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Negative Emotions That Block Your Chakras

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Chakras are the energy centers in our subtle bodies and their overall health depends on many factors. One of the most important factors that affect our chakras is our emotions. When we are committed to conscious living and take every moment of our lives with deep awareness our chakras respond to positive vibes and work properly. However, our negative emotions can cause blocks in our chakras and serious health problems.

This article is a quick guide to your negative emotions and problems they may cause. Each negative emotion that you may experience affects a certain chakra and leads to certain health problems. I hope this article will help you understand your health and emotional problems better.

Root Chakra

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The Root chakra is considered a source of vitality and survival. It is located in the perineum of men and in the cervix of women.

The Root chakra is responsible for the organs of excretion and reproduction, the gland organ and hormonal secretions. It is directly related to the nose and sense of smell, as well as our animal instincts.

People who have a strong Root chakra are usually very strong physically.

In the Vedic tradition, it is believed that those people who have a pure and balanced Root chakra live in harmony with Mother Earth and with the goddess of fertility and prosperity Lakshmi.

The negative emotion that blocks the Root chakra is fear.

What are you afraid of? Do you feel anxiety about certain people or situations? In order to overcome your fears, you have to be honest with yourself first by admitting your fears and emotional problems.

Root Chakra Healing

Effective methods of Root chakra healing are yoga, meditation, earth grounding.

If you often experience fear and anxiety, the following articles can be helpful:

11 Powerful Techniques For Root Chakra Healing

6 Effective Tips On How To Deal With Fear

Understanding Social Anxiety & Gaining the Tools to Overcome

Healing Crystals For Anxiety – The Ultimate Guide

Sacral Chakra

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The Sacral chakra is located above the Root chakra, just above the genitals.

It is associated with the sacral plexus, with the organs and glands of the genitourinary system and reproduction system. The Sacral chakra is connected with the tongue and the sense of taste.

The negative emotion that blocks the Sacral chakra is Guilt.

Guilt is one of the most self-destructive negative emotions that takes away lots of energy. Everyone who experiences it feels like a sticky cocoon of hopelessness. Therefore it is so important to get rid of guilt as quickly as possible. Otherwise, it will take all your energy.

Guilt as a Manipulative Game

First of all, it’s important to realize that the guilt we feel may be caused by manipulative people. Yes, the easiest way to manipulate others is to make them feel guilty.

But to feel guilt is actually pretty dangerous. You see, guilt unnecessarily generates a scenario of punishment. This is how a person’s worldview pattern works: a misdemeanor should be followed by punishment. As soon as you notice the slightest manifestation of guilt, immediately get rid of this mental trash (if you don’t want to spoil your life).

If you live your life up to your creed then there will be no guilt. No one will dare judge you if you do not consider yourself guilty. Being free of guilt will never put you in a situation where someone threatens you with violence. No guilt, no punishment. Watch your subconscious thoughts when someone tries to manipulate you with guilt!

How to Stop Feeling Guilty?

If you can not get rid of the guilt completely, then you need to stop apologizing without a visible reason for this. Here is a special case when the treatment of the disease as a consequence eliminates its cause. You don’t have to convince yourself that you don’t owe anyone anything. Just watch your usual actions, which will require awareness.

If you’ve had a habit at the slightest provocation to apologize, now get another habit to explain your actions only when it’s really necessary. And do it just once without repeating over and over again your explanation (otherwise it will turn into an excuse).

Manipulators, no longer getting the same response from you, gradually fall behind. At the same time, your subconscious mind will get used to the new feeling: if you do not justify yourself then guilt simply does not exist. As a result, the reasons for “redemption” will appear less and less.

Thus, in the chain of feedback, the external form will gradually put in order the internal content: the feeling of guilt will disappear, and as a result, the corresponding problems will disappear too.

Sacral Chakra Healing

The most effective methods of Sacral chakra healing are Tai Chi, aromatherapy, yoga, and meditation.

For more information on how to heal your Sacral chakra check out my article “8 Simple Tips On How To Harness the Power Of Your Sacral Chakra”.

Solar Plexus Chakra

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The Solar Plexus chakra is located behind the navel within the spinal column.

This chakra affects the digestion process and the absorption of food and prana. It is also connected with the eyes and vision.

The negative emotions that block the Solar Plexus chakra are shame and self-rejection.

The feeling of shame is experienced together with the feeling of one’s own wrongness, badness, and total inadequacy. Now, if you experience that, it means you’re under the influence of toxic shame.

Toxic shame is usually formed during childhood. During sensitive periods of a child’s development, adults criticize have a tendency to criticize their children without giving any support. Children often take criticism as rejection. This is how toxic shame gets created.

Toxic shame often leads to other serious problems such as low self-esteem, lack of will power, nervousness, and poor memory.

How to get rid of shame?

  1. Accept yourself with all your imperfections and give yourself the right to be exactly who you are.
  2. Accept all the shortcomings of other people. Don’t judge anyone! Judging someone, you risk yourself getting into a situation in which you will be judged, your self-esteem will be damaged and you will feel shame.
  3. Refrain from unnecessary comparisons. Stop comparing your own behavior with your own personal expectations or the expectations of others. By rejecting comparisons and protecting yourself from feelings of mismatch between the values of “should be” and “is in reality,” you will find harmony with yourself and stop feeling ashamed.
  4. Try to establish the specific cause of your shame. Evaluate how it is adequate, and if you really have something to be ashamed of, try as soon as possible to correct all your mistakes. Look at the problem from the outside, discarding, at the same time, all negative emotions. To get rid of the feeling of shame, form a clear, objective opinion about the situation, and then mentally make a plan to overcome it.

Solar Plexus Chakra Healing

From my own experience, I can tell you that Reiki therapy is the best way to heal your Solar Plexus chakra.

For more information on how to heal your Solar Plexus chakra read my article “8 Ways To Balance Your Solar Plexus Chakra For Success In Life“.

Heart Chakra

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It’s located above the Solar Plexus chakra, near the heart.

The Heart chakra is connected to the Solar Plexus, the heart, the respiratory organs, and the thymus and is responsible for the qualities of unconditional love, compassion, peace, etc. It is also connected to the hands and the sense of touch.

The emotion that blocks Heart chakra is grief.

When we lose someone we love our heart chakra gets blocked with grief. Emotional pain that seems like it will never end leaves a scar on our hearts.

Coping with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life’s biggest challenges. You may associate grieving with the death of a loved one but, in fact, any loss can cause grief, including: divorce, relationship breakup, loss of health or financial stability, a miscarriage, losing a job, retirement, death of a pet, loss of friendship, a loved one’s serious illness, selling the family home, loss of purpose, loss of safety after a trauma, etc.

How to deal with grief?

There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but there are healthy ways to deal with the grieving process. 

  1. Be Patient With Yourself. Give yourself time to accept what has happened.
  2. Support yourself emotionally by taking care of yourself physically.
  3. Focus on what you can change, and accept what you can’t change. This means mentally, emotionally and spiritually accepting the reality of your loss and letting go of a past that you cannot bring back.
  4. Talk to someone who has experienced a similar loss or someone whose presence is a source of comfort.
  5. Focus on all the reasons you need to return to being the person you were before the loss.
  6. Spend more time with the ones you love.
  7. Live in the present moment.

Heart Chakra Healing

The best way to heal your Heart chakra is Bikram Yoga practice and socialization. The simple opening of our hearts to others is the best way to heal your Heart chakra. Alternatively, meditation is a major treatment for your Heart chakra.

For more information on how to heal your Heart chakra read my article “12 Powerful Ways To Heal Your Anahata“.

Throat Chakra

Vishuddha Chakra For Beginners

The Throat chakra is located in the middle of the throat. This chakra is associated with the cervical plexus of nerve fibers and the thyroid gland. It maintains the purity of the body and mind.

The Throat chakra is connected with the ears and the sense of hearing, with the throat and speech. It awakens acceptance of the vicissitudes of life, mental balance, and sensitivity to the needs of others.

The factors that block Throat Chakra are:

  • lies;
  • poor communication;
  • arrogance;
  • gossips, etc.

Blockage of the Throat chakra occurs if a person chooses to lie not only to others but also to himself. Lying is like a virus that is transmitted from one to the other. It’s hard to be immune to it, especially if all the people around you lie all the time. However, it is possible! Just make a rule to never respond with lies to lies and never lie to yourself. Be honest with yourself and others.

Throat Chakra Healing

Best ways to heal your Throat chakra are chanting mantras, sound therapy, and meditation.

To learn more about other healing methods of the Throat chakra read my article “Every Woman Should Consider A Throat Chakra Healing! Here Is Why“.

Third Eye Chakra

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It is located at the top of the spinal column near the medulla oblongata.

The Third Eye chakra is mainly related to higher consciousness and intelligence.

 The imbalance of this chakra leads to neurological problems, depression, anxiety, paranoia, dizziness, nightmares, insomnia, migraines, sinusitis, poor vision.

The negative emotion that blocks Third eye chakra is illusiveness.

When people are not happy with their lives they try to escape the reality they live in. Often they start using alcohol, drugs, smoking, in order to leave this reality at least for a little bit. However, once they are back from the delusional reality that drugs and alcohol bring them in, they start feeling worse than before.

Another way people escape reality is by playing video games and watching TV. Living delusional lives they feel happy again but this happiness lasts a very short period of time.

Unfortunately, in the modern world, most people do not feel satisfied with their lives and constantly look for new ways to escape reality. Therefore there are not too many people with balanced Third eye chakras. This leads to poor intuitiondepression, hormonal imbalance, anxiety, and other problems.

Third Eye Chakra Healing

There are many different ways to heal your Third Eye chakra:

  • learn to trust your intuition;
  • release repressed negative thoughts and emotions;
  • stargaze at night;
  • take time to rest and relax without any distractions or stimulants (like TV, the Internet, social media, video games, drugs, alcohol, etc.);
  • meditate;
  • yoga (especially effective the bending forward asanas).

To learn more about Third eye chakra healing methods read my article “Best Techniques For Your Third Eye Chakra Activation“.

Crown Chakra

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It is located in the crown of the head and is associated with the pituitary gland.

The Crown chakra is the highest point that determines the spiritual life of a person. Physically its work affects the pineal gland and the brain. If we consider the spiritual aspect, Sahasrara chakra has the ability to absorb and produce the highest frequency of Kundalini energy.

A blockage of the Crown chakra can cause chronic fatigue, neurological disorders, and migraines.

The negative emotions that block the Crown chakra are earthly attachments, boredom, and greed.

Basically any attachment creates a block in your Crown chakra: attachment to your home, career, people, car, etc. You need to learn to let go. The hardest part is letting go of the person we love. For doing this you need to understand that love is not material, it exists beyond time and space. When we feel a true unconditional love we can’t be attached. Whether the person you love is with you or far away you feel full of love and happiness. Because your love comes from the inside.

Don’t treat people and material things like they belong to you. Let them go and you will gain your own freedom.

Crown Chakra Healing 

Meditation is a great way to heal your Crown chakra.

To learn more about Crown chakra healing methods read my article “Crown Chakra Blockage Symptoms And Ways To Heal It“.

The Bottom Line

Understanding our negative emotions gives us the opportunity to heal and balance our chakras and improve our health. All we need to do is just be patient, honest with ourselves about our feelings, be willing to change our behavior, re-think our values, and expand our consciousness. Instead of judging ourselves for having negative emotions we need to accept them and only then can we heal.

Remember that any healing should come from deep self-love but not from self-judgment or self-rejection!

Katya Ki is the Founder of SOLANCHA Magazine, a Metaphysical Expert, a Reiki Master, and Human Rights Attorney. She has been studying Eastern metaphysics, cosmology, and esotericism for almost 20 years now. And she's still discovering new knowledge, which is hidden in ancient teachings. During her pilgrimage to the monastery of Saint Catherine in Egypt, she discovered the SOLANCHA System. This is how the SOLANCHA journey started!

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7 Signs You are a Healer and Don’t Know It

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Healers have existed since ancient times. Healing abilities were passed down from generation to generation and have come down to our times. However, some people do not even know that they have the gift of a healer. It is transmitted to them at the genetic or spiritual level, and often this gift is brought from past lives. Many of us live with this special gift without even knowing about our healing potential. If you’re wondering if you are a spiritual healer, this article is for you! In this article, we will share with you 7 signs you are a healer.

7 Signs You are a Healer

Here are 7 telltale signs you are a healer that you shouldn’t ignore!

#1: You are an empath

As an empath, you instinctively feel what others feel. You are very sensitive to the energies/vibrations that surround you, both thoughts and emotions, of other people, animals, plants, and even spirits.

Being an empath makes you capable of feeling if someone else is experiencing pain long before they even say so. However, you should be careful as you run the risk of picking up that pain and mistaking it for your own.

#2: You have a strong connection with nature

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Nature is the source of vital energy. As a natural healer, you are, by definition, close to nature. Do you love to walk in the forest or by the ocean? Do you enjoy the sound of running water? Do you like to be around animals or surround yourself with plants and trees? Of course, you do, because this works great for natural healers like you as you feel that being in nature helps you to ground yourself and clear your aura from negativity or excessive energy. You may not even think about it but you just feel the need of being close to nature to “recharge” yourself.

#3: Strangers open up to you easily

Because of your empathic abilities, strangers feel comfortable and safe to open up to you and share their problems with you. Deep inside people intuitively feel that you can help them and therefore are attracted to you. The fact that someone decides to talk to you about a problem is an important step in the healing process. Your ability to listen, comfort, and support people is healing itself.

#4: You attract animals on your path

One of the signs you are a healer is your ability to attract animals on your path.

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Do animals seem to follow you when you walk alone? Are cats, dogs, birds, or other animals attracted to you? Have you ever noticed that aggressive pets change their nervous behavior when meeting with you to friendly, or even affectionate? If this describes you then it could be a sign that you are a healer. Natural healers radiate the energy of a certain frequency that is visible to animals. When sensing the healing vibrations coming from you, animals want to be closer to you.

And this applies not only to pets. There are known cases when enraged wild animals unexpectedly not only calmed down when meeting with some people but also did not show aggressiveness. It is likely that this is how they indicated a meeting with healers.

#5: Your palms can radiate heat

People who are able to help others with the warmth of their hands, undoubtedly, have certain abilities. This kind of heat is not always felt only when you touch it. It is enough just to bring the palm closer to some part of the body, as this heat is felt by the patient.

This heat is a healing energy that is always active whenever someone in need for healing is around you.

#6: You tend to have vivid dreams

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Do you tend to have vivid dreams? The unseen realm may be communicating with you through your dreams. You can receive information, advice, or instructions for solving problems and helping other people in your dreams. These dreams can even be prophetic.

Therefore, you should try analyzing your dreams carefully. If you don’t have a dream journal, it’s time to start one! Pay particular attention to any symbols, signs, or animal totems that may appear in your dreams, for these symbols, signs, and animals could be trying to send you an important message.

#7: You are very intuitive

Another sign you could be a healer is your good intuition. Do you have a very strong inner compass? Are your gut reactions usually spot on? Do you feel negative energy coming from some people even without looking or talking to them? Can you feel when particular places and buildings could be dangerous for spending time there even if they look safe and peaceful for others? Then you could be a natural healer.

You see, healers are naturally very intuitive and can sense and see what most people can’t. If this describes you, make sure you pay attention to your intuition, even if it contradicts what your rational mind is telling you.

Are You a Born Healer?

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After reading the above 7 signs of being a healer, do you feel like this describes you? If this sounds like you, it’s time to embrace your healing potential and share your gifts with the world. Maybe you can even consider a healing job or at least doing your current job in some healing way.

If you are a born healer, you have that internal desire to help others. Think about different ways you can share your healing gifts. However, make sure you have healthy boundaries with your patients and don’t take their problems and pains as your own. Remember to always ground yourself, cleanse your aura, and practice energy hygiene.

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Crystals For Chakras: How to Restore Your Energy Flow

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Crystals have certain vibrations and a unique configuration of subtle energies. There are crystals that resonate with our energy centers that are able to harmonize and balance our chakras. The proper interaction with these stones and crystals can change the vibration of our cells and energy fields and improve our mental and physical health. In this article, we will share with you the most powerful crystals for chakras that can help you to balance and harmonize them.

Crystals and Chakras

Life is the circulation of energy. Energy flows through our bodies along the energy meridians and is concentrated in the energy centers – the chakras. Chakras are a kind of accumulator and at the same time generator of vital energy – Qi. Each chakra corresponds to the energy of its own frequency and of certain vibrations, such as color (wavelength) or the sound of a special mantra (frequency of sound vibrations).

The lower chakras (Muladhara, Svadhisthana, and Manipura) resonate with the lower frequencies of the earth, and the upper chakras (Anahata, Vishuddha, Ajna, and Sahasrara) respond to the high-frequency vibrations of the Cosmos. Thus, the human body is considered as an open system that is part of the general energy system “Earth-Human-Space”.

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There are seven main chakras. Each of them is responsible for a certain sphere of human activity. Each chakra has its own color and is associated with a certain part of our body, as well as certain characteristics and aspects of our life.

Our chakras respond to the energy of the colors that we see during the day in nature, in food, and clothing. And when the chakras get into contact with the energy of stones, minerals, and crystals, they perceive it very actively. Therefore, so many healers use crystals for chakra balancing.

If you have a weak chakra and you feel a lack of energy in it, wear crystals that resonate with it as jewelry for its gentle healing and balancing. This is a gentle and safe method of chakra healing, which you can safely do on your own.

Stones and Crystals For Chakras

Root Chakra (Muladhara)

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For Muladhara healing and balancing, use black, brown and red stones:

  • Red Jasper
  • Red Aventurine
  • Red Pyrope Garnet
  • Red Calcite
  • Black Tourmaline
  • Smoky Quartz
  • Carnelian
  • Black Jasper
  • Hawkeye Stone
  • Dravite Tourmaline
  • Pyrope
  • Black Obsidian
  • Rhodochrosite
  • Hematite
  • Jet
  • Eudialyte
  • Chiastolite (Cross Stone)
  • Hematite
  • Tektite
  • Lava
  • Black Onyx
  • Black Jade

Sacral Chakra (Svadhisthana)

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For Svadhisthana chakra healing and balancing, use orange, peach, and brown stones:

  • Orange Spinel
  • Carnelian
  • Imperial Topaz
  • Sunstone
  • Amber
  • Sardonyx
  • Fire Opal
  • Apricot Botswana Agate
  • Spessartine Garnet
  • Peach Moonstone
  • Orange Calcite
  • Peach Selenite

Solar Plexus Chakra (Manipura)

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For Manipura chakra healing and balancing, use yellow and gold stones:

  • Jasper
  • Citrine
  • Yellow Onyx
  • Yellow Topaz
  • Golden Calcite
  • Golden Tiger’s Eye
  • Yellow Tourmaline
  • Pineapple Calcite
  • Yellow Sapphire
  • Golden Quartz
  • Yellow Selenite
  • Heliodor
  • Pyrite
  • Golden Fluorite

Heart Chakra (Anahata)

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For Anahata chakra healing and balancing, use green and pink stones:

  • Green Aventurine
  • Moss Agate
  • Rose Quartz
  • Alexandrite
  • Emerald
  • Amazonite
  • Peridot
  • Heliotrope
  • Malachite
  • Grossular
  • Rhodochrosite
  • Diopside
  • Pink Calcite
  • Unakite
  • Uvarovite
  • Watermelon Tourmaline
  • Morganite
  • Rhodonite

Throat Chakra (Vishuddha)

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For Vishuddha chakra healing and balancing, use light blue, blue, and teal stones:

  • Larimar
  • Aquamarine
  • Celestite
  • Amazonite
  • Angelite
  • Blue Topaz
  • Kyanite
  • Blue Lace Agate
  • Ajoite Quartz
  • Blue Tourmaline
  • Aqua Aura Quartz
  • Turquoise
  • Chrysocolla
  • Blue Quartz

Third Eye Chakra (Ajna)

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For Ajna chakra healing and balancing, use indigo and violet stones:

  • Blue Aventurine
  • Tanzanite
  • Indigolite
  • Lapis Lazuli
  • Sodalite
  • Labradorite
  • Azurite
  • Iolite
  • Tanzan Aura Quartz
  • Fluorite
  • Shattuckite
  • Blue Apatite
  • Sapphire
  • Blue Kyanite

Crown Chakra (Sahasrara)

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For Sahasrara chakra healing and balancing, use violet, gold, white, and clear stones:

  • Charoite
  • Clear Quartz
  • Amethyst
  • Sugilite
  • Fluorite
  • Rhinestone
  • Clear Calcite
  • Selenite
  • Apophyllite
  • Ametrine
  • Ulexite
  • Spirit Quartz
  • Stichtite

How to Use Crystals for Chakras?

If the chakra is not sufficiently supplied with energy, it always leads to physiological and psychological problems. The energy balance in the body is disturbed, general malaise is felt, diseases appear. Crystals can help to restore the energy level of the chakras, heal, and balance them.

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Here are different ways you can use crystals for chakras:

#1: Crystal Meditation

Direct contact with the crystal allows you to raise the vibrations of body cells and energy fields. Meditation is the most profound form of communication with the crystal. Therefore, the best way to use the healing power of the crystals for chakras is to meditate with them. You can hold the crystal in your palms in front of a specific chakra or, if you prefer to meditate in Savasana, you can just place the crystal on the chakra.

#2: Crystal Jewelry

To restore the work of the chakras, you can wear talismans and jewelry with chakra crystals. For balancing your Root chakra wear crystal pendants. For your Solar plexus chakra wear a crystal belt. For your Heart chakra balancing, wear pendants with crystals. For the Throat chakra, wear crystal necklaces. Bracelets on the wrists affect all the chakras, so you can always wear them. If you wear a bracelet on your left hand – the main effect of the stone will be directed at you and if you wear it on the right hand – on the people around you.

#3: Massage

To activate the chakra and remove the blockage, a massage with healing stones or crystals for chakras is a perfect way to get a quick result. Just make sure that the massage of the energy centers is performed gently and safely.

#4: Crystal Charged Water

Healing water, charged with crystals, helps to purify the chakras. To charge the water with healing crystals, use a glass, ceramic, or porcelain jug or bowl.

Place a crystal in a jar, jug, or bowl filled with purified (preferable spring) water and leave it for the night.

You can drink crystal charged water in the morning, or use it for chakra ritual baths.

Don’t forget to cleanse your crystals before and after using them.

The Bottom Line

Crystals for chakras is a simple yet very effective way to balance your energy field and harmonize energy circulation in your chakras. By placing crystals on the chakra centers, the healing vibrations given off by the stone will correct imbalances within the chakra and restore your energy flow.

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8 Signs You Have a Wounded Inner Child

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Every child deserves to feel safe, protected, and secure. However, not every child does. Most parents see safety as physical protection from harm, or providing the essentials for their children. Safety also means support on an emotional, psychological, and spiritual level. When we don’t feel safe as children this feeling of endangerment becomes constant and long-lasting, and a huge gaping wound appears in our psyche. Our adult selves often repress this painful wound, but its impacts are profound and far-reaching. In this article, I want to introduce you to 8 common signs that indicate that you have a wounded inner child.

However, in order for this article to be a useful source for you, I need you to get into a reflective space in your mind where you can openly reflect on your own childhood and how you felt as a child. It’s very important to ask yourself such questions as:

  • Did I feel safe?
  • Did I feel a sense of belonging in my family?
  • Was I permitted to be myself?
  • Do I still have any resentment coming from my childhood?
  • What is my current relationship with my inner child like?

Use this article for introspection and self-reflection. Please, understand that inner child healing is one of the most serious and profound forms of inner work you can do.

What Is the Inner Child?

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The inner child is a “part” of our personality that stores all our memories, feelings, needs, reactions, attitudes towards ourselves and others, and behaviors that we have preserved from our childhood.

In other words, your inner child is the child that lives within you, to be exact – within your psyche. It is important that we stay connected with this sensitive part of ourselves. When we are connected to our inner child, we feel excited, enthusiastic, and inspired by life. 

If in childhood some of our important psychological needs were not met, then our inner child “gets stuck” and can not continue to grow and develop. Inner child healing can help us to face our fears and insecurities that were created in our childhood and heal these inner wounds.

What Is the Wounded Inner Child?

The wounded inner child is the part of us that bears the imprint of our psychological traumas.

Trauma is our psychological wound. This is our reaction to some event or many similar events that our psyche could not cope with. And as a result, it was divided into the injured part (i.e., our wounded inner child) and the part of the protector.

Such a traumatic event could be as:
  • something extreme. For example, an attack, a fire, a war, someone’s murder, a natural disaster, etc. All these extreme events lead to shock trauma.
  • a lot of unpleasant, more “casual” events, but recurring regularly. For example, psychological violence, violation of agreements on the part of the parent, lack of attention, rejection, unacceptance of some qualities or behavior patterns, etc. These “casual” events lead to relationship trauma.

Our traumatized inner child encourages us to face similar painful events (that caused trauma) again and again to attract our attention so we can finally heal our wounds. And the other part of us, our inner protector, wants to avoid meeting with such an event to protect us from pain.

This inner protector, which protects us from repeating the trauma of the relationship, can manifest itself in us through the fear of intimacy when we are afraid to let another person close to us, or even afraid to enter into a relationship. The fear of close relationships is formed in us as a result of the trauma of relationships.

The inner child healing takes place through the healing of its “wounded part”. That is, through working with the trauma of the relationship. And as a result of the healing, our ability to have close, trusting, loving relationships with others increases.

Here’s How to Tell Your Inner Child Is Wounded

1. Poor Self-Esteem

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Low self-esteem is usually a result of not knowing yourself, knowing your worth, living authentically, and owning both your strengths and struggles.

This trait leads to many other side effects, such as not believing in yourself or your abilities, criticizing yourself, thinking of yourself as “less than,” etc. This can also result in developing body image issues and eating disorders. To have healthy self-esteem, you need to discover, accept, and love who you really are through re-parenting your inner child.

2. Your Boundaries Are Either Too Weak Or Too Rigid

Do you feel like you don’t really know how to create healthy boundaries with others? Is it hard for you to say “NO” to people? Do you tend to put your needs secondary? This could be a result of you being uncomfortable with saying “NO” to your parents because of the fear to disappoint them or even the fear of punishment. As a child, you were suppressing your needs and desires trying to be a good girl or a good boy for your parents. Now, being an adult, you’re still carrying this program in your unconsciousness. You may even show this in situations where you are intimate with someone even if you don’t feel totally comfortable with it.

OR…

The situation could be totally opposite if you have super rigid, inflexible boundaries that nobody can cross. One of them could be your personal space. When you feel overwhelmed, instead of openly telling people they’ve been disrespecting your need for personal space, you simply cut them off. This kind of behavior is your coping mechanism to protect yourself from being hurt.

3. You Are Ashamed of Expressing Emotions

Shame is a very toxic emotion, especially for children. If you grew up in an environment where sharing and expressing your emotions was considered an expression of weakness, you could still be dealing with shame when it comes to expressing your emotions and feelings.

Shame creates feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, or regret. The feeling of being ashamed can be experienced as such a negative, intense emotion of self-loathing that it can make a person act like a bully, giving it away by evoking that emotion in others.

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When children are emotionally or physically abandoned, abused, or neglected they often take on the shame that belongs to the adult who left or hurt them by assuming that it’s because they themselves are the “bad” one. Some children behave in ways that make them culpable for the shame that belongs to their parents.

4. You Have the Fear Of Abandonment

This fear can be expressed in the form of being clingy, overly insecure, codependent. It can even manifest itself in a form of depression or anxiety.

If you have the fear of abandonment and if you are afraid that people you love can leave you, it becomes impossible to maintain healthy relationships.

The fear of abandonment is one of the most common and most damaging fears of all. This can be a reason for so many unhealthy codependent relationships that exist in modern society.

5. You are a People-pleaser

Do you find yourself clinging to people, grasping for any attention and approval? Do you tend to do anything just to keep people happy and not to lose anyone? Do you feel like it’s super hard for you to let anyone or anything go? If the answer is “yes”, you could be a people-pleaser.

The reason why you could be stuck in the people-pleaser role is that you are afraid of disappointing and frustrating other people. And you are afraid because you unconsciously associate your worth with external validation.

A “people-pleaser” role that you tend to play most likely was manifested in your childhood when you were forced to silence your needs, feelings, emotions, and thoughts, to the point where you weaken your sense of self.

6. You Avoid People

Do you have extreme fear or anxiety when having to deal with or be around people? This can be a sign of a wounded inner child. The degree of avoiding people may vary. It may just be anxiety with a lot of people in a social situation or any amount of people. It may manifest itself in going out of your way to have food and other items delivered to you to keep from interactions. You feel most comfortable and safe when you are staying home.

7. You are Addiction Prone

Do you get easily addicted/attached to drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, pornography, gambling, or any other extreme obsessive tendencies? Do you feel like it’s important for you to receive that rush of “feel good” hormones? Your childhood wounds could be the reason why you’re so easily attached to these obsessive tendencies.

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Did you know that addiction is often a symptom of underlying trauma that hasn’t been processed? Instead of confronting our issues and letting ourselves feel pain, we often tend to block our emotions to avoid feeling pain.

But the truth is, you are not really addicted to the substance itself; you are addicted to the feeling it gives you, to the relief and escapism it provides you.

To recover from your addiction, you need to face your shadow by asking yourself these 3 important questions:

  • What am I avoiding?
  • What am I suppressing?
  • What am I in denial about?

8. You Have Trust Issues

Your distrust is a defense mechanism for avoiding emotional pain, anxiety, fears, and disappointments. Trust issues often stem from a wounded inner child that learned the hard way that people can’t be trusted.

The problem becomes even more complicated when you also have self-doubt. If you were neglected, invalidated, gaslighted, or emotionally abused as a child, it is not easy to build healthy self-esteem and self-confidence.

You have to remember that even the smallest words could cause a wound. For example, if your parents constantly told you “your grades should be better” or “don’t be so sensitive”, you absorb the message that something’s wrong with you and that you will never be good enough. On messages like these, it’s very hard to build self-esteem and self-confidence.

Self-Healing

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Learning to work with your inner child is about reconnecting with the sincere, childlike part inside.

Inner child healing leads us to a state of purity and innocence. We all have the potential to experience true simplicity by reconnecting with and healing a period of our lives when we saw the world with openness and wonder.

In order to eliminate the feelings of guilt, shame, fear, hatred, disgust, and anger that we carry with us throughout our lives, we must heal the child inside. To do this, we need to earn the trust of our inner child through unconditional love and self-nurturing.

To learn more about the methods of inner child healing, read my article “Inner Child Healing: 4 Surprisingly Effective Practices“.

The Bottom Line

As you can see, your inner child does not disappear once you become an adult. On the contrary, it stays within you, reminding you of all the wounds you haven’t healed yet. There is a variety of symptoms that can point to a wounded inner child. You may have just accepted or tried to ignore many of these behaviors in yourself. However, in order to heal, you need to confront the pain that caused the wounds.

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