Every child deserves to feel safe, protected, and secure. However, not every child does. Most parents see safety as physical protection from harm, or providing the essentials for their children. Safety also means support on an emotional, psychological, and spiritual level. When we don’t feel safe as children this feeling of endangerment becomes constant and long-lasting, and a huge gaping wound appears in our psyche. Our adult selves often repress this painful wound, but its impacts are profound and far-reaching. In this article, I want to introduce you to 8 common signs that indicate that you have a wounded inner child.

However, in order for this article to be a useful source for you, I need you to get into a reflective space in your mind where you can openly reflect on your own childhood and how you felt as a child. It’s very important to ask yourself such questions as:

• Did I feel safe?
• Did I feel a sense of belonging in my family?
• Was I permitted to be myself?
• Do I still have any resentment coming from my childhood?
• What is my current relationship with my inner child like?

Use this article for introspection and self-reflection. Please, understand that inner child healing is one of the most serious and profound forms of inner work you can do.

What Is the Inner Child?

The inner child is a “part” of our personality that stores all our memories, feelings, needs, reactions, attitudes towards ourselves and others, and behaviors that we have preserved from our childhood.

In other words, your inner child is the child that lives within you, to be exact – within your psyche. It is important that we stay connected with this sensitive part of ourselves. When we are connected to our inner child, we feel excited, enthusiastic, and inspired by life. 

If in childhood some of our important psychological needs were not met, then our inner child “gets stuck” and can not continue to grow and develop. Inner child healing can help us to face our fears and insecurities that were created in our childhood and heal these inner wounds.

What Is the Wounded Inner Child?

The wounded inner child is the part of us that bears the imprint of our psychological traumas.

Trauma is our psychological wound. This is our reaction to some event or many similar events that our psyche could not cope with. And as a result, it was divided into the injured part (i.e., our wounded inner child) and the part of the protector.

Such a traumatic event could be as:

• something extreme. For example, an attack, a fire, a war, someone’s murder, a natural disaster, etc. All these extreme events lead to shock trauma.
• a lot of unpleasant, more “casual” events, but recurring regularly. For example, psychological violence, violation of agreements on the part of the parent, lack of attention, rejection, unacceptance of some qualities or behavior patterns, etc. These “casual” events lead to relationship trauma.

Our traumatized inner child encourages us to face similar painful events (that caused trauma) again and again to attract our attention so we can finally heal our wounds. And the other part of us, our inner protector, wants to avoid meeting with such an event to protect us from pain.

This inner protector, which protects us from repeating the trauma of the relationship, can manifest itself in us through the fear of intimacy when we are afraid to let another person close to us, or even afraid to enter into a relationship. The fear of close relationships is formed in us as a result of the trauma of relationships.

The inner child healing takes place through the healing of its “wounded part”. That is, through working with the trauma of the relationship. And as a result of the healing, our ability to have close, trusting, loving relationships with others increases.

Here’s How to Tell Your Inner Child Is Wounded

1. Poor Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem is usually a result of not knowing yourself, knowing your worth, living authentically, and owning both your strengths and struggles.

This trait leads to many other side effects, such as not believing in yourself or your abilities, criticizing yourself, thinking of yourself as “less than,” etc. This can also result in developing body image issues and eating disorders. To have healthy self-esteem, you need to discover, accept, and love who you really are through re-parenting your inner child.

2. Your Boundaries Are Either Too Weak Or Too Rigid

Do you feel like you don’t really know how to create healthy boundaries with others? Is it hard for you to say “NO” to people? Do you tend to put your needs secondary? This could be a result of you being uncomfortable with saying “NO” to your parents because of the fear to disappoint them or even the fear of punishment. As a child, you were suppressing your needs and desires trying to be a good girl or a good boy for your parents. Now, being an adult, you’re still carrying this program in your unconsciousness. You may even show this in situations where you are intimate with someone even if you don’t feel totally comfortable with it.

OR…

The situation could be totally opposite if you have super rigid, inflexible boundaries that nobody can cross. One of them could be your personal space. When you feel overwhelmed, instead of openly telling people they’ve been disrespecting your need for personal space, you simply cut them off. This kind of behavior is your coping mechanism to protect yourself from being hurt.

3. You Are Ashamed of Expressing Emotions

Shame is a very toxic emotion, especially for children. If you grew up in an environment where sharing and expressing your emotions was considered an expression of weakness, you could still be dealing with shame when it comes to expressing your emotions and feelings.

Shame creates feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, or regret. The feeling of being ashamed can be experienced as such a negative, intense emotion of self-loathing that it can make a person act like a bully, giving it away by evoking that emotion in others.

When children are emotionally or physically abandoned, abused, or neglected they often take on the shame that belongs to the adult who left or hurt them by assuming that it’s because they themselves are the “bad” one. Some children behave in ways that make them culpable for the shame that belongs to their parents.

4. You Have the Fear Of Abandonment

This fear can be expressed in the form of being clingy, overly insecure, codependent. It can even manifest itself in a form of depression or anxiety.

If you have the fear of abandonment and if you are afraid that people you love can leave you, it becomes impossible to maintain healthy relationships.

The fear of abandonment is one of the most common and most damaging fears of all. This can be a reason for so many unhealthy codependent relationships that exist in modern society.

5. You are a People-pleaser

Do you find yourself clinging to people, grasping for any attention and approval? Do you tend to do anything just to keep people happy and not to lose anyone? Do you feel like it’s super hard for you to let anyone or anything go? If the answer is “yes”, you could be a people-pleaser.

The reason why you could be stuck in the people-pleaser role is that you are afraid of disappointing and frustrating other people. And you are afraid because you unconsciously associate your worth with external validation.

A “people-pleaser” role that you tend to play most likely was manifested in your childhood when you were forced to silence your needs, feelings, emotions, and thoughts, to the point where you weaken your sense of self.

6. You Avoid People

Do you have extreme fear or anxiety when having to deal with or be around people? This can be a sign of a wounded inner child. The degree of avoiding people may vary. It may just be anxiety with a lot of people in a social situation or any amount of people. It may manifest itself in going out of your way to have food and other items delivered to you to keep from interactions. You feel most comfortable and safe when you are staying home.

7. You are Addiction Prone

Do you get easily addicted/attached to drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, pornography, gambling, or any other extreme obsessive tendencies? Do you feel like it’s important for you to receive that rush of “feel good” hormones? Your childhood wounds could be the reason why you’re so easily attached to these obsessive tendencies.

Did you know that addiction is often a symptom of underlying trauma that hasn’t been processed? Instead of confronting our issues and letting ourselves feel pain, we often tend to block our emotions to avoid feeling pain.

But the truth is, you are not really addicted to the substance itself; you are addicted to the feeling it gives you, to the relief and escapism it provides you.

To recover from your addiction, you need to face your shadow by asking yourself these 3 important questions:

• What am I avoiding?
• What am I suppressing?
• What am I in denial about?

8. You Have Trust Issues

Your distrust is a defense mechanism for avoiding emotional pain, anxiety, fears, and disappointments. Trust issues often stem from a wounded inner child that learned the hard way that people can’t be trusted.

The problem becomes even more complicated when you also have self-doubt. If you were neglected, invalidated, gaslighted, or emotionally abused as a child, it is not easy to build healthy self-esteem and self-confidence.

You have to remember that even the smallest words could cause a wound. For example, if your parents constantly told you “your grades should be better” or “don’t be so sensitive”, you absorb the message that something’s wrong with you and that you will never be good enough. On messages like these, it’s very hard to build self-esteem and self-confidence.

Self-Healing

Learning to work with your inner child is about reconnecting with the sincere, childlike part inside.

Inner child healing leads us to a state of purity and innocence. We all have the potential to experience true simplicity by reconnecting with and healing a period of our lives when we saw the world with openness and wonder.

In order to eliminate the feelings of guilt, shame, fear, hatred, disgust, and anger that we carry with us throughout our lives, we must heal the child inside. To do this, we need to earn the trust of our inner child through unconditional love and self-nurturing.

To learn more about the methods of inner child healing, read my article “Inner Child Healing: 4 Surprisingly Effective Practices“.

The Bottom Line

As you can see, your inner child does not disappear once you become an adult. On the contrary, it stays within you, reminding you of all the wounds you haven’t healed yet. There is a variety of symptoms that can point to a wounded inner child. You may have just accepted or tried to ignore many of these behaviors in yourself. However, in order to heal, you need to confront the pain that caused the wounds.

The thoughts that arise in our heads have an impact not only on our mood but also on our health. This effect can be either positive or negative. It all depends on what kind of thoughts we choose. Unfortunately, most people don’t really control what kind of thoughts they allow into their minds. One Small negative thought can get into your mind and like a seed grow into a big disaster. Healing affirmations are a powerful tool that can redirect your mind from negative vibrations that cause illness to positive ones that bring healing.

In this article, I will share with you what healing affirmations are, how they work, and give you a list of very powerful affirmations that will help you to reprogram your mind from illness to healing.

What Are Healing Affirmations?

Healing affirmations are short phrases containing a verbal healing formula that, when repeated many times, activates healing process in the subconscious of a person, contributing to the improvement of his psycho-emotional background and stimulating positive changes in his health and wellbeing.

Most people can’t even imagine how effective healing affirmations are! Healing affirmations are your main key to reprogramming your consciousness. That’s why the trick is to keep repeating them again and again until they are firmly imprinted in your subconscious.

With the help of healing affirmations, you can reprogram your mind from lack of energy and illness to vitality and health. If you learn to direct the energy of your thoughts to health and wellbeing you will eventually start feeling better, more energized, and will notice that you’re more healthy than ever.

Healing affirmations will help you to improve your overall health, boost your immune system, get rid of chronic and infectious diseases, ease the symptoms of a particular disease, speed up wounds and cuts healing, etc.

How Do Healing Affirmations Work?

Every thought you think and every word you speak is an affirmation. All of your self-talk, your internal dialogue, is a stream of affirmations. You are using affirmations every moment whether you know it or not. You are affirming and creating the state of your health with every word you say and every thought you think.

It has been proven that there is a connection between the body and the mind. Therefore, many diseases begin due to psychosomatic causes. Even diseases caused by bacteria and microbes have a psychosomatic root. This is explained by the fact that the human immune system becomes unprotected due to strong emotional stress.

You have to understand that every complaint is an affirmation of something you think you don’t want in your life. Every time you get angry, you are affirming that you want more anger in your life. Every time you say that you’re not feeling well, that you are sick, you’re affirming that. If you feel that Life isn’t giving you the desired health and vitality, then it’s certain that you will never have the wellbeing that Life gives to others — that is, until you change the way you think and talk.

Our emotions are built by our thoughts. And our thoughts are based on our conscious or unconscious choices. With the help of healing affirmations, we can consciously form the desired health.

To change our life and improve our health, we need to change our thoughts. There is a link between our health and positive thoughts. By repeating healing affirmations, you create positive vibrations in your subconscious mind which brings positive transformations into your body.

With strong focus and concentration on positive thoughts, your mind can heal even the most serious diseases.

Affirmations are like seeds planted in soil. Poor soil provides poor growth. Rich soil gives abundant growth. The more you choose to think thoughts that make you feel good, the quicker the affirmations work.

A Few Important Tips

Before you start creating and practicing your healing affirmations, let me share with you a few important tips that will help your practice to be more effective.

#1: Keep Your Affirmations Personal

Your healing affirmations should be personal. They should be a kind of self-talk. The only person you can change is you. Therefore, never try to use affirmations for changing someone else. You can affirm: “I am healthy! I am happy! etc.”. This is due to the fact that the subconscious mind works for us and only for us.

#2: Affirm in the Present Tense

The only way we can create a great future is by changing our thoughts in the present moment. The present moment contains a magical power of manifesting our reality. What we think and do today creates our future.

When we affirm health in the present tense we ensure that our subconscious mind starts to work on it right away. When you say “I will be healthy”, or “I’m going to heal” you’re placing your desire somewhere out there. There is no creative power in the future. Your past and future are the two biggest illusions that distract your focus. The real creative power is in the present moment! And only in the present moment can you manifest your health!

Therefore, always use affirmations in the Present tense, like: “I am healthy!”, “My immune system is strong”, etc.

#3: Avoid Negative Words

When creating your healing affirmations, avoid negative words such as “not”, “no”, “don’t”, “never”, “can’t”, “won’t”. When you use these words you make your mind focus on something you don’t want in life and make your affirmations negative. Instead of focusing on what you don’t want you should focus on something you do want. In this way, you direct your subconscious mind to manifest the positive results you desire.

#4: Avoid Words That Manifest Negativity

When affirming your desired reality avoid words that manifest loss, something you’re trying to get away from or get rid of, such as “get rid of”, “stop”, “give up”, “avoid”, “refrain”, etc. For example, instead of saying: “I’m losing 13 pounds”, say “My weight is … (your ideal number)”.

#5: Avoid “I Want”, “I Wish”, “I Would Like”

These phrases manifest a lack of something. When we want something it means we don’t have it in our life. So, when the Universe is hearing your request, it manifests it in a way that you will always want something but never actually get it. You’ll be wanting all your life for your wishes to come true. Therefore there is a big difference between “I want” and “I have”. Only “I have” has the power to bring you what you request. For example, instead of saying “I want to be healthy”, say “I am healthy”. And the Universe will make sure that your reality matches your words and thoughts.

#6: Turn Your Desires Into Power Phrases

Make your affirmations short, direct, and memorable! This technique is also widely used in advertising. Advertisers call it “slogan“, healers call it “power phrases”.

Most Powerful Healing Affirmations

Now let me share with you the most powerful healing affirmations that I’ve discovered throughout my practice of being a healer for over 20 years. These healing affirmations will help you activate healing processes in your body and restore your vital energy.

Here they are:

1. I am healthy!
2. I welcome miracles into my life!
3. I know that with each new day my health is noticeably improving!
4. My day begins and ends with gratitude!
5. I love myself!
6. I am at home in my body!
7. I listen with love to my body’s messages!
8. My happy thoughts help create my healthy body!
9. I love my beautiful and healthy body and it loves me back!
10. Every cell, every tissue, and every organ of my body is charged with healing energy!
11. Good health is the norm for my body!
12. My positive thoughts create my health!
13. Only good can come to me!
14. The level of my immunity increases every day!
15. I am healthy, whole, and complete!
16. Wellness is the natural state of my body!
17. I feel cheerful and full of vital energy!
18. In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete!
19. I’m in a perfect shape!
20. My health is in a perfect state!
21. I radiate a metaphysical radiance of health, love and light!
22. I have a perfectly healthy body!
23. I am in harmony with nature!
24. Deep at the center of my being is an infinite well of love!
25. I love every cell of my body!
26. My body is protected by a powerful energy shield!
27. I choose health and well-being!
28. My body is made up of healthy and strong cells!
29. My body is programmed to heal and recover!
30. My body heals naturally!
31. I claim my power and move beyond all limitations.
32. Every cell of my body is filled with vital energy!
33. I radiate vitality and health!
34. My digestive system is perfectly healthy!
35. My immune system is very strong!
36. I move easily and gracefully!
37. My brain is healthy and active!
38. I am loved, and I am at peace!
39. My beautiful body is healthy, strong, and young!
40. I always choose healthy thoughts and habits!
41. Perfect health is my Divine right, and I claim it now!
42. I love my life and life loves me back!
43. All is well in my world. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation only good will come. I am safe!
44. I forgive myself and set myself free!
45. I am Divinely guided and protected at all times!
46. Life supports me in every possible way!
47. I choose to see clearly with the eyes of love!
48. Today is a sacred gift from Life!
49. I enjoy the foods that are best for my body!
50. I live in the paradise of my own creation!
51. I am grateful for my healthy body!
52. I trust the Universe to help me see the good in everything and in everyone!
53. My mind is in perfect harmony with my body!
54. I am beautiful and young!
55. My skin is clear, firm, and smooth!
56. I thank my heart for its excellent work!
57. I have excellent physical and mental health!
58. Every day I feel better and better!
59. Every cell of my body is protected by my immune system!
60. I nourish my body with healthy food and helpful thoughts!

How To Work With Healing Affirmations?

1. Write down or make a printout of all the healing affirmations you’re going to work with.
2. Before starting to repeat your healing affirmations, make sure to straighten your back, relax your shoulders, feel confident. You want to remove any pressure from your spine and make your energy flow freely and smoothly.
3. Say your healing affirmations out loud one after another, slowly and confidently. Make it sound as if what you say has already become a reality.
4. While saying the healing affirmations look in the mirror or in the sky.
5. Say the affirmations twice a day. This should be done in the morning, as soon as possible after waking up, and in the evening, right before going to bed.
6. Say the affirmations at least 8 times each.
7. Do not use too many affirmations all at once in one session.
8. Be consistent: practice the healing affirmations on a daily basis.

The Bottom Line

The most important thing in affirmation practice is to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. In healing affirmation practice, we are replacing our thoughts about the illness with thoughts about perfect health, vitality, and wellbeing. It is especially important to remember this not only during your affirmation practice but also in your everyday life. Remember that even a fleeting negative thought can destroy months of positive affirmation practice! Stay focused on your health and choose your thoughts carefully!

In this article, I will share with you how to use essential oils for chakras properly. I will tell you where the chakra projections are located on the body and what essential oils work the best for chakra balancing. After reading this article, you’ll have all the necessary information to start using essential oils for chakras!

Projections Of The Chakras On The Body

All chakras have their own projections on the human body: on the palms, feet, head, are the areas where they are located. For chakra balancing, massage, and oil application, you should consider only the most accessible projections.

Root Chakra (Muladhara)

Muladhara, the first chakra, has projections at the base of the palms, at the base of the nape of the neck, and at the heels.

Also, a foot massage is a great way to balance your Muladhara chakra which regulates your sense of stability and promotes grounding.

Sacral Chakra (Svadhisthana)

The projections of Svadhisthana, the second chakra, are the thumbs and middle toes, the right and left sides of the nape of the neck.

Also, a lower back massage is a great way to balance your Sacral chakra which influences your sensuality.

Solar Plexus Chakra (Manipura)

Projections of Manipura, the third chakra, are the middle fingers and big toes.

Also, a gentle tummy massage influences the functioning of the solar plexus chakra which increases your gut instincts.

Heart Chakra (Anahata)

Projections of the Anahata, the fourth chakra, are the little fingers and little toes.

Also, the heart chakra benefits from a supportive perfumed anointing oil applied to the breast bone or massage into the middle back area.

Throat Chakra (Vishuddha)

Projections of Vishuddha, the fifth chakra, are the index fingers and pointer toes.

Also, a body spray applied to chest and neck areas is an efficient way to influence the functioning of the Throat chakra which influences your expressiveness and communication.

Third Eye Chakra (Ajna)

Projections of Ajna, the sixth chakra, are the ring fingers and fore toes.

Also, an anointing oil applied to the forehead or through simple diffusion and inhalation is another great way to balance your Third eye chakra.

Crown Chakra (Sahasrara)

Projections of the Sahasrara, the seventh chakra, are in the middle parts of the palms and feet.

Also, a room diffusion applied to the airspace around you is a great way to balance the transcendent Crown chakra which occupies the space above the crown of your head. 

Massage With Essential Oils For Chakras

One of the most effective ways to use essential oils for chakras is to massage the body projection of the chakra. There are two ways of performing such a massage.

#1

Apply 3-4 drops of essential oil (but do not RUB) on the projection area of the chakra. Lie down and relax. Visualize how your chakra is unwinding and shining with its color:

• Muladhara — red;
• Svadhisthana — orange;
• Manipura — yellow;
• Anahata — green;
• Vishuddha — blue;
• Ajna — indigo;
• Sahasrara — purple.

#2

Add essential oils to the base oil ( such as grapeseed, walnut, sesame, almond, peach oil) in a two-percent concentration. Apply the mixture to your palm and massage clockwise and counterclockwise on the front and back zone of the chakra projection. You need to practice massage for at least a week for each chakra, or better-21 days.

Essential Oils For Chakras

Now let me share with you what essential oils are most suitable for each chakra.

Essential Oils For Muladhara Chakra

Patchouli – gives a clarification of what you desire in life, helps overcome fatigue, and feeling down.

Nutmeg – activates a sluggish Root chakra.

Vetiver – calms an overactive Muladhara chakra.

Bergamot – balances and helps maintain a smoothly functioning Root chakra.

Cedar – helps to accumulate energy, gives peace, and a sense of security.

Clove – helps with the release of accumulated energy in the Root chakra, supports the readiness to get rid of old attachments, open up to new fresh energies. However, be careful with clove essential oil – it is very strong in effect, and its dose should be reduced at least twice!

Essential Oils For Svadhisthana Chakra

Neroli – brings the energy of pure love and lightness of being, driving away sorrows and bringing a peaceful, stable calm. It helps to heal trauma from abuse and overcome an emotional crisis or suffering from sadness.

Cardamom – awakens a dormant Sacral chakra.

Ylang-ylang calms an overactive Svadhisthana chakra. Its aroma gives a sense of security. It helps to dissolve toxic feelings and calm down emotions.

Sandalwood – helps to maintain a well functioning sacral chakra. It activates sexual energy and strengthens the unity with a partner on a spiritual level.

Essential Oils For Manipura Chakra

Pine – releases you from old wounds, letting you move forward without the baggage of the past.

Eucalyptus – helps to activate the Solar plexus chakra.

Vetiver – helps to calm an overactive Manipura.

Grapefruit – helps to balance the Solar plexus chakra.

Lavender – has a calming and relaxing effect on the hyperactive Manipura chakra. Its refined, warm vibrations help to process blocked emotions.

Rosemary oil is well suited for the healing of the insufficient function of the Solar plexus chakra.

Bergamot – strengthens vital energy, promotes confidence.

Essential Oils For Anahata Chakra

Rose – encourages free-flowing emotions, the ability to harmonize your feelings, and the capacity to express your emotions. This beautiful oil helps to release constricted feelings stored in the chest, internalized grief, melancholy, and repressed emotions.

Lavender – helps to calm your Heart chakra.

Geranium – helps to maintain a well functioning Anahata chakra.

Jasmine – harmonizes the Heart chakra.

Essential Oils For Vishuddha Chakra

Lemon essential oil – helps to open the Throat chakra.

Vanilla – calm an overactive Vishuddha chakra.

Coriander seed – a balancing oil to maintain the even expression of the Throat chakra.

Lavender – helps to encourage you to share your gifts with the world. This essential oil heals feelings of being overly delicate, withdrawn, or fearful. It stimulates spiritual growth by helping you integrate your experiences, which brings an expanded awareness and perspective.

Sage – sends healing vibrations to the tongue area and dissolves tensions in the Throat chakra.

Eucalyptus oil – clears the Throat chakra. Its vibrations open us to inner inspiration and give us a primary impulse for creative expression.

Essential Oils For Ajna Chakra

Sandalwood – brings an inner awareness and a sense of ease engaging with higher consciousness. It helps to break down illusions and align yourself with your most authentic self.

Rosemary – helps to activate the Third eye chakra.

German chamomile – stabilizes and increases the focus of Ajna chakra.

Frankincense and sandalwood – help to maintain a clear and balanced Ajna chakra.

Jasmine – helps to expand consciousness, increases intuition. Its vibrations sharpen perception and connect the energy of the Third eye chakra with the energy of the Heart chakra.

Peppermint – dissolves blockages in the Third eye area and gives us clarity, vitality, and improves concentration.

Essential Oils For Sahasrara Chakra

Lime is a great essential oil to use for energetic cord-cutting and detaching. This essential oil helps to enhance your perception of the truth in any situation. It also helps to see illusions clearly and not to confuse them with reality.

Lavender – helps to clarify a low functioning Crown chakra.

Neroli and vanilla – calm overactive Sahasrara.

Frankincense – helps to maintain a well functioning Crown chakra.

Lotus – harmonizes Sahasrara. The Lotus flower in the East is a symbol of beauty and perfection of the spirit. Lotus essential oil radiates light and harmony, increases love, and joy.

The Bottom Line

Essential oils can be a powerful tool for chakra healing and balancing. Make sure you use them during your meditations, healing, and relaxation. Essential oils for chakras can help balance your energy centers and keep them in alignment to ensure optimal health of the body, mind, and soul.