What is tantra? Tantra in literal terms can be compared to technology. Just like we harness technology to create what we want – physical items or otherwise, tantra is leveraged to enable us to make available, an intelligence beyond our present capabilities. It is a sophisticated process of awareness, openness, and harmony. It allows you to open your heart and move the energies within your body through conscious awareness.

Demystifying Tantra

Tantra originated from India and was documented in Sanskrit texts from the 6th to about the 13th century. It was (and still is) meant to enhance the mastery of one’s energies and how to harness them. Tantra works to help us to love and understand our lives. It also creates a spiritual connection with everything that is present in our lives. And in this case, even our partners.

The nature of the human mind is such that if we can distinctly create something in our mind, the next step would be to empower that with our life energy. And if we can do that, it will become a living reality by itself. Most humans have lost this power because their minds have become restless. Their life energies are also not sufficiently organized to put them behind whatever they wish.

There are tools that we can use to harness our mind and energies to making an intelligence that surpasses our present capabilities. These tools are referred to as tantric methods. We use tantra to make things happen. Tantra methods are varied. In yoga, we refer to it as tantra yoga. In sexuality, we relate to the tantra method as tantric sex. With Tantra, you work on your mind, energies, emotions, body, and heart, collectively or separately, to achieve something.

If you’re still wondering what is tantra, we can conclude that if you are able to strengthen yourself physically such that you can accomplish arduous tasks, then that is Tantra. Similarly, tantra is when you manage to employ your energies to your heart. This makes you kind and loving to all.

Tantra and Sexuality

For most people (especially in Western countries), the mention of tantra resonates with acrobatic sexuality – hours and hours of it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy prolonged sex. However, tantra works mainly to enhance a more intimate and stronger connection with your partner.

So, all this begs the question, what is tantra with regards to sexuality?

To answer this question, I will refer to a form of tantra called tantric sex.

Tantric sex, an ancient Hindu practice, had remained hidden from the public for ages due to religious reasons. However, it is now open to all. Tantric sex is a form of slow sex. It is designed as a way of weaving and expanding the energies at play during sex. The aim is for the whole experience to be as enjoyable and rewarding as possible.

Sexuality is potent. Its energies are some of the most intense. Tantric sex enables you to harness this energy appropriately. Instead of demanding fulfillment from your partner, tantra helps you to find it within yourself. This creates stability and harmony in relationships.

Tantra also allows couples to enjoy better sex. It provides an avenue in which they eradicate the negative emotions that work to inhibit the blossoming of relationships. In Tantra, sex isn’t a taboo or something to be ashamed. Instead, it is sacred and an expression of our inherent ability to experience joy with others.

There are specific guidelines when performing tantra that I apply. These guidelines are extremely useful in facilitating a bond with my partner and providing a conducive atmosphere for intimacy. In many ways, it enhances sensuality even before you initiate intercourse.

The Basic Tantric Sex Principles are:

• Creating a sacred place for your sexual time with your partner.
• Slowing down and being aware and present with each other.
• Honoring your lover.
• Emphasizing total body sexual foreplay.

Use tantric breathing exercises to channel your Kundalini. The term refers to sexual energy that stays dormant in your body until it is awakened. It then spreads from the base of your spine to the top of your head, through your Chakras (your body energy centers).

The Impacts of Tantra on Spirituality As Well As Sexual Relationships

Tantra enables you to channel your energies into achieving calmness and inner peace which are integral components of your spirituality.

The emphasis of tantric sex on honoring your lover and taking out negative thoughts about them as well as yourself, from your mind is essential in promoting healthy relationships.

Today’s lives and hustles mean that we rarely stop and get to understand the special people in our lives. Tantra enhances connecting with your lover more intensely. This improves the bond you share with each other. You get to understand each other on a very high level. It also provides adequate closeness in your intimacy which enhances your union.

The ability to experience sexual pleasure is vital in any sexual relationship. Tantric sex enables you to harness sexual energy. The pleasurable sensations get exaggerated and experienced over long periods. After all, sex is part of being human and enjoying it in the best way possible is essential to our wellbeing.

In tantra, we learn how to use our mind, energies, and body as instruments with which we can achieve higher possibilities. When correctly implemented, tantra enhances spiritual healing and wellness.

Tips for Spicing Up Lovemaking Based On Tantric Sex

Mental Manipulation

The key to enjoying sex lies in one’s mind. If anything the brain is the organ that processes our sensations. What this means is that any negative thoughts including misgivings about ourselves or our partners will ultimately hinder us from enjoying the experiences. You, therefore, need to shed it all and have a clear mind.

Think of it as having an intimate relationship with the best version of your partner. Release the past and immerse yourself in the now – the present. Keep it all out and focus on the experiences at hand. Focus on the nourishing thoughts about yourself, your body as well as your partner’s.

Establish and Maintain Eye Contact

Having eye contact with your partner during sex (as well as during foreplay) is one of the best ways to connect with them. Intimacy is not just about intercourse. It is also about getting to be one with your partner. Eye contact enables you to fully immerse yourself in your sensations as well as those of your partner.

One way to start is by eye gazing. Sit across each other on the bed with no touching and merely stare into each other’s eyes for about five minutes. Essentially, it creates a deep level of connection with your partner even before you touch one another.

Meditate As You Have Sex

What I mean by this, is to picture the sensations while being fully aware of your present moment. If you tune in to your five senses, you will experience everything that you perceive at that moment. This will happen through what you see, hear, feel, smell, and taste.

The next step is to use your sexual energy to get into a state of trance. For regular sex, your sensations and the turn-on are localized in your genitals. However, with tantra, you can direct this energy to the brain and through the rest of the body. It will get you into a profound state of consciousness.

In Conclusion

Orgasm or climaxing is usually a short-lived period of extreme pleasure. However, with tantric sex, due to the intense circulation of sexual energy, as well as the fact that you’re more in a state of trance, the orgasm leads to the entire body coming alive. Instead of being a brief experience, the body radiates these extreme pleasure sensations for hours and hours. With this, I hope the question of what is tantra has been comprehensively addressed.

An empath child is very unique and special. However, initially, most parents don’t understand how to deal with them.  Therefore, this confuses the child even more. You see, the child is going through new emotions and strange things. They need time to understand, appreciate, and deal with all this. As a parent, the best gift you can give an empath chid is supporting them emotionally and assuring them that it’s normal for them to be different. As they grow older, teach them how to harness their empath abilities and make use of them.

How Do You Identify an Empath Child?

They Are Overly Emotional and Sensitive

Does your child cry when another kid is in pain? Do they react strongly to criticism? Empath children are highly sensitive to other people’s emotions. They also don’t like being corrected harshly.

However, you don’t have to raise a spoilt brat just because they possess empath qualities. Just try to understand why they do what they do and correct them with love. Sometimes you can ignore wrongdoing but make sure you have a candid talk about such behaviour later on.

They Have Strong Connections with Nature and Animals

Naturally, empath kids don’t make friends with their age mates easily. They stand out as too mature for their age. However, they have a strong bond with animals. If your kid prefers to take a stroll in the neighborhood with their dog, let them be.

Occasionally, they will describe to you several aspects of nature after such strolls. For example, they want specific flowers growing in your garden. Or they will ask why particular trees appear like they are whistling. Empath children can be full of surprises. Wait till they tell you they talked to a tree!

They Don’t Blend Easily in Crowds

Does your little one scream aloud when you suggest going to the public park to play? Do they prefer to stay locked in their room instead? Don’t worry. She’s/he’s an empathic child. Generally, empaths find crowds to be suffocating. When in such places, their brains are working full time trying to process all the mixed energies in their surroundings.

Over time, an adult empath learns how to cope with such situations. But this is not always the case for a child. This sensation is a thousand times harder for a child because they are still discovering new things in their surroundings.

They Love “Me-Times”

As your empath child fights off the overwhelming energies of a crowd, they find it peaceful staying indoors. This tendency should not worry you. If your child loves spending time on his/her own, make his/her surrounding welcoming. 

Fill his/her room with interior decorations and the colors she loves. Encourage him/her to discover his/her creative side. Above all, let him/her know that it is okay to spend his/her time on his/her own.

They Can Be Control Freaks

Most parents of empath children always expect them to be moody and oversensitive. However, they never imagine them as control freaks. Well, they can be.

Think about it. Does your empath child like everything to be done in a particular order? Do they get agitated when you challenge their ideas? Or, do you notice your child counterchecking the door locks or washing their hands too many times? That is normal for empaths.

They Like to Develop a Routine

Often, an empath child knows the things that get him/her anxious. In turn, they develop an obsession for control to keep the anxiety triggers away. This way, they can easily cope with the anxiety build up.

If your child happens to be a control freak and anxious most of the times, try to look at situations in their perspective and sympathize with them. Develop simple routines that will reassure the child.

How to Master Your Emotions and Use Your Energy to Empower an Empath Child

As long as you are not a narcissist, you are the best gift that your empath child has. However, you need to understand when to correct them, when to let it go, and when to teach them. Sadly, with an empath child, most of the time you as a parent are the one learning, not the other way round. If you can keep your emotions in check, it is simple to have a child-centered educational approach. Let me show you how.

Learn To Listen More

As your empath child discovers his/her likes and dislikes, always offer a listening ear. At this stage in their lives, the children will have many questions without proper answers. Some of these questions may look petty to you. However, never dismiss empath children when they approach you.

Instead, let them know that they can always run to you to express the way they feel. As a parent to an empath child, you need to be their cheerleader as they go through the motions of life.

Teach them to Use Affirmations

Do you enjoy starting your day with meditation? Why not do it with your little one? Teach your child to be grateful for the little things that happen in their life. Let them know that their sensitivity is a gift which they can use for the benefit of others and themselves. Let them learn to accept and love themselves through constant affirmations.

Finally, Enrol Them in the Right Education Programme

Empath children thrive best in child-based curriculums such as those offered in Montessori systems. The reason is that they like being in charge. If you enroll them in schools that push them around to do what the school dictates, that child might never realize their full potential.

They might also lead a very boring school life. Yes, most of us hated school anyway, but we were never really depressed by the curriculums offered, right?

The Bottom Line

I hope the above discussion has shed some light on how to handle your empath child. Nurture them from their tender ages and support them emotionally. And when you feel like giving up, remember that the empath child feels even more weight than you do. So hang in there! Once they understand their unique personalities, they will be easier to handle and mentor.

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It’s not a secret that energy is the vital force of the body. That is why energy is priceless. When people communicate with each other, there is always an exchange of energy. If people communicate with each other on a voluntary basis, and their energy is in resonance, the energy exchange is balanced and reciprocal. After such communication, there are pleasant feelings and a desire to communicate again. This is an example of normal and natural communication with no signs of energy vampires.

However, the modern reality is that the cases of energy vampirism are very common. And, almost every one of us has at least once come face to face with one of the many manifestations of energy vampirism. This happens because the energy of most people is weak leaving them feeling exhausted. Such people, due to lack of relevant knowledge or desire, are not able to independently maintain their energy at a normal level, so they “suck” energy (unknowingly) from other people.

You can meet energy vampires anywhere: at work, at the stores, at the parties, at home, etc. After talking to an energy vampire, a person can feel fatigue, irritability, mood deterioration and a feeling of loss of vital energy. It is necessary to understand that if you constantly fall under the influence of energy vampirism, this entails the depletion of your energy field. When the energy field is weakened, you feel exhausted and easily get sick.

Therefore, energetic vampirism is the process of energy extraction by one person of another person, in which the first becomes saturated, and the second is weakened.

The Nature Of Energy Vampire and Energy Donor

An energy vampire is always energetically and spiritually more weak, than energy donor. Typically, only insecure and unstable people who are prone to scandals, gossips and envy become energy vampires. They are intuitively attracted to positive and energized people.

An energy donor is a person with great energy and spiritual potential. As a result, the energy donor is attractive to energy vampire and unwittingly gives his energy when communicating.

The cause of energy vampirism is always lack of vital energy. When a person doesn’t have enough energy he (or she) becomes an energy vampire.

In other words, if the person continually causes irritation, and after talking with him, you feel weak and tired, most likely you’re dealing with an energy vampire!

Usually, a person who becomes an energy vampire has lots of blocks in his (or her) energy body. That’s why he (or she) becomes unable to freely access sustainable energy from Source. Therefore, he (or she) takes energy from another person, and usually feels some sort of pleasure or satisfaction that his (or her) donor feels bad and depleted because of the loss of energy.

For the most part, energy vampires are very obsessive, and often unhappy with themselves and their environment, selfish and annoying. Staying with them is very uncomfortable, and any conversation with them quickly becomes boring or even painful.

I’m telling you all this for making you understand that energy vampires are energetically weak people. Their access to their own internal power source is blocked. This suggests that they have a lot of blocks and insecurities. They absolutely do not resonate with the vibrations of the universe, because they violate its laws.

How To Recognize Energy Vampires?

Let’s take a look at the signs that reveal energy vampires.

First of all, the most important thing for energy vampires is to get you out of balance.

For example, he can pretend that he doesn’t understand something. At the same time, he will be bothering you with a lot of questions and errors, completely ignoring any explanation, and not recognizing any help. Through his actions, he wants you to lose your temper. As soon as you lose control over your emotions, there will be a release of energy, which will serve as “food” for the vampire.

Secondly, energy vampires often start long conversations “about nothing”.

These conversations cannot be interrupted and you have to listen for hours about their complaints and stories about their life. If you feel that you are already tired of the conversation, but you can not interrupt it or change the subject, then most likely, your excessive talker is just trying to pump energy out of you.

Thirdly, energy vampires like to create situations when you are forced to wait for them, tormented in the expectations.

For example, you can simply invite such a person to a cafe or the movie theater, and he will not give you a clear answer whether he is going to make it or not. As a result, you start to get frustrated about the uncertainty, and the energy vampire gets his “food” in the form of your energy.

Fourthly, the energy vampire gets pleasure from retelling the details of disasters, tragedies, wars, deaths, and other negative events.

He relishes the details of the suffering of the victims in order to arouse in others fear, anxiety, and pain. Thus he brings them out of balance. People get emotional about negativity in the world and then become “food” for energy vampires.

Fifthly, energy vampires always seek direct contact.

They like to touch other people, can even intentionally push somebody for getting their “food”.

There are different types of energy vampires

Generally, one vampire can distinguish several kinds.

1. “Upstart”

This type gives the impression of a kind person. But when someone starts a conversation about their problems, he immediately butts in the conversation and starts asking questions about the details, giving advice, and revealing the stories about other people’s suffering.

2. “Pessimist”

This person always has a very sad look. He often grumbles and is absolutely dissatisfied with his life. Even if such a person gets into a friendly company, he will always find something negative and will constantly be focusing on it. He likes to complain about his life and the imperfections of this world. You might think that such a person is just looking for moral support or advice, but in fact, he is not going to change anything in his life, he just needs your energy. And he gets it, drawing your attention to his problem.

3. “Aggressive vampire”

This type loves to provoke conflicts and quarrels. He is rude and one might even say barbaric. He is very well aware of what causes people’s negative emotions and loves to push buttons.  This gives him great pleasure. Because negative emotions are his favorite “dish”.

4. “Selfish”

Such a person absolutely does not care about other people, he only cares about his own problems. As a rule, such a person considers himself an undervalued genius, who was surrounded by small and limited people who are not able to appreciate it. Usually, he is arrogant and likes to humiliate other people.

5. “Manipulator”

This is the most dangerous type, which acts very tricky. From the very beginning, he’s (she’s) trying to ingratiate himself (herself), make compliments (manipulating victim’s ego), gives expensive gifts. He (she) can spend weeks, months, and even years making a potential donor dependent on him (her). Besides that, he (she) tries to learn everything about the victim’s interests, passions, and weaknesses. He (she) is always very attentive to donor’s emotions and feelings.

But the danger is that as soon as the victim lets him (her) into his (her) life, he (she) immediately begins to humiliate, insult and hurt the victim. He (she) will always equally use “stick and carrot” in order not to lose the donor. He (she) will not leave the donor alone until he (she) has sucked all the energy out of the donor. When the donor is completely devastated, he (she) will switch to the next victim and will follow the same pattern.

When you’re facing this type of vampirism it is very important to control your ego. One of the first things this kind of vampire will use to manipulate you is your vanity.

How To Deal With Energy Vampires?

When you’re experiencing the vampiric attack as the donor you’re losing a large amount of vital energy, resulting in fatigue, apathy, and irritability.

Please pay attention to the main signs of vampiric attack:

• headache;
• dizziness;
• heart palpitation;
• pain in the heart;
• difficulty breathing;
• weakness;
• fatigue;
• drowsiness;
• insomnia;
• decreased appetite;
• depression;
• fear of loneliness;
• apathy;
• pessimism;
• sorrow.

If after talking with a person, you have at least one of these symptoms, then most likely you fell under the effects of a vampiric attack.

So, how to protect yourself when you’re facing an energy vampire?

The first thing you need to remember – energy vampires can’t take your energy if you’re calm and balanced.

That’s why they try to cause negative emotions. Therefore, the most important thing is not to allow the vampire to provoke you and to remain calm. If in such a situation you can remain calm, you will not become the donor.

Second, when energy vampires talk about their problems, it is necessary to refrain from feeling pity.

As a rule, during these stories, he (she) stares into the eyes of a potential donor, not allowing to look away. He (she) also tries to touch the donor as often as possible, thus trying to extend the contact. In such cases, it’s best just to walk away from the vampire or come up with a reason to distract the conversation. If this is impossible, you can think about something more neutral – it will help to keep your emotions under control.

Third, try not to look into the vampire’s eyes.

This is how you can protect yourself from the vampire’s manipulations.

Fourth, when dealing with an energy vampire, cross your arms and legs.

Such a posture will help you avoid energy leakage.

Conclusion

My experience has shown that the best way to protect yourself from energy vampires is to treat them with good humor. Laughter is the emotion to which vampires are absolutely not ready for. Therefore, try to treat people who are trying to bring you into unbalanced emotional states with irony. What makes you laugh can’t be scary, right? Try to make fun of any rude remarks the vampire makes. Humor absolutely knocks the vampire out of balance, because it doesn’t resonate with him (her) at all. Stay calm and be positive!

Namaste!