Core wounds can be thought of as your deepest traumas and experiences in childhood or adulthood. When severe trauma occurs, the wound is stored in our cellular memory and stays with us until we are willing and able to face the pain and clear the trauma.
Obviously, nothing can undo the original trauma but we can heal from the wounds and get to a place where the trauma and pain actually serve our highest purpose. We can re-write new, more loving experiences into our reality.
Our core wounds tend to have a great affect on our entire existence and how we receive others, how we think, act, love, relate and how we see the world.
They can literally affect our entire lives and every single relationship that we have, personal and professional, so you can see how vital it is to begin the inner work of healing and creating brand new beautiful experiences that help you on your way to healing.
By transmuting the trauma through facing it, we can get to a place where we are able to look at the pain as a blessing that came to strengthen and reveal our true power. We can go from depressed and anxious to grateful and humble. It is possible to achieve a true sense of peace and resolve.
When your pain no longer causes your voice to tremble and your light to be dimmed you know you are on the path of healing. Your brightest days are ahead and you can use your experiences to now serve the higher good of all by empowering others to know that they too can heal.
So let’s talk about how we can get there and where to start.
Tip 1: Acceptance & Acknowledgement
It is vital that we face and accept the trauma that caused our wounds.
We have to be willing to be brave and take small steps towards acknowledging our pain and experiences and how they made us feel at the time and how we feel in the present. We cannot heal what we are not willing to see.
A lot of times just acknowledging the trauma will begin to diminish the fears we have around the experience. Anytime we are able to face our fears and sadness the power it has over us is greatly lessened.
Denial and avoidance only fuels strengthens and lengthens the severity of our pain. Anything we run from eventually catches us. All pain kept in secrecy develops into dis-ease.
To begin to peel back the layers, acknowledge the pain and accept that you can not change what happened to you but that you do indeed have power over how you show up and respond to your core wounds.
Tip 2: Forgiveness
This is one of the most important parts of our healing journey. We must truly, from our heart, release hatred, blame, resentment, anger, and vindictiveness. This part can be tricky because most often times these are the natural feelings that arise within us when we’ve been hurt and victimized.
It’s completely fine to honor these feelings, but then we must move into a space of compassion towards ourselves and yes those who hurt us. This may seem so foreign and difficult at the beginning but the forgiveness is not only for those who hurt us, it’s for us. For us to heal our hearts so that we can create a harmonious life and take back our power.
This is how we stop allowing the trauma and core wounds to control us. This is how you take the power they once had over you and become victorious.
Now we are moving into clearing and releasing.
Forgiveness is one of the most powerful, transmuting expressions that we have. We can not underestimate the beauty of forgiveness. It’s a gift that we can freely offer to ourselves and those who hurt us.
If you find yourself struggling with forgiveness this most likely means that you are attached and still holding onto the core wound and that your ego is blocking your heart from opening to see that all things come to serve our higher good, even though we cannot see or feel it on the front end.
Hurt people tend to hurt others. Most often the ones who do harm to us are in a world of pain themselves and this under no circumstances excuses their behavior, but it does offer an explanation into the psychology of the perpetrator and may offer a glimpse of understanding that will allow you to choose forgiveness over resentment.
Tip 3: Healing Modalities
We live in a time where there are more healing modalities available than ever before. I recommend researching and getting involved with things that speak to you and resonate with your heart. This could mean support groups with others that have gone through similar traumatic experiences.
There is sound healing with vibratory effects that assist in literally vibrating your cells to clear and transmute painful memories from your aura. There are light therapies available to assist your brain, and body to heal.
Tip 4: Daily Prayer And Meditation
Medicinal ceremonies and gatherings. Cacao and kambo to mention a couple and various other guided medicinal sacred experiences that offer tremendous release and clearing are also available. I highly suggest that you reach out to those who have had success with these types of modalities and only seek those that have been proven to be safe with competent and heart centered practitioners. Use your discernment.
Find a spiritually inclined therapist or mentor that can walk with you on your journey, hold space, support and advise. I say spiritual because although a medically inclined therapist can be very helpful, we are spiritual beings having a human experience and we need someone who understands/innerstands this aspect because most trauma can not be healed by typical western means. We have to address our spiritual bodies for true healing to take place.
The placebo effect is scientific proof that we have the ability to heal ourselves. Our thoughts are powerful enough to bring things into existence.
Tip 5: Detox
When we are embarking on a healing journey the commitment has to be solid and disciplined. Medicating and numbing the pain only suppresses our wounds. Every emotional imbalance we have wants to be healed and loved.
Our physical, mental and spiritual bodies are consistently trying to heal themselves but when we aren’t present to the messages and signals we remain in a state of pain and disillusionment.
Mind, body, and spirit work together and if we are full of junk food, mind-numbing substances and resistances we continue to be clouded, depressed, anxious and discouraged.
Detoxing and creating healthier habits is a life long commitment.
This can be extremely difficult for some and the part that makes most people give up and remain stuck in their wounds.
The initial start of detoxing is the most uncomfortable but if we stick with it even for just 30 days of clean eating, affirmations, sober living, exercise, and support you will literally be stunned at how much lighter and confident you become.
The next 30 days become easier as you gain more inspiration, insight, and encouragement to keep going. What’s 30, 60, 90, even 120 days of committed efforts towards your lifetime of healing and clearing? Once we get past those hard hurdles our spirit begins to soar and we start to become clearer.
We begin feeling like we can actually heal, our physical body starts to feel more energized and our daily attitude becomes hopeful, we feel recharged and ignited.
If you start feeling like it’s too much, remind yourself of the life you have envisioned for yourself, being happy, healed and healthy in contrast to your wounded self. Choose healing. If you fall short, start again!
Tip 6: Boundaries
Learning how to put healthy boundaries in place will be beneficial and is required in order to fully heal.
Setting boundaries may look like the following:
- Set a boundary for what you do not want to see, hear or do.
- Decide limits – what you will and will not tolerate.
- Don’t allow others to control how you spend your time and energy.
- Pay attention to people’s reactions, if your boundaries make someone mad, then that person is abusing you.
- Don’t spend time trying to change others.
- Do not work harder on someone else’s problems than you do on your own.
- Don’t allow someone to hurt you over and over.
- Let people know when you’ve hit your emotional and physical limits.
- Don’t over-give without have your needs reciprocated.
- Speaking your truth with grace.
- Choosing peace over drama.
- Not participating in gossip.
- Being clear about what your needs are.
Putting boundaries in place are the essentials for healthy living. When we first learn to put boundaries in place it’s usually uncomfortable and scary, but with practice, like anything else, it becomes second nature and you will wonder how you ever survived without them.
Tip 7: Compassion And Self-Care
Showing ourselves compassion and giving ourselves the love we are seeking. Our inner children are always looking for acceptance and approval. We can freely give this to ourselves without requiring others to give it to us.
Be gentle and patient with your healing process. Be disciplined but flexible, some days are going be harder than others.
Eat well, sleep well, keep a clean, organized environment. This will help you maintain an energetic field clear of debris which will give you easier access to mental clarity and optimal health.
Empathy does not equate to feeling sorry for yourself, make sure you aren’t practicing martyrdom/self-victimization.
This journey will require every ounce of resilience, conviction, desire, hope, and inspiration you can muster, but it will all be returned tenfold with love, honor, joy, peace, prosperity, and freedom.
You will eventually get to a space that you can hardly remember the pain and trauma. It will no longer have a hold on you.
The Bottom Line
In conclusion, I want to encourage you to begin wherever you are. I am a living testimony that you can heal your core wounds and create the life you dream of. You are worthy! Get started living your best life!