All of us have heard about the importance of loving ourselves. We are well aware that self-love is the key to success, harmony, and abundant living. Until we learn how to love ourselves we can’t spiritually develop.

Theoretically, it would seem that everything is so clear and simple. But when it comes to practice, we all face difficulties.

So what is self-love?

The first thing we learn from any master class or book on positive thinking is that we have to love, respect and accept ourselves. Without this, we can’t develop. But when it comes to practice, the big question arises: “What does it mean to love yourself?»

Self-love is the foundation on which our whole life is built. If this foundation is not strong enough or does not exist at all, then our whole life is very shaky and unreliable. It can collapse at any time. In order to avoid this, we need to learn to love ourselves.

Unfortunately, many people are convinced that loving yourself means being selfish or narcissistic. However, it is not like that at all. Self-love and selfishness or narcissism are completely opposite concepts. To love yourself means to accept yourself and to realize your divine nature. To be selfish or a narcissist means to put your ego on display.

Moreover, if we can’t love ourselves, we can’t love anyone. If we can’t love the closest and dearest person in the world – ourselves – how can we love someone else? It can be passion, affection, but not love. Love always comes from the inside, and only when it overflows us, it pours out to the outside.

5 Steps Towards Self-Love

Step 1: Acceptance

Accept yourself as you are! Whatever mistakes you made in your life, accept them and don’t judge yourself. Everything happened the way it was supposed to happen. And you did what you had to do. Respect the choices that you have made in the past and that you are making now.

Accept what you don’t like about yourself. Realize that what you call “imperfections” are actually your unique qualities that fall out of the scope of the “standard.” We have been taught since our childhood to be like everyone else. And everything that distinguished us from others was condemned. But it shouldn’t be that way! We must learn to be ourselves without any limitations. We need to learn to perceive our “imperfections” as unique manifestations of ourselves.

Step 2: Self-Sufficiency

Realize that no one or nothing can make you whole. You’re already self-sufficient! You need to learn to love yourself regardless of whether someone else loves you or not. Your happiness cannot be dependent on your relationships.

Besides that, many people believe that certain achievements in life will help them love themselves more. But this is far from reality! Neither a career, nor an expensive car, nor a luxurious mansion on the beach, nor designer clothes, will make you love yourself. All this luxury can only enhance your ego, but self-love will never depend on such things. And it is very important to understand this!

You don’t need a reason to love yourself. True love is always born for no reason. We start to love ourselves just like that, here and now, just the way we are.

Step 3-Destruction Of The Pedestals

Stop putting people on the pedestal. Stop thinking that someone might be better than you are or worse. Learn not to compare yourself to other people. If you accept and love your uniqueness (which, as I have already said, consists of those qualities that society calls “imperfections”), then you realize that any comparison is inappropriate! You are who you are. No one is better or worse than you. Destroy all the pedestals that you have created. And understand that all people are equal. Don’t idealize anyone. We’re all just humans – nobody is perfect! Besides that the ideal is always dead, there is no movement, there is no need for development. So throw away all those thoughts about reaching this illusional ideal level of yourself. Stop this race to perfection! It doesn’t make any sense!

Step 4-Self-Respect

Self-love can’t exist without self-respect. Learn to respect yourself, your time and space!

Free your space from negative people, as well as from those people with who you are uncomfortable with or who are not interesting for you to communicate with. Free yourself from those people who steal your energy. Stop talking to people who only talk about themselves, but are never interested in you. Change your environment! As soon as you free yourself from people you don’t resonate with, you will attract a new environment into your life. From now on surround yourself only with people you enjoy interacting with.

Sometimes we can’t explain to ourselves why we don’t resonate with someone. I would advise not even try to find out the reasons why, but just keep a person you don’t resonate with at a distance. You should trust your intuition. If you don’t want to interact with someone without any particular reason, it means that you subconsciously (intuitively) feel that this person can bring nothing but problems into your life!

Step 5 – Alignment

Live in alignment with yourself. Don’t do things you don’t want to. I am not talking about everyday duties that cannot be avoided. I am talking about things that don’t resonate with our beliefs and contradict our worldview. For example, when we go to dinner though we don’t want to. And we doing it only because we don’t want to offend someone who invited us. Or, when the seller starts to impose on us some product that we do not need at all, but we buy it because we don’t want to upset the seller. These kinds of acts destroy our self-respect and our authority in our own eyes!

Remember that every time you step over yourself in order to not offend someone, you show a deep disrespect for yourself and the absence of self-love.

The Bottom Line

It is impossible to teach self-love in one minute. This process can take months or even years. Just understand that self-love is your path, your daily practice, but not the final destination. Self-love is made up of simple things you do every day. Only by learning to love yourself can you learn to truly love others. Not only family or friends, but also every living creature that you meet on your way!

Namaste!

If you are unlucky in your love and romantic life and you don’t know how to find your soul mate, then you might want to try a little feng shui to help with the disharmonious atmosphere in your house. If the energy of your home doesn’t radiate love and romance, it’s not easy for you to attract a decent life partner. Feng Shui for love offers many proven formulas and methods of harmonization of the energies around us. These methods are quite simple. We can successfully apply them in life and achieve amazing results!

In this article, I want to share with you 10 proven tips to bring romantic luck into your life by harmonizing the energy of your home with Feng Shui methods!

Let’s get it started!

Step 1: Cleaning Out Space Around You

No matter how boring it may sound, before you start attracting the long-awaited love, it is necessary to properly clean the space around you. Your home is your temple, where love lives. Therefore, the attitude to the house should be appropriate. Create a temple of love in your house!

Good Feng Shui for love always begins with cleaning your house and getting rid of old and useless things. Remember that every little thing in your house has energies. However, these energies are not always positive. Look around! Do all the things that surround you make you happy? Without regret, get rid of all those things that do not cause love vibrations in your heart!

It is especially important to get rid of all the things that your ex-partners gave you as gifts without regret! Do not keep those things that are the symbols of a long-gone love. Until you get rid of these things, your past will pull you back, and the energy of these things will only attract problems in a new relationship! You need to remove all the cords to the past to open the door for a brighter future!

I assure you, you will feel great relief after throwing away all those things that no longer bring you joy!

Step 2: Fill Your House With Positive Energy

It would be great if our parents taught us this simple rule. But, unfortunately, only a few people are aware of the necessity of the bed linen replacement after the breakup of the relationship. It is very difficult to bring to life a harmonious relationship when we sleep on the same sheets on which we slept when we were in past relationships. I, personally, follow a strict rule: new relationships – new sheets! Why bring the old energy of a long-gone relationship into your new relationship?

Take a look at your bed. How attractive does it look? Update bedspreads, decorative pillows, place aromatic blend with rose scent into your bedroom. Give preference to the soft warm tones for linens – peach, warm beige, etc. Make your bed radiate love and invite love. The bed should always be clean and tidy!

By the way, for married couples, there is also an ancient proven way to refresh the relationship. To do this, the masters advise that you throw away the oldest sheets that you have in the house. Thus, you will cleanse your relationship from negative and stagnant energies! This method is often used to stop fights and abuse between spouses.

Step 3: Add Some Light

Southwest sector of your house represents your romantic luck and love. Therefore, make sure you don’t store suitcases here, and that this sector is clean and free of dust and trash can.

To attract love we should make the southwest sector light and bright. Make sure it has enough natural light. If it doesn’t, use extra electric lights there to keep it light. This light attracts romantic luck into your life!

If you don’t have a Southwest sector in your house, you can activate it in the living room. Simply find the Southwest corner of your living room and make sure it’s clean, bright and light.

Step 4: Activate Romantic Luck

Love is alive and very strong energy. Therefore, the Southwest sector is not just a part of your house, but a magical island of love, radiating powerful vibrations of love and attracting romantic relationship into your life.

Here is a list of talismans that project a powerful message to the Universe that you are ready for love and happiness and open for a romantic relationship. Place the talismans that you like most in the Southwest sector, and expect wonderful miracles to happen!

Windchimes

Feng Shui for love requires you hang a special windchime in the Southwest sector of your house.

Windchime is a great energizer of positive Chi.

As soon as you hang the windchime in the Southwest sector of your house, rest assured – the love energy has been activated for you.

A very effective method is to hang a windchime next to the picture of your dream man/woman (the picture cut from the magazine or printed). I know a lot of people who in a short period of time attracted real miracles! Suddenly they met love partners and created a wonderful relationship that brought a lot of joy. Moreover, the appearance of their partners was very similar to the appearance of the people depicted in the picture! It sounds fantastic, but it’s true! If you have a certain type that you want to attract, feel free to use this method! The universe loves clear requests!

Crystals

Сrystals are actively used in Feng Shui both to dissipate negative energy and to activate positive energy.

The traditional method of Feng Shui for love is to put the crystal in the southwest sector. It is best to place the crystal in such a way that sunlight falls on it. On a nice sunny day, you can play with the crystal, turning it and allowing shining rays to illuminate the walls, ceiling and all objects in the room. This simple action brings positive Chi energy in your house.

Another way to place the crystal in the southwest sector is to hang it. However, be careful there are certain rules on how to hang the crystal in feng shui purposes:

1. hang your crystal on a red thread;

2. the length of this thread must be a multiple of 9. That is 9, 18 or 27 cm (3.54, 7.09, or 10.63 inches). This is because the number 9 is a sacred number in Feng Shui that combines the power of heaven and earth;

3. when hanging the crystal, it is necessary to charge it. Simply turn to your crystal and ask it to protect your house from negativity and bring love, peace, and harmony into your life.

Pair Talismans

Traditional Feng Shui suggests placing mandarin ducks or a pair of cranes in the southwest sector. The mandarin ducks symbolize a long and happy marriage. The cranes carry very strong energy of the happy couple that cannot be separated. They symbolize immortal love and loyalty.

A Couple Of Candles

This is just the perfect love sector activator! Place a couple of red or pink candles in the southwest sector and light them approximately once a week with the intention to attract love into your life. While the candles are burning, it is very useful to meditate, looking at the flame. Imagine how this flame ignites the fire of love in your heart.

Rose Quartz Double Heart

Rose quartz is a stone of love, which is a radiator of love and romance  and which we always use in Feng Shui for love! Place a rose quartz double heart talisman in the southwest sector of your house and you will activate the energy of love, tenderness, and romance in your life.

Dragon and Phoenix

In the Feng Shui symbolism, Dragon and Phoenix are the two most powerful exponents of favorable Qi energy. These are heavenly creatures that symbolize the pinnacle of luck.

The Dragon symbolizes success, courage, leadership, and higher fortune. Phoenix symbolizes new opportunities, luck, change, and rebirth.

Dragon and Phoenix placed together represent a strong Union of Yin and Yang, embodied in the life of family happiness. This is an effective means of improving romantic luck, both for already married people and for those who are in search of love.

Place the Dragon and Phoenix in the southwest sector of your house or in your bedroom.

Step 5: Fill In Your Bedroom With Love Energy

Make your bedroom your own little sanctuary! Let it be the most peaceful and harmonious place for you. Follow Feng Shui bedroom tips in my article “The Best Feng Shui Bedroom Tips For Love, Romance, and Happiness”.

Bottom Line

I’ve never met anyone that Feng Shui for love wouldn’t help. Feng Shui changes lives! It doesn’t always happen immediately. Usually, changes come gradually. Although sometimes people see the results the very next day. Everyone is different, so it turns out the results are different. But one thing I know for sure: Feng Shui works at all levels of our lives! It brings joy and hope for a new happy and harmonious life. Feel free to accept “the friendly hand” of your new friend Feng Shui! Use these simple steps and see how your life will change!

Open your heart and go towards your dream of a harmonious romantic relationship, towards true love, towards yourself!

We, as human beings, are relational in nature because we are all intrinsically connected. For healthy relationship connections, we want to be able to relate and achieve cohesive and synergistic relationships, whether it’s romantic, platonic, business or casual.

How we choose to communicate and relate with ourselves and others is one of the most important factors in life. Our relationship with ourselves determines how we relate to others and how pleasant our interactions are with our companions, friends, employers, employees and virtually every relationship in your life you hold.

In this article, I’m going to give you some useful tips and practical communication hacks that you can put to use. As you practice these tips, watch your relationships be enhanced on a greater level than ever before.

Tip #1: Self Talk

This is crucial because your internal dialogue dictates your external expressions. It’s important that you affirm positive, upbeat and encouraging thoughts to yourself. You will be much more likely to reflect this to others as well. Most people naturally respond more positively when you yourself are positive, self-assured and friendly. Your conversation with yourself should be gentle, loving and supportive. When you treat yourself this way it sets an example and reflecting how you would like to be treated.

Tip #2: Be Present

We have a tendency to get distracted, consumed or checked out. Being present with your partner and the people in your life will deepen your connection and level of awareness and will help you prepare for effective and meaningful communication.

To be present means listening with the intent to understand not to reply. Being present means putting your technology and other tasks aside while you are in conversation. If you’re not able to do this, take time to communicate that you desire to be fully present and reconvene your conversation when you can give your undivided attention.

Being present can also mean showing up to support your loved one’s dreams and aspirations. There are many ways you can express presence. It takes practice and diligence to be present with yourself and others.

Tip #3: Be Considerate and Kind

Being considerate of others goes a long way. People will usually appreciate personal consideration. There are also a variety of ways to show consideration and kindness to those you relate closely with on a consistent basis: refrain from using harsh language. Choose your words wisely. Refrain from blame and judgment. Be accountable and dependable. Follow through on your intentions with action. Use positive affirming language. Take the initiative to settle disputes and disagreements. By doing this you have more of a likelihood of setting a tone for the energy exchange that you would like to see in your conversations.

Tip #4: Set Clear Boundaries

It’s vital that you set healthy boundaries for yourself with others. By setting boundaries you ensure relationships are mutually respectful and caring.

Healthy self-esteem will echo that you deserve to be treated well. Let your actions speak for you, not your words. Say thank you with no apology, regret or shame. Protect your time – don’t over commit. Say yes to help. Ask for space when you need it. Agree to come back to the center when difficult times arise. Never assume or guess what others are thinking. Engage with clear communication by asking pertinent questions to help you innerstand what others may be trying to convey. Respond with calm and assertive energy.

Tip #5: Release The Need To Be Right

Don’t allow your desire to prove a point or be right to override your ability to allow others to be right. Choose your battles wisely. Discern if it’s worth your precious time and energy to react, explain or justify your position. Releasing the need to be right makes room for peace of mind and increases your maturity levels. It’s not always important to prove a point. At the end of the day, your peace of mind and warm heart matters most.

Tip #6: Speak Your Truth

Sharing how you feel and what’s real for you may be scary. Every time you hold back your truth you make your fear more important than love.

You can communicate and express your truth with grace and clarity. Speaking your truth does not equate to being rude or disrespectful in any way, in fact, it’s completely the opposite.

Reach a level of innerstanding that doesn’t falter or run at the first sign of relationship malfunction or uncomfortable disagreements. Carry your heart gently through those tough moments and be gentle with the heart of others. Learn to remove the blindfolds and see your relationships in all the light they have to offer and acknowledge the light they have yet to offer. Gain such a level of innerstanding that you obtain access to more enlightened and supportive communication. Free yourself of any restraints or restrictions you may have had from past relationships that you witnessed or were a part of.

Stand in your power and truth, remove your masks and bring your whole self.

Tip #7: Learn how to embrace vulnerability

Being vulnerable means your comfortable opening up to others, it means you care deeply about things.

Vulnerability means you are content with the spectrum of your emotions and that you have a clear understanding of who you are as a person.

Instead of suppressing your emotions you are able to express them fully.

Admitting when you’re upset, hurt, afraid, or feeling alone instead of trying to appear strong when you may be crumbling inside.

When you have the courage to be vulnerable it transforms the way in which we relate to others and how we show up in our lives.

Being vulnerable can be tough when we’re terrified about what people might see or think.

Be careful about attaching your self worth to what others opinions are or your ability to produce or earn.

When we are fueled by the fear of what people think we end up hustling for our worthiness rather than standing in it.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Take ownership of your mistakes.

People tend to connect deeper with those who have an open heart and willingness to share their own fragilities.

Tip #8: Be Authentic

This goes hand in hand with being vulnerable.

Most of the time we are afraid of being authentic and real because we spend so much time creating masks and facades to protect the image that our egos have created.

When you are authentic in your expressions you release the need for approval from others.

Being authentic requires courage and fearlessness.

Ignore Cynics.

Transparency and honesty make you vulnerable, embody these traits anyway.

Being authentic will radiate more pure energy rather than trying to be something you think others will approve of.

Don’t underestimate the quality of authenticity it can transmute uncertainty and enhance the lines of communication.

Tip #9: Nurture Your Relationships

Relationships require attention they don’t just blossom on their own they require water and food to bloom. Set a strong foundation of truth, there lies a fertile ground. Connect in with your relationships consistently. This could mean a phone call, a letter, an email, a visit, a date, tea time or a favored returned. Develop reciprocity in your relationships. Feed where you’re being fed. Be discerning about where you give your energy and time. Make sure that the other person involved is also a source of support for you.

Tip #10: Be willing to do better

One of my favorite quotes is: “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” ~Maya Angelou

Having a genuine desire to evolve yourself on all levels will only deepen your relationships.

Don’t underestimate the small acts of kindness.

Make a commitment to your personal growth and you will certainly see the difference in your relationships and the quality of your connections.