Everything in the Universe (including human bodies) consists of the energy of the five elements. They are the original source of our existence. Therefore, the five elements have great manifesting power. If you know how to use this power properly, you become a Creator of your own destiny. This is due to the ability to connect your reality with the powerful flow of abundance of the Universe which the knowledge of the five elements provides.

The Chinese esotericism believes that he who knows the essence of the five elements and their combinations tears the veil from the mysteries of the universe and becomes omnipotent.

In this article, I will tell you how to manifest with the power of the five elements so you can make your dream life come true!

The Five Elements

Before I start talking about how to manifest with the power of the five elements I would like to dive deeper into the five elements theory so that you know what kinds of energy we are going to use for manifesting.

According to Chinese esoteric tradition, the five elements are:

• fire;
• earth;
• metal;
• water;
• wood.

These elements are constantly interacting with each other. They can produce each other, exhaust each other, or destroy each other. Each of the five elements can be represented by features and symbols.

FIRE

The Fire element has the power of the highest form of Yang energy. It symbolizes any sources of light and fire: Sun, lightning, electricity, candles, volcanos, etc.

It’s a very powerful element that is responsible for the following spheres:

• creates life;
• cleanses;
• destroys negativity;
• brings success, fame, and recognition;
• helps to spread information quick and easily;
• ignites passion;
• improves reputation;
• boosts intellect;
• attracts love and romance.

The Fire Element Activation

To activate the Fire element in your house, enjoy its benefits, and manifest a better life for yourself and your family you can perform the following simple actions:

1. if you want to attract fame and recognition make sure to have bright lights and light candles in the South;
2. those of you who want to attract love, passion, romance, or family joyous occasions make sure to have bright lights and light candles in the Southwest;
3. if you want to attract the luck of scholarship make sure to have bright lights and light candles in the Northeast.

Now let me share with you how to manifest a better life with the help of the Fire element. Here are 3 powerful techniques that you can use!

How To Manifest With The Power Of The Fire Element

Technique #1

If you want to get rid of negative feelings or emotions this technique will help you to do so.

For performing this technique you need to go out on a sunny day and find a quiet place so you can peacefully meditate. It can be your backyard, park, beach, etc.

Sit down and relax. Visualize how a shining fireball goes through your energy body and cleansing you from any negativity you have. It’s burning out any negative feelings or emotions as well as anything you want to get rid of. Give this fireball a direction you want it to work through. For example: “Now I’m free from any negative thoughts that can affect my life“. Or: “I’m free from resentment and anger“. Use your own intention.

Stay in this meditation for at least 10-15 minutes.

Technique #2

If you want to get rid of something use this simple yet powerful technique.

Write down on a piece of paper what you want to get rid of. It can be debts, credits, difficult situations, problems, complicated relationships, bad moods, etc. Then simply burn it with your intention being pronounced out loud: “Now I am free from ( … name what you want to get rid of)“. Say your intention 3 times. Throw out the ashes in the trash can with the words: “It’s done!“.

Technique #3

If you want to attract love, passion, and romance into your life, it’s very beneficial to meditate on fire. For doing this, light a red candle, and meditate on its fire. Feel how this fire goes through your Heart chakra and awakens that unconditional love that attracts your soul mate.

While meditating on fire, you can say love affirmations or chant (or listen to) love mantras. This will enhance your meditation.

WOOD

The Wood element stands for growth and expansion. It symbolizes trees, plants, flowers, etc.

It’s a very powerful element that is responsible for the following spheres:

• attracts success;
• gives longevity and youth;
• stimulates development;
• attracts good luck;
• supports financial growth;
• boosts creativity;
• gives support;
• helps to build a strong and big family;
• blossoming of the projects.

The Wood Element Activation

To activate the Wood element in your house, enjoy its benefits, and manifest a better life for yourself and your family you can perform the following simple actions:

1. if you want to have a big and happy family, place live plants in the Eastern room of your house;
2. those of you who want to attract financial growth and abundance into your life, place live plants in the Southeast corner of your house or office.

Live young plants symbolize growth upwards and outwards. However, it is very important that the plants look lush and healthy, so you need to make sure you keep them well-watered and fed. Dead or dying plants will not create auspicious energy. Young broad-leaved plants are ideal, and flowering plants will represent the blossoming of your projects.

Now let me share with you how to manifest a better life with the help of the Wood element. Here are 2 powerful techniques that you can use!

How To Manifest With The Power Of The Wood Element

Technique #1

Every time you go to the park or forest take a chance to hug a tree. While hugging the tree repeat your intention. For example, you can say: “As this tree grows so do my finances grow!”. Or: “As this tree blooms so do my beauty and youth bloom!”. Feel how the tree is charging you with vital energy and supporting you. Visualize that you and the tree are one and feel the energy exchange between you and the tree.

Technique #2

If you want to attract abundance and prosperity and make your finances grow, then this simple technique is for you!

Hang on the tree on your backyard or on a healthy plant Chinese coins. While you are hanging the coins repeat the following affirmation: “As this tree/plant grows so do my finances grow!”. And make sure to keep that tree/plant healthy!

After you hanged those coins, every time you look at that plant or tree repeat that statement again and again: “As this tree/plant grows so do my finances grow!”. The trick is to constantly be interacting with the tree/plant, talking to it, and giving it the task – to grow your money.

WATER

The Water element stands for success related to money and wealth. It also associated with emotional sensuality, therefore too much Water can lead to tiredness, dejection, and lethargy.

The Water element represents all the liquids, mirrors, glass, fountains, aquariums, etc.

Water is a very powerful element that is responsible for the following spheres:

• brings money;
• attracts prosperity;
• manifests abundance;
• helps with career;
• success related to money;
• cleanses;
• helps to manifest the desired reality through programming and charging.

The Water Element Activation

To activate the Water element in your house, enjoy its benefits, and manifest a better life for yourself and your family you can perform the following simple actions:

1. if you want career growth, promotion and better opportunities make sure to decorate the North of your house with the colors of water (blue, black, azure);
2. those of you who want to attract the increase in your salary hang a big mirror in the North of your house;
3. if you want to attract more opportunities, money, and success, place a decorative fountain in the North of your house.

Now let me share with you how to manifest a better life with the help of the Water element. Here are 5 powerful techniques that you can use!

How To Manifest With The Power Of The Water Element

Technique #1

Water is a blueprint for our reality. Emotional energies and vibrations can change the physical structure of water.

Water has the ability to remember the information. This property is used for programming water with affirmations, intentions, or mantras. Water remembers the information coded, gets into the human body, and begins working according to a given program – brings this information to body cells.

For programming water, take a glass of water, place it between your palms, and say positive affirmations, positive words, mantras or your intentions. For example, it can be just positive words, such as: “Happiness! Abundance! Love!”. Or you can charge your water with money affirmations.

And then drink this water visualizing how it’s filling every cell of your body with this positive information. After drinking it, close your eyes and feel how the structure of your energy body is improving and the reality you live in manifests itself in accordance with the affirmations you just stated.

Technique #2

This is a beauty technique that was very popular during ancient times. However, nowadays only a few people still use it. It’s based on water programming. But for beauty purposes, we are going to use water for washing our faces.

Place a bowl of water between your palms and say positive beauty affirmations, such as: “I am beautiful! I am attractive! I am young!” as many times as you want (the more the better). Or you can say positive beauty words, such as: “Beauty! Youth! Love! Joy! Happiness!“. And then wash your face with this water!

Technique #3

This technique became my daily ritual! It is very simple! You just need to make it your habit.

Every time you take a shower or bath or swim in the pool or ocean, in other words, every time you bathe your body in water, say positive affirmations! You can do it even mentally if you don’t want somebody to hear you. Visualize how water is receiving information from you and charges your body with it. Alternatively, you can turn on music with mantras or prayers while you’re taking a shower.

Technique #4

Water can help you to cleanse your aura and raise your frequency of energy vibrations – something that yogis and meditative practitioners regularly strive for. To learn more about the most powerful energy cleansing with the Water element, read my article: “This is the Most Powerful Energy Cleansing Bath Ritual!“.

Technique #5

Water can help you to attract abundance! Bath rituals are a perfect tool for aligning yourself with the energy of abundance. Once you raise your own energy to the next level you will start to radiate abundance, you will gain an abundance mindset and abundant living. To learn more about how to perform the bath rituals for attracting abundance, read my article “Ancient Bath Rituals For Attracting Abundance“.

EARTH

The Earth element is a symbol of stability, confidence, support, and security.

Crystals are the best manifestations of the Earth element.

Earth is a very powerful element that is responsible for the following spheres:

• brings family happiness;
• creates harmony;
• gives support;
• provides stability;
• gives security;
• helps to attract scholarship luck;
• attracts romance and serious relationship;
• helps to feel more confident.

The Earth Element Activation

To activate the Earth element in your house, enjoy its benefits, and manifest a better life for yourself and your family you can perform the following simple actions:

1. if you want to attract romance and serious relationships that lead to marriage, place a pair of Rose Quartz Crystal Mandarin Ducks in the Southwest room of your house;
2. if you want to attract scholarship luck and greatly enhance your children’s academic achievements, place a clear quartz crystal globe in the Northeast of your house.

Now let me share with you how to manifest a better life with the help of the Earth element. Here are 2 powerful techniques that you can use!

How To Manifest With The Power Of The Earth Element

Technique #1

Grounding is the most powerful technique you can perform to create a stable connection with the Earth. Properly grounding yourself allows you to recharge and access the energy necessary to implement your intentions on the material plane.

A grounded person is always in contact with his center, in balance with himself and with his body. He/she stands firmly on his/her feet. The one who knows how to successfully ground himself/herself will no only be able to obtain a large portion of joy and various intangible benefits, but he/she will also be able to obtain financial success and health more easily.

To learn how to perform grounding, read my article “Earth Grounding Techniques Everyone Should Use“.

Technique #2

Another wonderful way to manifest with the power of the Earth element is to charge crystals with a specific intention. Crystals can be very powerful manifesting tools if you charge them right. To find out how to charge crystals for manifesting your desired reality, read my article “How To Charge Crystals: 8 Most Effective Ways“.

METAL

The Metal element brings power and authority. It is believed that if you are able to activate and build a good connection with the Metal element you become a very powerful and influential person!

The Metal element is a symbol of “the Power of Heaven”, abundance, and financial success.

Metal is a very powerful element that is responsible for the following spheres:

• gives power and authority;
• encourages enterprise;
• attracts abundance;
• brings financial success;
• gives support;
• boosts creativity;
• responsible for children;
• attracts mentors;
• gives assistance.

The Metal Element Activation

To activate the Metal element in your house, enjoy its benefits, and manifest a better life for yourself and your family you can perform the following simple actions:

• If you want to attract mentors or assistance, make sure to decorate your Northwest room with the colors of Metal such as silver, gold, or white. You can also place Chinese coins, jewelry, or any metal talismans in your Northwest room to enhance the Metal element energy.
• If you want to boost your career or business luck, place Chinese coins or a metal Ganesh statue in the North of your house.
• If you want to boost creativity and opening up your creative potential, place an Elephant with a trunk raised statue in the West of your house.
• For those of you who want to get pregnant, place an Elephant trunk down statue in the West of your house.

Now let me share with you how to manifest a better life with the help of the Metal element. Here is a very simple yet powerful technique that you can use!

How To Manifest With The Power Of The Metal Element

Every time that you need help or assistance of the Universe you can simply ring the metal bell in the Northwest room of your house or in the Northwest corner of your office. While you’re ringing the bell ask the Universe for help. The sound of the metal bell attracts assistance and help from Heaven. Be sure that help will come very soon.

How To Manifest With The Productive Cycle

The productive cycle of the Five elements: Fire produces Earth, Earth produces Metal, Metal produces Water, Water produces Wood, and Wood produces Fire.

It is believed that the productive cycle of the 5 elements will naturally produce harmony and well being. Therefore this cycle is used by Feng Shui masters for manifesting the desired life.

Let me share with you how to manifest with the productive cycle of the 5 elements.

Productive Cycle Ritual

First of all, you need to write down your desire/wish/intention. What do you want to manifest?

The second step is to determine which sector of the Bagua it belongs to. If you don’t know what Bagua is and how to determine the sectors, make sure to read my articles: “Feng Shui Bagua: 8 Aspirations” and “The Feng Shui Bagua Map: How to Use It?“.

For example, you want to start your own business. In this case, your intention belongs to the Career sector which corresponds to the North sector. That’s where the ritual will have to take place – the North sector of your house.

Now you need to take the symbols of the five elements, for example:

• for the Wood element take a piece of wood;
• the Water element – a glass of water;
• the Metal element – Chinese coins;
• the Fire element – a candle;
• for the Earth element take a crystal.

Now arrange all the symbols of the five elements according to the Productive Cycle (Water-Wood-Fire-Earth-Metal).

Before you start, be sure to light a candle to activate the energy of the Fire element. After you have done all this, sit comfortably next to the Cycle of the Five elements you created.

Now repeat aloud or mentally the intention/desire/wish you wrote down. Do not be surprised if you feel a strong heat coming from the Cycle. Or you may feel an unfamiliar shiver in your body.

Visualize that your intention/desire/wish came true. Meditate on it for 10-15 minutes.

When you finish your meditation, say gratitude to the Universe, to the Five elements, and to yourself. Extinguish the candle.

Feng Shui masters do not recommend immediately removing the Cycle after the ritual. It is recommended to leave it for at least a week in the sector where the ritual was performed. Also, make sure to change the water daily.

The Bottom Line

When you start living in harmony with the five elements you will see that your life becomes more balanced and satisfying. Therefore, it is very beneficial to connect with all five elements on a daily basis. Start with activating the energy of the five elements in your house. And then – choose the techniques you like the most. Now that you know how to manifest with the power of the five elements you can become the Creator of your reality and your life!

In this article, we collected the best self-love quotes to help you realize just how special, unique and valuable you are, and how many reasons you have to become a self-loving person.

Here is our collection of the 70 best and most spectacular self-love quotes! We hope you’ll enjoy it!

Top 70 Self-Love Quotes

#1

“Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.”
– Sri Ravi Shankar

#2

“Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion.”
– Margo Anand

#3

“I love myself for I am a beloved child of the universe and the universe lovingly takes care of me now.”
– Louise Hay

#4

“To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections.”
– Sandra Bierig

#5

“My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another.”
– Shakti Gawain

#6

“A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success.”
– Joyce Brothers

#7

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”
– Thich Nhat Hanh

#8

“If we can’t love ourselves, we can’t love anyone. If we can’t love the closest and dearest person in the world – ourselves – how can we love someone else? It can be passion, affection, but not love. Love always comes from the inside, and only when it overflows us, it pours out to the outside.”
– Katya Ki

#9

“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.”
– Barbara De Angelis

#10

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.”
– Jack Kornfield

#11

“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.”
– Earth Kitt

#12

“It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others.”
– Sidney J. Harris

#13

“Self-love is the source of all other loves.”
– Pierre Corneille

#14

“Self respect, self-worth, and self-love, all start with self. Stop looking outside of yourself for your value.”
– Rob Liano

#15

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
– Oscar Wilde

#16

“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”
– Bob Moawad

#17

“Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it.”
– Thaddeus Golas

#18

“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.”
– Malcolm S. Forbes

#19

“Accept what you don’t like about yourself. Realize that what you call “imperfections” are actually your unique qualities that fall out of the scope of the “standard.” We have been taught since our childhood to be like everyone else. And everything that distinguished us from others was condemned. But it shouldn’t be that way! We must learn to be ourselves without any limitations. We need to learn to perceive our “imperfections” as unique manifestations of ourselves.”
– Katya Ki

#20

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”
– Maya Angelou

#21

“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs, and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.”
– Kim McMillen

#22

“When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”
– Diane Von Furstenberg

#23

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

#24

“As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first, I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know “THAT IS LIFE”!”
– Charlie Chaplin

#25

“All I can do is be me, whoever that is.”
– Bob Dylan

#26

“Realize that no one or nothing can make you whole. You’re already self-sufficient! You need to learn to love yourself regardless of whether someone else loves you or not. Your happiness cannot be dependent on your relationships.”
– Katya Ki

#27

“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.”
– Shannon L. Alder

#28

“I think everybody’s weird. We should all celebrate our individuality and not be embarrassed or ashamed of it.”
– Johnny Depp

#29

“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.”
– Rupi Kaur

#30

“It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.”
– W.C. Fields

#31

“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.”
– Charles Bukowski

#32

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball

#33

“Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself – what you’re wearing, who you’re around, what you’re doing. Recreate and repeat.”
– Warsan Shire

#34

“The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.”
– Robert Hand

#35

“Many people believe that certain achievements in life will help them love themselves more. But this is far from reality! Neither a career, nor an expensive car, nor a luxurious mansion on the beach, nor designer clothes, will make you love yourself. All this luxury can only enhance your ego, but self-love will never depend on such things. And it is very important to understand this! You don’t need a reason to love yourself. True love is always born for no reason. We start to love ourselves just like that, here and now, just the way we are.”
– Katya Ki

#36

“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.”
– Steve Maraboli

#37

“When nobody celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.”
– Joel Osteen

#38

“I am my own experiment. I am my own work of art.”
– Madonna

#39

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
– Louise Hay

#40

“I am so beautiful, sometimes people weep when they see me. And it has nothing to do with what I look like really, it is just that I gave myself the power to say that I am beautiful, and if I could do that, maybe there is hope for them too. And the great divide between the beautiful and the ugly will cease to be. Because we are all what we choose.”
– Margaret Cho

#41

“It’s not your job to like me…it’s MINE!”
– Byron Katie

#42

“People who love themselves come across as very loving, generous and kind; they express their self-confidence through humility, forgiveness and inclusiveness.”
– Sanaya Roman

#43

“Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.”
– Veronica A. Shoffstall

#44

“Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.”
– Shannon L. Alder

#45

“Stop putting people on the pedestal. Stop thinking that someone might be better than you are or worse. Learn not to compare yourself to other people. If you accept and love your uniqueness (which, as I have already said, consists of those qualities that society calls “imperfections”), then you realize that any comparison is inappropriate! You are who you are. No one is better or worse than you. Destroy all the pedestals that you have created. And understand that all people are equal. Don’t idealize anyone. We’re all just humans – nobody is perfect! Besides that the ideal is always dead, there is no movement, there is no need for development. So throw away all those thoughts about reaching this illusional ideal level of yourself. Stop this race to perfection! It doesn’t make any sense!”
– Katya Ki

#46

“To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now.”
– Alan Cohen

#47

“One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others. There was a time when I felt lousy about my over-forty body, saw myself as too fat, too this, or too that. Yet I fantasized about finding a lover who would give me the gift of being loved as I am. It is silly, isn’t it, that I would dream of someone else offering to me the acceptance and affirmation I was withholding from myself. This was a moment when the maxim “You can never love anybody if you are unable to love yourself” made clear sense. And I add, “Do not expect to receive the love from someone else you do not give yourself.”
– Bell Hooks

#48

“A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.”
– Andrew Matthews

#49

“Celebrate who you are in your deepest heart. Love yourself and the world will love you.”
– Amy Leigh Mercree

#50

“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
– Stacey Charter

#51

“We can’t be so desperate for love that we forget where we can always find it within.”
– Alexandra Elle

#52

“I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don’t have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?”
– Shailene Woodley

#53

“I come across too much material on “how to make a man want you”, “how to make a man commit”, “how to make a man finally pop the question”, “how to make a man take you seriously”, “how to get into a man’s emotions.” And I laugh. My dear fellow women, enough! Do not busy yourself with such things! Instead, fall in love with yourself!”
– C. JoyBell C.

#54

“Self-love can’t exist without self-respect. Learn to respect yourself, your time and space! Free your space from negative people, as well as from those people with who you are uncomfortable with or who are not interesting for you to communicate with. Free yourself from those people who steal your energy. Stop talking to people who only talk about themselves, but are never interested in you. Change your environment! As soon as you free yourself from people you don’t resonate with, you will attract a new environment into your life. From now on surround yourself only with people you enjoy interacting with.”
– Katya Ki

#55

“Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It is sanity.”
– Katrina Mayer

#56

“If you don’t love yourself, you won’t be happy with yourself. If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else. You can’t give the love you do not have. You can’t make anyone love you without loving yourself first.”
– Kemi Sogunle

#57

“Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It’s about accepting all of yourself.”
– Tyra Banks

#58

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball

#59

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”
– Louise Hay

#60

“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”
– Robert Morely

#61

“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”
– Diane Von Furstenberg

#62

“Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults.”
– Les Brown

#63

“Every time you step over yourself in order to not offend someone, you show a deep disrespect for yourself and the absence of self-love.”
– Katya Ki

#64

“Self-love is the elixir of an immortal heart.”
– Amy Leigh Mercree

#65

The journey isn’t about becoming a different person. It’s about loving who you are right now.
– Suzanne Heyn

#66

There is nothing rarer, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the essence of beauty.
– Steve Maraboli

#67

Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening.
– Lisa Hayes

#68

In a society that profits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.
– Caroline Cardwell

#69

Be the love you never received.
– Rune Lazuli

#70

The highest form of intelligence is to view yourself without judgment.
– Jiddu Krishnamurti

Each of us, regardless of age and life experience, have been hurt by other people. Sometimes it’s easy to forgive and let go of your resentment. But there are situations that hurt us so deeply that we can’t let go of the pain that takes away our energy and inner peace. If you feel hurt and think that it’s definitely not easy for you to forgive someone who has caused you pain then this article can be helpful. I’ll share with you how to forgive by using different effective techniques for letting go of your resentment.

Why Do We Need to Forgive?

Before I start going into different forgiveness techniques I want you to have a clear understanding of why you need to forgive. Often, I hear people saying: “Why do I need to forgive if the person who hurt me never even apologized?”. And this is a good question! By answering this question I want to give you a list of very serious reasons why you need to learn how to forgive.

10 Reasons Why We Need to Learn How to Forgive

#1 Forgiveness allows us to take responsibility for our own happiness

Everything that we attract into our lives is just a reflection of our inner world. Our thoughts and actions create our environment. The law of attraction teaches us that we always attract what we radiate.

When we radiate anger and resentment (even on the subconscious level), we make our way, also filled with anger and resentment. Our feelings and emotions are the building blocks for our future.

In other words, if you feel negative emotions towards someone, eventually you will attract these kinds of emotions towards you. Therefore, focusing on something negative will always bring more negativity in your life.

#2 Forgiveness helps us to develop

Family members, husbands, wives, friends, bosses, etc. — all come into our lives so we can learn more about ourselves. Other people are a reflection of our hidden selves. Each person that you meet is a teacher who has come into your life with a special mission – to show you your hidden blocks or to teach you to forgive, to love, to be more compassionate or patient.

By thanking people for being part of your journey and teaching you invaluable life lessons, you will take a huge step toward expanding your consciousness.

If you have a “broken heart” after breaking up with your partner, forgiveness will help you to avoid repeating this unpleasant scenario in the future. If you learn how to forgive the betrayal from your beloved and all the pain he/she caused then you learn that karmic lesson and will never repeat it again in your future relationship. By going through lesson after lesson, you will expand your consciousness that will allow you to avoid repeating the same unpleasant experience over and over again.

#3 Forgiveness helps us stop being the victim

When you learn how to forgive and be grateful for your karmic lessons, you will finally stop being the victim. Each of us has the gift of creating our own reality. However, you can’t be both – the victim and the Master of your life. When you blame someone else for your problems, when you have resentment towards someone, when you’re angry and mad, you automatically give the other person control of your life and thus choose the role of the victim.

Therefore, if you want to build your life according to your own rules, if you want to choose your destiny and be the Creator of your own reality, then you need to take responsibility for every situation that happens in your world. Instead of blaming others, take a closer look at yourself, your subconscious fears and insecurities, your blocked emotions and feelings. You need to learn your “dark side” and find out what hidden parts of you attracted certain scenarios and people’s behaviors.

Only through self-knowledge can you stop being a victim and become responsible for your own life.

#4 Forgiveness helps us to understand that most people do their best

Treat other people with understanding and empathy. Their actions may be incomprehensible to you, but most people do their best according to their level of awareness and understanding of their surroundings.

#5 Forgiveness helps to be forgiven

We are all human beings and capable of making mistakes. And deep down, we all hope for forgiveness for ourselves. When we forgive others for their actions and the pain they caused us, we create the space in which our wrong actions (conscious or unconscious) against other people will also be forgiven.

The law of attraction works in the way that if we give something, eventually, we will get it back. So, if you offer somebody your forgiveness, eventually, when you need it most, you will be forgiven too.

#6 Forgiveness helps to take control of ego and pride

Most spiritual teachers would agree with me saying that ego and pride are the biggest obstacles on your spiritual path. It’s extremely difficult to take control of them. Therefore, most spiritual traditions have an endless number of practices helping to gain that control.

However, the most effective lesson that life can give you to test your ego is to put you into the situation when you’re deeply hurt. The whole situation of feeling resentment is a wonderful life lesson that helps you to destroy your ego and pride. You see, if you have too much pride you will never be able to forgive. Forgiveness takes compassion, love, and empathy which are opposite to ego and pride.

#7 Forgiveness creates space for new relationships

By forgiving and letting go, we create a space that we can fill with new people, relationships, and feelings.

#8 Forgiveness removes the separation

When we have resentment towards someone we create a life that makes us feel like we are not safe. Subconsciously, we feel that we are not protected, insecure, that something bad can happen at any moment. You see, resentment creates disconnection that leads to a conflict with the Universe. Our entire Universe is built on the oneness. And any separation that happens in the macro or micro-world leads to a disaster.

Resentment is an act of separation in our 3D world. Oppositely, forgiveness itself is an act of reuniting and of recognition of oneness with all people and the world we live in.

#9 Resentment can cause cancer

A huge body of evidence has connected cancer with emotional health, and specifically to high-stress levels, a chronic feeling of resentment (suppressed anger) to cancer.

“Extremely low anger scores have been noted in numerous studies of patients with cancer. Such low scores suggest suppression, repression, or restraint of anger. There is evidence to show that suppressed anger can be a precursor to the development of cancer, and also a factor in its progression after diagnosis” [source].

“Extreme suppression of anger was the most commonly identified characteristic of 160 breast cancer patients who were given a detailed psychological interview and self-administered questionnaire” [source]

#10 Forgiveness keeps us away from hurting others

Have you heard the saying: “Hurt people hurt people”? We all are capable of hurting others as long as we have resentment. Only people that deeply hurt can reflect their pain on others. You see, you always give people what you’re made of. If you are made of love, you will radiate love, and people around you become more loving. But if you hold resentment, you spread the pain that caused it, and people around you will eventually become victims of your destructive pain. Usually, it is our families, friends and the closest people that suffer from our suppressed anger.

Therefore, if you want the people you love to be happy, give them a gift of forgiveness.

5 Spiritual Tools For Forgiveness

#1 Prayer

Regardless of whether you belong to any religion or not, prayer is a very powerful spiritual tool to forgive someone.

For performing forgiveness prayer, imagine the offender mentally and repeatedly say the following words:

“With gratitude, love and Divine help, I forgive you (name) and accept you for who you are completely.

I apologize to you (Name) for provoking you with my thoughts or actions (conscious or unconscious) to hurt me. I also apologize to you (Name) for negative emotions, thoughts, and actions towards you.

I’m grateful for the karmic lesson that I learned with your help. I’m grateful for your assistance on my spiritual journey.

I’m taking full responsibility for this situation and letting you go!”

#2 Meditation

Find a comfortable place where no one will disturb you. Close your eyes, relax.

Once you are completely relaxed, imagine that you are in a darkened theater hall. There is a small stage in front of you. Now visualize the person you want to forgive.

When you see this person clearly, imagine that something good is happening to him/her, something that is of great importance to this person. Visualize this person smiling and happy. Hold this image in your mind for a few minutes, and then let it disappear.

Now visualize yourself on that stage. Imagine that something good happened to you. Imagine yourself happy and smiling.

Now concentrate on the idea that there are enough good things in the Universe for all of us. When you feel that your concentration is going away, finish the meditation.

This exercise dissolves the dark clouds of accumulated resentment. Some will find this exercise very difficult. However, consistent practice will make this meditation easier and easier. Do this meditation once a day for a month and see how much easier your life will become.

#3 Making a List

Write on a piece of paper the names of all the people you think have ever hurt you. Next to each person’s name, write what they did to you and what you resent them for.

Then close your eyes, relax, and one by one visualize each person. Hold a small conversation with each of them and explain to them that in the past you felt anger or resentment towards them, but now intend to do everything in your power to forgive them for everything. Give them your blessing and say: “I forgive you and let you go. Be happy.”

When you are done with this process, write on that piece of paper, “Now I forgive and let you all go”. Burn that piece of paper as a symbol that you are freed from these experiences of the past.

#4 Karmic Relationship Healing Practice

It is a very powerful practice that is aimed at the liberation from negative energy cords to a particular person. I would say that this is the most effective way to heal yourself from resentment and any negative emotions towards other people. To learn more about this practice read my article “Karmic Relationship Healing: Effective Practice To Let Your Past Go!”.

The Bottom Line

Representatives of different religions, as well as numerous psychologists and spiritual teachers, talk about the importance of forgiveness. They all agree on one thing – if the offender appeared in your life, there is a reason for it. This means that for some reason we need to go through this difficult and painful lesson, just for learning how to love and forgive regardless of circumstances.