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7 Effective Tips On How To Heal Your Most Debilitating Core Wounds

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Core wounds can be thought of as your deepest traumas and experiences in childhood or adulthood. When severe trauma occurs, the wound is stored in our cellular memory and stays with us until we are willing and able to face the pain and clear the trauma.

Obviously, nothing can undo the original trauma but we can heal from the wounds and get to a place where the trauma and pain actually serve our highest purpose. We can re-write new, more loving experiences into our reality.

Our core wounds tend to have a great affect on our entire existence and how we receive others, how we think, act, love, relate and how we see the world.

They can literally affect our entire lives and every single relationship that we have, personal and professional, so you can see how vital it is to begin the inner work of healing and creating brand new beautiful experiences that help you on your way to healing.

By transmuting the trauma through facing it, we can get to a place where we are able to look at the pain as a blessing that came to strengthen and reveal our true power. We can go from depressed and anxious to grateful and humble. It is possible to achieve a true sense of peace and resolve.

When your pain no longer causes your voice to tremble and your light to be dimmed you know you are on the path of healing. Your brightest days are ahead and you can use your experiences to now serve the higher good of all by empowering others to know that they too can heal.

So let’s talk about how we can get there and where to start.

Tip 1: Acceptance & Acknowledgement

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It is vital that we face and accept the trauma that caused our wounds.

We have to be willing to be brave and take small steps towards acknowledging our pain and experiences and how they made us feel at the time and how we feel in the present. We cannot heal what we are not willing to see.

A lot of times just acknowledging the trauma will begin to diminish the fears we have around the experience. Anytime we are able to face our fears and sadness the power it has over us is greatly lessened.

Denial and avoidance only fuels strengthens and lengthens the severity of our pain. Anything we run from eventually catches us. All pain kept in secrecy develops into dis-ease.

To begin to peel back the layers, acknowledge the pain and accept that you can not change what happened to you but that you do indeed have power over how you show up and respond to your core wounds.

Tip 2: Forgiveness

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This is one of the most important parts of our healing journey. We must truly, from our heart, release hatred, blame, resentment, anger, and vindictiveness. This part can be tricky because most often times these are the natural feelings that arise within us when we’ve been hurt and victimized.

It’s completely fine to honor these feelings, but then we must move into a space of compassion towards ourselves and yes those who hurt us. This may seem so foreign and difficult at the beginning but the forgiveness is not only for those who hurt us, it’s for us. For us to heal our hearts so that we can create a harmonious life and take back our power.

This is how we stop allowing the trauma and core wounds to control us. This is how you take the power they once had over you and become victorious.

Now we are moving into clearing and releasing.

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful, transmuting expressions that we have. We can not underestimate the beauty of forgiveness. It’s a gift that we can freely offer to ourselves and those who hurt us.

If you find yourself struggling with forgiveness this most likely means that you are attached and still holding onto the core wound and that your ego is blocking your heart from opening to see that all things come to serve our higher good, even though we cannot see or feel it on the front end.

Hurt people tend to hurt others. Most often the ones who do harm to us are in a world of pain themselves and this under no circumstances excuses their behavior, but it does offer an explanation into the psychology of the perpetrator and may offer a glimpse of understanding that will allow you to choose forgiveness over resentment.

Tip 3: Healing Modalities

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We live in a time where there are more healing modalities available than ever before. I recommend researching and getting involved with things that speak to you and resonate with your heart. This could mean support groups with others that have gone through similar traumatic experiences.

There is sound healing with vibratory effects that assist in literally vibrating your cells to clear and transmute painful memories from your aura. There are light therapies available to assist your brain, and body to heal.

Daily affirmations and mantras that reprogram your subconscious mind with high vibrational messages to serve you in your daily life and help you create a healthy mindset.

Tip 4: Daily Prayer And Meditation

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Daily prayer and meditation will allow you to still your mind, listen to your higher wisdom, and receive light energies that also transmute density in your energetic field.

Medicinal ceremonies and gatherings. Cacao and kambo to mention a couple and various other guided medicinal sacred experiences that offer tremendous release and clearing are also available. I highly suggest that you reach out to those who have had success with these types of modalities and only seek those that have been proven to be safe with competent and heart centered practitioners. Use your discernment.

Find a spiritually inclined therapist or mentor that can walk with you on your journey, hold space, support and advise. I say spiritual because although a medically inclined therapist can be very helpful, we are spiritual beings having a human experience and we need someone who understands/innerstands this aspect because most trauma can not be healed by typical western means. We have to address our spiritual bodies for true healing to take place.

The placebo effect is scientific proof that we have the ability to heal ourselves. Our thoughts are powerful enough to bring things into existence.

Tip 5: Detox

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It’s vital that we detox from all things that may hinder our healing. These can include foods, alcohol, drugs, people, places, relationships, unhealthy sex, and even jobs.

When we are embarking on a healing journey the commitment has to be solid and disciplined. Medicating and numbing the pain only suppresses our wounds. Every emotional imbalance we have wants to be healed and loved.

Our physical, mental and spiritual bodies are consistently trying to heal themselves but when we aren’t present to the messages and signals we remain in a state of pain and disillusionment.

Mind, body, and spirit work together and if we are full of junk food, mind-numbing substances and resistances we continue to be clouded, depressed, anxious and discouraged.

Detoxing and creating healthier habits is a life long commitment.

This can be extremely difficult for some and the part that makes most people give up and remain stuck in their wounds.

The initial start of detoxing is the most uncomfortable but if we stick with it even for just 30 days of clean eating, affirmations, sober living, exercise, and support you will literally be stunned at how much lighter and confident you become.

The next 30 days become easier as you gain more inspiration, insight, and encouragement to keep going. What’s 30, 60, 90, even 120 days of committed efforts towards your lifetime of healing and clearing? Once we get past those hard hurdles our spirit begins to soar and we start to become clearer.

We begin feeling like we can actually heal, our physical body starts to feel more energized and our daily attitude becomes hopeful, we feel recharged and ignited.

If you start feeling like it’s too much, remind yourself of the life you have envisioned for yourself, being happy, healed and healthy in contrast to your wounded self. Choose healing. If you fall short, start again!

Tip 6: Boundaries

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Learning how to put healthy boundaries in place will be beneficial and is required in order to fully heal.

Setting boundaries may look like the following:

  • Set a boundary for what you do not want to see, hear or do.
  • Decide limits – what you will and will not tolerate.
  • Don’t allow others to control how you spend your time and energy.
  • Pay attention to people’s reactions, if your boundaries make someone mad, then that person is abusing you.
  • Don’t spend time trying to change others.
  • Do not work harder on someone else’s problems than you do on your own.
  • Don’t allow someone to hurt you over and over.
  • Let people know when you’ve hit your emotional and physical limits.
  • Don’t over-give without have your needs reciprocated.
  • Speaking your truth with grace.
  • Choosing peace over drama.
  • Not participating in gossip.
  • Being clear about what your needs are.

Putting boundaries in place are the essentials for healthy living. When we first learn to put boundaries in place it’s usually uncomfortable and scary, but with practice, like anything else, it becomes second nature and you will wonder how you ever survived without them.

Tip 7: Compassion And Self-Care

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Showing ourselves compassion and giving ourselves the love we are seeking. Our inner children are always looking for acceptance and approval. We can freely give this to ourselves without requiring others to give it to us.

Be gentle and patient with your healing process. Be disciplined but flexible, some days are going be harder than others.

Eat well, sleep well, keep a clean, organized environment. This will help you maintain an energetic field clear of debris which will give you easier access to mental clarity and optimal health.

Empathy does not equate to feeling sorry for yourself, make sure you aren’t practicing martyrdom/self-victimization.

This journey will require every ounce of resilience, conviction, desire, hope, and inspiration you can muster, but it will all be returned tenfold with love, honor, joy, peace, prosperity, and freedom.

You will eventually get to a space that you can hardly remember the pain and trauma. It will no longer have a hold on you.

The Bottom Line

In conclusion, I want to encourage you to begin wherever you are. I am a living testimony that you can heal your core wounds and create the life you dream of. You are worthy! Get started living your best life!

Angela is an Empowerment Ambassador, Health and Wellness Advocate. She is a student and an example of holistic, spiritually enhanced and youthful living. Angela empowers people to live the heart's path and to believe that life doesn't require one to age quickly and live a life of illness. Writing articles for SOLANCHA Magazine is one of the ways she expresses her passion for inspiring people to become a happier and healthier version of themselves.

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7 Signs You are a Healer and Don’t Know It

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Healers have existed since ancient times. Healing abilities were passed down from generation to generation and have come down to our times. However, some people do not even know that they have the gift of a healer. It is transmitted to them at the genetic or spiritual level, and often this gift is brought from past lives. Many of us live with this special gift without even knowing about our healing potential. If you’re wondering if you are a spiritual healer, this article is for you! In this article, we will share with you 7 signs you are a healer.

7 Signs You are a Healer

Here are 7 telltale signs you are a healer that you shouldn’t ignore!

#1: You are an empath

As an empath, you instinctively feel what others feel. You are very sensitive to the energies/vibrations that surround you, both thoughts and emotions, of other people, animals, plants, and even spirits.

Being an empath makes you capable of feeling if someone else is experiencing pain long before they even say so. However, you should be careful as you run the risk of picking up that pain and mistaking it for your own.

#2: You have a strong connection with nature

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Nature is the source of vital energy. As a natural healer, you are, by definition, close to nature. Do you love to walk in the forest or by the ocean? Do you enjoy the sound of running water? Do you like to be around animals or surround yourself with plants and trees? Of course, you do, because this works great for natural healers like you as you feel that being in nature helps you to ground yourself and clear your aura from negativity or excessive energy. You may not even think about it but you just feel the need of being close to nature to “recharge” yourself.

#3: Strangers open up to you easily

Because of your empathic abilities, strangers feel comfortable and safe to open up to you and share their problems with you. Deep inside people intuitively feel that you can help them and therefore are attracted to you. The fact that someone decides to talk to you about a problem is an important step in the healing process. Your ability to listen, comfort, and support people is healing itself.

#4: You attract animals on your path

One of the signs you are a healer is your ability to attract animals on your path.

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Do animals seem to follow you when you walk alone? Are cats, dogs, birds, or other animals attracted to you? Have you ever noticed that aggressive pets change their nervous behavior when meeting with you to friendly, or even affectionate? If this describes you then it could be a sign that you are a healer. Natural healers radiate the energy of a certain frequency that is visible to animals. When sensing the healing vibrations coming from you, animals want to be closer to you.

And this applies not only to pets. There are known cases when enraged wild animals unexpectedly not only calmed down when meeting with some people but also did not show aggressiveness. It is likely that this is how they indicated a meeting with healers.

#5: Your palms can radiate heat

People who are able to help others with the warmth of their hands, undoubtedly, have certain abilities. This kind of heat is not always felt only when you touch it. It is enough just to bring the palm closer to some part of the body, as this heat is felt by the patient.

This heat is a healing energy that is always active whenever someone in need for healing is around you.

#6: You tend to have vivid dreams

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Do you tend to have vivid dreams? The unseen realm may be communicating with you through your dreams. You can receive information, advice, or instructions for solving problems and helping other people in your dreams. These dreams can even be prophetic.

Therefore, you should try analyzing your dreams carefully. If you don’t have a dream journal, it’s time to start one! Pay particular attention to any symbols, signs, or animal totems that may appear in your dreams, for these symbols, signs, and animals could be trying to send you an important message.

#7: You are very intuitive

Another sign you could be a healer is your good intuition. Do you have a very strong inner compass? Are your gut reactions usually spot on? Do you feel negative energy coming from some people even without looking or talking to them? Can you feel when particular places and buildings could be dangerous for spending time there even if they look safe and peaceful for others? Then you could be a natural healer.

You see, healers are naturally very intuitive and can sense and see what most people can’t. If this describes you, make sure you pay attention to your intuition, even if it contradicts what your rational mind is telling you.

Are You a Born Healer?

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After reading the above 7 signs of being a healer, do you feel like this describes you? If this sounds like you, it’s time to embrace your healing potential and share your gifts with the world. Maybe you can even consider a healing job or at least doing your current job in some healing way.

If you are a born healer, you have that internal desire to help others. Think about different ways you can share your healing gifts. However, make sure you have healthy boundaries with your patients and don’t take their problems and pains as your own. Remember to always ground yourself, cleanse your aura, and practice energy hygiene.

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Crystals For Chakras: How to Restore Your Energy Flow

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Crystals have certain vibrations and a unique configuration of subtle energies. There are crystals that resonate with our energy centers that are able to harmonize and balance our chakras. The proper interaction with these stones and crystals can change the vibration of our cells and energy fields and improve our mental and physical health. In this article, we will share with you the most powerful crystals for chakras that can help you to balance and harmonize them.

Crystals and Chakras

Life is the circulation of energy. Energy flows through our bodies along the energy meridians and is concentrated in the energy centers – the chakras. Chakras are a kind of accumulator and at the same time generator of vital energy – Qi. Each chakra corresponds to the energy of its own frequency and of certain vibrations, such as color (wavelength) or the sound of a special mantra (frequency of sound vibrations).

The lower chakras (Muladhara, Svadhisthana, and Manipura) resonate with the lower frequencies of the earth, and the upper chakras (Anahata, Vishuddha, Ajna, and Sahasrara) respond to the high-frequency vibrations of the Cosmos. Thus, the human body is considered as an open system that is part of the general energy system “Earth-Human-Space”.

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There are seven main chakras. Each of them is responsible for a certain sphere of human activity. Each chakra has its own color and is associated with a certain part of our body, as well as certain characteristics and aspects of our life.

Our chakras respond to the energy of the colors that we see during the day in nature, in food, and clothing. And when the chakras get into contact with the energy of stones, minerals, and crystals, they perceive it very actively. Therefore, so many healers use crystals for chakra balancing.

If you have a weak chakra and you feel a lack of energy in it, wear crystals that resonate with it as jewelry for its gentle healing and balancing. This is a gentle and safe method of chakra healing, which you can safely do on your own.

Stones and Crystals For Chakras

Root Chakra (Muladhara)

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For Muladhara healing and balancing, use black, brown and red stones:

  • Red Jasper
  • Red Aventurine
  • Red Pyrope Garnet
  • Red Calcite
  • Black Tourmaline
  • Smoky Quartz
  • Carnelian
  • Black Jasper
  • Hawkeye Stone
  • Dravite Tourmaline
  • Pyrope
  • Black Obsidian
  • Rhodochrosite
  • Hematite
  • Jet
  • Eudialyte
  • Chiastolite (Cross Stone)
  • Hematite
  • Tektite
  • Lava
  • Black Onyx
  • Black Jade

Sacral Chakra (Svadhisthana)

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For Svadhisthana chakra healing and balancing, use orange, peach, and brown stones:

  • Orange Spinel
  • Carnelian
  • Imperial Topaz
  • Sunstone
  • Amber
  • Sardonyx
  • Fire Opal
  • Apricot Botswana Agate
  • Spessartine Garnet
  • Peach Moonstone
  • Orange Calcite
  • Peach Selenite

Solar Plexus Chakra (Manipura)

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For Manipura chakra healing and balancing, use yellow and gold stones:

  • Jasper
  • Citrine
  • Yellow Onyx
  • Yellow Topaz
  • Golden Calcite
  • Golden Tiger’s Eye
  • Yellow Tourmaline
  • Pineapple Calcite
  • Yellow Sapphire
  • Golden Quartz
  • Yellow Selenite
  • Heliodor
  • Pyrite
  • Golden Fluorite

Heart Chakra (Anahata)

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For Anahata chakra healing and balancing, use green and pink stones:

  • Green Aventurine
  • Moss Agate
  • Rose Quartz
  • Alexandrite
  • Emerald
  • Amazonite
  • Peridot
  • Heliotrope
  • Malachite
  • Grossular
  • Rhodochrosite
  • Diopside
  • Pink Calcite
  • Unakite
  • Uvarovite
  • Watermelon Tourmaline
  • Morganite
  • Rhodonite

Throat Chakra (Vishuddha)

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For Vishuddha chakra healing and balancing, use light blue, blue, and teal stones:

  • Larimar
  • Aquamarine
  • Celestite
  • Amazonite
  • Angelite
  • Blue Topaz
  • Kyanite
  • Blue Lace Agate
  • Ajoite Quartz
  • Blue Tourmaline
  • Aqua Aura Quartz
  • Turquoise
  • Chrysocolla
  • Blue Quartz

Third Eye Chakra (Ajna)

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For Ajna chakra healing and balancing, use indigo and violet stones:

  • Blue Aventurine
  • Tanzanite
  • Indigolite
  • Lapis Lazuli
  • Sodalite
  • Labradorite
  • Azurite
  • Iolite
  • Tanzan Aura Quartz
  • Fluorite
  • Shattuckite
  • Blue Apatite
  • Sapphire
  • Blue Kyanite

Crown Chakra (Sahasrara)

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For Sahasrara chakra healing and balancing, use violet, gold, white, and clear stones:

  • Charoite
  • Clear Quartz
  • Amethyst
  • Sugilite
  • Fluorite
  • Rhinestone
  • Clear Calcite
  • Selenite
  • Apophyllite
  • Ametrine
  • Ulexite
  • Spirit Quartz
  • Stichtite

How to Use Crystals for Chakras?

If the chakra is not sufficiently supplied with energy, it always leads to physiological and psychological problems. The energy balance in the body is disturbed, general malaise is felt, diseases appear. Crystals can help to restore the energy level of the chakras, heal, and balance them.

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Here are different ways you can use crystals for chakras:

#1: Crystal Meditation

Direct contact with the crystal allows you to raise the vibrations of body cells and energy fields. Meditation is the most profound form of communication with the crystal. Therefore, the best way to use the healing power of the crystals for chakras is to meditate with them. You can hold the crystal in your palms in front of a specific chakra or, if you prefer to meditate in Savasana, you can just place the crystal on the chakra.

#2: Crystal Jewelry

To restore the work of the chakras, you can wear talismans and jewelry with chakra crystals. For balancing your Root chakra wear crystal pendants. For your Solar plexus chakra wear a crystal belt. For your Heart chakra balancing, wear pendants with crystals. For the Throat chakra, wear crystal necklaces. Bracelets on the wrists affect all the chakras, so you can always wear them. If you wear a bracelet on your left hand – the main effect of the stone will be directed at you and if you wear it on the right hand – on the people around you.

#3: Massage

To activate the chakra and remove the blockage, a massage with healing stones or crystals for chakras is a perfect way to get a quick result. Just make sure that the massage of the energy centers is performed gently and safely.

#4: Crystal Charged Water

Healing water, charged with crystals, helps to purify the chakras. To charge the water with healing crystals, use a glass, ceramic, or porcelain jug or bowl.

Place a crystal in a jar, jug, or bowl filled with purified (preferable spring) water and leave it for the night.

You can drink crystal charged water in the morning, or use it for chakra ritual baths.

Don’t forget to cleanse your crystals before and after using them.

The Bottom Line

Crystals for chakras is a simple yet very effective way to balance your energy field and harmonize energy circulation in your chakras. By placing crystals on the chakra centers, the healing vibrations given off by the stone will correct imbalances within the chakra and restore your energy flow.

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8 Signs You Have a Wounded Inner Child

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Every child deserves to feel safe, protected, and secure. However, not every child does. Most parents see safety as physical protection from harm, or providing the essentials for their children. Safety also means support on an emotional, psychological, and spiritual level. When we don’t feel safe as children this feeling of endangerment becomes constant and long-lasting, and a huge gaping wound appears in our psyche. Our adult selves often repress this painful wound, but its impacts are profound and far-reaching. In this article, I want to introduce you to 8 common signs that indicate that you have a wounded inner child.

However, in order for this article to be a useful source for you, I need you to get into a reflective space in your mind where you can openly reflect on your own childhood and how you felt as a child. It’s very important to ask yourself such questions as:

  • Did I feel safe?
  • Did I feel a sense of belonging in my family?
  • Was I permitted to be myself?
  • Do I still have any resentment coming from my childhood?
  • What is my current relationship with my inner child like?

Use this article for introspection and self-reflection. Please, understand that inner child healing is one of the most serious and profound forms of inner work you can do.

What Is the Inner Child?

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The inner child is a “part” of our personality that stores all our memories, feelings, needs, reactions, attitudes towards ourselves and others, and behaviors that we have preserved from our childhood.

In other words, your inner child is the child that lives within you, to be exact – within your psyche. It is important that we stay connected with this sensitive part of ourselves. When we are connected to our inner child, we feel excited, enthusiastic, and inspired by life. 

If in childhood some of our important psychological needs were not met, then our inner child “gets stuck” and can not continue to grow and develop. Inner child healing can help us to face our fears and insecurities that were created in our childhood and heal these inner wounds.

What Is the Wounded Inner Child?

The wounded inner child is the part of us that bears the imprint of our psychological traumas.

Trauma is our psychological wound. This is our reaction to some event or many similar events that our psyche could not cope with. And as a result, it was divided into the injured part (i.e., our wounded inner child) and the part of the protector.

Such a traumatic event could be as:
  • something extreme. For example, an attack, a fire, a war, someone’s murder, a natural disaster, etc. All these extreme events lead to shock trauma.
  • a lot of unpleasant, more “casual” events, but recurring regularly. For example, psychological violence, violation of agreements on the part of the parent, lack of attention, rejection, unacceptance of some qualities or behavior patterns, etc. These “casual” events lead to relationship trauma.

Our traumatized inner child encourages us to face similar painful events (that caused trauma) again and again to attract our attention so we can finally heal our wounds. And the other part of us, our inner protector, wants to avoid meeting with such an event to protect us from pain.

This inner protector, which protects us from repeating the trauma of the relationship, can manifest itself in us through the fear of intimacy when we are afraid to let another person close to us, or even afraid to enter into a relationship. The fear of close relationships is formed in us as a result of the trauma of relationships.

The inner child healing takes place through the healing of its “wounded part”. That is, through working with the trauma of the relationship. And as a result of the healing, our ability to have close, trusting, loving relationships with others increases.

Here’s How to Tell Your Inner Child Is Wounded

1. Poor Self-Esteem

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Low self-esteem is usually a result of not knowing yourself, knowing your worth, living authentically, and owning both your strengths and struggles.

This trait leads to many other side effects, such as not believing in yourself or your abilities, criticizing yourself, thinking of yourself as “less than,” etc. This can also result in developing body image issues and eating disorders. To have healthy self-esteem, you need to discover, accept, and love who you really are through re-parenting your inner child.

2. Your Boundaries Are Either Too Weak Or Too Rigid

Do you feel like you don’t really know how to create healthy boundaries with others? Is it hard for you to say “NO” to people? Do you tend to put your needs secondary? This could be a result of you being uncomfortable with saying “NO” to your parents because of the fear to disappoint them or even the fear of punishment. As a child, you were suppressing your needs and desires trying to be a good girl or a good boy for your parents. Now, being an adult, you’re still carrying this program in your unconsciousness. You may even show this in situations where you are intimate with someone even if you don’t feel totally comfortable with it.

OR…

The situation could be totally opposite if you have super rigid, inflexible boundaries that nobody can cross. One of them could be your personal space. When you feel overwhelmed, instead of openly telling people they’ve been disrespecting your need for personal space, you simply cut them off. This kind of behavior is your coping mechanism to protect yourself from being hurt.

3. You Are Ashamed of Expressing Emotions

Shame is a very toxic emotion, especially for children. If you grew up in an environment where sharing and expressing your emotions was considered an expression of weakness, you could still be dealing with shame when it comes to expressing your emotions and feelings.

Shame creates feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, or regret. The feeling of being ashamed can be experienced as such a negative, intense emotion of self-loathing that it can make a person act like a bully, giving it away by evoking that emotion in others.

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When children are emotionally or physically abandoned, abused, or neglected they often take on the shame that belongs to the adult who left or hurt them by assuming that it’s because they themselves are the “bad” one. Some children behave in ways that make them culpable for the shame that belongs to their parents.

4. You Have the Fear Of Abandonment

This fear can be expressed in the form of being clingy, overly insecure, codependent. It can even manifest itself in a form of depression or anxiety.

If you have the fear of abandonment and if you are afraid that people you love can leave you, it becomes impossible to maintain healthy relationships.

The fear of abandonment is one of the most common and most damaging fears of all. This can be a reason for so many unhealthy codependent relationships that exist in modern society.

5. You are a People-pleaser

Do you find yourself clinging to people, grasping for any attention and approval? Do you tend to do anything just to keep people happy and not to lose anyone? Do you feel like it’s super hard for you to let anyone or anything go? If the answer is “yes”, you could be a people-pleaser.

The reason why you could be stuck in the people-pleaser role is that you are afraid of disappointing and frustrating other people. And you are afraid because you unconsciously associate your worth with external validation.

A “people-pleaser” role that you tend to play most likely was manifested in your childhood when you were forced to silence your needs, feelings, emotions, and thoughts, to the point where you weaken your sense of self.

6. You Avoid People

Do you have extreme fear or anxiety when having to deal with or be around people? This can be a sign of a wounded inner child. The degree of avoiding people may vary. It may just be anxiety with a lot of people in a social situation or any amount of people. It may manifest itself in going out of your way to have food and other items delivered to you to keep from interactions. You feel most comfortable and safe when you are staying home.

7. You are Addiction Prone

Do you get easily addicted/attached to drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, pornography, gambling, or any other extreme obsessive tendencies? Do you feel like it’s important for you to receive that rush of “feel good” hormones? Your childhood wounds could be the reason why you’re so easily attached to these obsessive tendencies.

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Did you know that addiction is often a symptom of underlying trauma that hasn’t been processed? Instead of confronting our issues and letting ourselves feel pain, we often tend to block our emotions to avoid feeling pain.

But the truth is, you are not really addicted to the substance itself; you are addicted to the feeling it gives you, to the relief and escapism it provides you.

To recover from your addiction, you need to face your shadow by asking yourself these 3 important questions:

  • What am I avoiding?
  • What am I suppressing?
  • What am I in denial about?

8. You Have Trust Issues

Your distrust is a defense mechanism for avoiding emotional pain, anxiety, fears, and disappointments. Trust issues often stem from a wounded inner child that learned the hard way that people can’t be trusted.

The problem becomes even more complicated when you also have self-doubt. If you were neglected, invalidated, gaslighted, or emotionally abused as a child, it is not easy to build healthy self-esteem and self-confidence.

You have to remember that even the smallest words could cause a wound. For example, if your parents constantly told you “your grades should be better” or “don’t be so sensitive”, you absorb the message that something’s wrong with you and that you will never be good enough. On messages like these, it’s very hard to build self-esteem and self-confidence.

Self-Healing

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Learning to work with your inner child is about reconnecting with the sincere, childlike part inside.

Inner child healing leads us to a state of purity and innocence. We all have the potential to experience true simplicity by reconnecting with and healing a period of our lives when we saw the world with openness and wonder.

In order to eliminate the feelings of guilt, shame, fear, hatred, disgust, and anger that we carry with us throughout our lives, we must heal the child inside. To do this, we need to earn the trust of our inner child through unconditional love and self-nurturing.

To learn more about the methods of inner child healing, read my article “Inner Child Healing: 4 Surprisingly Effective Practices“.

The Bottom Line

As you can see, your inner child does not disappear once you become an adult. On the contrary, it stays within you, reminding you of all the wounds you haven’t healed yet. There is a variety of symptoms that can point to a wounded inner child. You may have just accepted or tried to ignore many of these behaviors in yourself. However, in order to heal, you need to confront the pain that caused the wounds.

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