibility for them. How many times have you heard things in the line of:

“They cheated because I was emotionally unavailable,”

“My mother kept yelling at me because I was a difficult child,”

“He pushed me because he was drunk,”

No, do not make excuses for people’s bad behavior. Take responsibility for your part but don’t blame yourself for theirs.

#2: You Discredit Your Feelings

There is a valid reason behind every emotion you are feeling. If you constantly invalidate your feelings, it is clear that you are gaslighting yourself. For instance, whenever you are hurting, you keep suppressing your feelings because you think you always overreact.

You may have had people hurt you, but you bottled up the hurt because it is not a big deal after all. Or, you dismiss your feelings because you know people who have been in tougher situations than you.

This self-manipulation piles up, and sooner or later, you will have to face the trauma. Remember that invalidating your feelings is an unhealthy way of escaping the trauma, but it will eventually catch up with you.

#3: You are Constantly Rethinking How You Should Have Handled Things

One way self-gaslighting happens is by overthinking what you could have done to prevent other people’s bad behavior.

I should have left the party early.

I should have dressed more decently when going on that date.

I should not have said that.

SOLANCHA principles teach us to harmonize our polarized way of thinking. To avoid any self-blame or shame, it’s important to learn to accept two realities simultaneously. Yes, there are certain actions and behaviors we could have taken to avoid the situation, while at the same time, the bad behavior is completely unacceptable. Unfortunately, we tend to only focus on one or the other which ends up being destructive.

#4: You Never Trust Your Judgment

You could be manipulating yourself if you constantly second-guess your decisions or judgment on things. If you always feel your intuition is wrong, you are self-gaslighting. You can never build a trustworthy relationship with anyone if you do not trust yourself. Constant self-doubt may happen from being gaslighted as a child. This makes you constantly doubt your inner voice.

Also, if you think you are not good enough, you probably got there through gaslighting. Besides, self-gaslighting may make you doubt some physical feelings. For instance, you may dismiss physical sickness because you think you can keep pushing on. Or because you are afraid of your bosses’ reaction.

If you have been sick but were too scared to call in sick, that is it. We have also had people dismiss constant headaches for dehydration or just a little pressure. Well, these may be true but do not second guess yourself. Get the check-up when you feel something, do not invalidate your sickness.

#5: You Say All the Negative Things About Yourself

Self-gaslighters typically say things about themselves that they would never say about other people. If you constantly think that you are crazy for saying something, or are an idiot for doing something, then it is a clear sign of self-gaslighting. Self-gaslighters have made such words and harshness too familiar for them. 

If you are at a point where such grossness feels at home, while affection and sweetness feel out of place, you are deep into self-gaslighting. Remember that any self-reflection should be constructive and an insightful opportunity for growth. If your self-talk becomes so negative that it makes you feel horrible about yourself, you know that it’s become destructive and you are self-gaslighting.

#6: You Always Believe That the Worst Is Going to Happen

If you are never optimistic about the things happening in your life, it is a clear sign you are a self-gaslighter. You always think nothing will happen in your favor in this unhealthy zone. If you are always awaiting the worst in every situation, it is a clear sign that you have gaslighted yourself to that zone.

How to Stop the Pattern?

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Here are some practical tips to stop the pattern of gaslighting yourself.

#1: Face Your Trauma

One thing that stands out in self-gaslighting is constant self-doubt and questioning yourself. This typically arises from childhood trauma. You cannot keep escaping your traumas; they will haunt you for a long time. Take courage and face the trauma to resolve it. One great way is to talk to a therapist and find ways to make peace with your past.

#2: Build Your Self-Esteem

Another great way to stop self-gaslighting is by building your self-esteem. Everything you feel is valid and matters. Always take a stand and recognize that everything you feel should not be compromised to accommodate others. Allow yourself to feel your feelings without judging yourself for having them.

#3: Get Away From Being Gaslighted

Being gaslighted will eventually make you a self-gaslighter. You must break that pattern if your friend, partner, or family is a habitual gaslighter. You can get them to stop the habit by talking it out. If they cannot stop, you need to get out of that environment.

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