Self-love is one of the most important conditions for our happiness and well-being. It is only when we truly love ourselves can we experience the countless benefits of the abundant Universe. Our health, success, relationships with others, financial well-being depend on the level of self-love we are on.

It is only through the prism of self-love can we see the beauty of this world and the value of every moment of our lives!

Everyone, one way or another, understands how important it is to love yourself. But that’s easier said than done. How can we develop self-love? How can we learn to accept ourselves as we are? How can we learn to forgive ourselves for our mistakes? How to always follow the path of self-love and self-care?

To be honest, the path of self-love is not always as easy as many imagine. Self-love is a process and a set of choices that we make every day. It is impossible to teach self-love in one article because self-love is daily work on yourself.

However, in this article, I will help you to take the first step towards self-love. And this step is to reprogram your consciousness from self-denial to self-love and self-care. Self-love affirmations are an effective tool for overcoming negative thinking and building a positive image of yourself.

The Importance Of Self-Love

Self-love is the foundation on which we build our entire life. And if this foundation is not strong enough or does not exist at all, then our whole life is going to be very shaky and unstable. It can collapse at any time. In order to avoid this, we need to learn to love ourselves.

Loving yourself doesn’t mean being selfish or narcissistic. Self-love and selfishness (or narcissism) are completely opposite concepts. To love yourself means to accept yourself and to realize your divine nature. To be selfish or narcissistic means to put your ego on display. Do you see the difference? Self-love is based on love, whereas selfishness is based on ego.

Moreover, we all need to understand the fact that if we don’t love ourselves, we can’t love anyone else. If we can’t love the closest and dearest person in the world – ourselves – how can we love someone else? It can be passion, affection, but not love. Love always comes from the inside, and only when it overflows, can it pour out to the outside.

Did you notice that the most attractive energy comes from people who sincerely and unconditionally love themselves? And there is nothing surprising about that! You see, the better you treat yourself, the better the quality of the relationship you attract. In this regard, “the better quality” is shown in not allowing yourself to have those relationships that are unworthy of you, in which you humiliate yourself or suffer. “The better quality” means always to choose the best for yourself, never compromise with yourself and never sacrifice your self-love!

How Do Self-Love Affirmations Work?

Affirmations are positive statements that program your subconscious mind to fulfill all your desires. In accordance with this program, joyful and happy desired events will gradually enter into your life.

Most people can’t even imagine how effective affirmations are! Affirmations are your main key to reprogramming your consciousness. That’s why the trick is to keep repeating them again and again until they are firmly imprinted in your subconscious.

We always attract what we radiate. That is why – in order to attract love (from the Universe, partner, friends, etc.), we should first become a source of love. When you radiate love you become a magnet for love and blessings. You become more attractive not only on an energy level but even your appearance will start to change! When you love yourself you become a source of joy and inspiration for others. You look attractive, happy and calm. The following self-love affirmations aim to help you to boost your self-love and open yourself up to endless abundance, love, and blessings from the Universe and others.

How To Practice Self-Love Affirmations?

In self-love affirmations practice, the key to success is your consistency! Read the self-love affirmations in the morning immediately after waking up and in the evening right before going to bed.

I discovered that the self-love affirmations work better when you’re reading them in front of the mirror looking directly in your eyes.

It is very important to combine reading the affirmations with your emotions. Use your own emotions to make the affirmation practice more powerful. You can even add moves and gestures. Your goal is to convince yourself that what you are saying is the truth! Therefore, use whatever helps you to achieve this goal.

However, if you are reading the affirmations without being convincing, your consciousness will never get the message. Remember that your entire body should work when you are practicing self-love affirmations!

Self-Love Affirmations

1. I LOVE and accept myself for who I am!
2. I LOVE my personality!
3. I LOVE the person that I am!
4. I LOVE my body!
5. My relationship with my body is one of perfect harmony!
6. My body is beautiful and expresses my spirit
7. I see my body as my best friend!
8. I LOVE my behavior!
9. I am a unique Divine manifestation!
10. I respect myself!
11. I am a magnet of LOVE!
12. I honor my inner voice!
13. I choose to stop apologizing for being me!
14. I think about myself only in a positive LOVING way!
15. I am confident and strong.
16. I talk about myself only in a respectful and LOVING way!
17. I am LOVE!
18. I am in LOVE with myself!
19. I have worth and inner beauty!
20. I am an important part of the Universe!
21. I LOVE my uniqueness!
22. I accept myself unconditionally!
23. The only approval I’ll ever need is mine!
24. My SELF-LOVE is unconditional!
25. I follow only my own expectations!
26. My mind is filled only with LOVING, healthy, positive and prosperous thoughts!
27. My SELF-LOVE is a powerful magnet for abundance, success, and LOVE!
28. I surround myself only with the people who love and respect me for who I am!
29. I forgive myself and free myself from my past mistakes! Lesson is learned! I move forward!
30. I treat my body with LOVE and care!
31. I treat myself with kindness!
32. I radiate LOVE!
33. I accept compliments easily!
34. I respect my accomplishments and celebrate my successes!
35. I deserve the good that happens to me!
36. I LOVE every moment of my life!
37. I deserve LOVE and respect!
38. My body, mind, and soul are the picture of perfect health!
39. I am worthy of having great relationships!
40. I value and honor my boundaries!
41. I deserve the best in life!
42. I am abundant!
43. I look at this world with LOVE and kindness!
44. My voice is valuable and my opinion matters!
45. I am worthy of making my dreams come true!
46. I let other people to LOVE me for who I am! I am worthy of LOVE!
47. I LOVE my personality!
48. I am LOVED!
49. I believe in myself!
50. I deserve to be happy!
51. I have wonderful talents to share with the world!
52. I have great potential within me!
53. I am empowered to create change in my life!
54. I LOVE the person I am becoming!
55. SELF-LOVE comes to me with ease!

The Bottom Line

In order to learn how to love ourselves, we need to see self-love as a journey of daily practice, but not the final destination. Self-love is the journey made up of simple things we do every day. Use self-love affirmations to make that first step towards self-love. Choose the ones that you like the most and which are most suitable for you, and watch how your reality begins to change!

We hear so much about self-love and the importance of taking care of ourselves these days, but what does that really mean? What does it look like and how do we truly embody loving ourselves fully? With anything, there are many different components and levels of creating healthy daily self-love practices to maintain a well-balanced lifestyle.

In this article, I’m going to share with you the importance of a holistic approach to self-love and self-care, and my favorite daily self-love practices you can start today!

We consist of three major aspects: mind, body, and soul. It’s important that we address each one of these aspects as a whole.

Some things are commonly well-known facts and other things I will be sharing may come as a surprise. My intention in writing this article is to inspire, educate and to provide reminders of the benefits of creating very doable healthy habits of self-love.

6 Self-Love Daily Practices

1.Mindfulness

A great place to start in creating a self-love/self-care routine is MINDFULNESS.

Everything starts within. Our minds literally dictate the outer reality of our worlds. When our minds are filled with senseless ramblings, toxic conversations, non-stop stress and worry, repetitive thoughts from the past and obsessing over small things it affects our overall health tremendously.

How you think and how you feel creates your state of being. Be intentional in your behaviors, actions, and reactions.

Set the intention for yourself to expand your awareness and knowledge of being mindful and watch how quickly information comes into your sphere. Make a commitment to loving yourself on a deeper level.

A great resource on ways to unlock your brain’s full potential is Dr. Joe Dispenza author of “You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter“.

His studies have proven that meditation and mindfulness when well-practiced can put us on the path to understanding and breaking deep-rooted bad habits and even illnesses.

For more about mindfulness and learning to cultivate a practice see our article “Meditations For Beginners: Best Ways To Start Your Practice” to assists you in beginning and maintaining your meditation practice.

Learn about the Law of attraction and how it works and how you can work with it.

2. Spiritual and Physical Diet

What you feed your spiritual body and your physical temple is as important as mindfulness.

Many religions and spiritual communities speak of the importance of maintaining a clean healthy diet and the reason for that is because our vessels operate more effectively when we are free of toxic chemicals and processed foods. We thrive with living organic whole foods that are free of pesticides and endocrine disruptors. Endocrine disruptors consist of synthetic chemicals that are in products like plastics and fragrances can mimic hormones and interfere with or disrupt the delicate endocrine dance. We’re exposed to these chemicals daily.

Here’s a list of things you can do to lower your exposure:

• wash your hands frequently avoiding fragrances and anti-bacterial soaps;
• avoid perfumes and highly fragrant cleaning products and soaps. Use therapeutic grade essential oils instead;
• use glass instead of plastic. Any time you’re in the market for something plastic research for safer alternatives;
• dust and vacuum floors and furniture often;
• try to avoid cans and canned foods, instead choose fresh, frozen or dried foods;
• filter your tap water;
• rethink your cosmetics and buy from companies that are dedicated to creating clean, non-toxic and cruelty-free products;
• clean smarter, buying from companies that voluntarily disclose their ingredients look for the “Safe Choice Label” or make homemade cleaners using baking soda and vinegar which are healthy and effective cleaners.

Spiritual Diet

Now let’s talk about a spiritual diet! It consists of anything you take in through your five senses: smell, sight, sound, touch, taste.

You may ask why is this so important to our journey of self-love? Here’s why; everything we take into our spiritual bodies gets stored and recorded in some fashion.

For example, if you watch a scary movie filled with lots of violence you may often find yourself having nightmares and this is because we have fed this into our psyche and it gets stored in our subconscious.

When we listen to hardcore lyrics and that are filled with violent suggestions and disrespectful lyrics we are more inclined to be aggressive and desensitized to things that are harmful to our spirit.

It’s important to fill your spirit with loving, positive and kind images, sounds, smells and tastes.

We live in a world filled with violent and depraved imagery that our television shows, movies, and video games are full of. It has quite frankly become the norm but in reality, our bodies and nervous systems respond to the hurtful and violent imagery as though it is real.

Develop a practice of tuning into pleasant and more palatable information.

I’m certainly one to practice moderation in all things and I’m not suggesting that you can completely shield or rid yourself from unpleasant sights, sounds, tastes and smells, but what I am suggesting is to be mindful and set personal boundaries that ensure that you are feeding your soul food that is enhancing as opposed to limiting or harmful.

3. Sleep Well

In the last few years, there has been a surge of information coming out about how critical it is that we get the proper amount of rest required for high functionality.

In today’s world, it has become fashionable to work and play as hard as you can push yourself. It’s become unpopular to sleep. It’s been programmed in our society that we should be pushing ourselves to do more, to take on more, to keep pushing through our exhaustion at the cost of our health.

We have to begin re-writing this program. We have to educate ourselves and develop healthy practices that allow us to get the optimal amount of rest needed for us to be able to live in our highest expression.

4. Physical Exercise

In today’s world, we see such a polarity where exercise and physical activity is a concern. It seems like people are either fitness fanatics or extremely sedentary. It’s vital that you create a well-balanced exercise routine that is customized around your interests and things that inspire you.

One of the reasons I feel getting inspire to be more active can be such a slow process is because people tend to think in limiting ways of being active. It does not always have to be a gym membership or a yoga class, although those activities are great too if that’s what you’re inspired by. I find what works best is doing things that make you happy while you are participating in them and things that give you a sense of stress release. Ideally, you want to do things that give you a well-rounded exposure to increase your heart rate, blood flow, moving energy through your body, increasing flexibility, sense of calm and creating joy.

There are so many healthy activities that increase your self-care practice.

Here is a list of things that may pique your interest:

• dancing;
• swimming;
• aerobics;
• pilates;
• tai chi;
• martial arts;
• walking in nature;
• yoga;
• sports;
• stretching;
• calisthenics;
• jumping rope;
• skating;
• hiking.

My point here is that if you get involved in something that you really enjoy vs. just straight forward exercise you will be more likely to be consistent and it won’t feel like a chore that you dread. We all go through times of feeling unmotivated or sluggish. A great suggestion is to remind yourself that you deserve to live a healthy lifestyle in a healthy body.

Also trying new things and learning new skill sets will enhance your mindset towards getting involved in exercise activities.

If you are on a tight budget and can’t afford classes, memberships and extracurricular things YouTube will be your best friend. There’s a teacher with free content for literally everything you could possibly be interested in. Research your App Store it’s a great tool for finding apps that help you get involved and track your progress as well.

5. Expand your knowledge

By expanding your awareness you will naturally enhance your vitality. Sometimes we get complacent in what we think we already know. We are stuck in limiting patterns and mindsets.

Challenge yourself to grow! This can also be done in so many ways. Here are some things that really aide in strengthening your self-care practices:

Journaling

• allows you to express emotions
• self-dialogue
• enhance writing skills
• promotes inner creativity
• personal growth
• memories to remember
• increases abilities to problem solve

Drawing, painting and creating art

• Improves memory
• Release of hidden emotions
• Stress relief
• Increase of emotional intelligence
• Improved communication skills

Reading self-help books or hobby related reading

• Puts you on a path where you can read, practice strategies learned, and make improvements in your life without having to ask others
• Creates inspiration
• Fine-tunes your hobbies and skill-related activities
• Increases your intellect

Learning new languages

• Makes you a more effective communicator
• Could improve memory
• Encourages cultural appreciation
• Enhance concentration, better listening skills, increases the ability to multi-task
• Boost your confidence
• Gain new perspectives
• Awakens neural pathways

Learning how to play instruments

• Reduces stress
• Produces patience & perseverance
• Increases memory capability
• Uses almost every part of the brain
• Develops music appreciation
• Cultivates creativity
• Strengthens immune system

Taking voice lessons/singing

• Singing is a natural antidepressant
• Improves your posture
• Singing is a workout
• Lowers your stress levels
• Singing aids in good nights rest.

6. Pamper Yourself

Pampering yourself may be one of the most pleasurable self-care acts to make a priority in your life. Treating yourself to a variety of self-loving actions to improve your overall well being is very important to your vitality.

Many of us make excuses that we don’t have the time or extra money but in fact, there are many inexpensive at-home therapies you can do for yourself and you have to prioritize your me-time. Maybe instead of watching your favorite tv show or working an extra hour on a project, you can choose to give back to yourself first.

You can do small self-care acts daily as well as setting aside at least one day a week that is purely dedicated to pampering yourself.

Small acts go a long way. Daily presence with yourself takes little effort.

It could be something as small as having a cup of herbal tea and enjoying a few moments of silence. Taking a short walk and saying affirmations. Taking a nap, listening to relaxing music, reading a few chapters of your favorite book, pulling weeds in your garden, planting seeds in your garden, spending quality time with your pets, cutting fresh flowers and making floral arrangements to beautify your space. There are literally endless amounts of things you can do.

Here are some of my daily and weekly go to’s :

#1 Gua Sha Facials

#2 Exfoliating

#3 Salt baths

#4 Ocean swimming/floating

#5 Fascia rolling

#6 Self mani/pedicures

#7 Deep hair conditioning

#8 Face masks

#9 Home yoga

#10 Organizing my home

#11 Decorating my home

#12 Decluttering

Other really great things that you can do to pamper yourself is getting reiki, massages, acupuncture, cupping, floating in deprivation tanks, and getting network spinal treatments, the lists go on and on!

The Bottom Line

The beauty of self-love is that you get to choose how you show up for yourself and the choices are limitless and the benefits are profound. Self-care is anything that enhances your mood increases your vitality supports your well-being.

I hope you find inspiration and motivation to create a routine of positive self-loving things you can get excited about and experience the goodness of how it feels to look and feel good in your body, mind, and soul.

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In everyday communication, it is not so important how smart, wise or spiritual we are as much as what frequency the communication takes place on. The frequency of communication is influenced by many factors such as the emotions and feelings we express, the words we choose, how we build phrases, our intentions, our energy, mood, and more. In this article, I will share with you what conscious communication is and effective tips you can use to master it!

What Is Conscious Communication?

Conscious communication is a way of talking and listening that is focused on growing strong, mutually enriching relationships.

A key principle of conscious communication is to make it as easy as possible for the other person to satisfy your needs by asking for a specific behavior that will fulfill it.

When people feel vulnerable, they usually often try to compensate for it by becoming demanding and threatening. They are convinced that forcefulness will increase the likelihood of getting what they want. However, this approach usually has the opposite effect, leading to conflict situations and misunderstandings. Some people feel unaccepted. Others feel pressure and violation of personal boundaries. As a rule, such things lead to ruining relationships.

The Secret Of Conscious Communication

So what is the secret of conscious communication?

According to Yogi Bhajan, we need to strive for pure, intuitive communication, without hidden meaning and desire to benefit from dialogue, without trying to convict the interlocutor of falsehood or being wrong. We also need to elevate people around us, to give them a chance to see and be aware of themselves from the outside on their own.

“When you speak unconsciously, you represent your emotions, your feelings, your neuroses, your handicaps, your shortcomings, and your insecurities. When you speak subconsciously, you are a con-person, you are a thief, you are a cheat, you manipulate, you are dishonest. All you want is to win the moment or impress the moment. Such people are never true to a bigger picture; they are never real in their lives. When you speak consciously, that which you speak about happens. When you speak super-consciously from the supreme self of you, that becomes the guiding line for the Universe. Then the akashic record has to move with that angle.” – Yogi Bhajan

8 Tips On Conscious Communication

Tip #1: Practice Self-Observation

Conscious dialogue, first of all, involves observing yourself during the communication process. It includes the understanding of what emotions and feelings are hidden behind each spoken phrase. Moreover, we need to be aware of what exactly motivates us to be involved in this dialogue and what we want to achieve as a result.

All these factors affect our voice tone, facial expressions, and gestures. Therefore, it is very important to monitor the reaction of the body, to feel the emotions that guide us in the process of dialogue.

Tip #2: Keep Emotional Neutrality And Inner Silence

Neutrality does not mean that we need to get rid of feelings, but it means that all our emotional manifestations are under observation. It is like control, not in the sense of “I restrain myself,” but in the sense of “I observe myself from the outside.”

You might notice how radically your speech changes if you conduct a dialogue from the point of irritation and fear. I’m sure you know that feeling of how it is difficult to agree when there are a hidden resistance and unwillingness to compromise.

Therefore, internal neutrality allows not only to say the necessary words but also to monitor everything you say, every influence on the change of the mood of the dialogue.

Tip #3: Be Aware Of What Chakra The Dialogue Is Coming From

Every conversation we have is connected to a certain chakra. This energetical connection is very important since it affects the energy of the whole conversation and your interlocutor can sense it.

If we speak from the first energy center (Muladhara chakra), our speech can be unnecessarily cautious. However, in a state of anger, our speech can be rough.

When we speak from the second energy center (Svadhisthana chakra), our speech is soft, sometimes – sexual.

If we speak from the third energy center (Manipura chakra), the conversation acquires persistence, the effect of pressure.

When we speak from the fourth energy center (Anahata chakra), we present ourselves from the heart. In this case, our words are colored by emotions. Sometimes it prevents us from seeing the objective truth.

If we speak from the fifth energy center (Vishuddha chakra), we sound like diplomats with a structured analytical mindset.

When we speak from the sixth energy center (Ajna chakra), our speech turns into an endless stream. If communication is based on your Third eye chakra it usually brings more truth into conversation. This type of communication is based on intuition and empathy.

Tip #4: Surrender To The Circumstances

The main rule of tantric practices is: to win by surrendering to the situation, circumstances.

Use this rule in communication if there is a dispute. This will help to find the right words, build a dialogue. Release all emotions inside yourself, surrender to circumstances and watch the result.

Meditation is an important assistant in communication. Here we not only calm our emotions, reach a state of neutrality, but also learn to be aware of our space, boundaries, observe our reactions in the process of dialogue.

In this state of balance, communication becomes constructive, and there is a stable ability to timely select the right words and competently build the entire dialogue.

Tip #5: Take Responsibility For Your Feelings

When describing your feelings, choose words that express the sensations you’re experiencing, such as: “I feel sad”, or “I feel frustrated”, or “I feel lonely”, etc. Avoid words that describe you as a victim, such as: “I feel betrayed”, or “I feel rejected”, or “I feel neglected”, etc. These “victimizing” words suggest that someone else is responsible for your feelings. When you take responsibility for your feelings and emotions, you are informing rather than blaming the people.

Tip #6: Keep The Message Positive

Under no circumstances are you required to speak negatively. Make sure that your speech doesn’t sound offensive. Neither should you speak in a way that would be just buttering. Speaking should be neither overdoing nor under-doing nor super-positive nor super-negative.

Keep in mind that communication is just vibration. Therefore, pay attention to what frequency you are vibrating. Keep producing positive vibrations and don’t allow a conversation to turn to in a negative way. A conscious person talks with absolute dignity and faith.

Tip #7: Ask For What You Want

What specific behaviors or actions would fulfill your needs? For instance, if you want more attention from your partner, do not just ask him/her to spend more time with you. Instead, ask him/her to take you for a walk after dinner, or go to a movie on Saturday night. Express your need in the form of a request rather than a demand. Everyone has an inherent impulse to resist demands, whereas our self-esteem goes up when we’re able to fulfill requests.

Although using this process doesn’t guarantee that you’ll always get what you need, it will substantially increase the likelihood that you will spend more time feeling comfortable and at ease and less time in emotional distress.

Tip #8: Be Conscious Of Timing

Timing can make a big difference. Sometimes it can be just as important as how and what you say. For example, it is usually not a good idea to bring up sensitive topics right before a meal when blood sugar is low. It is also not a good idea to bring up issues in the heat of the moment when you or the interlocutor is angry and hurt. It would be a good idea to find a good time for both. This conveys mutual respect and sets the stage for a productive discussion.

Conclusion

Conscious communication is an inner driven focus to grow strong and mutually enriching relationships. Remember that conscious communication includes not just conscious speaking but conscious listening. Like giving and receiving, the effects of how you talk are inseparable from how you listen.