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Kundalini Awakening Symptoms Everyone Should Know

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From Sanskrit, the word “Kundalini” can be translated as “twisted” (like a snake or a steel spring), and traditionally the snake is its symbol. In ancient Indian manuscripts, Kundalini is described as a form of biological energy dormant in the human body. It is regarded as the basis of life, as the main form of energy that can be concentrated in the brain, and without which neither genius nor inspiration can exist. If you are engaged in any spiritual practices, then you need to understand clearly what Kundalini is and what Kundalini awakening symptoms you may experience.

What is Kundalini?

According to the ancient texts, the Kundalini energy is present in the whole body but is concentrated mainly in the lower part of the spine, that is, in the genital area, transmitting vital energy to the offspring. This “snake energy” can be woken up, and through the spine and chakras transferred to the brain.

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Kundalini is extraordinarily powerful. There is a key to eternal youth and flourishing mental abilities hidden in it. Indian Kundalini specialist Gopi Krishna said that Kundalini, being awakened, can be a source of mental strength, genius, artistic talent, and scientific achievements. That is, all that is characteristic of a high level of consciousness. According to Gopi Krishna, the process of awakening and ascent of Kundalini expands the range of hidden human abilities.

In ancient manuscripts of Tibet, Egypt, and Greece, as well as in other cultures, there is evidence of the Kundalini Energy existence. Even the first Christians knew about its existence. The headdress of the Pharaoh, feathered snakes from Mexico and South America – all this indicates the acquaintance of the ancient initiates with the energy of the Kundalini snake.

No one can predict who, when and how this energy will awaken. However, one should know that only people with a pure mind, heart, and body can experience the awakening. For the Kundalini awakening, you should have as little psychological and emotional conflicts as possible. Moreover, your body should be as free as possible from the blocks and tensions. It is also good to have fewer attachments and idealizations defined by everyday concerns.

Kundalini’s awakening can occur in the form of an unexpected surge, like a dam break, sharp and, above all, uncontrollable and therefore – dangerous. For the time being, this energy is in a kind of preserved, dormant state. However, under certain conditions, it begins a spontaneous awakening and rising from the spine to the head. During this process, the energy transforms the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual systems of the person experiencing its rising.

What Is Kundalini Rising?

The process of Kundalini rising is actually an evolutionary process of transformation of the human personality. Your physical body, consciousness, and subconsciousness go through a big transformation. You’re changing your view and attitude toward life. Moreover, you’re developing unusual abilities.

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Kundalini is a vital energy. Its thin stream always flows through us, through our bodies as long as we are alive. Some people have more of it, and they are successful in his life. And others have less of it, and they are less successful.

Kundalini needs to circulate freely in our bodies. But most people clog its path with various mental blocks, attachments, conflict events that burden them. By eliminating these blocks, we free the path for the free flow of energy transformation. And when Kundalini flow can overcome these mental blocks it starts a rapid process of rising. And only then, when it clears us in its movement from the bottom up – its hot energy begins a cold downward flow from the top down, the flow of divine cosmic energy. That’s when the extraordinary miracles begin.

Kundalini awakening can be considered the most important and greatest event in the life of every person. Only from this moment your true rebirth, awakening, and spiritualization begin. Only from this moment, a person starts the real path of improvement. And the beginning of the Kundalini rising is the first real step into a completely different, amazing and fabulous world of high energies, unusual phenomena, and new opportunities.

How Does Kundalini Awakening Happen?

Many spiritual practitioners have come up with different stages, or other indicators to specify their apparent progress in the process of evolution. However, it must be admitted that until you have experienced the transformation of personality in the fire of Kundalini, all other manifestations of enlightenment are only temporary success and lie only in the plane of the mind.

Some people can awaken the Kundalini energy consciously, following the methods developed by various spiritual schools. Others unconsciously, intuitively building their lives and changing their views and beliefs in accordance with the Universal laws. It is very common that people experience spontaneous Kundalini awakening, even if they’ve never heard anything about it.

From Vedic texts, it is known that the flow of Kundalini energy rises through the energy channel located along the spine vertically. Until the awakening, this channel is usually closed. The fire of Kundalini gradually clears and opens this energy channel. As the Central channel is opened (cleaned), the Kundalini energy activates the chakras located along the spine, which, in turn, also begin to produce energy intensively. So it gradually opens up the entire Central channel and chakras.

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When the Kundalini reaches the last and highest 7th chakra located in the crown, you become ready to perceive the subtle and higher energies from the Cosmos. Each chakra can receive cosmic energy and send its own to Cosmos. You become able to assimilate cosmic energies, which immediately turn on the process of transformation. In the course of it, you acquire that great power for which anything is possible. By using this power you can do amazing things, which, from the point of view of the laws of the physical world, are considered miracles.

As your Kundalini awakens, you begin to experience a number of strange phenomena. That’s why you need to know what Kundalini awakening symptoms are.

Kundalini Awakening Symptoms

Body Symptoms

  • Involuntary twitching, trembling, vibration, spasms.
  • Muscle contractions, especially the anus, abdomen, and throat.
  • Sudden movements of hands, feet or head.
  • Twitching of the whole body when a strong flow of energy rises inside, starting from the toe, foot or base of the spine.

Physical Symptoms

Physical Kundalini awakening symptoms are:

  • Feelings of ecstasy and bliss, average in intensity or strong, lasting several minutes or several months.
  • A feeling of intoxication, detachment, a slight feeling of being outside the body. Falling into a trance, a fixed gaze directed into space.
  • Heart rate increase.
  • The feeling like you’re touching the electrical outlet, tingling, itching.
  • Unbalance, tension, pulsation, sometimes replaced by lethargy.
  • Nausea, abdominal pain.
  • Chest pain, like a heart attack.

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  • Persistent or temporary pain throughout the body that cannot be diagnosed.
  • Aching back pain and sharp pain along the spine.
  • Headaches, a feeling of buzz in the head, tingling, itching, or goosebumps on the scalp.
  • Electrical sensations in the head, feeling like the skull is opening.
  • Numbness of the arms and legs in General, or the hands or feet.
  • Pain or a feeling of electrical tingling in the big toes, darkening or falling off the toenail.
  • Intense sexual arousal, spontaneous orgasms experienced in the genital area or described as “covering the whole body” or “brain orgasms”.
  • Vibration and energy coming out of your ears.
  • Increased activity followed by exhaustion.
  • Hair stands on end.
  • Protruding the abdomen, as if during pregnancy.
  • Spontaneous filling of the lungs with air.
  • The taste of sweet nectar flowing from head to throat.

Diseases Or Pseudo Diseases

  • Imaginary heart attacks are usually a false alarm; complaints that the heart is not beating.
  • A person’s sincere belief that he or she is dying, accompanied by vague pains and complaints.
  • The manifestation of other hidden diseases: wandering pain, hyperemia, digestive problems and other complaints about the various organs of the body, disappearing without any treatment.

Visual Symptoms

The variety of visual Kundalini awakening symptoms is striking: it’s like lightning rays of light in your head, visions or hallucinations (by the way, they can be quite frightening!). There were cases when there was a small sparkling point in the Third eye area. Tibetan monks call it ”the seed of light”, but it is not necessary that it arises in the area of the forehead. The sparkling point can arise between you and the object, or arise during meditation, and even when you are in a normal state, and it does not matter — your eyes are open or closed at this moment.

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You may also become extremely sensitive to light or experience sudden vision – all colors seem very bright. Some people even start being able to see the aura.

Other visual Kundalini awakening symptoms are burning eyes and twitching in the area between the eyebrows.

Temperature Change

One of the most common Kundalini awakening symptoms is a temperature change. The sensation of it occurs in the following ways:

  • Waves of heat, sometimes with sweating.
  • The heat may flow from the body or feel like intense burning.
  • Night sweating.
  • Waves of icy cold, sometimes followed by waves of heat.
  • Feelings of heat or cold in different parts of the body, especially in the hands or at the base of the spine.

Emotional Symptoms

Emotional Kundalini awakening symptoms are:

  • Depression.
  • Anxiety.
  • Anger.
  • Guilt.
  • Temporary confusion of thoughts and difficulties with the performance of work tasks.
  • Insomnia.
  • Uncharacteristic of the person strong sexual desire.
  • Temporary problems with sexual identity.
  • Visions or hearing sounds.
  • Disorderly thoughts, indecision,
  • Bombast and arrogance.
  • Easy entry into a trance or semi-conscious state.

Increased Psychic Or Empathic Abilities

  • A vision or a sense of aura.
  • Seeing and understanding the signs from the Universe.
  • The ability to heal certain diseases with the energy of hands.
  • Involuntary recollection of past lives experiences.
  • A better understanding of spiritual Scriptures.

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  • Feeling the ability to influence another person’s thoughts.
  • Instinctive-intuitive knowing what needs to be done.
  • A sense of the presence of a luminous being or teacher from another dimension.
  • Psychokinetic phenomena (interference in electrical devices, moving objects, destruction of objects, etc.).
  • Out-of-body experiences.
  • Extended panoramic perception of everything.

Detachment

Another Kundalini awakening common symptom is a feeling like you’re outside of your own body. Sometimes this is manifested as a detachment from the daily routine or even detachment from everything material.

Food

We all know that the food we eat affects not just our physical bodies and health but also our energy. That is why when we’re experiencing Kundalini awakening symptoms we also notice that our eating habits change dramatically. The most interesting thing is that the changes in our eating habits are effortless. They happen naturally. It feels like your body itself tells you what you need to eat.

Conclusion

It is the Kundalini that opens the gates of further human evolution and gives us the power to understand and fulfill our life’s mission. And if you are in the process of reading this article felt unusual or similar phenomena – do not be afraid of what is happening! Take everything as it is, do not resist what is happening. Now you clearly know and understand what is happening or what may happen to you in the future. I hope that the knowledge contained in this article will give you confidence, protect you from possible troubles and open the door to a great future!

Namaste!

Katya Ki is the Founder of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics, cosmology, and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

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Charles Bukowski Quotes That Will Blow Your Mind

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If you haven’t heard about Charles Bukowski, you missed a lot! He is one of America’s best-known contemporary writers of poetry and prose. In this article, we have collected 36 most mind bending Charles Bukowski quotes that will make you rethink the way you see life and the society you live in.

Here they are 36 mind-blowing Charles Bukowski quotes!

36 Charles Bukowski Quotes

#1

“If you’re going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don’t even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery–isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you’ll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you’re going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It’s the only good fight there is.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#2

“You begin saving the world by saving one man at a time; all else is grandiose romanticism or politics.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#3

“There is nothing that teaches you more than regrouping
after failure and moving on. Yet most people are stricken with
fear. They fear failure so much that they fail. They are too
conditioned, too used to being told what to do. It begins with
the family, runs through school and goes into the business
world.”
~ Charles Bukowski

#4

“The difference between a democracy and a dictatorship is that in a democracy you vote first and take orders later; in a dictatorship, you don’t have to waste your time voting.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#5
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“You’ve to die a few times before you actually live.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#6

“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts. While the stupid ones are full of confidence.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#7

“Some people never go crazy. What truly horrible lives they must live.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#8

“Those who escape hell however never talk about it and nothing much bothers them after that.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#9

“The less I needed, the better I felt.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#10

“How in the hell could a man enjoy being awakened at 8:30 a.m. by an alarm clock, leap out of bed, dress, force-feed, shit, piss, brush teeth and hair, and fight traffic to get to a place where essentially you made lots of money for somebody else and were asked to be grateful for the opportunity to do so?” ~ Charles Bukowski

#11

“What matters most is how well you walk through the fire.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#12
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“The free soul is rare, but you know it when you see it – basically because you feel good, very good when you are near or with them.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#13

“The nine-to-five is one of the greatest atrocities sprung upon mankind. You give your life away to a function that doesn’t interest you.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#14

“We must.. We must bring our own light to the darkness.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#15

“Oh, I don’t mean you’re handsome, not the way people think of handsome. Your face seems kind. But your eyes – they’re beautiful. They’re wild, crazy, like some animal peering out of a forest on fire.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#16

“An intellectual says a simple thing in a hard way. An artist says a hard thing in a simple way.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#17

“People are strange: they are constantly angered by trivial things, but on a major matter like totally wasting their lives, they hardly seem to notice.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#18

“Dogs and angels are not very far apart.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#19
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“Beware of those who seek constant crowds; they are nothing alone.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#20

“Do you hate people?”
“I don’t hate them…I just feel better when they’re not around.”
~ Charles Bukowski

#21

“I often carry things to read so that I will not have to look at the people.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#22

“The problem was you had to keep choosing between one evil or another, and no matter what you chose, they sliced a little bit more off you, until there was nothing left. At the age of 25, most people were finished. A whole god-damned nation of assholes driving automobiles, eating, having babies, doing everything in the worst way possible, like voting for the presidential candidates who reminded them most of themselves. I had no interests. I had no interest in anything. I had no idea how I was going to escape. At least the others had some taste for life. They seemed to understand something that I didn’t understand. Maybe I was lacking. It was possible. I often felt inferior. I just wanted to get away from them. But there was no place to go.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#23

“I wanted the whole world or nothing.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#24

“I was a man who thrived on solitude; without it, I was like another man without food or water. Each day without solitude weakened me. I took no pride in my solitude, but I was dependent on it. The darkness of the
room was like sunlight to me.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#25

“People run from rain but sit in bathtubs full of water.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#26
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“Life’s as kind as you let it be.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#27

“I guess the only time most people think about injustice is when it happens to them.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#28

“People empty me. I have to get away to refill.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#29

“Nobody can save you but yourself and you’re worth saving. It’s a war not easily won but if anything is worth winning then this is it.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#30

“Beauty is nothing, beauty won’t stay. You don’t know how lucky you are to be ugly, because if people like you, you know it’s for something else.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#31

“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#32

“So it’s always a process of letting go, one way or another.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#33
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“The Laughing Heart

your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is a light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them.
take them.
you can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life, sometimes.
and the more often you learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight
in you.”
~ Charles Bukowski

#34

“Goodness can be found sometimes in the middle of hell.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#35

“It was better for me when I could imagine greatness in others, even if it wasn’t always there.” ~ Charles Bukowski

#36
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“Understand me. I’m not like an ordinary world. I have my madness, I live in another dimension and I do not have time for things that have no soul.” ~ Charles Bukowski

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8 Signs You Are a Free Spirit Who Can Never Be Tamed

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If you are a free spirit, chances are you struggle to fit in your family or friend’s circles. That is normal. See, as a true spirit, you value your freedom over complacency. You would rather dictate the terms of your life than conform to societal norms.

Well, this nonconformist attitude to life is never free of cost. You may have to get out of your comfort zone, let go of your societal security, look different, and even suffer harm. But, how do you know if you are a free spirit and not just a rebellious person?

This article will discuss the 8 common signs to guide you.

But first:

Understanding the Free Spirit

A free spirit starts from the mind. You live free of domination from any oppressive thoughts, ideas, or notions imposed on you by others. Unlike rebellion, true freedom is about respectfully liberating your mind and body, to coexist with others at peace.

Likewise, a free spirit will not replace one oppressive thought with another. Instead, this person seeks the truth and lives by it. For example, many celebrities that claim to be free spirits are doing so superficially. They may still ascribe to certain notions that are oppressive to their audience. Like the idea of going organic but allowing the use of plastics from a certain brand.

The Signs

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If you are a true free spirit, then you can relate to most of the signs below: –

#1: Strong Desire for Freedom

Did you ever quit a well-paying job to pursue a digital nomad lifestyle that pays less than half of your salary? Your strong desire to be free and set your lifestyle standards indicates a truly free-spirited person. See, free-spirited people make lifestyle decisions that prioritize their freedoms.

#2: Abhor Restrictions

In line with a desire for freedom, free spirits despise any restrictions imposed by others in their lives. If you are one, you could be struggling with committing to a deadline, target, or relationship.

And for the career persons, free spirits hop from one organization to another, dreading to be confined at one company for too long. Here, the free spirit struggles to commit to another person or purpose but looks forward to waking up to new challenges or surprises.  

#3: Welcome Challenges

A free spirit encounters problems like any other person. However, they see the problems as new challenges, not threats. Consequently, a free spirit gets excited, not worried when facing challenges.

#4: Spontaneous

A free spirit comes up with rushed decisions that change the course of their lifestyles forever. For example, they may wake up and decide to shift to a new neighborhood, enroll in the gym, or make a swift financial investment. Or, they may change their minds about getting married, having kids, or setting up their businesses. 

These persons hold no attachment to anyone or anything, hence appearing as unserious. As a result, others find it hard to understand why this person can’t stay consistent. 

#5: Unconventionality

Free spirits do things their way. They question any societal expectations and are the last persons to adopt them. Likewise, they are never intimidated by those around them. Instead, they stick to their decisions regardless of how foreign they sound to the masses. 

#6: Insatiable

A free spirit is insatiable. Your goals are different, settling for a better or unique lifestyle from the one your peers are content with. For example, your dream when clearing college was never a well-paying job, the latest car, and a home with kids. Instead, you think of opportunities that will allow you to try new things.

For example, you could be a die-hard globetrotter even though you may not have the means to travel at the moment. You are the kind of person who is content with living from a suitcase for years as you travel around the world.

#7: Great Achievers, Innovators, Dreamers

Now, a free spirit may appear spontaneous and unserious with life, but they have a clear perspective of what they want to achieve. This person comes up with fresh ideas that promise to solve world challenges. And it is the excitement of this new challenge that fuels their desire to achieve the set goals.

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#8: Relentless

Free spirits always seek ways of how to make the impossibilities in their lives possible. For example, they will question why it takes three days and not a day for an online shopping order to arrive at their doorstep. And, they will use the latest facts to question current theories.

In turn, these persons never quit. They appear stubborn, holding on to their ideas until they get the solution they were hoping for.

Living a Fulfilling Life as a Free Spirit

Note that, a free spirit is the best candidate for achieving spiritual awakening. This person is intent on soul searching and questions their existence. Still, the life of a free-spirited person can be a lonely one. If you suspect that you are a free spirit, here are a few tips to live a fulfilling lifestyle:

  • Spend more time outdoors. For example, taking part in dance competitions in the open gives you a chance to free your mind and release any stress buildup.
  • Reconnect with your inner child by working with children. They have great imaginations and love exploring and testing their boundaries. Plus, they enjoy doing role plays.
  • Explore a creative career path like preparing exotic dishes and painting on a canvas.
  • Most free-spirited persons are empathetic, considerate, kind, and loving. In turn, they can be victims of emotional abuse. Protect your emotional wellbeing by setting boundaries on who you interact with or what you explore beyond your comfort zone.

Conclusion

Anyone with a free spirit has the untamable spirit of a wolf. You always want to run free beyond the confines of family or society. You also have a tendency to oppose the normal social rule, being overly independent, and never subscribing to others’ rules. That’s why most free spirits are seen as rebellious.

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8 Signs You Are a Victim of a Hovering Narcissist

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In this quick guide, we focus on the hovering narcissist. The kind that will do all they can to pull you back into the abusive relationship, as you try to run away from the hurt and pain. Often, we fall into the hands of a narcissistic leader, parent, spouse, or friend without knowing it. You know, this person could be taking advantage of your relationship to manipulate or control you using verbal or emotional abuse. Deep down, you go through unpleasant emotions that are quite confusing. And, you may end up trying to justify the narcissistic behavior as a way to cope. More so, you lose your self-esteem and even fall into depression.

Which Narcissist Are You Dealing with?

Now, if you sense that the person you trust is a narcissist, plan to guard yourself against any potential abuse from them. But how can you tell if the person is a narcissist in the first place? More so, which type of narcissist are they?

The Hovering Narcissist: Who? Why?

A narcissist finds fulfillment in creating drama and victimizing others. Hence, they need their victims around them to fulfill this desire. Moreover, there is a thin line between a genuine partner trying to reconcile a broken relationship and a hovering narcissist luring you back to their control. Can you tell the difference?

The Signs

Below are the 8 signs you could be a victim of a hovering narcissist: –

#1: Random “Love Bombs”

A hovering narcissist is usually in a panic mode, trying to mend a relationship before you exit their lives for good. For this, they may resort to “love bombing” you with lots of random messages or phone calls.

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For example:

  • Seeking your opinion about what they are doing at the moment
  • Asking you to send greetings or best wish messages to someone you both know
  • Reminding you how nice you look in the dress or bracelet they bought you
  • Apologizing for sending you “love notes”

These random acts are well calculated; to get you to remember the soft side of the narcissist.

#2: Ignores the Abusive Past

In line with sending random love messages, a hovering narcissist will try as much as possible to make you forget the abusive past. Like you could be nursing a physical or emotional wound, but they treat you like nothing happened. Or, they change the subject of your conversations whenever you bring up their history of abuse.

#3: Holds on to a Dead Relationship

You know the relationship is over. And, you’ve clearly expressed your views to your partner. Yet, regardless of them agreeing with your sentiments, they try all they can to continue relating with you. Like, they will pick up the kids, take you to dinner, or ask you about your favorite movie, pretending that all is okay. In addition, think of the times a fiancé shows up to take your pet for a walk like before, barely a week after you break up.

#4: Entices You with Gifts

Do you love being pampered with gifts? If so, a hovering narcissist will use this chance to shower you with unexpected gifts. For example, this person may never remember your birthday or wedding anniversary. But, when they sense you are about to leave them, they bring you an anniversary gift out of the blues.

#5: Feigns Apologies

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A hovering narcissist is always “remorseful”. However, it is a mere show to convince you to stay. Once you are back, the abuse continues. For example, a hovering narcissistic leader will own up to being too harsh the last time they gave out punishment for your mistakes. Yet, the next time you are in the wrong, the punishment may be worse.

Then, one easy way to identify a fake apology is by observing the narcissist’s reaction when you shift the conversation or turn down their apology. The narcissist will get upset, make dramatic declarations, or even get violent.

#6: Manipulates You through Others

Now, when a hovering narcissist fails to get to you with all their manipulative tactics, they do it indirectly through the people you cherish. For example, a spouse may send a child to intimidate their partner. Here, they may tell the child that the mom or dad is leaving; asking the child to beg the parent not to go. In turn, you feel sorry for the child and opt to stay.

#7: Overpromising and Failing to Deliver

Does your partner complain that you nag them about that exotic trip to the Maldives, moving to a new house, or getting the latest iPhone? Well, a hovering narcissist will suddenly want to fulfill all these requests, “unconditionally”. However, they will not deliver any of these promises. 

#8: Threats of Self-Harm

Some hovering narcissists will threaten to commit suicide, quit their jobs, run away, or harm themselves. Never let these threats get to you. Certainly, the narcissist is just hoping that you will respond by being sympathetic to them. Hence, the best approach is to refer or take them to professional help.

How to Respond to Hovering Narcissistic Tactics

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When your narcissistic friend, spouse, or leader won’t let go of you, here are some things you can do to cope:

  • Ignore the hovering. Zero to minimal contact with the hovering narcissist will protect your emotional wellbeing, and give you time to heal from the narcissistic abuse.
  • If you have to communicate (for example, you need to talk about your children), make it brief and impersonal.
  • Stop being a people pleaser. Instead, start by never idealizing your current relationship. This approach will protect you from becoming an easy victim of a hovering narcissist in the future.
  • Embrace the abusive past; never sugar-coat it. Consequently, you will have a clear perception of what the hovering narcissist is trying to do.
  • Journal your feelings.
  • Seek professional help.

Conclusion                             

A hovering narcissist is an overbearing person. This person fulfills a need to harm you by having you around. Hence, the narcissist will put up an indirect fight to win your heart and force you to stay. And, despite the show of kindness and remorsefulness, narcissism is a personality disorder. The abuser will never change their behavior overnight to please you. It takes a lot of focused therapy to do that. Finally, always guard your self-esteem against narcissists because once you lose that, it’s difficult to continue fighting.

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Jnana mudra is one of the most widely used mudras in meditation practices, in Buddhism, yoga, and even in the...

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Crystals For Chakras: How to Restore Your Energy Flow

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In this article, I will share with you the most accurate horoscope for May 2021 based on the Feng Shui flying stars chart. This horoscope includes...

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