Love

How Do Empaths Protect Themselves From Narcissists? Practical Insights and Tips

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2 years ago

June 18, 2019

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Relationships can be very complicated. And strangely enough, we don’t always consciously choose the person whom we fall in love with really. It just happens. By nature, empaths have a big heart, while Narcissists, on the contrary, have an annoyingly exaggerated sense of self-importance. It is thus a little bit challenging when these two contrasting personas are in a relationship. So then, how do empaths protect themselves from narcissists? Do they need protection in the first place? In this article, I will take an in-depth look at these two characters and give tips on how to accommodate each other.

Who are Empaths?

If you are an empath, the chances are that you have had an encounter(s) with a narcissist(s). Whether or not the experience was fruitful solely depends on how you interacted with them. Narcissists thrive on making other people feel inferior about themselves.

This could be draining given that empaths are quite the opposite of narcissists – sensitive.

Empaths Character Traits

Before we delve into knowing how empaths protect themselves from narcissists, let’s discuss the traits that define empaths.

The following traits are common among empaths:

Do you have a problem with boundaries? Empaths tend to worry more about others than themselves. Consequently, it is difficult at times to tell when to open up and let other people into their life and when to shut off negative energy.
Empaths are easily prone to a nervous breakdown. They feel for everyone, including people who are total strangers to them. Absorbing all these emotions (both happy and sad) can lead to a nervous system meltdown.
They have intimacy issues. Empaths are quick to connect with other people emotionally. This is a liability especially when it comes to maintaining a relationship with one person. You can unconsciously find yourself emotionally entangled with more than one person.
Alone time is replenishing. Empaths recharge when they are alone and free from human contact. Absorbing all these emotions can be weary and draining. Alone time allows an empath to decompress and recharge. This is mainly achieved in a serene natural environment setting.
You have an acute intuition. The gut feeling of an empath is always right most times. I think the ability to feel what the next person is feeling is what contributes to this.

Who are Narcissists?

Beyond knowing how empaths can protect themselves from narcissists, you need to know how to identify a narcissist. It is not hard to identify a narcissist from the crowd. No one person will admit to being grandiose callous and unemotional.

Narcissists Character Traits

Narcissists portray the following characteristics:

Need for self-admiration. Narcissists crave admiration more than anything else. They will bombard you with statistics and personal achievements to feed their ego. This has the effect of making the other person think lowly of themselves.
They lack empathy. Narcissists do not show the slightest of emotion towards anything or anyone.
Feeling entitled. They are arrogant, selfish and think that others are indebted to them.
They can be manipulative. A narcissist will trick you into doing what they want. Their interests always come first, and they love exploiting others.
Authoritativeness. Since they believe they are good at everything they do, narcissists have an inflated sense of bossiness.

How Do Empaths Protect Themselves From Narcissists?

Given that they connect quickly, empaths are an easy target to prey on. Do empaths need to protect themselves from narcissists? Yes. Narcissists will not mind that their utterances and actions are hurting others. As a result, such a relationship will only wreck an empath. That said, how do empaths protect themselves from narcissists?

Meditation

Connecting with nature is the simplest and quickest way for an empath to replenish. Take time to reflect and think about whether or not someone is adding value to you or just exploiting you. This is the only time you can clear your mind and think clearly.

Build Boundaries

I know this sounds impossible, but there is no other way around it. You need to cut off any ties with narcissists. If you can’t then at least come clean with the person. Narcissists will only drain you of your energy at their pleasure. This might sound selfish at first, but it is for your highest good that you avoid these people.

Alone Time

Do not spend too much time with a person if they exhibit narcissistic behaviors. Take some time off to decompress and gain back the lost energy.

Let Yourself Be

Naturally, you will fall for a narcissist and even get tempted in to ‘helping’ them. Remember, it is not your job to fix everybody. Who will fix you anyway? Sometimes you need to be quite the opposite of what defines you and care for yourself.

Trust Your Intuition

This is the easiest way for empaths to protect themselves from narcissists. Your guts will always be right. So if you detect some negative energy in your life, the safest decision is to walk away.

Don’t Take Everything to Heart

Someone might say something insensitive towards you. If you took everything seriously, then you might become a human wreck. Take criticism for what it is without necessarily letting it eat you up. Besides, not everyone will always be helpful to you and expecting that from them is no less than being a narcissist.

Ignore them

Narcissists crave attention. Don’t give it to them. They can and will find someone else to pick on.

The Bottom Line

The truth is that no one is perfect. Well, a narcissist believes otherwise. Don’t be so obsessed with the idea of protecting yourself such that you forget to live and enjoy yourself. You may end up a sad, depressed soul and discover that you are lonely and unhappy when it is already too late to change things. People will always have flaws, and I think that is what completes us in our human nature. Dating a narcissist may be the equivalent of a dangerous dance with the devil, but hey, at least you get to dance in the long run. I hope the above answers the question: how do empaths protect themselves from narcissists. In the end, what counts is whether you found happiness in your relationship.

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Soul Friend: 8 Signs You Found One

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2 months ago

February 18, 2021

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Who is on your friends’ list? Can you refer to any of them as your soul friend? See, today’s global village way of life makes us refer to strangers as our friends for the sake of associating with them on social media. You know, some even call each other frenemies. Yet, true friends, let alone soul friends share an interpersonal bond that grows over time. They are honest, loyal, available, and understanding. More so, they are the people who will check on you, ensuring you are not lonely or living in isolation.

So, who is your soul friend?

The Definition

A soul friend can be a friend, lover, sibling, spouse, or anyone else that you share with feelings of deep affinity. Think of it as having one soul in two separate bodies. Hence, the friendship cuts across all aspects of your lives and is never based on monetary or sexual gain. Indeed, it is a platonic tie, way beyond a sexual relationship or loyal friendship.

Importance of Soul Friendships

When you discover your soul mate friend, you keep each other lively and vital regardless of your circumstances. This friend becomes your spiritual sidekick, nourishing your soul with love and encouragement always. A true soul friend is with you through your darkest nights and brightest days.

Recognizing your soul friend early will benefit you in many ways:

You get an affirmation of how strong and resilient you are, boosting your self-confidence
Now, you can let go of any limiting beliefs you have due to childhood traumas to live a more fulfilling adult life
A soul friend helps you discover your purpose in life and supports your life journey unconditionally
Soul friends make a conscious effort to pursue soul growth, attaining a state of peace for a better life

Signs You Found Your Soul Friend

Then, how do you know that you have met your soul friend? Here are 8 distinct ways to do so.

#1: You Count On Each Other

Soul friends count on each other for protection, moral support, and getting an energy boost whenever they feel low. More so, a soul friend will: –

Be brutally honest with you
Stick around even after a heated argument
Offer immediate help to help you prepare for your career breakthrough meeting
Take you in and offer you a shoulder to cry on when your home or family is falling apart
Be your wingman or woman as you explore new territories
Know what to do when you are having a bad day
Be your partner in crime when you need to get your hands dirty on some backlog
Never judge your bad decisions, but lets you know if you made a mistake

#2: Forgiveness Comes Naturally

How many times do you have to forgive your friend? Or, are you the type who says, “I thought you were my friend”? Soul friends share lots of memories; ups and downs that they learn to tolerate each other’s flaws. Likewise, a soul friend will not take advantage of the other’s kindness to hurt them. Instead, they overlook offenses for the sake of their friendship.

#3: Mutual Trust

Your soul friend is the type of person you can trust with your life, literally. Hence, soul friends will:

Set and respect their boundaries
Keep their word
Maintain integrity in all their interactions
Adopt a straightforward and consistent behavior towards each other
Keep confidential things between themselves

Mutual trust allows soul friends to share intimate details about their past knowing the other person is a reliable confidant.

#4: Soul Friends Practice Effective Communication

When soul friends converse, they are in tune with one another. Hence, one of them may not agree with what the other is saying but will listen actively all the same. In contrast, most frenemies tolerate the friendship for as long as it suits them. Hence, they are guilty of selective listening. Hence, most soul friendships are free of drama, frustrating compromise, or misunderstandings.

#5: No Topic is Too Taboo

Soul friends talk about anything and everything. It is a two-way sharing of ideas, ensuring both friends benefit. Hence, think of a person you term as your soul friend. Then, think of an issue that is too uncomfortable for you. It can be your childhood scars, stereotypes that you do not agree with, or opinions on politics, same-sex marriages, or spirituality. Can you raise and discuss it with this friend? A soul friend will respect your opinions and not judge you afterward.

#6: Find the Best in You

We all have aspects about our bodies, careers, or lifestyle that we feel inadequate about. It could range from those who feel not beautiful, handsome, intelligent, or rich enough to those who fear losing control when under pressure. Yet, soul friends have a flipped perspective on this. They choose to see and remind each other of their best traits. For example, when recovering from substance abuse, a soul friend will remind you how you battled and won depression, ensuring you put up a spirited fight. This conscious relationship helps soul friends to care for one another when the other is feeling low.

#7: All Criticism is Constructive

Soul friends weigh their words when they want to criticize each other. That is, they consider the other person’s emotional wellbeing, and are out to find solutions, not just identify a problem. In contrast, negative criticism leaves one of the friends feeling superior to the other.

#8: Life is Unimaginable without Your Soul Friend

Finally, before we discover our soul friends, life seems quite normal. Then, the soul friend comes along; all of a sudden you cannot imagine a life without them. Most soul friends have never thought of a time when they will have to part ways. Indeed, soul friendship makes the soul buddies feel incredibly full.

Conclusion

Despite the devalued way that today’s generations refer to friendships, soul friends do exist. When you find one, cherish him or her. Use the above signs to pinpoint them from your group of purported friends. That way, you have a life companion.

Dating

How to Attract Love in 2021: Life-Changing Feng Shui Tips

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3 months ago

January 15, 2021

Katya Ki

If you’re truly serious about looking for a soulmate and want to settle down, get married and start a family, you can rejoice as 2021 may finally be your year for finding love! In this article, I will share with you life-changing Feng Shui tips on how to attract love in 2021! Also, if you’re already in a relationship, I will give you a few tips on how to protect your marriage and balance your relationship in 2021.

Feng Shui Tips On How To Attract Love In 2021

Tip #1: Enhance the East Sector

For singles, it looks to be a good year for romance as the Peach Blossom Star has flown to the East sector. East is the sector of the Rabbit who is associated with the energy of the Moon and the Moon Goddess who rules love and romantic relationships and everything related to romance.

The legend tells that if you catch the attention of the Moon Goddess, she will assist in all matters of the heart, improve relationships between those in love, and help those still looking for love.

Since Romance Star is residing in the East this year, you need to enhance the East sector, the Moon Rabbit’s home, in order to manifest love and romance. To do so display the Rabbit in the Moon in the East corner of your living space. Placing this powerful Feng Shui activator in the East will help those of you who are single to meet someone special. Also, it helps those of you who are already married to keep your relationship strong.

Tip #2: Attract Love In 2021 By Displaying Your Peach Blossom Animal

If you want to speed things up in the area of marriage, display your Peach Blossom Animal in the appropriate location designated for your animal sign. If you don’t know your Peach Blossom Animal, use this simple Peach blossom formula to find out.

Tip #3: Protect Your Relationship From The External Flower of Romance Star

However, all is not rosy in the area of love. Romance blossoms but does not last in 2021. Marriages and serious relationships become vulnerable in 2021. Unhappiness leads to affairs.

If you are already married, be aware of the External Flower of Romance Star in the chart which unfortunately makes all marriages vulnerable due to outside temptation. This is the year when “innocent friendships” at work may develop into something more serious and destroy a marriage.

The External Flower of the Romance Star brings betrayals and infidelity in marriages, with many outside temptations affecting those born in the years of the Rat, Rabbit, and Sheep.

To protect your marriage from third parties, display the Rabbit in the Moon in the East corner of your living space.

Also, carry the Enhancing Relationships Amulet. This amulet is a powerful protection against third party troublemakers. It prevents infidelities and improves relationships between the spouses.

Display the Marriage Happiness Ducks in the Southwest and East. This beautiful Feng Shui activator brings not just marital happiness. It lights up your life and helps you see all the beauty and good qualities in each other. These beautiful ducks also subdue inharmonious energies that cause quarrels and arguments. This is the essential symbol for the home of any married couple, as it ensures you stay happily married for a long time. It strengthens your love for one another and brings plenty of joy and good times to the marriage.

If you suspect that your spouse is already involved with someone, you can call on Kurukulle a powerful Goddess of love by chanting the Kurukulle mantra:

“OM KURUKULLE HRIH SOHA”

Chant it 21 times daily.

The Bottom Line

Remember that if you’re looking for love and romance that can lead to marriage, the Peach Blossom Formula is an extremely fast-acting method. Place your Peach Blossom Animal in the appropriate sector to attract your soulmate. This is also an effective way if you have been dating a long time, for you to get your partner to finally propose!

This is a good year for love! Make the most of it!

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Gratitude Journal for Kids: The What, Why, and How to Guide

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8 months ago

August 7, 2020

Rachel Kithae

Sometimes we are so worried about what our kids will become that we forget we have the power to mold them in our hands. Like we can sit back and let our children whine and complain about all the things they think they deserve or teach them to accept life as it is and work towards a better tomorrow. Today I will share with you how to harness the power of gratitude in their young minds irrespective of which age your kid is as long as they can speak and understand. A gratitude journal for kids will achieve just that and more.

What is Gratitude?

Gratus is the Latin word from where gratitude is borrowed. It means showing appreciation. Most religions and traditional spiritualists over the years have taught gratitude to multiple generations. And, in recent times, psychologists have also joined the bandwagon; preaching the importance of gratitude. What are you grateful for?

Do you know that you can impart the same practice to your young ones using a gratitude journal for kids?

You read that right.

So Why Gratitude Journaling?

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Your child will enjoy the following benefits once you start practicing gratitude:

#1: Better relationships

Acknowledging help or support from friends can open up new opportunities. This is especially important for introverted kids or kids who are naturally aggressive. Once they start gratitude journaling, they open up to saying “thank you” even for small favors from their peers. In turn, they win more friends. Now, who doesn’t want their kid to be popular for all the good reasons?

#2: Improved psychological health

In addition to winning more friends over, a gratitude journal for kids can help them reduce toxic emotions. These include frustrations that result in resentment, envy (because they think their peers are more blessed than they are) and regret among others.

You see, when they learn to count their blessings, they will focus on them more than focusing on what they don’t have. So, each time your son says, “mommy Tony has a digital bike”, open the gratitude journal on the day they were grateful for their old-school bike as a reminder.

#3: Better Performance in school

Research has proven that gratitude increases mental strength. In addition, when your kid has little to worry about, they sleep better. And good sleeping patterns have also been linked to higher IQs. So, it’s a win-win for you.

#4: More empathy and reduced aggression

There is this category of kids who are sadly referred to as “bullies”. A gratitude journal for kids will tone the aggression down by introducing them to empathy. Consequently, they behave in a prosocial manner even when those around them behave less kind. See such environments make them hostile but with gratitude journaling, they will look at the positive side instead of seeking revenge. And don’t we all want that for our kids?

So now that we agree, let me share with you how to start journaling with your children.

6 Ways to Introduce Gratitude Journaling for Kids

#1: Set the Example

Kids at ages 2-6 learn by watching adults. They tend to copy paste what mommy or daddy does. So before you go bonkers with a list of gratitude journaling instructions, show them your gratitude journal first. Other than setting an example, your gratitude journal will also teach you and impact the same benefits you wish to instill in your kids. Because, let’s be honest, you can’t convince your little one that a gratitude journal for kids will have a positive impact unless you experience it first, right?

#2: Invest In an Age Appropriate Gratitude Journal

You will find several gratitude journals; some free and others available online for easy download. The online options also come with customizable templates so you can design a journal that your kids can relate to. Just make it simple to follow and interesting to work with. While at it, include a few prompts.

Like:

“What made you happy today?”

“What do you wish for tomorrow?”

Etc.

Such prompts make it easier for children to follow along on their own.

#3: Drawings and Pictures

Kids under 8 years are visual and creative with colors. If you have a camera, let them take photos randomly. However, there’s a catch: only when they are happy. At the end of the day, review these photos, print them and stick them in their journal with a sentence or two to remind them of these occasions.

The idea is to create a gratitude journal for kids that they can grow with. So three years from now, they will look at these photos in their lowest moments and smile.

In the absence of a camera, you can encourage them to draw pictures of what made them happy during the day. Was it their pet or a walk in the park? Then let them draw their pet or the park and add a description of the exact event? A few colors will bring these drawings to life.

#4: Creative Affirmations

Above 5 years of age, you can teach your child to manifest their life. Start with the basic things they understand. And when these affirmations come to pass, journal them together. See the mind is as powerful as our creativity. Teach your kids the law of attraction as early as now.

#5: Sing Along Songs

YouTube is full of gratitude songs for kids. However, you don’t have to stop there. Create your own lyrics and sing along each day before you go to bed. The good thing about songs is they are easily replayed in the subconscious mind even in sleep. And the secret to effective gratitude journaling is repetition. See what I’m doing?

#6: Poetry and Short Stories

For kids above the age of 8 years, engage them in lengthy scripts. By this age, they are already writing academic compositions anyway, so why not channel that creativity in their gratitude journals?

In Conclusion

A gratitude journal for kids sets a strong foundation for a positive mindset. See we all need positivity to make it through each day. However, with gratitude, you’re not merely surviving the day but enjoying and looking forward to each moment in your life. Let your child experience the same from a tender age and they will effortlessly transit to adulthood as happy and responsible people.