Quarantine made married and engaged couples face big challenges in the relationship. 40% of couples surveyed reported spending more than 20 extra hours per week with their partners as a result of social distancing. However, only 18% of surveyed couples reported satisfaction in communication with their partner, with the largest source of conflict reported was how often to have sex. In this article, we want to introduce you to sexual harmony and how to achieve it based on Ayurvedic principles.

If you happen to struggle in your relationship during this global pandemic, sexual harmony principles can not only help you to balance and improve your relationship, but more importantly, can help you to be in harmony with yourself and your true nature!

Ayurveda And Sexual Harmony

To achieve wellness, the principles of Ayurveda work to equate the three elemental doshas (also known as mind-body types) of Pitta, Vata, and Kapha within the body. 

According to Ayurveda, proper nutrition, healthy sleep, and harmonious sexual relationship are the basis of human health.

If we look at the Ayurvedic texts, we will see how important sex life was and how seriously it was taken. In ancient treatises, you can find detailed recommendations on how to establish an intimate life, how much sex we really need, and how to have sex properly. This all leads to sexual harmony.

All the recommendations below are based on the experience of many generations who lived in harmony with nature and natural biological rhythms.

How Much Sex Do We Need?

Advice on regulating sexual life can be found in the treatise “Ashtanga Hridayam”, which was written by Vagbhata more than 2,5 thousand years ago. According to this sacred text:

• during the winter season, a person can have sex every day, as long as he/she can;
• during the spring and fall season, a person can have sex once every three days;
• during the summertime, a person can have sex once a fortnight.

Why is it recommended to limit sex in the summer? You see, during the summer heat, Pitta dosha can get out of control, and frequent intercourse can worsen this imbalance. Spring and autumn are considered a moderate period. Therefore, sex every three days will not exhaust the body and will not bring the dosha out of balance.

Sexual Harmony Based On Your Dosha

Not only in nutrition but also in intimate matters, you need to take into account the individual constitution – dosha. After all, dosha reacts differently to a relationship with a partner.

If you don’t know your dosha, please take our Ayurvedic Body Type Quiz!

Pitta Dosha

The people of the Pitta dosha are strong, energetic, and passionate. They like frequent sex, which can bring the fire element out of balance. Therefore, Pitta dosha is better to observe moderation, especially during the summer season.

Vata Dosha

The people of the Vata dosha are lean, lively, and creative. They may have trouble sleeping and may be overly sensitive. Vata dosha people should take care of the preservation of Ojas and restrict sexual contact until full energy recovery.

Kapha Dosha

The people of Kapha dosha tend to be overweight, emotionally calm, and stable. This dosha type has a strong body and therefore, these people can have sex more often without draining the Ojas.

How To Get Energy?

Aphrodisiacs are often mentioned in the sacred texts about sexual relationships. Why are they needed? The fact is that sex drains Ojas — the life force that gives energy and is responsible for the immune system. Strong Ojas not only supports the body’s tissues in a healthy state, but it is also responsible for a stable mind, clear consciousness, and stress resistance.

For a strong libido and recovery of Ojas, you need to eat well. Did you know that usually people burn up to 300 calories during sex? Therefore, a light salad or smoothie will not make up for the energy spent. Make sure you eat nutritious meals that contain coconut or olive oil.

Ayurvedic Remedies to Support Libido

Ashwagandha

The Kama Sutra mentions ashwagandha in its literature as a potent sexual stimulant. Ayurvedic doctors recommend ashwagandha to men. Its use increases the level of testosterone by 40%, as well as improves mobility and sperm count, which has a positive effect on the treatment of male infertility.

For men, ashwagandha stimulates the production of nitric oxide in the body. This causes a dilatation of the blood vessels that carry blood to the genitals, leading to increased sexual desire.

For women, taking ashwagandha typically produces an increase in sexual desire and satisfaction.

Safed Musli

This ayurvedic remedy is effective for erectile dysfunction, low libido in both men and women. Safed Musli increases stamina in general and during sex in particular.

It increases the production of testosterone, improves the sperm count and enhances sexual desire.

The benefits of healthy intimacy go beyond sexual satisfaction. Partners who enjoy healthy sexual life also experience its beneficial effects in other areas of their romantic life. Better intimacy leads to better communication and togetherness – which is the secret to any conscious relationship.

Shatavari

This is the best ayurvedic herb for the female reproductive system: it rejuvenates and normalizes the hormones. As an aphrodisiac, it removes frigidity and restores sexual desire.

Shatavari has a toning and calming effect on the woman’s body which helps restore her libido. Also, it enhances the reproductive system.

Chyawanprash

It is a nourishing jam that blends Ayurvedic herbs into a base of amla, a fruit known to be a natural source of antioxidants.

Chyawanprash was originally formulated to strengthen and revitalize the reproductive organs. It plays a very important role in triggering the reproductive system and promotes vitality and sexual health. In addition, chyawanprash promotes fertility, healthy libido, sexual stamina in both men and women.

Coconut oil

Give each other a tantric massage with coconut oil. Its cooling effect protects against overheating during sex. In addition, it will make your skin soft and pleasant to the touch!

The Bottom Line

Sex begins outside of the bed and even the bedroom. A full sexual life is based on trust and conscious communication. Be attentive to each other, show care, and understanding. This way you will create a comfortable space for each other and be able to openly express your feelings, talk about what turns you on, what you want to recieve from your partner. Openness and trust will fill your sex life with joy and pleasurable experiments. And by following all the above Ayurvedic tips you will increase your passion and create a sexual harmony in your relationship!

Do you know someone with a high sense of his abilities, in total disregard of everyone else? You could be dealing with a narcissist. And, it gets a bit twisted with a sexual narcissist. These types manipulate those around them for their sexual pleasure. They want to have as many partners as possible to portray a sexual prowess that they believe they possess. Yet, such a person never gets intimate with anyone.

Who is a Sexual Narcissist?

A sexual narcissist is a master seducer. His personality disorder means that he seeks sexual pleasure from others with no plans of reciprocating. That is, his sexual needs come first. Since they feel superior over their partners, they will want to control their spouses, yet remain noncommittal.

So, what happens if you are in a sexual relationship with such a person? It is almost certain that you will get hurt in the process.

How to Identify a Sexual Narcissist?

What are the telltale signs that you are dating a sexual narcissist? Can you protect yourself from such a toxic relationship?

1. A Natural Charmer

Sexual narcissists know what to say or do to appear romantic to their partners. Picture this: Does his allure win you over the first few encounters? Does his charisma make you feel appreciated and special? Or, do you find yourself having a weak spot for his seductive ways? All those dinners, gifts, and special attention he gives you are intentional. He wants to prove himself that he can conquer whoever he wants with his sex appeal. However, such a stance never lasts.

2. No Intimacy in The Relationship

A relationship with a sexual narcissist dwells more on the physical gratification. He finds it impossible to invest emotions in the relationship.

For example, does your partner focus more on perfecting his lovemaking techniques? Does it seem like he cares less whether you have an intimate connection in the first place? Plus, do you often feel like you are his object of sexual pleasure?

Such partners insist on you maintaining a specific sexy look. Alternatively, they want you to take a crash diet to look a certain way, not caring how you feel about the change.

Intimacy requires partners to empathize with one another. In turn, you must show that you care about the other person’s feelings. However, a sexual narcissist will struggle with showing such intimacy.

3. Available For Sex Only

A sexual narcissist will put a lot of pressure on the partner so that they can meet for sex. But, he quickly leaves and never checks on the partner afterward. It’s the kind of person that leaves their spouses feeling empty and used.

This neglect after sex only shows that they are in the relationship for sexual pleasure and not love. The only other time he will show interest in the sexual partner is when he looks forward to another sexual encounter.

4. Cheating with Multiple Partners

Since a sexual narcissist is never intimate with anyone, he tends to have many sexual partners at the same time. It is a sexual addiction that can only be satisfied by seeking enjoyment from more people. Even in a marriage, such a person will be cheating on the spouse continuously. To cover his behavior, sexual narcissists have a violent relationship with their spouses.

In contrast, when single, they will never commit to the relationship. Instead, he will hop from one partner to another, trying to quench his thirst for sexual gratification. 

5. They Belittle Their Partners

Does your partner insult you for no reason? Don’t be quick to blame yourself. For a sexual narcissist, nothing good can come out of their partners. They always find fault in the way their partners carry themselves. Often, they will point out flaws to their partners to put them down in public. It is their cruel way to appear superior and relevant.

Indeed, in the eyes of the sexual narcissists, their partners are little to them. So, before you start doubting and blaming yourself for things you did not do, first confirm if your partner is a sexual narcissist or not. 

6. They Will Not Handle Criticism Well

Have you ever tried to point out a mistake to a sexual narcissist? He will throw a tantrum, give you the silent treatment, or shift the blame on you. More so, he behaves like a bully or an angry child to avoid facing the consequences of his actions. In fact, they often make ridicule out of the situation.

Where possible, he will try to attack the other person at a personal level to belittle them. When this does not work, he will resort to the cold shoulder. You know, denying the other love and affection in any given relationship. This cold treatment will continue until the day the partner gives in.

Often, sexual narcissist also plays a victim. He can accuse the other person of being ungrateful for his contribution so far. 

7. It Is A One-Sided Relationship

How much can you meet his sexual demands? A typical sexual relationship with a sexual narcissist revolves around his narcissistic needs. For example, he will dictate what to wear when going out, how long you can stay out, and with who. He wants to control your thoughts into believing that your sole purpose in the relationship is to please him. Even so, he will try to make you feel guilty anytime you decide to enjoy the union.

A one-sided relationship is more of a slave and master association than an intimate couple is. In extreme cases, sexual narcissists will control every aspect of their partner’s lives, disconnecting them from the rest of the world.

Conclusion

Are you in a relationship with a sexual narcissist? A sexual narcissist cares more about portraying a happy relationship. Yet, he does nothing to make his spouse feel loved and wanted. If you’re a victim, understand and appreciate your self-worth. That way, you can take measures to protect your emotional wellbeing because such links can drain a spouse leading to stress and depression.   

Have you ever met someone who made you feel like you are looking at a mirror image of yourself? That liberating and confident feeling that makes you forget, even for a moment what weighs on your mind when this other person is nearby. Could it be that there is a spiritual connection between you?

How can you tell?

Well, the spiritual bonds between people are more prevalent than you may think. In this article, we’ll share the tale-tell signs of spiritual connections. Let’s get to it!

11 Signs of Spiritual Connection

#1 You Feel Tranquil in Each Other’s Presence or Thoughts

Picture this: You are going through a nervous time and feel the urge to share it with someone. Who comes to your mind? Equally, you are eager about your current situation, but just one touch from this person makes you feel that all will be well.

Most probably, you share a spiritual connection with this soul.

Admittedly, persons sharing a spiritual connection rarely experience that awkward moment when together. Instead, they are comfortable in each other’s presence.

#2 You Withhold Nothing from Each Other

Do you know a person who makes you feel comfortable in your skin? Regardless of how long you’ve been together, both of you seem to know each other inside out, literally. In turn, you find it hard keeping secrets from each other. This other person makes it easy for you to deal with a dark past that you have been avoiding throughout your life. This sign shows that the two of you have a spiritual connection.

#3 Intimacy Beyond Physical Intimacy

Often, when you meet your twin flame, you value your shared rendezvous equally as the sexual life. Hence, sex becomes only one part of the bonding. Others may mention that finding someone who grasps their intellectual outlook is enough or better than sharing a bed every night. For such persons, intimacy is knowing that they can be helpless in each other’s presence and feel safe about it.

#4 Time Flies When You Are Together

Who is that person you find yourself talking to and switching from one topic to another endlessly without any of you getting bored? Furthermore, you always mesmerize yourself how much pour out from your lips or thoughts when you are near this person. It’s almost like he/she taps into that part of your mind that translates your imaginations into flowing words. In turn, you find yourself losing track of time when talking to them.

#5 You Share Some Unique Virtues

When two people have a spiritual bond, they tend to be honest with each other. They listen to each other in an empathic way and have mutual respect’s limits. Furthermore, such a person easily interacts with the other through open and meaningful talks. Hence, if you find it effortless to share such traits with another, chances are you have a spiritual connection with that person.

#6 Have Similar Goals and Expectations

When two persons have similar life goals, they have the same perspective about their future. Hence, they build a sound relationship with solid family values. Moreover, having a spiritual connection makes it effortless to pursue a common goal.

On the contrary, persons who lack such a connection tend to work against each other’s efforts. With time, they find their careers and family life stagnating.

#7 He/She ‘Steals’ Your Thoughts

Persons with a spiritual connection may find that they come up with similar ideas and thoughts. Think about it: You come up with a creative idea. However, before you implement it, the other person will suggest something very similar to it.

Has he/she stolen your grand ideas?

No. It only shows the two of you are spiritually connected.  Knowing this fact will save you heartaches and misunderstandings in your relationships.

#8 You Communicate In Silence

Do you have this special someone who you feel can read your mind? He/she says what you are about to say or tends to finish your sentences. Persons with a spiritual connection tend to understand each other’s feelings without uttering a word. Often, they know how they feel about each other but may lack words to define it.

Besides, when something is not right with the other person, they can sense it even when they are miles apart. Such silent communication makes the spiritual connection very special between loved ones. They can comfort each other without interrogating one another.

#9 You Trust Blindly

If ever you find yourself giving into this other person’s advice or ideas without even blinking an eye, you could be spiritually connected. However, being naive should not be confused with a spiritual connection. Assuredly, the spiritual connection removes any doubt you may have about the other person. In turn, you find yourself submitting to him/her.

#10 Laughter in Every Conversation

Yes. You may not be talking about a jovial topic, but you feel your soul smiling back to every word you hear from this other person. It’s almost like the talks make you feel lighter. Hence, you tend to have a familiar sense of humor.

#11 Your Gut Feeling Tells You So

Sometimes, all you need to confirm a spiritual bond with another person is by following your instincts. What does your gut feeling say? Do you feel this is the person who fills the void you’ve been battling with all this time? Does their presence overshadow everything else? Do you see things falling into place with them in the picture? Then, you should trust your intuition on this.

Conclusion

Spiritual connection with another person is a plus in any conscious relationship. Still, whereas you can grow fond of each other, intimacy is no guarantee of a spiritual link between you. Persons relating in husband/wife, child/parent, or boyfriend/girlfriend roles may be tolerating each other to conform to the norms. In contrast, having a deep affinity with another is more profound than this.

Yes.

It goes beyond the gender and current relationship.  Plus, it can be formed or lost with time. Therefore, it’s necessary to know if you have a spiritual connection with someone. That way, you’ll strive towards growing this bond.