Known for their exaggerated sense of self-importance, narcissists think that the world literally revolves around them. Their actions, attitudes, behavior, and the language they use determine their state. They draw their main satisfaction from making other people see them as persons of great importance who know everything. They do not care whether their actions may have an undesirable effect on others.

Who is a Narcissist?

Narcissists are smitten with an idealized self-image, which they wear around other people to escape reality. Deep down they are wounded creatures who are just too scared to admit it to themselves and other people around them. To compensate for their injuries, they create a “perfect person” who is flawless in an attempt to make themselves feel better.

Psychotherapy has proven to work just fine for the majority of people diagnosed with this condition. It’s not that narcissists are very dangerous people, but spending too much time around them might have adverse effects on you. Their alter-ego may begin to make you feel like a failure or worse still stop you from living to your full potential.

The games narcissists play may also leave you vulnerable to other strangers. Narcissists live on making other people feel less achieved about themselves and regard them as some form of superhero.

The Mind Games Narcissists Play

Narcissists play mind games to manipulate our thinking. Long encounters with them may even change your perceptions about certain aspects of life. Be on the lookout for the following signs:

Curiosity

Narcissists want to have in-depth knowledge about their next victim. During conversations, they will always ask questions about you, which they will exploit later to their advantage.

Superiority complex

These con artists will feed you tones of information on topics you are not familiar with. The intention is to show how smart they are and how dumb you are. In the end, they will have exerted a form of influence over you, which is always their primary objective.

Creating fear and aggression

This is the weapon they use to get people’s attention and manipulate them eventually. Fear attracts negative energy, which is where they thrive best. They will also use your insecurities to mask their own. Though sad to say, deep down narcissists feel like the ugly duck. To cover this up and make themselves feel better, they will consistently bring up your insecurities during the conversations to make you feel inferior and bad about yourself.

An act of innocence

Narcissists are the sly fox, and that is how they end up taking the blame off them whenever they mess up. They have perfected the art of pretense so much that it is almost impossible to notice when they are putting on a show and when they are sincere (which rarely happens).

Narcissists will also twist information with made up stories that portray them as the helpless ones. They are always shifting the blame for their actions onto others including you.

Exerting unnecessary pressure on you

The primary goal is to render you emotionally unstable so that you can’t make independent sound decisions. You will notice once they start trying to comfort you right after ticking you off; though this might seem elusive since the emotional charge is in play.

How to Deal with Narcissists

You don’t have to be completely helpless against narcissists. Below are strategies to help you play their own game against them to prevent them from using you. The first step, however, is to identify these games narcissistic play first.

1. Whenever they confront you with multiple questions, look them straight in the eyes. Eye contact makes them face the other direction. Only a sincere person can maintain a clear eye gaze.
2. Change the conversation. Narcissists want to know a great deal of information about you. Don’t be too quick to give it to them. Slow them down by asking questions about themselves or changing the topic whenever they shift focus on you.
3. Question more. Once they start showing off with figures and statistics, question the sources of their information. You will notice some skepticism, and gradually they draw away from you. This is one of the most effective ways to protect yourself from the games narcissists play. Don’t readily take in everything they present to you lest you fall victim to their scams.
4. Have self-confidence. Narcissists prey on people who are less confident and have esteem issues. Work on your confidence so that when they come blowing their sense of self-importance, you can quickly shut them off.
5. Loosen up a bit. If you get emotionally unstable quickly, try lighting up the mood. Whenever a narcissist tries to destabilize your emotions, go ahead and say something funny to shift the focus.
6. Preserve your personal space. Don’t let just about anyone invade your personal space. If you have had enough of someone, it is prudent to tell them so or just distance yourself from them.
7. Stay calm and decompress. You can do this either through meditation or just taking some time off. It is normal that there will always be people with more achievements than you have made. Do not let this get to you. Sit back and re-strategize on ways of living to your full potential without necessarily comparing yourself to others.
8. Identify your insecurities. We all have a sense of insecurity one way or the other, and this is perfectly human. Know what your insecurities are and if you can’t fix them don’t let someone use them against you. This may be difficult, but once you get the hang of it, you become a stable, productive being.

The Bottom Line

Life comes with its challenges. The games narcissists play might overwhelm you, but you have to outsmart them. Eventually, its either you put them in their place, or you fall prey. To help these people, encourage them to attend psychological counseling. But as for you, stay safe from the games narcissists play.

Your present is a reflection of your past worldview. Take a look around! Everything you have today is the result of your thoughts and actions in the past. If you’re not happy with your life or have problems with relationships you probably need to consider a karmic relationship healing.

As long as you’re attached to your past you give your energy to it. Thereby you take away the energy from the present. When you’re constantly reflecting on memories in your head (no matter if they are pleasant or unpleasant) it leads to a biased perception of the present moment. The present moment, in turn, has an impact on what your future will be. If there is not enough energy in the present moment, it will be even less in the future. Thus, your thoughts about the past have an impact not only on your present but also creates an energy deficit in your future.

Karmic Relationship Healing And Chakras

Very often other people “pull” us into the past. It can be people that hurt us, people we hurt, people with whom we argued, people we broke up with, etc. The memories of these people (conscious or subconscious) take energy through the energy cords that block our chakras.

Energy cord is an energy channel, which is formed as a result of a violation of harmonious energy interaction of a person with other people and forms attachments.

Negative emotions form cords on the corresponding chakras.

The Danger Of Energy Cords

The energy cords are dangerous because they cause energy failures in the energy field: from slowing the flow of energy to its complete stop in a certain chakra.

In addition, the cords significantly aggravate the communication, depriving you of liberty, weaken your connection with your Higher Self, and inhibit your development.

If your negative emotions are very strong, they can form energy cords that can persist for several incarnations. Moreover, in each new incarnation, you will attract those souls with whom you have energy cords again and again. And this circle of incarnations among the same souls will continue until you release yourself from these cords. Such a circle of incarnations, tied to the same souls, is called ”karmic connection”.

It is the absence of attachments (energy cords) that is an indicator of a free spirit. Therefore, in order to fully and harmoniously develop, it is necessary to get rid of karmic cords and free yourself from attachments.

Liberation from the energy cords does not imply the destruction of the energy connection between people but means the acquisition of freedom at the disposal of one’s life. For example, freed from the attachment to parents, you will not stop loving them and will not lose their love, but will find a harmonious relationship without pressure and manipulation.

The Most Common Attachments

Now let’s take a look at the most common energy cords that can affect your life in a very negative way.

Resentment

This energy cord has a negative impact on health. When you feel offended, in your thoughts you return to your offender, again and again, thereby generously giving your vital energy to your offender.

Guilt

This cord is based on your aggression directed at yourself. When we feel guilty, we realize that we can not correct what we’ve done. In our mind, we constantly analyze the thoughts of how we can beg forgiveness from the one who we hurt, and what we can do to make amends. As a result of systematic analyzing of such thoughts, the energy cord is formed.

Jealousy, Dependence, Passion

These kinds of cords arise when one person has a need to possess another person. He constantly thinks about the object of his lust, dreams about it, passionately wanting to get what he wants. Such thoughts create a strong energy cord.

Unrequited love

This cord has a very strong negative impact on health. It pulls out a very large amount of energy from the one who loves, and the one who’s loved. Naturally, here we are talking about illusory love because true love is always unconditional and brings only positive emotions.

Revenge

This cord is created as a result of building a plan of revenge in your head.

Pity, desire to save

This kind of cord is formed by ego. It is the ego that thinks that you are a Savior and a hero, makes you think that you are doing a good job, constantly “hanging” other people’s problems on your shoulders, and thinking that without your help and support people cannot cope. However, at the energy level, a cord is formed, on which your energy flows away towards the person you are so desperately trying to save. Thus, you become a donor for the energy vampire. Such a binding blocks both: your own development (because you simply do not have enough energy for it) and the development of the person to whom you are so actively helping to solve problems (because you take away from him/her the necessary life lessons for evolution and spiritual growth). As a result, interfering in the life of another person, you form a strong karmic connection.

Parent cords

These cords are based on the desire to control your child. As a rule, parents explain their behavior with care and love, but this is a big mistake. Love cannot exist where there are an addiction and a desire to subjugate another person. Love lives only where freedom exists. If parents do not accept their child as an independent person and do not give him full freedom of self-realization, their energy completely blocks his main chakras, which prevents him from successfully building his personal life.

Karmic Relationship Healing Practice

No matter what kind of energy cords and attachments we have there is always something we can do. I’m talking about self-healing. Let me share with you a very powerful practice that provides a karmic relationship healing. This practice is aimed at the liberation from negative energy cords to a particular person.

First, you need to find out who you are attached to. Give yourself time to think about it. Who comes to mind most often? Write down the names of all the people you think about most often. After all, these are the people you have karmic cords with.

Now you have a list of people to whom you are energetically attached. Follow the practice below, starting with the first person on your list.

1. Light a candle with the intention to get rid of negative energy cords to … (say the name and last name of the person).
2. Take a relaxed position, close your eyes.
3. Invite the Higher self of the person you’re trying to let go and heal your karma from. To do this, say three times: “I invite the Higher Self of … (name and last name of the person) for karmic relationship healing and for removing the negative energy cords that exist between us for the sake of our Highest Good.”
4. Visualize in your imagination this person in front of you. Imagine how a Golden ray comes out of his (her) Solar Plexus Chakra and enters your Solar Plexus Chakra. Concentrate on that ray.
5. Visualize that you’re looking into the eyes of the person. Say 8 times: “I sincerely forgive you for everything you’ve done!”
6. Keep concentrating on the Golden Ray. This is your connection with the person. Through this ray, his (her) Higher Self receives messages from you in this meditation. Look into the eyes of the person, say 8 times: “Please forgive me for everything I’ve done!”
7. Keep looking into the eyes of the person, say 8 times: “I sincerely and from the bottom of my heart thank you for everything you’ve done!”
8. Now embrace this person in your imagination, and imagine the Golden-green ray of love coming out of your Heart chakra and going into his (her) Heart chakra. Accompany this ray with your love and words: “I love you!” (say 8 times).
9. Now, in your imagination, move away from this person at arm’s length, and imagine how from each of your chakras to his respective chakras stretch cords similar to wires (there are seven of them).
10. Pick up an imaginary lighter, light it and start annealing each cord, starting with the cord that connects your Muladhara chakras and finishing with the cord that connects your Crown chakras. Accomplish these actions with the words: “I completely forgive and let you go!» (8 times).
11. Once you’ve annealed the last cord on your Crown chakras, imagine a wall of flame between you and the visualized person. At the same time, each of you is surrounded by a Golden cocoon of divine love. These Golden cocoons are healing all your wounds from annealing cords. Watch the flame between you, and as it burns, keep saying, “I’m letting you go!”.
12. When the flame has dissipated, you will see yourself alone, surrounded by a Golden light, and realize that all the emotions and limitations that have been enclosed in the cords are only an illusion, a life lesson that you have passed.
13. Thank the Universe for this lesson.
    Slowly open your eyes.

The number of such practices for each case is individual. It depends on the binding force. Sometimes it is enough to do this practice just one time. But still, to consolidate the result, it is better to do it 8 times for each person you’re trying to heal your karmic relationship with.

It is desirable to do a karmic relationship healing with all your friends. Don’t worry, the communication with them won’t stop if you’re interested in it.

After this practice, the person with whom you severed the energy cords, will feel that you have stopped feeding him (her) with your energy and will try to remind you of himself (herself). It can be a phone call, e-mail, another attempt to put pressure on you or something else. In other words, he (she) will try to provoke you to get emotional about something, so that you, once again, under the influence of his provocation, give him your energy. He (she) will do his (her) best to restore the cords. In this case, try to behave kindly with him (her), do not succumb to provocations. After that repeat your karmic relationship healing practice with this person once again to fix the result.

The Bottom Line

You can do karmic relationship healing practice as many times as you need. Sometimes I feel that I need to do it again with the same people I already healed my karma from. Our life changes every second of our existence. Today we feel like we have no attachments but when tomorrow comes we may feel that our old attachments rise again. If you feel that communication with some people isn’t pleasurable for you anymore it means on energy level you have cords to these people. And through these cords, you’re losing your energy. Before you distance yourself from these people do yourself a favor – do a karmic relationship healing first. I’m sure you don’t want to attract the same kinds of communication problems in the future.

Some say you are hypersensitive or in some cases, too emotional. Did you know that there are several different empath types?

But is the intensity a weakness?

No!

No, because there is no way, we could be compassionate without the ability to echo someone else’s feelings. That deep, raw, and sensitive feeling makes living a worthy pursuit.

So Who Is An Empath?

An empath is someone with the unique ability to mirror the feelings of another person even without undergoing their circumstances. In its purest form, it means being able to be in other person’s shoes emotionally or having that extra dose of empathy within you. We could say “an emotional sponge” of sorts.

The Six Common Empaths Types

1. Emotional Empath

These are the most common and have the unique ability to pick up another person’s emotions or energy without even having to talk them. They do so without asking questions.

When they say, “l feel you,” they mean it to the core.

If someone tries to play macho with them, it is effortless to peel off that mask and get to the nucleus of their emotions.

For these empath types, setting apart their own emotions from those they stumble across is essential to prevent them from exhausting their energy reserves.

2. Physical Empath

Intuitively, they can tell the symptoms of an ailing person by feeling the same. It could be a headache or flu. They do this by experiencing the same in their bodies. These empath types can make a career out of it. You just need to undergo some training in the medical field and become a certified healer. A few extra bucks won’t hurt, right?

3. Intellectual Empath

Also termed as Claircognizance, they can tell an individual’s state of mind by focusing on their thoughts. With the ability to mix-match different vocabulary and lingo in a conversation in an instant, it becomes easy for them to converse differently depending on an individual. Subconsciously and with minimal effort, they can tell your personality. These empath types make a career by being psychics.

4. Environmental/Geomantic Empath

These empath types have an intimate connection with the physical landscape. Moods can change depending on the environment. They also feel a deep attachment for places such as churches or historical sites.

It is no surprise they get emotional whenever there is damage to the environment such as when cutting trees. Instinctively they can tell when changes have occurred to a room they have just entered.

5. Plant Empath

You may call them nature lovers, but they are much more to that. They have this unexplained connection to nature that makes it possible for them to tell what plants desire. Without much effort, they know the exact place that a plant fits in your backyard.

Sustainability is a topic that never misses in their conversations coupled with the extensive knowledge of plants and their uses.

6. Animal Empath

A Sense of time is lost when you are with animals. You can’t seem to have enough of them. You also feel the same way. When torn between hanging out with friends or animals, do you easily cancel plans with your friends? If yes, then you know you are an animal empath.

There is a bottomless connection with these creatures to the point of sensing what they are feeling or experiencing, telepathy of sorts. It is something that could be honed to qualify you as an animal healer. You are that one person who can accurately identify what the animal is ailing from and administer treatment.

How Can You Tell If You Are an Empath?

In case you have any reservations that you are an empath, these characteristics should erase your doubts:

1. You are super sensitive to your surroundings

Most of the times you will hear things that others can’t. In another case, you could be watching the news or a movie, and a murderous or emotional scene sends you into tears.

2. You are truly dedicated to helping out

Sacrificing your time to help without the need for recognition or remuneration is another sign. Armed with a deep passion, you tirelessly help with the task at hand.

3. You have a broad appetite for music

People have a hard time figuring out why you have such a diverse taste. In an instant, you can change to a different genre of music, and in another, lyrics send you spiraling down the emotional ladder. Everything around you ceases to exist, as you get lost in the moment.

4. Like a magnet, you attract all kinds of people

Individuals are drawn to your sincere compassion and warmth. They can feel your positive energy, and it pulls them to you effortlessly. Strangers have an easy time with you and could even go the extra mile and pour their hearts out without even realizing.

In rare cases, you could also have an easy time creating enviable bonds with pets because, well, the empathy is infectious.

5. Your moods are unpredictable

In an instant, you are at the top of the world, upbeat and jubilant. Then in another, your world comes crumbling down.

6. You can’t stand public places

It becomes overwhelming being in the presence of crowds such as in malls or stadiums. Solitude becomes an unlikely best friend.

7. You can unravel honesty from a distance

Sounds like a superpower, right? It’s hard to explain, but at times you can tell if someone is telling the truth or not.

8. Unexpected sympathy pains

When someone close to you is ill, you pick up his or her symptoms such as pain, body ache, cold, etc.

9. Clutter is a devil you can’t face

It weighs you down and drains too much of your positive energy.

While the above list is not exhaustive, you can figure out the empath types you belong to by doing online tests.

The Bottom Line

Being labeled an empath is not easy, and sometimes it takes a toll on you. The good thing is that with the above knowledge on empath types, you can now build on that and create a lasting positive impact on society. Or even a fulfilling career, right?

Do yourself a favor, mount up that horse of uniqueness, and shine brightly to greatness.